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My biggest lesson in life is that you should be humble. We are all product of grace and opportunities. Don't look down on others that are yet to discover their own grace and opportunities.

Best way to handle a heartbreak is to sleep and wake up everyday without your phone for three months, then plan something good for your life.

TONYE001:
Hello,

Good morning.

Trust you all are doing OK.

Firstly, I would love to start by explaining why I brought this to the Culture Section of Nairaland. We were taught that culture is people's way of life. This piece addresses our way of life, here on Nairaland, at least.

I woke up to meet the sad news of the demise of this wonderful fellow, HungerBad. I didn't have any direct dealings with him but I knew him for two things - his comments and his benevolence. May his soul rest in God's perfect peace, may those he left behind find strength to carry on.

Nairaland is a faceless forum. Each day we come online, we interact with monikers, sometimes we forget that behind these monikers are actual humans with real names, families and real lives. I've been here for a while. I've seen things. I've seen people play over someone's depression, I've seen people mock others that need some sort of help or the other. I've seen people say terrible things about others. I've seen people wish others death. I've seen comments where users threaten to kill others. In the heat of the just concluded elections, I saw folks do things that I fear even animals may not do to themselves. I've seen people celebrate the deaths of others. This list is endless.

But there's more. I've seen good deeds go down here too. A couple of times, I've seen fundraising threads for one sick person or the other. I've seen sincere efforts by people to help other people with jobs, tuition, etc. The annual Xfire Scholarship comes to mind. HungerBad's repeated show of kindness comes to mind too.

HungerBad was a kind fellow. Regular users of this forum must have come across his good deeds at one point or the other. He was not discouraged by the activities of scammers that's of course ubiquitous here. He looked beyond the lines of cultural divisions. He gave to all. Hausas. Igbos. Yorubas.

To HungerBad, it didn't matter whether you are Christian or Muslim. All that mattered to him was that you needed help. More like, a human needs help. This was enough for him.

There are a few lessons we all can pick from this fellow. Our country is already in a terrible state. People are jobless, people are angry. Why heat it further with tribalism and extreme political views? The elite continue to take the common man for a ride. They play on the gullibility of the average Nigerian. They exploit the natural hatred each geopolitical region has for the other. Why then do we hurt ourselves the more? Why can't we show unconditional love to each other just like our dear HungerBad did?

We tend to be unaware that behind each moniker is a human that may be at the verge of taking his life. We make all sorts of derogatory comments not minding the possible impacts. We forget too that silence, that is, not commenting on each and every thread, is an option. Mr. A opens a thread about a certain problem he's confronted with. Maybe a health challenge. The first commenter calls him unprintable names and makes jest of his condition. The second commenter follows suit and a cascade is set.

Who would have known that HungerBad was in the US Army? You can't be sure of the person behind a moniker you just wrongly attacked. He may be the doctor that stood for hours doing a procedure on your brother, he may be the driver that helped your stranded sister, she may be the lawyer that fought for the right of your daughter, or the good Samaritan that donated massively for the health of your father.

In conclusion, I urge each and every one of us to follow peace with all men. We must treat each other with a sense of respect. We must be quick to help, if we can. If we can't, we must move on, this is better than worsening the situation with an out-of-place comment.

Lastly, life is temporary. Whether we continue to live or die can be decided in seconds. Let's carry this consciousness at the back of our minds as we pursue our day-to-day activities.

Thank you.

cc: Ishilove, Lalasticlala.

I like this advice. Thank you bro. HungerBAD was truly a man with great mind of helping others. I have had a private chat with him via pm before. So many people here are weathier than him but has never given out a penny to those people that needed help. Good people like HungerBAD(RIP), KBKonline(Facebook), Dalemat and xfire on nairaland are always good samaritan to learn from. No millions of dollar or naira not even one massion is following us to grave. This life would have been a better place if everyone chooses to help one another. ## RIP HungerBAD ...

Crying... Bro, You have really touched so many lives including mine.

But Death...Why

Bad news...RIP bro!!!

