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"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too.
I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.

We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.

We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.

I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil.
He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them.
The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.

Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.

I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?

I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"

thesilentman:
ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

NwaNimo1:
Climate change.......is Nigeria ready?

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Demurray:
Oga go look again this time with a pair of eye glasses, this Liverpool gonna concede more if Annold is not sub

tesppidd:
You want Neymar to come out and say it was money that motivated his move?

You're so naive.

Even if a great 20 year old player agrees to a 1 trillion pounds a week transfer to Saudi, that player will never agree that he was motivated by money.

Don't be so gullible.

tesppidd:
You want Neymar to come out and say it was money that motivated his move?

You're so naive.

Even if a great 20 year old player agrees to a 1 trillion pounds a week transfer to Saudi, that player will never agree that he was motivated by money.

Don't be so gullible.

Akasammyoka:
Why not Orphanage homes, abi is he indirectly telling us he employed orphans as aid

tesppidd:
Which player got a huge offer from a Saudi club but refused to go?

Tell me first, then we talk about power of influence.

tesppidd:
What do you mean, who started the tsunami?

The Saudis themselves started the tsunami.

Did the Saudis make any big money offer for any player in the past and that player rejected it?

If any, can you tell me? Tell us who and who the Saudis bidded for, and the person rejected..

It's simple,, the Saudis themselves decided it was time to spend good money and improve the league.

I still don't understand how anybody can logically and sensible say that players are going to Saudi because Ronaldo went there.

Judolisco:
Russia dats fighting Ukraine no single missile has been dropped in Russia... Niger will be on d defensive.... Nigeria's defence budget is 4 times d total budget of Niger.... Una go jst dey cap.... oga na so every President wey dey under ecowas go seek permission from their national assembly....

Lutherblaq:
They say Forgiveness is the firs step to fixing relationship issues. It gives you a window to understand the reason behind your partner’s actions.

Being cheated on is one of the most traumatic feelings one can go through in any relationship. There are times when the love and affection between two people decrease due to various factors.

Cuddles, romance, and communication become less frequent with time. It is in times like these either of the partners may search for love outside.

As a man/woman, tell us;
Can You Leave A Good Woman/Man Because They Slept With
Someone By Mistake?

envoymedia:
Popular Nollywood actor, Yul Edochie has said that decisions taken by Nigeria's President, Bola Tinubu, are in the best interest of Nigerians, IGBERETV reports.

Yul Edochie wrote on his Instagram page;



https://www.instagram.com/p/Cv6yDBGAIDL/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Workch:
Contractor just landed on site to rehabilitated this bad road.

Judolisco:
Nigeria is not d one fighting... Why una dey reason like dis na.... Na ecowas dey fight

AllenSpencer:
We are not in a war on two fronts
We have western support!

It’s not expensive to go into war with Niger cos we share land boarders and Niger has small and incompetent military.

dondodo:
Firmino 1 goal
Salah 1
Curtis jones 1
Arnold 1

Brek:
Link please

Suspect33:
I see she has opted to follow the advice of online in-laws. They will lead her into a ditch, shi-shi she won't see

The way Nigerian married women hate this Yul ehh , his actions has reminded them that they are disposable and their husbands can marry another wife with zero consequence and they don't like it

madridguy:
Show us your pics first and let see how you look like

BigBlackPreek:
Wey ashawo house plenty for everywhere like this..

With 5h-1k I don fvck ashawo tire, mainly 45-60😋