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ocelot2006: Read his post again. SLOWLY.

bright87: She just spent the night at my place and I gave her 70 Naira for bike fare while she was leaving in the morning, simply because I don't have cash at home.. funny ! but simply the fact. It all depends on how u start a relationship, as for me I am very open that i can talk about anything with my babe... I don't have to kill myself when i dont have and when i have she knows what am capable of.. Relationships shouldn't be a burden, it should be about freedom of the heart and mind towards your partner, but when you build a relationship on pretense, trying to impress someone; this is what you get ! Always start a relationship being your real self not trying to be what you are not. The funny thing was that I even made fun of her while given her the money and asked her to give me back some change when next we meet.. she was laughing uncontrollably, she had some money though but she didn't have change she just needed the change to take bike to her work place. Am not trying to say she is a perfect girl, but to the guys; learn to do away with a girl who can't accept you for who you are. Learn to make fun of things that should have seem obvious and run away from Gals who form a lot coz in most cases lots of them are from very very poor homes/families. The only thing that should be of burden to any young guy is how to make money and not how to please a girl who truly don't deserve it...

WhyMe222: Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. May God bless you all.

On the paternity of my daughter, I have no doubt she is my flesh and blood because of the striking resemblance. She is a replica of my mum.

I want to forgive her and move past this period and work on the marriage, this is the reason why we have stayed together till this moment. I had the chance of informing both parents last Christmas but I chose not to with the hope we will survive it and move on. Yeah my wife is remorseful. She has tried in her own way to make amends but truth be told, it is not easy. I cannot lƠ̴͡Ơ̴͡k at her and not wonder how she got to that hotel, took her clothes off, slept with her colleague/our family friend, left and I possibly went to pick her up, she came back and carried my daughter, forming mother and wife, slept on the same bed with me (Oh Lord I must have been so foolish), and lƠ̴͡Ơ̴͡k me in the face to tell me she loves me. And the repeated same thing few days later, and again and possibly again and again and again till I made the discovery. They claim it was just a few times cos I have spoken with the devil himself. Before breaking the news to her after my discovery, I made her unlock her phone so I went straight to their BBM chats. Their BBM conversation and email correspondence lend credence to the fact that, they didn't just sleep with each other out of raging hormones, they were actually having an amorous affair. A supposed wife!

I wish there is a reset button so I can reset my memory and move on in my marriage cos I ĺOVƐ my wife and for the sake of our adorable daughter. But how will I cope in this misery she has put me in? Right now I don't feel anything for her anymore. I snap sometimes no matter how much I try not to. Even the way I relate with her. Our usual pet name "НONEY" is so heavy in mouth now that I just mumble it when I need to call her attention for anything.

I feel my best option is a dissolution. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Yes I know it has its up and downs and we have had our fare share and gone past through it. This one is bigger than me. I don wanna die young or age faster than I should cos I have noticed some rapid changes.

Meanwhile, I made her confess because she was trying to be economical with the details initially. Let me also mention that in all this, I never raised a finger on her. I am one with an absolute self control. I don't subscribe to any form of violence.

God help me.

cinder66: I realy feel for you, what more can kill a man faster than an infidel and ungrateful wife. Divorce her asap and take ur daughter far away from her reach. Now what is her gain cos am sure the cork did not stick in her punny for more than 30min. No wonder some men call us fish brains, if she no marry now, she go D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ cry foul. Mtcheeeeeeeeew

ROSYL: What's the need of cooking rice + spagehtti?who does that? That's how they stuff their guts, and expand their intestines with starchy food? 2moro, they will start writing nonsense"I'm proud to be curvy" I have big bones" I was born big"
Ini Edo and co, pls next time try garnishing your spagehtti with veggies not with rice!
Yuuuuk! I can't go close to this kind of food,packed with 1million calories + plenty saturated fat, even at gun point.

Health is life.

dolphinife: Are you sure the man never slept with you?
am very sure the man only wanted to dispose you after enjoying all the goodies in you.
That means the next person that's going to date u or probably marry you, is definitely marrying a second hand....LOL

fruityjojo: Formal Education is not 4 Every1. Have u tried learnin Skills aquisition or Trading? There are sucessful people who are doin veryy well in their various field without formal acquisition. You dnt have 2 kill ur self if after ur ninth jamb u still cnt pass.

valicious1: how can a normal girl who is fully aware that dis site has members from all ethnicities vomit dis thrash. Why cant she date igbo guys? Even if shez had a bad experience in d hands of an igbo guy in d past does it mean all igbo men would treat her bad. I'ld neva marry dis kain babe cos she go jus use poison finish all my brothers.

phermonyx: I dont knw if its right for me to feel disappointed in u cos i dont knw u in person bt i am and maybe it cos i av read some of ur comments before and they were a million times more sensible than what dis. The 2nd line of ur statement was absolutely nt necessary.
@OP, pls dont listen to those that r already tagging ur mother-in-law as a bad person cos they dont knw her and most of dem are d kinda pple dat wld remain glued to d floor if they ever get a chance to meet a mother-in-law in dia life, greet her, show her d kind of respect u would ur mom(she is ur 2nd mom now) and all shld be well.
All is well...........stay cool

Kizuba: Is Hycinth gay? what's with the blue trousers?