Very very true. Most people hide under the pretence of religion to perpetrate evil. You see Choir master having sexual relationship with the choirs and still jumping out on Sunday for praise and worship. One reason while I can never trust any religiously inclined people not even with my iota of business plan or penny. Atheist are always very true, straightforward and realistic.


I am a Christian thou

Tragedy!! RIP to the Lil ones

He publicised and implicated himself by himself.

maticdamian:
I will take your advice to heart Stella am really grateful for your act of kindness towards me helpers like you are rare I understand where your friends are coming from and it's true have been here before but it's not to scam it's my turgid situation that result to that and I promise this would be the last time I would do such. I got the alert just when you said it will come through am really grateful once more I pray God continue to bless you and enrich you In all endeavours Thank you once more

Amen. Thank you bro. I am always motivated when I see students that keep achieving success despite their challenges. I tried explaining to my friends but they failed to understand because someone born with silver spoon can never understand what some of us passed through in life. Its good to hear the promise of not doing such from you again. I have your account number, Anytime I have little change, I can always post to you. Please keep making A's in your studies. You will look back at this your post and laugh in the next 5-10 years. I wish you well in all your endeavours

maticdamian:
Am forever indebted to you

You are welcome. I don't know why, but please I have an advice for you. Three of my friends refused sending the money to you because they all said you are a scammer even after sending them the currency equivalent. I tried to convince them but they did a thorough check on you and it brought out your previous beg for money online. I understand your predicament as a student but you can still do other things to support yourself. Though money has eventually been sent but please Try part time teaching and freelancing work as support and stop this e-begging. I wish you well in your academics

Don't enter water if you can not swim. Go for swimming class. RIP to the Dead.

The rate at which undergraduates are becoming dead through party is alarming. I just hope swimming would be included as part of Nigerian curriculum

maticdamian:
Cause I have another here already once again am grateful

alright bro. I tried yesterday. It keeps bouncing back yesterday. I will try again today but going to work now. You should get alert before 10pm tonight please.

Am very grateful I saw your work I really appreciate it I was belated when I saw this very very grateful am sure I can't thank you enough

Why have you deactivated your account I smell lies

Halleumini:
Thank You ma really grateful

Lols. I am not ma please. 11k will be forwarded to your account. Send 1k to your Dad. 1k to your mum for her debt, 2k for your pocket money and 7k for your project. I wish you well bro.

Halleumini:
I told you mine hasn't been issued yet let me send you my results then am clearly in school I swear am really banking on this help

See my last session results am a student here please I need your help am not playing games

Good one. Let me try

Halleumini:
Here is my ID card ma


It's Expired cause am still yet to receive the new permanent card


I can even send my results if you want

2017 card? I am afraid

Halleumini:
Bro whatever you want as proof am willing to prove, do you want to call my mom or my dad whatever you say

I am a lady not bro. Can you screenshot your school id and blured your name on it?

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

Lefulefu, capslocked,saffi,martinez39,Iamplato,chenzen, amaratasha,adaibeku,biglittlelois,lilmax,koyyes,dairykidd...

Have you seen him in real life? Don't force yourself for love. if he doesnt send or reply your text, delete his number and contact from your head. Keep working hard to be somebody that people would Love to associate with

Congrats bro... Keep leading

Zoey1:
Chief Organizer!
Let me know the venue.

lols. Noted my Darling sister

Goodmorning to you all and I wish everyone a successful visa application. Thanks to all the gurus on this forum...Zoe1, Justwise, etc...Please Keep doing the great job...


We should organize nairalanders christmas party for all in UK too

AgreatMan:
Could also be the person who printed d IV

Maybe or Maybe not.


He could possibly have typed and printed the IV at home or with strict monitoring if you understand what I mean.

Your secretly and most trusted invitees exposed your wedding IV... Trust only YOURSELF

Congrats

Happy married life to them

So sad

I don't know why christians keep tempting God...

Hadampson:
•Rugen island

•Munich

•Berlin

•Dresden

•Cologne

•Heidelberg

•Lubeck

•Neuschwanstein

•Romantic Rhine

•Leipzig

Thank you very much bro