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amba2017:
invite her to your house, let her know that you unintentionally saw her Facebook posts in the office line and then let your wife talk sense into her foolish brain.
may be God want to use you as a vessel to save that girl.
sacking her is to the best option also if you choose to keep quitd , your attitude towards her will definitely change.
pls help a dying soul and be blessed!

Is there any reason to sack her? Has her personal life affected his business in anyway?
Please don’t mix emotion with business.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Let business be business. But it is not a bad thing to help this girl correct her ways but always think of how it could affect your business relationship. Now you know who she is just keep on doing what you do and don’t fall for her cheap antics anymore.
Just ensure she does your business well and if you must advise her on her ways let it be when opportunity present itself.
You sneaking to her inbox is an unethical approach and that will truncate how you advice her. Infact you may need to pretend you don’t know much about her to advice her.

Why not use paystack?

Justbehave:
Simps can never disappoint. SMH.

see this AFC that has been victims of female folks speaking trash.

Justbehave:
So all those girls claiming their boyfriends raped them because "No means No"were not in real relationship ehkwa?

oga rest abeg na person wey be theif be theif. Learn to date responsible girls. And you yourself be responsible

Princesslee:
I met this guy on Facebook may 2017 and we started dating November 2017 without seeing each other, I school in Unijos while He works in Lagos and He promised me that distance will not be a barrier but the truth is that the relationship has always not been Rossy.
We always have issues and it's always as a result of not seeing each other like for instance we saw each other Just once last year and same for now this year. I always beg him to allow me come visiting and when it's time He comes with an excuse so it was becoming too much and making feel like am desperate and as a result of that I flared up and insults him.
The past 6 weeks has really been hell, I always calls and he never pick up but always return the call after some hours. And He barely called whenever He is at home. It's either he is on his way to work or coming back or going to buy something and feels He should tell my Good night.
Exactly two weeks ago He called me around 11am and the truth is that I wasn't feeling too well and after we finish talking I didn't hear from him until around 5pm then I called twice and He didn't pick up. He later called around 9pm and I asked him why didn't pick up nor returned my call anymore and He said he was not having airtime and strated complaining how I responded to his call that morning. I tried explaining to him that I was sick and He started shouting saying if I can not manage that I should walk out of the relationship and He asked me to call back if I wished and ended the call.
To summarize everything I tried calling for like countless times and he didn't pickup, I sent a text that am sick and he replied sorry. Since then He has been showing his true self and I was scared the relationship might end, I sent him a text saying am missing him and he replied that we will talk the next day. I called the next day but His phone was switched off and after sometime connected, He requested I gave him some time that He will call me back but He didn't so I called again and He immediately sent me a text reminiscing me that I once insulted last year March and He has taken enough from me that He needs some space.
I swear with my life that I truly love this guy to a fault and I have already told every members of my family and friends about him. I most times post his picture on my social media page and everyone knows about him already. I really don't know what to do anymore. Please I need advice. Thanks so much and so sorry for the long post.

Its high time you come back to your sense and understand him for the good, he really don't want you and don't deserve you. Kindly respect yourself and carry on with your life. Loving someone isn't enough reason to be with them, they must also be responsible and ready to return your love. His reason of you abusing him is just part of the escape plot.
you are safer letting him go and you wouldn't be the first to let a lover go in this life, you will always find a better person as much as you yourself are a good person(I assume) . I wouldn't say more than this

Oluromantic:
This is what a fellow female has to say about the mumu you're blindly supporting

If brain dey pain you, you nor go keep quiet.
where in my post did I tell you I was supporting Tonto Dikeh?
Just because you feel Tonto is the bad girl doesn't mean Churhill is Angel.
When it comes to problem between two people who has been before you know them, then it is best judge them based on what you know rather than what they make you believe.
It's an advice.

Oluromantic:
Now imagine a boy with a radiant destiny who's doing very well in his studies or handwork, who intends to be influencial in future but his fetish step mother having seen his bright destiny compared to her own unserious son and out of jealousy, transferred a spirit of confusion and theft on him, the type that makes him reasons whenever he's alone that he doesn't understand why he's stealing but the he just can't stop due to fetish influence.

