Hi girl. I totally feel ur sitn coz i can say i'm goin thru d exact same thing.
wat everyone's said here is true, however, u n i both know it ain't dat simple.
In my case, i've diagnosed the guy to be a commitment-phobe.

Even afta i relocated to anoda city, thoughts of him kept flowing. Its like ur under a spell rite? Goin out n socialising, shopping, etc helps but only for the few hrs ur'e at it.
once u step bck indoors, d cycle continues,

But i know its only Time (gave myself 5 months) dat'll do it. n of course, our lovin father upstairs. will admit i made a few mistakes along the way, so i'm living with d sitn. And so shud u, coz u've gotta prepare urself for ur future husband.
Hit me up on ssumpta@yahoo.com. in case u wanna talk some more. ciao

means she does'nt want to make ur rel public. maybe she is ashamed of u, or never really agreed to be ur girl.

I searched this topic before posting, and it has not been thrashed out so…

Love is so simple yet complex in many ways.  We young people talk about love and going into a relationship based on our feelings, but I find that older people talk about love as mostly a choice. My question is, when we fall in love, do we decide to, or do we just fall in love based on how we feel? Or is it a mixture of both? And if so, which precedes the other?

For those who argue that love is more of a decision, you consciously decide to express it to someone, and they cite 1 Corinthians 13 as an example. If Love is based purely on feelings, then one could easily ‘fall in’ and ‘fall out’ of love, leading to high divorce rates ;and as humans, we can’t easily control our feelings, but we can decide to continue to love regardless of our feelings.

For  those who say love is more of a feeling, you don’t decide to love sb. You just do. It comes naturally. And what happens when you stop deciding? If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler but less magical.

My opinion. It’s a mix of both, but I think it is more of a feeling than a decision, and the feeling precedes the decision. Sometimes you love sb you don’t even want to love. The decision merely sustains the love.
So if you’ve loved, or have been loved, or even if u haven’t, and u’re mature enough to understand the concept of love, share your views, experiences, delusions etc.

who cares?

Nna Mehn. this chick must be in the factory right now, see specification. What exactly do you have which would make you deserving of this kinda lady?
[quote][/quote] and u think women like this dont exist? hmmmn u never jam mammy-water beauty.
4get. levels dey. besides, that his taste. he's permitted to have high tastes, even if his chances are low.

Nna Mehn. this chick must be in the factory right now, see specification. What exactly do you have which would make you deserving of this kinda lady?
[quote][/quote] and u think women like this dont exist? hmmmn u never jam mammy-water beauty.
4get. levels dey. besides, that his taste. he's permitted to have high tastes, even if his chances are low.

yes o.
i wonder why some pple like to put others down. You may have 'heard it all before'
but some hav'nt. I think its a good topic. some would benefit frm it.
Its just like a library, wit many diff books, u pick d one that interests u the most. do so wit the topics. as i can see, there are thousands of topics here, or beta still, start urs.

pls pple dont generalise. I'm Igbo and we don't demand high amounts as bride price.

Its only very greedy in-laws dat go against the spirit of the tradition by demanding ridiculous amounts. Its just a 'token' of respect given to the kinsmen of a woman. ur not buying her.

And if u dnt have a lot of money, u can just buy them shacks and palm wine (my pple love palmy well well). and dats ok. Guys don't be afraid. some stories are exaggerated.

SEFAGO:

He is quite the bomb, no pun intended

lol

tbaba83:

ya with a bad taste in undewear, how attractive

he needed such to carry out his mission. he couldnt hide d bomb in nice calvin klein boxers could he?

lolll. of course he's a cute terrorist. hmmmmmmnnnnnnn how dangerous, how edgy.
And very very rich. Thats def attractive.

In the early days, No. But now, hell yes.
We are equal in the eyes of God. We are equal in the eyes of the law. Its just that our roles are very different.

hmmn. this is really tricky. Coz u said he also does all d nice things.
He's def a commitment phobe.
Truth is guys make up their minds much quicker about marrying a girl. So, after 2 years and he isnt sure? There is soooo much to consider. uve talked, and prodded.
D first thing i wud 've written is to give him an ultimatum, but he cud pass that test, and still make u miserable in d marriage, so instead, pray to God for wisdom and insight. He will gude you.
How wud u know? watever u do,one day u'd look back and know u did d right thing. Goodluck

true this isnt him, Ive seen him unmasked. This isnt him.

