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BobbyJayAms:
My girlfriend said no kissing, hugging talk more of sex only communication. But she will one day since six months now but anytime I stop talking to her and she sees me with other girls she gets angry and jealous. Am thinking of ending d relationship. Will it be cool?

Many of this kissing and sex rampant everywhere are actually regarded as youth social vices in the typical Afrcan society, which in my opinion is true and I would advise youth to stay away from.

The only problem here will be in what manner and in what context she told you this. could it be because of your past attitude and actions, could it be because she is just been paranoid or she is acting on her religion and she felt the need to let it out directly just like that. If it was actually born out of discussion, then I guess it isn't so bad.

Again what kind of a guy are you?? if she wants you to be this faithful and responsible then it is fair she is also being responsible too.

If you're gonna stick by the rule, ensure she truly likes you and what she told you was born out a greater picture for the relationship and not just because she wants to put you in the friendzone which means she wouldn't say this to other of her future or past boyfriends if any exist. if you suspect the latter then she is just playing on your emotions and stating rules she wouldn't give to other males, if this is the case I advise you walk out.

In conclusion, is this girl in question really in love with you and would she tell the same thing to any other of her boyfriend (former or future) other than you??

oilPUSSY:
Buhari started this madness by dividing this country along religious and tribal lines.
His body language, appointment and and his archaic government portray division.
See how the action of Buhari will lead millions of amajiris beggars to perpetual Hunger.

It shall never be well with Buhari and all his vulture supporters.

One mumu up there is calling Ipob.
Is there any evidence to show where the man in question is from ?
Even he's Ipob and so what ?
I thought they are third class citizens,.. First Class citizens depending on third class citizens for survival.

May Ipob keep damaging your remaining psyche..

pls you igbo people just like hating and jealousy. Did Jonathan not give you guys good position in his tenure?? why not let things be. It will someday be your turn.

Seun:
Satan exists only in the minds of those who believe in Satan.

Hi seun,
Sorry for quoting you on the wrong thread but why has this three moderator becomes nothing but figure heads in the programming section. The programming section has become so dead and silent with almost no topic posted to the front page.

lordZOUGA, Javanian , kodewrita has been inactive for a long time. The last time this moderators came online was mid 2018 and one was 2017.
Please can you do something about it.
Thank you.

Dannyset:
Great.
The first thing to ask him is "who is his sponsor?"

I pray o. it is just like asking him who is our Oga?? I believe Bokoharam is a conspiracy of some oligarchs profiting power massively from their destruction or using them as a weapon.

SweetJoystick:
If you go through his response to the other guys comment. He said "exactly what i saw" meaning he is in confirmation of the guys statement, he agrees.

ok I get you now but let's not be picky... Even me I don't want to bother myself with all this prophesy here and here.
Just leave to both the real and fake prophet to there game, no need to haste. If it is real, time will tell.
True prophesy don't fail and false prophets don't give prophecy but just manipulative predictions.
Be patient bro, since you cannot fasten the time. Leave time to do it job.

victorian:
Don't mind her .

When her husband was alive . I believe she will be the type of wife who will cut off from her friends and females in the family , because she wants to protect her husband from been snatched by other women , forgetting death is at one corner eyeing her In disdain.

Husband is dead , nobody around her is even coming to her aid . her friends have turned their backs, inlaws looking the other way, her family ? Only God knows her relationship with her own people .

Now na to beg strangers online for 3k to buy baby food .smhhhhh.

People don't think about tomorrow, all they care about is today. Just me and my husband, and nothing more .

I don't come online to beg , and I will never do such! And you know why? I still remember my friends and family who stood by me . I don't cut off people because I have a man at home . no way! And if I'm broke ? My friends and family always help me out , even with my Pastor join . they all come to my aid , without me crying online to strangers . that's how well and strong we have each other backs!

I hope most Nigerian women will learn , that life has twists and turns .

Drops mic!

True sha but on a lighter note, help anyone but most especially help the right people that cares about you, it doesn't have to be family members. And also don't be quick to conclude she neglected the family, it might be they don't just like her. Things happen.

SweetJoystick:
Yes June was mentioned by someone else, he affirmed he saw the same thing, so it can be said he mentioned June as well

Did you skip English class?? Haven't you heard of ambiguous statement??
Danwilove statement could go both ways, it is not something you can win with argument.

