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Happy belated bday sweetheart

sinizia:
You are contradicting yourself with the embolden sentences in your posts. And no, sometimes, divorce is the answer. In fact in many cases sef.

this lady does not want help. Am no longer going to waste my time. She says they need each other. She better not come crying later how she contracted Hiv or any other sob story cos frankly I will tell her it's her own darn fault.

IdiAmin1:
It's really sad my dear. I'm a man but honestly some men are just beasts mistakenly(God forgive me) given the body of a human

yeah. Such men make me sick. Ì honestly have a low tolerance for such bs. This is why i strongly believe that women should start to focus on their education and getting a job and not sorely depending on men for everything. If she had her own money she would have been able to take care of herself and kids and I don't think the man would be treating her as badly. Some men do what they do unashamed because they know that the woman will go nowhere because he is the one providing her with her daily bread.

IdiAmin1:
Madam, he's having an affair with a more sophisticated lady(in his silly mind) and it has made feel you are no longer in his class. What you need now is a temporary separation like you travelling for a while or sth. Give him space to see the futility in his attitude and if you want him back, go for test before accepting him back. If you don't do this, believe me, he's not gonna get to his senses soon. He needs to miss his wife alittle and see the difference between a wife and a girlfriend.

Separation will even be better for him because he will use it as an opportunity to bring women home. This man does not care at all. If your wife/ gf caught you cheating. Would you not be ashamed or embarrassed? Would you not beg for forgiveness but rather this man told her to go home? What kind of man does that? He does not love her nor gives a damn. When his wife was pregnant he did not care enough to buy some baby stuff. He rather spent that money on women. Imo a temporary separation will not work but just give him even more freedom.

Wifey do you have a job? Are you educated? If you are please try and get a job first so that you can start taking care of yourself and your kids.

I personally would not stand for such arrant nonsense. I mean he was not even ashamed or embarrassed when you caught him cheating but instead told you to leave. I don't think the man loves you. You cannot change a man, a man will change only when he wants to change. He is not even providing for you and the kids as well but spending any money he gets on women. Is that the type of life you want to live for the rest of your life?

I think confide in a close family member you trust such as (sister or brother) who could offer you some kind of support and advice.

Even though I don't believe in divorce this is a valid reason for such. Also these things will affect your kids at a later stage. Even though they are young they know when their mom is unhappy and sad.

you can either wallow in your sadness and feel sorry for yourself or you can do something about your situation. Everyone deserves to be happy. Don't be miserable for someone who does not give a damn about you.

Fulaman198:
The fact that black guys chase her is a shame in itself,

Signed a proud Fulani

if only black men could be like you

Lol this white girl went in. She was really honest and real and I liked that about her. She spoke a lot of truth as well as those points on the screen were so on point.

SirShymexx, Coogar, 50Caliber what do you have to say about this

I feel like Gen is overrated. Even Omotola is better looking than her (my opinion).

People are too colour struck. Based on features and bod I'd say Nadia is prettier

tpiah01:
shyymexx always backs up anything that looks scammish, 419 or just generally anti-social.

no be today.

What is it with you two?

SirShymexx:
Safarigirl,

Let me bless ya thread with what the ghost of Malcolm X said:

"in every country you go to, usually the degree of progress can never be separated from the woman. If you’re in a country that’s progressive, the woman is progressive. If you’re in a country that reflects the consciousness toward the importance of education, it’s because the woman is aware of the importance of education.

But in every backward country you’ll find the women are backward, and in every country where education is not stressed it’s because the women don’t have education. So one of the things I became thoroughly convinced of in my recent travels is the importance of giving freedom to the women, giving her education, and giving her the incentive to get out there and put the same spirit and understanding in her children. And I am frankly proud of the contributions that our women have made in the struggle for freedom and I’m one person who’s for giving them all the leeway possible because they’ve made a greater contribution than many of us men."

Malcolm X - El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz - 1925 to 1965. R.I.P the great one.

I had to scroll up twice to make sure that I was not seeing things. Am shocked, was not expecting this from you. Nice quote

tosyne2much:
What is this man saying ?

You see this thread as a female bashing thread ? You really need to work on you comprehension skill bro

I think your comprehension skill is so low and I would advise you to kindly read the post all over again, or show it to a person with a better comprehension skill for better explanation

I don't blame you. Your age doesn’t lie. Neither does that face.

P.S there is a (f) next to my name for a reason not a (m) just to be clear on your 'comprehension skills'

kandiikane:
seriously? They got you too?

Am telling u, I was shocked cos I never expected it from her

Creamish:
I wonder when ppl will realise that the colour of onez skin, length of one's hair, art on one's body, one's physical appearance in general, has nothing whatsoever to do with one's attitude. It is purely individualistic. If a tattooed lady decides to be rude, its her choice... It does not translate to a General Rule based on Tattoos.