Now he's been burnt. Even if prayers can be made to clear the spell off his life, it would only be possible if he was in police custody. But now that's he's been killed, it's late already.

SAY NO TO JUNGLE JUSTICE

You can't put all the blame on the people who did this crime, the system is damaged, the security personnel will never follow up nor caution the perpetrator nor would they ever present good security to the place. Everything you see here is as a result of continuous failure and degradation of the mind of people and ways of doing things.

Way forward is that we must stop corrupt practices and continuous corrupt practices in our everyday live especially when it come to issues that has long term effect e.g stealing public funds, not providing security weapon for security, leaving criminals on check, not punishing perpetrator for everyday crime. There has to be a public consciousness concerning evil practices in our society else nothing will change no matter how we shout and wail.

Oluromantic:
Even if na true, she put animal mentality join her ranting. She no come make sense anymore at a point. All her shouting come begin reach diminishing returns. Point of no more sense.

I am finding hard to understand what you mean, as an observer it is better to judge with what you know and let the rests to those who know the undercover.

paulolee:
and also say no to false accusations on rape cases and also about calling a man that you had a baby for a 40secs man and a ritualist...aunty, u bin no kno b4 u marry am?? because tonto dt i know cant say she didn't give him the nunu before marriage...mk we face front abeg...#SAYNOTORAPE

what you just said is not meaningful to the thread at all, except your hash tag nothing you wrote added up!

Rediff1:
These Anatomical women can't have straight leg. Their femoral angle are larger than that of men.
Despite that they are aware of that, they would still keep on wearing skimpy and tighted dress.

I also can't believe despite all the Level of Tonto's Drama, she still has the Soft side.

Check on the below announcement

so the first part of your post was about what?

jidamsel43:
Some parents give room for this. I have seen a father that always kisses his daughters to welcome them back from school. He does this everyday and the wife never caution her husband against this.
The girls ,3 and 6 years old, will be thinking the best form of greeting is kissing. You shouldn't be surprise if these girls kiss any older male .
Family background is the root cause of all these social vices. Parents must nurture their children morally and train culture and customs of the land.
Modernization and westernization have made many parents to abandon culture and tradition. The result is manifesting in rape cases and other vices

westernization is not the cause of our problem, our country as the poverty capital of the world and lack of employment for our youth is the cause, stop shying away from the actual truth.

Abeg wetin be that Olofofo girl own we dey jump into conclusion like frog.

Where she see sex?

alphaNomega:
Frats were never a thing for intellectuals and reasonable people. Have you seen Woke Soyinka's pictures in his younger days? Does it strike you as someone who was living a good life at the time?



Please don't bother asking. They were young men doing silly things for their age

Update: I talk am...see the reply he gave you

The original idea of cultism wasn’t what we have today. Woke Soyinka was always a rebel from day one but not on this violent ground

SegFault:
Ever heard of buffer overflows, the format string attack, integer overflow attacks etc. Compiler vendors haven't (and I do believe don't want to) address these issues.
Buffer overflows are the worst for example:

int main()
{
char buff[70];
char buff1[1000];
strcpy(buff,buff1);
return 0;
}

Strcpy is a function that copies the second argument into the first that is in this format: strcpy(destination, source) it is going to copy buff1 into buff. But wait buff is to small of course it is but strcpy doesn't give a sh!t highest a segmentation fault will occur but if it doesn't it will overwrite whatever is on the stack and worst of all the return address (that is where the last instruction was before main was called) will be overwritten with whatever is in buff1. This is a bad problem.

Those method are dprecated and only coders not informed will use them. Buffer overflow can occur in any program but that is not enough reason to conclude that security risk is high using C++ or C. They are among the best tools to create security app as they have finer control of program flow and memory management which is essential for security tools.

ModestGal:
When their are equally corrupt, lazy, unintelligent candidate from all parties? What should we do?

When educated people do not vote?

When we are more racist than white supremacist in America and our people are okay with being racist, and every Nigerian celebrate racism because racism is part of all Nigerian cultures, thus even if a good candidate should emerge from a tribe, he surely won't win

When the people (Nigerians) are religious bigots and fanatics including those practicing traditional religions, that any candidate that emerge would surely be bigot as well, and people voting are bigots

My dear sir, the problem is not the politician, the problem of Nigeria is the PEOPLE

Maybe you didn’t read my reply I said same thing. The leaders are a reflection of the people

finnacle2020:
I don't know if am ok. I usually release immediately when a lady touches me.