Vincent88:
Thanks you are right before i was not thinking how telling the whole truth will destroyed them but after getting some good advices on here i have decide to keep it to myself but i will atleast take her from DNA just to know if she is mine or not . Im hoping she will not be mine that will put my mind in peace .

if you imply that you wouldn't confess if things later turn around for you, it means that your problem is that you don't know what caused your situation. so as you have said find out whether the child is your and also if your wife problem was anything related to your assumptions.
But as of confessing to your bro, it is actually a different ball game, your confession should be born out wanting to being transparent to him. This means if he actually wants to or if he cares about transparency at all. If he don't I think your problem is with forgiving yourself and asking for forgiveness from God.

Coldfeets:
So true.

That's exactly what you get when you are conversing with people who majority of them are nothing but a useless product of a fallen educational system.

It's a pity.

you are just irresponsible.

chrisagyei:
You're matured and I have no qualms with you bro,it's one guy samsoba who talked about 1200 Ghanaians being deported last year in total and I always say Nigeria should be the last country to talk about deportation cos as the topic read"Nigerians are rejects of the world".And so if you wouldn't mind,move away from the way,I have a useless country to expose.Peace.And remember to pray for Nigeria as you are a Nigerian yourself.Continue loving your country.We all do love ours buh mind what you tell us cos you have a plank in your eyes.Thank you

peace

kalvoken:
His action has no connection to his present predicament. He is only suffering from a guilty conscience.

The same way he is linking every bad thing he is passing through now to what happened in the past, is how everybody around him will remind him the atrocity he had done in the past any time there's a misunderstanding.

What if the child is not even his? What if his wife's problem is no connection with the case. Believe me, his mind is just playing him tikki takka.

I am actually glad that someone here is asking same question as I am. In my previous post I ask him what he will do if after confessing nothing changed.
But remember the situation isn't this simple as it is not easy for everyone to convince themselves that their past was not responsible for their current predicaments.
So the problem here is what if he was right, what if truely his past actions was responsible. how do you think he could find out? Do you think there is anyway he could convict himself that truely nothing of his past is responsible?

Olalekank:
Lol, he doesn't know what ML is. I'd be shocked truly

If there's one thing I respect nairaland for, it'd have to be the speed and the fact that it adjusts to every screen size.

Nairaland handling such features should have been made easier across the years, by active development just like it is done on larger apps like Facebook, uber. At least Spotify uses ML, they'd have had to structure their codebase such that new features can be added easily without compromising quality. As funny as it seems, try do a 10 year challenge for Facebook and Nairaland that started almost together.

I really think there are developers in Nigeria who can handle these things but the problem is actually spending money and the decision to make this changes. Spending money would keep bringing money for you. Imagine someone who's a potential long term user on nairaland seeing all the spam images here and there, it'd reduce the chances of him visiting next time which is the goal. The goal is to generate traffic and bring in money.

Spend extra money, make extra money. What does these companies who receive series of funding do with the cash if not to better the product and make more cash?

You're very right. The actual truth is just that seun don't have a competitor here in Nigeria, the problem with monopoly is that they are the sole dictator of how things get developed.
And for that part you say nairaland fits to any screen is not so right. Nairaland it quite simple and majorly text-based. I dont think you have taken time to see how picture uploaded by user fly around in un-arranged margins.
Also nairaland emojis are just too few, more emoji's are needed. Nairaland cannot be connected to facebook account nor twitter account.
Nairaland don't have an api just only feeds.
Nairaland should start supporting gravatar/avatar, it wouldn't harm the network speed. as he could automatically lightened the load.
Nairaland don't have amazing chat platform on the forum. many things which wouldn't reduce speed are just missing.

sufferNsmiling:
It is very interesting here as nigeria becomes last in everything in the world. Nigerians here as to making money noise and fooling themselves all day long. Please forgot sick who wants to live in a country called nigeria..

But you like our forum.

chrisagyei:
And 22,000 Nigerians deported in one year with exception of others deported on a low key.Even Trump the racist is tired of them in particular.He calls them huge problem and massively corrupt and will deport them when he becomes president and he is doing it.Over 100,000 of them are illegal and are being protected by DACA enacted by Obama which Trump wants to disseminate.Tragic!!He even called their president a lifeless human being when Buhari visited him.

To what end is your statement??

ugonology:
Hello brother, please and please in the name of the lord God all mighty, I humbly wish to have a chat with you. It actually has to do with your prophesy and the manner with which it affects my life.

hmmmmm

Olalekank:
I see you find the fact that using machine learning on nairaland funny. I was actually the one who made the comment. If someone had told Facebook Facebook to use machine learning in 2005, you probably could have just laughed this same way.

Can you tell me what you find amusing about using machine learning on nairaland?

