₦airaland Forum

VanillaIyce:
I am not in your shoes right now but I assure you, I have worn it before,if you have to give her the 2k from your 19k please do..this is not the time to move out,it's not funny out there with anty coro and hardship.

There is a point of not giving her the 2k and that point is what is called integrity.
Integrity = to your life.

If you fail at integrity you may never get anywhere in life, it is fine when you avoid trouble but when at the expense of your integrity then it is worth you keep the trouble.

Op should just stand his ground that he didn’t steal the money and he knows nothing about it, if the mother wants 2k, he can help but not giving her 2k to confirm her suspicions. If you go this route you will have a lot of things that would trap you in the future especially when it involves your mom trusting you. E.g inheritance, recommending you to someone etc

PrecisionFx:
Sit ur mum down n explain things to her. Remind her of all those years she beat n starved u for crimes u never committed.

If she insists, I'll advise u to find a way n leave the house for her.

Where is ur dad?

Oga that sit and discuss doesn’t always work o. The best time to tell her is when she least expect it.

WeRblessed:
I dont know how it works in Nigeria, but after 18 years you should stop being your parents' responsibility. Therefore, you need to move out, rent your own apartment, pay your own car note and insurance. Your parents should have already removed you from their health insurance if you are not currently in college. In fact, some parents will literally pack your things ready waiting for you on your high school graduation day. The next day, you need to move out. Dont ask me why please. Such is life.

Are you in Nigeria? Or have you lived anywhere close to Nigeria?

It doesn’t work like that in this part of world where good job, opportunity is extremely scarce and gross poverty is the legacy our government has left for us.

HarryDuce:
I think you should just stay put as many have stated. Life is hard. Unless you think you can't stay anymore then good luck to you. Parents can be like that sometimes. Don't think too much of it.

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I can't help it but something in me suspects that this is an advertisement for opera news.

Almost everything is commercialized this days o. Now we don’t know what is real, moderators and bloggers are out there to use our energy to get traffic

Myhusband:
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I don't think you understand what you posted?


For the sake of sanity, can you modify your contradictory post?

The guys is insane jare

Nwaonyishi69:
The only thing buhari said that I do, sometimes, consider was that Nigerian youths are lazy. Yes, and one may add stupid; otherwise why will young men sit and watch a senile lifeless man waste their future. For doing nothing the headache deepens and even mothers and father's are dodging their children and selling them off with the simplest excuses. Well, note that overseas you became an adult who could fend for himself from 18. Also, note that this was the probable reason your papa ran away, irrationality. Then thirdly, you could pack to your fathers house since you are his first responsibility, if you have not crossed parts irredeemably, because of her. Finally, never give up or think evil, these may be the shaping experiences God designed to make you tougher. And bear in mind that there will always be light at the end of the tunnel, if you are meticulous. Good luck.

Your talk is just everywhere and it don’t stick together? Who are lazy youth? Is Buhari the right person to name the youth he governs lazy?

How can this experience be what God designed? Are you just guessing? The Op should just be patient with the trying times and the bad habit of his parent till he is fit enough to stay alone.

Davash222:
Let her threats always be a motivation for you to get your own apartment so you can move out.

These are one of the techniques African mothers use to ostracize the spirit of laziness in their sons. No too reason am.

God bless all mothers.

There is a down side to this approach o. Sometimes the emotional stress could cause deep scars that will break the link between parent. I remember my mom has the attitude of abusing me with past event even the one I told her my self. Till today, most of my life endeavors which are something I should tell her, I don’t, that connection isn’t there in that aspect anymore . So there has to be some form of control to our actions and if possible there are other ways of doing something

samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.

The most important thing now is to finish school and get a good job then leave your mother alone. Later on you may need to discuss this issue with her and maybe you will get your apology

IME1:
Op there are dogs and cats looking for shelter and a master to pet them. There are rabbits and even goats, turkey and chicken, even monkey!
But no you are busy rearing a deadly reptile that has no value.
Dog- security
Cat- cuddle
Rabbit - play
Goats, chicken and all- good food
Monkey- apprentice

But snake?

how do you say a snake has no value?

GreatResearcher1:
Is that human any better than the dog?

And see who is judging?

Pluse992:
Advise Me Please. Should I Confess?

I recently packed into my apartment somewhere in Ogun, and my neighbor's goats have been sleeping at the back of my apartment near my window and they have been urinating and passing out faeces making my room inhabitable.

So the other day, I poured some hot water on one of the goats. I discovered that the woman is into traditional medicine. She has been making some incantations since yesterday concerning the goat. And I am scared that she will hurt me.

Should I confess or be brave? What should I do?