Yesterday I was with a lady throughout the night, nothing happened untill this morning when she just touched my penix I came immediately, just small touch.

Is this normal or should I seek medical help.

Lalasticlala.....pls help it's becoming embarrassing

oga go see a physical doctor jare instead of doing Nairaland consultation

ModestGal:
Hmm, how can we move forward?

we have to make a decision to become a responsible society, make corruption free election and select people by free and fair elections.

The common man has to learn how to ask for what he wants from people in power, no matter a what means.

We have to hold officials responsible for their misconduct and ensure they are punished for forsaken us and not fulfilling their promises.

But right now we are solving trivial issues like religious, political and tribal issues. The follower has sold it future to the corrupt leader and the leaders has bought it and has ruthlessly dealt with us.

The people of Nigeria has a long way to go

SegFault:
Very true. C++ surprisingly even has a gui framework. C though is better when you don't want to write dependent code (keywords in C++ like throw, catch, new, delete, try etc. Are library dependent and therefore machine dependent). But using C and C++ throws security out of the window.

What do you mean by the bold statement ?

Father father help us,
Those we trust have failed us.
Everyday I just get frustrated by how bad things has gone.
Is this the way we plan to train our future leaders, is this the platform that will raise the best of medical doctors, scientist, artist and educated men?
What a sad sight, this example is just a tip of the large iceberg of the decay in our educational sector.

How does it feel when Government officials toy with the future of innocent young minds who hold our future.

I sincerely apologize to the younger generation of how we failed them just like our fore father did also. What a generational curse.

Now this young mind would be open all sort of distorted thinking and dark theories of life. Also, the ruthlessness of their environment will become their character.

Everyone can watch and ignore but somehow someday we may encounter this young mind and I pray that on that day we meet the ones who still remain sane or else you will understand that the problem of bad education is wide spread society problems and everyone should thoroughly consider the Future after affect. Many are even politicizing it and making all sort of fowl and dirty comment but soon enough they would understand but by then the fire on the mountain might be too great to do anything about it.

Spits

Vick4rill:
Thanks brother, staying in the middle is what l already resorted to do, The playful hint on expressing my feelings you suggested, l have done that and she her self should be well aware of it, l don't call her everyday and don't use all my day chatting her up, when am at work she barely comes to my mind, but once am done for the day and strolls into that compound l lose all guards and the feelings creeps back, l just want to be in control of my sanity about her. Thanks anyway

That is the way attraction works. You don't controll it, every man is attracted to anything that we find pleasurable and it is beyond our capability to control it.
Until you live the compound, nothing will help your case... for the main time just discipline yourself. watch the attraction symptoms for like 2 months if still sticks then bro you may need to make her a part of your life.
Just ensure you act responsible and maintain your respect in all circumstances and whatever decision you make ensure you reflect upon it. you're a man and whatever choice you make as much as it is a responsible one, it is no one business. As much as your feelings and intentions are genuine then don't overthink things. The only thing you may worry is if the said girl is also a responsible girl also. Somethings cut between reality and our dreams. you must balance them for sake of public respect.
Apply wisdom with every step

Righteousness89:
Condolences to His Family!

Hope His Hands are Clean!

2 Things could bring about this kind of Death

1. Either a Back to Sender Consequence as a Result of Hunting a GENUIE Beliver

2. Being A Casulty of Spirtual Emptiness

Oga stop being naive jare, so you mean lightning don't just kill people naturally.
you need to start reading wild to become aware of some circumstances. it will help your judgement.

