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Ilekeh:
Improve Yoruba genes with these typical Igbo genes below? No thanks.
Dark skin needs no improvement.

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I have no words for this Eww

mentorandfriend:
Election materials arrived late. Result sheet was conspicously absent. Massive rigging, with ballot box snatching. So unfair!

Grow the fk up and stop whining like a b1tch. Grown men complaining about an online beauty contest rotfl

kandiikane:
Come off that jor! A right thinking man won't find a child sexually attractive. A pedo will find a children sexually attractive regards of what he or she wears, be it thongs or buba and wrapper. What you are doing is putting the blame of abuse on the victims, rather than the adult who decides to indulges in such disgusting behaviour.

What exact adult attributes will a normal adult perceive from that child? is it boobs, nyash? A pedo does not think like the average adult, a pedo is tuned to find kids attractive regardless of what is worn. It is not what a child wears that makes someone attracted to them.

How about the young boys who also get abused, do they have to dress a certain way for abuse to happen?

The same way a rapist will ra.pe regardless of what you wear. See India for example. Majority of the female population are covered up but the ra.pe cases are quite high.

Thank you

onila:
when you think of Jamaicans

u think or rude, aggressive, scary pple

but hes very nice

looks like treating women like queens is part of their culture

This is so true. I think they are really some nice Jamaican men out there especially the 1st Generation.

justwise:
Imagine...doing that in front of his kid, shameless, the wife/partner is even there. Nice family outing..smh

I just can't deal. What a bush man. This is really embarrassing but funny as hell too .

Something tells me the woman was upset with her husband about something and hence her response. How late was her husband ?

T3Amo:
Was all this necessary?

lol don't mind him. He just needs some home training. Just 1 week with me and he will be a completely new man

babyosisi:
I agree with you
That lady overlooked abuse,that is a no no

My best friend was of the opinion that another lady go ahead and marry a man she didn't even care much for so she can pop out a couple of kids in holy matrimony and if the marriage doesn't work out she gets a divorce
At least no one will accuse her of having kids outside wedlock
I disagreed on that idea totally
That 's deception
How can one go into marriage planning a divorce
But that tells you the pressure many ladies are in regarding this marriage thing and I bet you many are doing this
Sometimes it's not even about the girl
She wants to please people around her and meet societal expectations
That's sad

This is so true and it's not the first time I am actually hearing about the above. It's Quite sad that some people think like this. ..

babyosisi:
If one truly wants to get married and time is passing by,there are some requirements one will necessarily have to let go to increase ones pool of eligible men.
Certainly not your core values
But there are some qualities and requirements that can be overlooked

I agree with you as the saying goes 'beggars can't be choosers' but definitely not your core values. I know of a lady who was desperate to get married so she married a man who loves to beat her. So
she over looked this just cos she wanted to get married.

I value my life too much to be someone's permanent boxing bag. Also when a man sees that you are very desperate that's when he will do all the nonsense he wants because he knows you will most likely not leave him Imo

Notyourb1tch:
About the age thing. She did not become 33 in 1 day. It's obvious this thing has been going on for a long time. She has said that she does not want to get married because of age and settle. A lot of women find themselves in this boat and settle for anything because of age and then we start hearing about stories that touch.

Lastly 33 isn't old. It's grown. This type of thing is always said by a man who is in his 40s himself. Smh.

This is so true. I for one will rather not get married than force myself to get married to any tom, dick and Harry just to be married because of age and later you will be having wahala that could have easily been avoided. Marriage is not the be all and end all and unfortunately for some people it is just not in their destiny to get married.

Your last paragraph is so true. A family friend actually had a bunch of women send his family a series of photos from back home so that they could "assess" or look at them and make the best choice for him. His requirements were as follows: under 25 (so she could have kids), good looking, educated, no children as he had none at his grown 37 years on this planet. Let's just say that when his wife finally came here she "grew wings' and the marriage did not last.

What's worse is he was dating a lady who was in her early 30's but he broke it off with her cos he felt she was too old(dude was 37!) and 'Westernised". Karma I tell ya

The way some of you are killing yourselves over a lady who does not even know you exist. Pele o

CFCfan:
Definitely.

There is hope after all. She just needs to meet more men like you. Btw I like your profile pic. So sweet

CFCfan:
I'm 6'2''

Nice. So would you date a 6'3?

CFCfan:
The bolded part is still a cultural thing. Like I said earlier, the man (if he grew up in Naija) has the mindset of him being the alpha and omega of the house. There could be some exceptions though, but they could be statistically insignificant.

As for the men being intimidated by her height, it only shows that they are insecure. If I were 5'7" I wouldn't even think of dating her

lol her point exactly that's why if she had to get married to a Nigerian it will have to be a first generation. Btw how tall are you? You seem quite tall

CFCfan:
I think she's got the cultural differences nailed on. To be honest, it would be difficult for a Nigerian man who has lived a greater part of his life in Nigeria, to share domestic duties with his (Nigerian) wife. After all, he paid a substantial bride price (including stuff on the 'list'); so to him the 'wifely' duties should strictly be left to the woman.