Did you actually read the "use" of machine learning that I stated?

you will be shocked he doesn't know what machine learning is all about.
For me though I don't think nairaland could handle such sophisticated and the additional cost it brings, also sometimes we Nigeria don't like such spending to drive home a concept or and idea.
Nairaland needs restructuring elements on its website and improve responiveness to modern platforms.

kalvoken:
Thank you for the correction. Hope you did get the message though?

Don't think I am trying to insult you.
The man in question said he believes that his current predicaments are as a result of his past actions.
Are you saying he should live with his predicament because of the deadly punishment you perceive is gonna occur if he open up the old chapter of his life. So try to see that the situation is between the devil and the deep blue sea for the man. Because either ways he has to live with an unfinished business by keeping it a secret or face the wrath of his past actions by letting the the cat out.
I don't think any option is superior here, although many factor could change things

kalvoken:
unless you are planning to reclaim the child as you are yet to have your own. If not, I am advising you to let the sleeping dog lye!

1. You will loose your brother. He may forgive you, but never will he forget. Any little mistake from you he will remind you that you had done the worst already.

2. Your family.will never recover from the shame that will come with the scandal. Na your mumsy I pity pass, she no go fit talk in the among her mates

3. You child will suffer the stigma

4. Your brother may kill you before killing himself.

5. Telling your wife is never an option

6. You will never remain the same if another ear get to hear this, no matter who!



So, with these few points of mine, you will agree with me that it is better you keep the secret to yourself as you committed it by yourself, than to spread the suffering to your family members by opening the cupboard.

Thanks!

Despite all you wrote how come you can't spot the flaw in your reasoning.

Vincent88:
thank you i will keep it to myself even it is not easy for me because of the guilt im feeling everyday and i cant take this off my head but i will try my best moving on.

what if you were wrong.
what if the child isn't yours??
what if after you confessed your wife problem still continues??
Despite the above ☝️would you still confess??
you need to answer this questions, it is the key to your problem I will tell you why.

asalimpo:
What strategic advantage does react offer over the status quo? At d end of d day, it's all Dom manipulation? Does using react/angular save time of labourer? Does it save cost for user?
As for going with d times, the rave many always b right. Google rethought search, wen competitors thought searching was uncool. Jquery was d rave years ago, some have discouraged using it.

Dont mind those indomie programmers jare. Just because they know one new technology tbey feel they should rush and apply it.

okwabayi:
A dislike button and in-browser IM feature is too advanced for Africans?
We have enjoyed these on Facebook since 2011 and 2005 respectively.
We also need a feature to embed videos from social media sources so one doesn’t need to follow external links.
Most blogs already possess the feature talk less of a forum which sources its news from blogs and news websites.

seun don't need to host it videos, it is completely unnecessary, it best YouTube do that.
Seun need to modify things like smiles, add gravatars, and small avatars
Basically seun needs to organize the contents further I just know nairaland isn't properly arranged.

Vincent88:
Thanks i will tell my wife but im not sure when is the right time to speak with her maybe early morning or very late at night i just dont know and i hope she will not leave me after hearing this

Ehm if I may ask?? how are you sure the child is yours??

haywire07:
It's plain stupidity when religion interferes with politics.

By bringing politics into Christianity, you will automatically call God a liar.

I remember around 2016 when our pastor started a revival that Buhari must die or resign Na so everybody go dey pray like say heaven wan fall....

Well, I have bad news for my pastor, Buhari didn't only survive, he has also won his second term.

A Christian is a politician. we should be involved in politics although not the leaders sha.
only thing is that christain has to act it right.
The acclaimed prophet is just just saying something else.

davodyguy:
Resist it

you are just impossible. Fundamentalism is your problem. Extremist

Habibsocial080:
Oga u lost ur polling unit and almost lost ur state, kwankwaso ur key man in kano lost his polling unit and lost the entire state of kano, Buba Galadima lost his polling unit, lost his state to, Saraki lost his polling unit and lost entire kwara state, Obasanjo ur godfather lost his polling unit and ogun state, and u think the election was rigged...... Going to court will just waste ur looted money, APC are 5 step ahead of PDP.... Gbam

na wa this madness is getting out of hand. Seun do something.

consultancy:
you can try to confirm

but let's get real. she's going to lose all round because of our flawed judicial system that sympathizes with the accused rather than the complainant. even if she is to get justice, it will not be commensurate to the crime commited. at most the boys get 1 year in prison each with a fine, or may even go free when the case stretches in court for 2 years or more and the girl's family get tired. i am speaking from experience. it's best they settle out of court or the police station and agree to an amout to be paid as damages(10 million naira), as the deed has been done already. i am saying this because even the police, the court, the prosecutor are all for the highest bidder. when the chips are down, their loyalty switches to the party that has got more my to offer them. the only way the girl will get justice is if her family is also one of the Elite in the society . truth is bitter