Humm hansome? i'll wait until Hycinth loses his hair then i'll decide

BabaAlabi: Post your gf's own na...that's if you have one.

REALITY101: Meanie lol.... Tell me, how many of mine you saved in your cellphone or computer?

REALITY101: Ma'am this ish is for young single folks...no offense

rezzy: am i old? Im in my late 20's.

SpicyMimi: LmaoOoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!
Ejinee the liar!!!

The truth is all these guys castigating girls on nairaland are frustrated guys with no girlfrds! Then they come here to pour out their frustrations on other girls to make them feel bad nd terrible!
Biko is it our faults that u got no girl to call U̶̲̥̅̊я own because u aint up to standards or too shy? Lmaoooooooo! Chaiiiiii na fake pple u na all be! *spits on thread*

ItsModella: I dey tell you . The fiancée's eyelashes alone can be used to sweep the whole of Lagos state.

Shugamania:
Una don kee me with laff oo..

SOM, Why u dey open fowl yansh na??
The girl was born with natural blond curls and sexy longggg lashes.

Idowuogbo: U dey vex o!

No b NL again? Persin wey b bricklayer go claim say hin b Architect. Wonders shall never end.

Ejiné: A lot of black women suffer from severe low self-esteem and hypocrisy.
Shouting "Black is Beautiful" while carrying the hair of other races of women on their heads.

It's unfortunate.

Idowuogbo: SOM, abeg no wound me o! Lmao!!!!

Ejiné: Why do black women really enjoy fixing the hair of other races of women on their heads?
Girl, we know what you're carrying on your head isn't yours, so who exactly are you fooling? I have no other name for this than self hate.

Sometimes I wonder what would be running through the mind of Aishwarya Rai when she sees black women paying through their noses to acquire Indian hair that naturally grows on her head. If you think she doesn't end up looking down on black women as lower creatures, then you're in denial.

What a shame. This is why I'll always love my beautiful mother and her dreadlocks, as well as my fiancee and her afro. Those are natural sistahs.

Ejiné: Sorry dude, my fiancee is way hotter. But then again, you're talking about the girls on Nairaland, so you may be right.

kulyie: both of them are both stupid in different ways but she is the bigger fool.my point here is that HOW CAN YOU BE HAVING SEX WITH A MAN THAT DID NOT PLAN MARRIAGE WITH YOU,DOES NOT INTEND TO OR DIDNT EVEN DISCUSS THE ISSUE OF MARRYING YOU YET YOU WERE OPENING YOUR LEGS FOR HIM especially without the use of condom when you know you are not ready to mother a child or your sex partner is not ready to father a child,that is my point! If she shut her legs and made use of her number 6 there will not even be an issue of pregnancy talkless of arguing over paternity issues.therefore as long as girls refuse to respect themselves and stop opening your legs to someone you are not sure will father the child or marry you,shut your legs or he will turn you to after one.

Now the problem i have with paul is that at his age he should no better.how can he be sleeping with a minor for 2 years.you know you have no intention of marrying her yet you couldn't use a condom or withdraw now you are arguing over paternity issue with a girl.if indeed he did not sleep with the girl,why is he requesting for a dna test.afterall if a man is sure of himself that he did not have sex with a girl,he will not request for a dna

horny4u: From the comments on this thread I have come to a personal conclusion that men are more compassionate and kinder than women a very sad development....since women are supposed to be more spiritual.

kulyie: i agree with you on this.she looks like all this easy little girls that some musician met in a club,splashed some money on her and took her to bed.the rest is what we see now. Is shutting your legs before marriage that difficult and even when you want to how can you be so dumb to have sex with a stranger that you dont know his sexual history all because he is an entertainer...issshhh

kulyie: which mumu curse.did paul rape her( the only time the curse can be effective was if she was raped and from the look of things,it was consensual) .i am sure paul sweet tongued her into opening her legs for him now she wants to blackmail paul with her virginity.abi did paul force her to loose her virginity to him.the last time i checked whoever a lady chooses to loose her virginity to is her choice EXCLUDING RAPE VICTIMS.she will say she has been fvcking him since she was 17,now she is 19.paul has been having sex with her on a platter of gold for 2 years probably without condom and now she has a baby and she is now spewing thrash.in this issue i will support paul because she has no substance.na talk be that.mshewww