Goat are naturally stubborn animals and your reaction wasn’t cool at all. The innocent animal don’t deserve such harsh treatment. You should have communicated to the owner. Go tell the what you did, if you feel you must tell her it is intentional, do but tell her you are sorry. Also ensure she keep the animal in check, please hold your ground in this part and ensure it works that way. What you shouldn’t do is to timidly deny you poured the hot water intentionally especially if she ask. If she didn’t don’t say it then. And don’t succumb to been blackmailed while being sorry at same time.
But expect a harsh reaction from her, it is normal, just ensure you her time to get over it.

streetpaddy:
Hmm really you think that

I know I said it in an awkward way but why being so generous alway be vigilant when people try to exploit you. If you didn’t perceive she was exploiting you all this moment and you fell for it all the while then you have your own share of blame.

When next you want to be generous to people, ask yourself “On whose term”? “Is it something I wanna do”? “Or is it something I am made or persuaded to do”?

This question is important because you are responsible for your actions(this includes the one people make you do, which in this case your girlfriend).

streetpaddy:
This one year after spending money and time on her told me to my face am just her friend after she felt like am useless to her. That she has boyfriend! Let me start from the beginning

It all started December 2018, I av this classmate in the university 200 level (second semester) I won't say she fine but she was ok, so this girl use to distrub me right from wen I newly enter the university in 2016 it was when in 2018 when the distrubance was much in December 2018 I don't how it all started I began to have feelings for her, then in January 2019 I asked this girl date me, at first I asked her if she was dating she said no! So as a cool guy I made my move I asked this girl to date me, you wouldn't believe this girl lied to me that she was not dating, I found out from someone both of them have issue that they are not in good terms.. I asked y she lied she told all kind of cock and bull story and mumuly I believe I wanted her, so this gave me condition before I could date her, I will not sleep her, I will not hold her in public, so foolishly I agreed and still have another condition she has think about it for 30days, because I was so Inlove I waited... Then February during the election she accepted to date me, I was happy I told her best friend, next thing I got from her is why did you tell my friend, that is over I begged her for several days before she accepted me back.

Let me cut the story short because there is a lot to pour out, on the first day of the relationship she already requested 20k from me, am into online business I make lots of money, she knows what I do online, after I gave her the 20k, the next week she was requesting for 50k for phone I gave and so on, it got to point this useless turned to her servant that just the tip of ice Berg, from February 2019 - January 2020 I spent atleast 4 Million on her head, due to constant demands to the extent I went broke and be borrowing to make her happy she nearly reck me, then my classmate started advising me that girl is using me that she still with her ex boyfriend, what got me pissed this girl used my hard earn money and gave it to that useless ex to do nysc registration.. I became the maga... Then we had a serious fight then when called a meeting for her us, in front of the entire classmate meeting this girl denied me that I was just her friend I won the case in the meeting Sha,

But I did one stupid thing I won't forget they gave me two options to let her pay everything I spent on her or leave her, with the love I still have for her I let it go. then later this useless girl came and be accusing me of doing I nearly Killed her that day is God that saved her..

But she still got her own payment armed robber attack her and she busy struggling with them with the phone (the 50k Phone I bought for her) and they stab her and she lucky to be alive. that just how it all went, from this just summary I hope you learn something from it thank you. you can leave a comment if you have anything to contribute!.

I just read some important part of the story which to me sounds too good to be true but your so called girlfriend wasn’t all that bad, it just happens that you weren’t respecting yourself enough and so she used you adequately.

Petersamuel8:
Thank God say this coro they scatter Europe more than Africa, if not eeh our own go don finish for this country our leaders go japka. See as they dey die like chicken for New York
God help us

Stop thanking God for what was not his doing. The future is still around the corner, things might get worse for Africa than other continent. I hope a vaccine is found.

Emekuss:
Please guys I just created this site recently. I want you to go through it and tell me what you think about it.
I want to know how I can make it visible in search engines.
The navigation bar is scrollable.

This is the site:
https://www.sceneer.com

The site is too plain Abeg and it is not mobile responsive. It does have any mobile view support.

Please hand it over to modern designer let them help you customize that side properly.

I hope they pay the donor

Therapyken:
If this story is true, then she is the real SLAY queen. Beautiful indeed.

this story is very old. Bloggers are good at lieing

Sundrus:
Wonderful...this na the type of lady every reasonable man wan marry. Productive lady, goal oriented lady with fear of God. No be all the yeye things wey full the land with skewed mentalities.

what the lady did was risky she should have told her children or some kind of non betrayal family member. Not the one that would kill you and collect the house o lol

Olarewaju89:
I'm tired of reading long epistles today. Anyway, I want to go and sleep now before NCDC go bring their fake figures out . Scam-demic virus

oga better calm down o. No go sha catch the virus

Righteousness89:
Pray ooo! So u don't become a victim of what u don't know!!

Some persons are Wasted Spirtually, and they end up falling physically in the hands of innocent people!