But this is not what the video is about. Basically what she was trying to say was that firstly from her own experiences with some Nigerian men they seem to be a certain way and also want a certain type and she does not fit into that type ( eg her strong personality, age and esp height)and she is okay with that. She is a strong headed woman and if she feels that something is wrong or she is unhappy about something she will let the guy know and a lot of Nigerian guys don't like that too. They prefer docile timid women. She said she is not desperate and also not the type to rush for marriage and just because of age constraints and in the process settling/giving up who she is and what she believes. She is okay with being single even of it means that she has to 'harvest her eggs' . She said she knows there are good Nigerian men out there namely her Dad, bro, brother in law etc. The second video gives a clearer picture of what she was trying to convey.

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T3Amo:
Part 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fo4EUM_0J4

I feel this was better conveyed and I get a clearer vision of what she's saying. This was a powerful video. She's very brave for putting herself out there

I completely understood where she was coming from in her first video. I kinda got a defensive feeling from her in this second one. I'm assuming she received some backlash so she was trying to clear things up. But she told no lies and she shouldn't apologize.

I like her alot. She seems very strong minded and she is beautiful too.

babyosisi:
But everything she says is true sha
Our men are tough
Only our women can handle them as they are
Go and see naija men married to AA or Oyibo,they do what you could never believe our men are capable of
They will be cooking and cleaning and baking without complaining
Yes honey
Yes sweetie
Running around serving guests

We went to visit one and he was baking
An Igbo man o,wearing apron and baking and serving guests
Had his wife been nigerian that will never happen
He will sit and be cracking jokes while his wife is cooking and serving

For them to marry Americans they make major adjustments which many of our men are not willing to make

This girl is very correct in her observation

As in. 1000 likes

She was like talking to me through the spirit man. I swear when she was talking that I was totally finishing her sentences. I agree with a lot of what she was saying. About the roles and the power dynamics of being in a marriage or a relationship with a full out 100% nigerian man and not wanting to conform in order to make it work. Before I met my man, I said the same thing. I would only date a 1st generation naija boy, because he'd have the swag I like and we would have similar experiences culturally yet it wouldn't be sooo strict and staunch in the experience. Like we could order out and he wouldn't be expecting jollof rice and egusi soup like everyday LOL



She also mentioned the older women or men who rag on you because you're not in your early twenties and still have not found a partner. My grandma told my mother at 30 that she was too old to marry again. I was in total disbelief. And she ragged on me for not having a husband and no children, that she was old when she got married at 22. In my head I was thinking," what am I? a dinosaur fossil in comparison?"

They'd even bring these suitors to visit, who were annoying and yes arrogant as hell. I was like," why you tryna push this dude up on me?" Completely clueless... then I saw him at a mall a year later and he was like," I got married." and gave me the "oh you missed out glance". In my head I was thinking,"boo, I wasn't even checkin for you."

SirShymexx:
Some uncle not my uncle - ain't no one breaking any of my uncles' legs out here lol. That is gonna be war with hammers coming out lol.

Nah, my uncles move digital - they don't get involved in petty things.

Where have u been, anyway?

Okay that's good to know. Been very busy(Work etc) but I do pop in now and again. Did you miss me?

SirShymexx:
Lol. You know these naija uncles and how they innately love swindling folks, thinking their stupid stories would be enough to get them off lol.

My man messed with the wrong folks, and they broke his leg and smashed his head open loool.

That's some brutal sh1t. I hope your Uncle has learnt his lesson now.

SirShymexx:
Nig[url][/url]erians and crime are like Siamese twins - or bread and butter, depending on which analogy you want.

The average Nigerian is always predisposed to swindling folks. Some naija uncle still got his head smashed out and his leg broken recently for the same shiit. Trust a Nigerian at ya own risk lool.

Am sorry but this made me laugh . Honestly it's quite sad.

Lol this guy is hilarious

Nigerians should come back home. I would rather be poor and at peace then suffer and live in a country that hates your guts and where violence is akin to drinking water.

Fulaman198:
That's clearly what I didn't say. What I said is that, if women complain about bigger men, then women have no right when men complain about bigger women. It goes both ways.

lol I see and you are right. However people have different preferences be in short, tall, dark, light, fat, slim or curvy. One can go for what they like but should not be offended or complain when the opposite sex does the same.

Fulaman198:
Most humans are hypocrites. Most women are not attracted to bigger/fat men and most men are not attracted to bigger/fat women. All in all, women have no right to say men are a particular way in terms of what they like.

If you are a bigger guy, then you must be rich in my opinion

women have no right to say men are a particular way in terms of what they like Pls elaborate

I don't like a man with breasts, big ass and a big tummy so most likely 1 if not all 3 will be found in fat men. Also they tend to sweat a lot too. There are some cute chubby guys out there but I like my men well built.

Sagamite:
If oil and water is chemistry to you, na you know o.

If you had said Subom1 now, I for understand.

This is really sad but how could the lady go to an unknown persons house alone. Craiglist has a lot of scammers and psychos on there. I remember reading about the craiglist murders. We all need to becareful and wary of such things.

RaeMystix:
This is a cross dresser.

My thoughts exactly. That person is not a woman but a man