When you think you are no longer young, that is when you are no longer young.
Don't you see that the age for youths in this country called Nigeria is not defined because even men over 45years are still claiming to be young when they are already old.

No poll, no comment.

This is a sensitive issue when viewed from different opinions. I would say that I believe no one is destined to stay unmarried but even in this age and time, you see both men and women over 45 still searching for a partner.

The USA is in need of professionals and from the course you studied, you will start afresh there.
IMHO, make arrangement for your wedding, wed her and there let her search for a job for you over there before you think of leaving. I can only stay overseas for studies and work professionally just to gain experience but you can't make it big there.

tosyne007:

cant really understand why a lady should be the one doing the asking out. it's kind of abnormal (morally) and i'm sure most of the guys here will agree. Guys tend to appreciate ladies who play hard to get and are morally sound, not gilrs running after guys all in the name of knowing wat they want.

personally, i will look down on any lady who runs after me. i might go along with the flow but will definately treat her cheaply cos it's just not right.

For a lady to be morally and emotionally okay doesnt mean she doesnt know what she wants but it's the right thing to do. It's a matter of offer and acceptance, Guys should do the offering why ladies should do the accepting.

Not the other way round.

To some extent, i agree with you (see emboldened sentence). I know ladies ask guys out but not by words of mouth rather by their actions and body language. This way, they don't turn a man they like down, they just give him a green light which is a form of asking a man out. The man should be bold enough to open his mouth and say something.

wuru wuru - alias Iwuruwuru
jaga jaga - alias Jegajeja
scatter scatter
talku talku

You got dumped by a philipino, those chinko people dey dump people too when we have 95% beauty here. If she can't stand nairaland, she can't stand Nigeria. Simple.

I am sure the little boy referred to the Nigerian government when he said those THIEVES.

I really think it's a matter of choice. My status says single even though I am in a relationship. My girl changed her status to single and back to in a relationship. I never queried her. She must have her reasons. I trust her and that's all i need to keep the relationship going.

@Poster, if your man says put it, what is wrong in that. Do you want him to suspect you?

Nigerians are willing to take a risk in as much as they jet out of this hell hole we live in.
It goes a long way to tell the world to ban all Nigerians Political Office holders from entering their countries for 10years so that they can suffer with us as soon as they leave office.

The latest one the pisses me off if "zoning, zoning, zoning" amidst a thousand important issues to discuss like power generation, unemployment, security, poor educational system e.t.c.

If you can't beat them, join them.
That's the slogan for women. Ugly woman no dey for December.

You need Superman because with the rate of poverty, unemployment and joblessness, it is likely that most men will fail in doing this. I am not an exception though I try my best. I am no Superman.

@Poster, Kudos, you have educated me more
@Wizzymate, Kudos to you too.

I think what you guys have for each other now is lust not love.
In marriage, couples spend more than discussing than in the bedroom. If all you discuss and talk about is intimacy, then you better think twice. There is nothing wrong in what she is demanding but what i see that is wrong in it is the part of everyday. If you happen to travel for a month, what will she do, sleep with the meguard or driver or house boy? Please ask for God's guidance because marriage is not about intimacy alone.

Let her find out if her company can post her to Nigeria if she gets married to you.

If my friends refused to talk to me because they are married, then what guaranty would they get that i will talk with them when i am married. This is absurd Poster and only a person who does not reason would behave in that manner. IMHO.

Poster, are you sure?

I don't remember sleeping with every girl I have ever helped out financially, academically, morally, socially, economically, in short all the ----cally.
Poster, any prove or link to back up this gender war you have started?

So, if you have an elder brother or sister that is married, you won't talk to them because they are married? I don't think so.

I would rather prefer to arrange them from the worst to bad. I don't believe we have any leaders rather rulers otherwise Nigeria won't be the way it is.

You can convince us by posting the names of the five Universities so that we can confirm what you said from their website.

The Naija woman wants to snatch the man, using her looks and knowing that she can easily be in constant touch with the man's family in Nigeria.
My question is, does she walk around naked when the man is around? If Yes, what was his reaction.

udokpuenyi:

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An appointment letter comes after an interview has been conducted and salary is not needed to conduct an interview.
This is fraud and why is it that in this IT age, Mobitel does not have a website?

Imagine

Ujujoan:

No matter how financially healthy a woman is, no man should go into marriage without having the capability to take care of his family . . . Financially! No matter how strong the love is, it gets challenged when a man is broke and the woman has to take up both the responsibility of building the home and providing for the family.

I wont advice any man I know to make that mistake.

That's exactly what I have been trying to explain.

May be she is considering following you to church and would want to know if you even attend one

I always say "to hell with my friends in this case" if they are not mature enough to understand me, then they are not fit to be my friend. You don't owe anyone an explanation.

Though I suggest you do this type of thing discretely and privately especially away from your family members if you want your relationship to grow beyond the hostel.