Pray ooo!! Devil is A Bastard!

if things were rightly done do we have to pray. I am sure God must be tired of our lackadaisical attitude

dipopooo:
Someone should kindly recommend the easiest programming language I can learn within a short period of time. Thanks

If you need programming for a short term goal then get a programmer to help you out but if you need to learn programming as a skill it takes a long time to master. Like within 6 month you will be able to do basic things. Within one year you will be able to do technical apps and with two year you become an expert and so on an so forth. Only continuous small improvements would help you master a programming language. It is not a crash course something or a thing of rush rush.

othermen:
We must learn to treat animals rightly actually. I think Nairaland has a bias against animals. They like to show dead animals. Many here have not seen or observed this animal before and will never get a chance to. I eat cows and chicken; but we rear them. We shouldn't go out of our ways to be hostile to animals and sadly this platform promote that culture. People go in search of animals to maim and murder so they can be on nairaland front-page. Disgraceful actually.

you have spoken well, if you must eat them. Then be ready to rear them. Not going on the wild and hunting animals down as if their father was the owner of the forest.

zed7:
An idiòt doesn't talk when elders talk. They sit and learn.

you’re not an elder

zed7:
You are a môron, even the OP is thankful for my advice.

If you know a slowpoke then you would have noticed you fit the the definition.

Poloyanabo1:
the right question should be, who invalidated it.

oga you said the point was most valid, so I was asking who validated the most valid point. Is Is it you or the president? How does bad result we don’t know whose fault become a prove that imported test kit are all faulty?
Proper investigation should be done, it could be mechanical error from lab personnel or maybe truely some of the test kit is faulty. But even at that why they became faulty is another question to combat.

If you conclude that imported kit are faulty please sir can you recommend any other kind of testing kit for us?

jaycerichh:
Good morning everyone

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Martinez39s
Ubunja

Lately I've been reading the redpill post from y'all and I've really seen reasons to end my relationship

Firstly, I and my partner are interfaith, we attend the same school (UNI), I'm 20 entering 21 before the year ends and she's 18 turning 19 before the year ends too.

It all started during my first year, after our second semester I've had a crush on her not for too long, know I'm the kind of guy that crush on ladies that much though [all I see now are my goals], I was so desperate to feel among, i was a virgin before then(don't really know if a guy's called a virgin though), all I needed was someone to call my own, I wasn't really the sex before marriage person to be very honest, formally I use to masturbate and watch a lot of porn, but I quitted that habit since I gained admission and since then it starts to irritate me cause I felt I was better of without it, I'm this goal chaser kind of person, use to have intellectual conversations with people of my kind, a very good singer and music inclined personal, to cut a long story short it actually going to our second year since we've started dating, I got her number and only had a physical conversations with her for awhile before I left for home after the semester ended, so the rest was done with chatting and all that.

Due to ASUU strike before the next session commenced, we stayed at home for close to five months before resumption, she doesn't bill me, she provided for me she's all this good, but during the holidays we started dating, she persuade me to come over to the environment she stays, "that if I love her we should spend some time together, that how can I say I miss her and all that, so I came over, she visited several times, we had sex, she was not even eighteen yet though, I told her I was new to this, she didn't judge me, and since I was this sorry sorry guy(simp), I'm not trying to judge her and I'm not saying I wouldn't find someone better if I leave her, but she's been through a lot for me I know for sure, a lot of sacrifices she's made, since we're both interfaith her mom never wants to see me though and her elder sis, lol but she act like she doesn't care.

Sometime if we have a fight, she goes to her WhatsApp status to make a post like "we loosing each other to find ourselves"
She's made this post several times whenever we have a fight or misunderstanding, she takes things to the heart, I'm tired of being a sorry sorry man, my mother characteristics, that the kind of woman I'd want to settle with, but now we've made promises to each other, and since I was broke I didn't know a better way to make her feel than tell her I'll never let her go, cause she stood by me when I had nothing , seriously it makes me laugh cause when I have some small conversation with her, I tend to find out we both lost ourselves, things we formally do matters no more, which make everything boring, she doesn't want to see me around anyone else not even friends I just feel my whole world revolves around her and I'm tired.

Some days ago due to the whole corona matter sha, we've been apart but she was like " I miss you" please come around, she sent transport, I appreciate that though, she's a very nice person when it comes to giving me, but we lack other areas totally, mood swing na she, when she now propose a break up, she'll now later tell me sorry that when she felt lost all I could say was goodbye, after saying I forgive her, things don't feel the same anymore, I want to feel my presence once more that old self, that chases his goals, I want to feel him again and this time in an Alpha way, but I'm so worried I'll hurt her though since she isn't really in good terms with her family, not because of me though, but I just felt she'll feel really betrayed and start to overthink.