Goto YouTube and search on documentaries of thunder kllling people and you will see how natural it can happen.

whether your opinion may have a point, it doesn't stop the case that it could simply be just natural

Vick4rill:
This girl lived in the same compound with me, she is a jambite and l just graduated from the university last year, how l develop feelings for this girl to this extent baffles my imagination. I hate compound relationship but my emotion is just too weak to resist this girl. We have become very close and here lies my problem, :Am always thinking about this girl, am always the one chatting her up, am always waiting and watching when she will come back to the compound, am becoming a complete simp and an idiot due to the feelings l have for her, am becoming more vulnerable with my feelings towards her and am afraid this girl will know how much l love her and use me. This evening she wanted to go through my chat on WhatsApp and l refuse, she formed anger and l became weak and even have to beg her to collect the phone. I doubt this girl feel half of what l feel for her, but each time l try to get her off my mind l fail. What do l do nairalanders this is not what l want to occupy my mind with at this crucial point in my career, how do quench this feelings?

if you're attracted to her then you can't control it. The best you can do is to avoid her and cut all bridges to always be with her.
Also remember we have something called infatuation, this feeling may rise due to been naive or just because you have been to idle, wait with this feeing for upto 2 months and this time get busy with other things if it still there then it means your attraction for her maybe real.

Been nice to her will get you no where, it is not a step forward. A step forward is for you act accordingly that you find her attractive, this is by just merely gestures and some playful confession. chances is that she knows you really like her already, Girls aren't that Dumb, they read body language more than we guys.

Make a decision today, if you like her and you think you can start something with her, act accordingly and when you feel you wanna go forward then just discuss it with her how you feel and you will consider a relationship.

If not then just keep in the midde, don't ask her for a relationship and don't pretend you are not attracted to her. Coming out straight and not hiding your feeling for a lady is a mature way of expression rather than doing unnecessary kindness and buying useless gift. Show your attraction by expressions and simple compliments of what you like about her. Any form of kind gesture to her must be on your own term and what this means is that you act kindly when you see fit and not because you feel it will impress her, by doing this you will always respect yourself.

BUT NEVER, I REPEAT, NEVER PUT HER ON THE PEDESTAL AND WORSHIP HER.

udemzyudex:
And none of the 24 something deem it fit to report the case to a police station.

None not 1,2 3...24 ever said they reported him and the police didn't do anything, why did the 24 girls had to wait till UWA case started trending before they could talk?

Omo this life no just balance.

UWA case is a spearhead just like Timi Dakolo's Wife.
Africa is now creating awareness on the issue of rape it has denied itself through silence and stigmatization for a long period of time.
Now victim are motivated to speak up and creat social awareness and not be stigmatized for it.

Although we must ensure people arr not victims of false accusations, our police and security agency has a bad record on handling sensitive cases such as this. But I hope with time things will get better.

OLUROCKS:
women no dey shame I swear

Please do you mind sheding light on this topic?

martho:
i am against prostitution,but some of the female critics are not better either,needless to say much:We all know what is going down in our society. never trust a woman,i will conclude by saying almost all women are prostitute.

including your mom and sis and just maybe your unborn female children someday too.

djungle:
Most of these girls you call prostitutes or commercial sex workers are bread winners of their respective families and homes. Some of them have very sick parents to cater for and prostitution has become their only possible means of making ends meet.

Only kor only ni

mvem:
most rape reports I see are coming from the south

rape are generally under reported and The northern is one big chunk of under report problems.

swtdrms:
If he builds the said factories won't there be need for good to raw trsnsports both goods and raw materials, besides should governments be building factories? How would it be managed in this corruption infectrd weather.

Roads will open up the communities for further developments. When there are good roads, i can have the motivation to set up businesses there since am sure there's easy mobility

so true perhaps Goverment shouldn’t build factories, their job is to make the society a good ground for opportunities.

vanida6:
maybe he is d one dat convert bobrisky to woman

hahahahhahahhha

Donmichaelz:
Boxers of this Era are the best of boxers ... from the way you talk you only watch highlights... Muhammad Ali can not I repeat can not Defeat Anthony Joshua and co.. I have watched a lot of his fight .. he can go a round without landing 4 punches ... I stand corrected...

May weather is not heavy weight so I would disagree . But saying kids this days , lols you don’t know anything about boxing go and sit down .. talk when you watch the boxing itself ...

please don't say this o. if you have watched muhammed Ali at his prime. He was untouchable and at some point it almost feels like nothing could scratch him. Boxing has become more technical in recent time I understand but please dont underate Mohammed Ali. He hold a god-like status in boxing arena.