If u say its because of the tattoos, then there must be some magical powers a tattoo gives dat i'm unaware of. Stop judging ppl based on their physical appearance. Attitude has nuttin to do with the external...its purely internal. What u have in ur heart is what u give.....

My dear unfortunately we have a lot of people who think 'backwards'. Even a comment I read just now says it's not applicable to Nigerian men but only Nigerian women . Not only was this statement a gross generalisation but a sexist comment too. So its okay for men to have tattoos and not women? How does a tattoo make one rude, unreliable and aggressive? So do ladies and men who drink a lot, go to parties and clubs every weekend, smoke weed etc, those who are having sex and even cheating? I am yet to see such a topic, but a person who has a tattoo you will base all this generalisations on.

I just can't stand shallow minded people with primitive thinking. We are in 2015 for goodness sakes. Tattoos are not for everybody and there is nothing wrong with that, but basing a whole female Nigerian population because of the ashawos you hang out with (u are who u attract, but that's another conversation all together) is totally Bs. This is just another female bashing thread and as usual women are 1st to bash her fellow women.

Btw I don't have a tattoo(before you ppl come to crucify me), I just have a low tolerance for BS. I know some peeps who do have though (some successful and intelligent women such as a lawyer even a Dr) and they are nothing like you described.
It's like saying all Nigerian men are players, all Nigerians are 419. All Nigerian girls are materialistic etc. The thing about stereotyping is it's usually just throwing rocks into a crowd hoping to hit somebody who deserves it

Even though I generally prefer dark skinned men. Majid is better looking than Jim. No doubt.

Some men just don't get it when you tell them that you are not interested. You can say it straight to their face but you get those who think you are just playing hard too get and will continue to harass you.

Love is not by force. If a lady is interested in you, even if she takes her time trust me you will know.

This was all over instagram. I see the dress as blue and black and am yet to see the white and Gold part

Modified: I can now see the white and Gold

sweettease:
So the husband actually peeped first, what if it had been the wife of another man, him self won tap small current jor.

You people are still on this ish

CFCfan:
I'm Igbo, but I can marry from any nationality or tribe. My elder brother married a Black-American, and they're living a happy married life.
It all depends on the orientation of specific parents, and the maturity of the couple

I feel same way as you but am also not going to castigate those who chose to marry within their tribe. Too each their own

It's normal for someone to marry from their own tribe/culture. Everyone is entitled to marry who he/she wants and I believe that if a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you are from.


It's not only Igbos who tend to marry their own. Same can be said about other tribes and nationalities. I know a lot of Yoruba folks who will not marry anyone non-yoruba.

If I want to marry a fellow Ekiti man because he is the same tribe as me then no one should have a problem with my decision.


It's the ladies fault dating a guy for 6years with no intention to marry you. Trust me when a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you come from.

I really don't see the big deal in people marrying their own if they choose too. It really is not the end of the world

crackhaus:
That mother-in-law probably already knows the kind of man I am, she would literally have to be suicidal to even attempt something like this.

macanu:
Na wa 4 her wetin happen to her hometown,leave 9ja go marry 4 ghana,abeg who dey wed who. Anyway Good 4 them

Who cares? She's living her life while all of u come here bit*hing. Karen Igho married oyibo. Ice prince is dating a french/Ghanaian.
Free yourselves , the world is large and has varying,interesting options. Enuff with the pity parties.
Is damilola the only woman on earth? You don’t own her, nobody owns you. Sometimes you just fall in love with the person for the person instead of their nationality. Instead of wishing them hml,  some dimwits are asking about divorce. Stop whining, abeg.

It really is not the end of the world.

Nneka123:
yes! you're paranoid! so paranoid!. don't you have forums in your so called country where you could update this why come over here!

Is this your Forum? And to think you are male

It seems perhaps you don't know your boyfriend that well. 6 months is not a lot of time but there was something you saw in him that made you go for him. Think you should just tell him how you feel so that you can be at ease. You guys should try and get a better understanding of one another so that every out of the norm utterance will not be taken serious if that's the case. But honestly that is a really weird thing to say. Sometimes 'jokes' must be clearly thought about

blackpanther25:
Is he Yoruba?

You are a fktard

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, please bro learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

Thank God there are still sensible men like you around.

I am working for myself, future kids and family and I would hope my better half will be doing the same. How can a man not include his spouse in the equation. That means that he has no regards for her whatsoever. I hope that his wife has a job and if not it better be a wake up call for her cos he is busy planning for himself and kids and not her and one day she may just find herself replaced.