Things are boring now, lost of values and so on, seriously I can't make it up to her no more, I'm currently broke though, but due to me spending most of my time with her, I don't get enough to myself to seat and learn and organize myself, so lost to be honest, I wanna end things but if one could suggest a better way, I'd really appreciate it, cause I'm currently with her at the same area now, and I'll be going back home soon, 2days after she persuade me to come, we had sex the first day the next day she proposed a break up, she said "I know this might sound usual but I really think I need sometime, to find myself
This days I just think, over think n I think I don't even like my self enough yet to really know what loves is or means, BTW u act differently
It suits u better tbh"(I've been doing some Alpha stuffs)
That was what she texted me, and this too, "More reason y I begged you to come thinking seeing you will make me feel better
But I don't know what's wrong bae pls help me
I couldn't even sleep all night"

I just don't feel good anymore, it might feel like excuses but trust me, I think us letting go would do us more good, cause this relationship has taught us a lot, what we really want and we should never relent but chase them, and about our interfaith stuff I was thinking it would workout but na I'm tire with some disrespectful character she portrays too though, due to the current situation she's facing at home, I don't want to put her in a very tight corner since we both loosed our friends cause of our clingy relationship.

it's tiring.

Op this is the headaches that comes with entering a relationship. It has a lot of headaches and distractions. If the relationship has given you much brunt then it is left for you to make the final decision to leave or stay.

Good thing you will learn is the lesson of relationship, it will help you nearer future to avoid pitfall and handle situations better. But the sad truth is that you don’t need to learn the lesson now. You could always try relationships at any point of your life but as per education and other helpful things, you may never have the same chance again.

So if you may need to drain a relationship for your dream then it is a good choice.

But on the other hand, what you’re facing is nothing but the adventure of relationship, man life is load of adventure and without them nothing makes sense anymore. So in a nutshell when you quit this so called relationship, you may fall back in to the lonely lifestyle of single lad. I hope you would be able to cope? Single journey is only for the strong hearted and those who have make a decision to the focused on some kind of things. Just because people are doing father(don’t be in relationship and pursue your goal) doesn’t mean you too should ply that part. There are people who have managed everything.

So OP study thyself and pick a right decision for you.

zed7:
At 21 some kids are doing great things, getting scholarship etc. I'm disappointed in your writing skills, you should do better for a 21 year old.
Anyway, please focus on building yourself, it's a competitive world out there. Cut off any childish distractions for now. That girl is a child and she has nothing positive to offer you. As you mature more physically, emotionally and intellectually, you'll find a woman who can make a positive impact in your life and you in hers.

how comfortable are you people in dishing out straight down advice to adult??
I don’t understand this madness!
People are very quick to teach people how to make life decisions.
How on earth is it bad for a 21 years old guy to want a girlfriend?
How are we sure Op isn’t the problem here who has has worn the sheep clothing?
The guy in my opinion should live his life. If you want to help him, tell him the consequences(good and bad) of his decisions and leave alone to make them for himself.

You wey dey advice person, so far what have you achieved yourself?

daewoorazer:
1. At that age, woman should be d least of your worries, and if you must have one....never get emotionally attached....

2. You really need to start walking with bad boys. Don’t learn weed smoking/cultism o. Just learn how to be heartless and a fucking ALPHA.

3. Face your goals, in years to come when you are a success, you’d realize that girl you’re killing yourself over is a dirty mulamba ....

Take point 2 seriously....it’ll fetch u more pûssy and you’ll go far in life.

walking with bad boys?? What sort of useless advice is that. What on earth is even a bad boy to start with. And how do you think an Alpha Male behave?

The best thing anyone can do is to be responsible and have self respect. If you have respect for thy self then you have nothing to fear.

meobizy:
Nigerians have come again with stories mocking 'lesser Africans.' The virus attacks only animals. The inclusion of the paw paw, whether the fruit or tree, is really stupid of the 'journalist'.

No it is not. Even though is sound weird and laughable but it was a smart move. You should be more concerned with why the result came out positive!. Is it because the kit was bad or due to mechanical error of lab personnel.

Poloyanabo1:
Most Valid point...

who validated the point?

Alaganature:
Bro what in the process he shot the woman, what would you have said? I know he was really embarrassed by the woman but policemen deserve more painful act from citizen I swear..

he didn’t shoot the woman so I can’t say anything. It would be fun if you were in the woman shoe I guess

glowingflame7:
I saw terrible things.
"Pray for Nigeria". Those words are very significant right now.

The health minister should be sacked, he and everyone that told us that we were ready for coronavirus.

we have been praying for Nigeria all day long. Shouldn’t it been be clear to you by now that prayer do not work without faith!.
Almost No one believe in the country called Nigeria. I wouldn’t really blame them. We brought this upon our selves