Chris Brown eat ur heart out. They both look very Hot though.

lollll at all d replies. d guy is in a fix. put urselves in his shoes.
how many of u can honestly admit u've done it all of the time with contra. shit happens.
but poster, accept responsibilty, support her in the pregnancy, even if it means doin some small biz. and just like sb said, dont marry her unless u love her.
when that baby turns 2 smday, and u look at him/her, u wont regret it.

Another teenager talking. I think they need to be banned from dis forum.

nas 00:

The moment i observe a 9ja lady (guys too) faking a 'Behind' accent, it gives me a hint dat a lot of things about them would be fake.

Some of them are love-peddlers or fraudsters who learnt to speak in english or american accent to catch unsuspecting victims.

For instance, ladies that wear their natural hair or nails nowadays are scarce in 9ja (u can look around u to confirm). It's either one attachment or d other etc
I don tire for all these fake 'chics' sef  

Isnt that wat attracts u guys? I wear my hair and nails au naturel and i know wat im talkin about.

awwww maybe this boy just needed attention. maybe it was just a cry for help.
me thinks he could have easily blown that plane up, but couldn't muster enuf courage to go thru with it!

SEFAGO:

Our savior also said an eye for an eye. Anyways may her soul RIP. Bloody thieving i.d.i.o.t

It doesn't change anything. IBB has come n gone n the looting s still going on,
Now wat r u doing about that now?

gidson12:

so if na your papa dey in that position and him behave like IBB, and if na your mama be maryaim na so de nemesis 4 take come to her, it is the law of karma, as e be say him kill ppl na so him ppl go dey die, and sooner himself go die too, its a law

And so what? How would that make it all better, or make you a happier person?

May her soul RIP. Amen. This life. Even our saviour said it. pray for your Enemies.
We shud learn to put his words into real practice. he wasnt just spouting off.

Death of some very notable pple.
Got a stepmom and step siblings.
Personally, a year of confusion and lack of direction in all areas of my life. pathetic rite.
d worst thing is things wont automaticaly turn around on Jan 1 2010. so its, but there is hope.

In my last real rel, i was. Absolutely. But then he cheated on me. I forgave him, but he did it again. I warned him that one day the tables might just turn on him.
It did happen, though it was never intentional, like tit for tat. He nearly died from d pain i caused him.
Guys cheat but can't stand being cheated on, esp by a girl they really dig.

fyneguy:

Many ladies do this just to bruise the ego of their boy friends. It does not mean they are thinking about their ex's.

In some cases, they are even lying. They just want you to feel deficient and sit up.

Ladies should desist from this or they pass a wrong message to the guy, and lose the guy.

U understand women more than any guy on, this issue. Ure absolutely right.
There re 2 sides to every story pple. be objective. She s looking for some TLC. Thats it.
I still think the guy has every right to mete out some 'punishment', for her lousy talk.
Rels are hardwork. 2+2 dont always equal 4.

U both need to sit down and talk.
Try to put aside your pain, talk to her, u know, sound her out.
I think you have enuf brains to figure out if she's truly sorry, and in for the long haul,
or if she's fallen out of love with u. . Its sad, but its a huge possibility.

From experience, when the average girl cheats, chances are her feelings are involved.
But if u decide to, dont take her back so easily. make her earn it.

spikedcylinder:

Nawa o. What did Pharoah say that is so profound?
Amaka was right, A LOT of people (especially dem okpeke feeling funky) don't know the basic rules of beauty routines. You'd be surprised to go to a typical uni girl's hostel and see what people do to their faces and bodies.

Exactly. Why bash the girl like that? She's entitled to her opinion. True or not.
@ THE-AMAKA, Nigerian girls are not as unenlightened about beauty and skin care, as u think.
washing off makeup before bed is pretty common knowledge.

Im a Huuuuge fan of HIMYM
Ever since sb gave me Season1, ive been hooked. Have seen SS1-4.
Season 1. the first 3 or 4 episodes were actually boring, but im glad i kept watching.
Seasons 2 s the best. Season 3, mmmmmm just ok. season 4, just off. worsened by the producers' unsuccessful attempts at concealing Lily and Robin's real pregnancies!

Sometimes it seems like theres 2 much goin on. The pace is really fast.
But i must say, Neil patrick Harris is a fantastic actor.