Even if I am the poorest man on earth, my integrity is everything to me. Remember that riches without integrity is also insanity this is because it leaves you actually with nothing but bad legacy to leave behind.
Now remember I asked you what does the 10 million represent??
Does it represents they are buying away the case??
Does it mean the are paying for the evil deed??
Does it serve as the panacea for for resolving the oppression and maltreatment of your daughter trauma??
Is it a bribe??
I am actually still wondering what man will benefit with 10 million naira gotten from his daughter rape case.... to the sane mind it means the 10 million is a conspiracy which you the father or mother have entered into with the rich.
Also just because you cannot fight the rich means you join the rich

so the basic question of your choice is what does the money represent and how do the society(third party), friends and posterity feel about this choice.

Indeed the case of power, rich and poor carry many surprises. I am not flabbergasted, I am trying to connect the dots in the mystery.

truthfulparrot:
1) ATIKU will gain more international recognition and endorsements locally and internationally

2) ATIKU will be granted US visa and he will be will be invited by business and pressure groups in US for lectures and briefing.

3) Some prominent aides and supporters of PMB will abandon him before the end of this year.

4) Some APC state governors and Senators will demand the resignation of Oshimole. Oshimole will have problem with the presidency.

5) There will be attempt to remove INEC chairman and postpone 2019 election.

7)Some head of Federal Institutions will be removed because of perceived support for ATIKU.

Naira will drop further against dollar and crude oil price will slide to less than 60dollars per barrel. Nigeria may slip back to recession before the end of this year.

9) The court will eventually declare PDP the winner of Osun Governorship election.

10) ATIKU will win 2019 election by over 4nillion vote margin. But their will be attempt to declare the election inconclusive. This will be resisted by Nigerians and international community and..... .

Your predictions I don't understand, it failed in the most important part

Dami12345:
Lol, been waiting for this blackmail attitude.
Its your curse that you have to always follow the crowd even when they dont make sense.

How would like it if that girl pointed you out as a rapist and no body bothered to hear your side of the story?

How do you feel when people claim you did something you didnt do but no one gives you a Chance to talk?

Now read the story again and tell me how it feels to have no say just because a girl who all of use agree are bloody liars is claiming that some guys raped her.

LET THE BOYS WHO THEY HAVE CAUGHT PROVE THEIR INNOCENCE. There is something about the way you speak, common, did they lynch the boys??, are they are not still able to speak, what are you about??

Dami12345:
And the difference is

So a girl can take hundred dicks and it doesn't matter but one dick becomes a problem that 1 million men should all leave what there doing and be fighting up and down because of what? Grow up, woman have been using men since , dont make who a woman bleeps the only thing that is your problem.

so in other words you mean the OP story is not true abi

It means there is something you know that we don't because I don't know how someone just feel that all cases of rape were fabricated.
If this was the case of your sister I hope you talk like this and that's when I can for real give value to your opinion.

Dami12345:
Then what the fcvk are you sayinh Males are animals but some are not, ladies should be protected but some are animals

Do you even know why the friend organised the whole thing for her...
The stupid girl was probably telling her friend that her fantasy is to have a Bleep...and the friend helped her out. How else do you explain a grown ass lady who know her left from right would go to a secluded place with men she doesn't know. Come back and still act like nothing happened. And dont give me that shit that she was scared about a tape. I know a girl who was raped by one guy and she had stitches that same day. This girl claims 8 guys but no need to visit an hospital. Are we Nigerians so dumb to believe every story Haba mana

To what end is this your statement??
Are you saying that this story was fabricated and that even if it was real the girl was not ganged raped, and also that she wanted to actually have sex with yinka?
Are you also saying that peace her friend cannot be capable of arranging her for rape??
also it seem you mean that the miss Z told peace to get a boy for sex for her....

Are the above just speculation, do you know something we don't??

cr7lomo:
My take on this is that she used to have sex with yinka...she followed yinka to have sex in the room, but yinka as a St.upid boy took advantage of her naivety and invited other guys to have sex with her...she couldn't do anything about it cos she was outnumbered

what if you were wrong?

consultancy:
sorry to say this girl, you were foolish, naive and silly at the same time. after the incident, you should have gone straight to the police, school authorities or your parents; video or no video. you concealing it makes it seem like you had sex with them willingly. if i were you and your parents, i will demand 10 million as against the 5 million offered, count my losses and go my way(as long as u were not infected with HIV or any STi). them don rape you be say them don rape you

so you collect the money to do what exactly??
If you are this easy with money it means I would one day buy your integrity, your value and maybe one of your children if I have plenty money....