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koozy: Typical Razz Yoruba behavior (I am Yoruba btw before someone starts yarning dust).
Nyama! tueh!

Mynd_44: New here new there.

Cuddlemii: Divorcee is a no go area for me. I don't advise it for any lady except you are extremely old, a divorcee yourself or a single mom.

A widower is even better at least the wife is in the grave and there is a visible reason/justification as to why he is back to being single but for a divorced man it is hard to place a finger on the reason why he left his wife. You would keep playing the guessing card game and never get to the bottom of the truth.

The divorced man could be at fault for leaving his wife and blame it on his wife. The divorcee could have commitment issues or gets tired of living under the same roof with the same woman. There is also always a history there between divorced couples and a possibility to return back to each other. The divorcee might be cutting shows with his ex wife and the innocent new wife wont know. The ex wife can fight and harm the new wife so the new wife's safety is at risk. If the former marriage produced a kid or kids, the kids would try to cement the relationship between their parents. The kids can also frame the new wife of being a wicked step mom, you know the Cinderella syndrome to make a step mom look bad. I mean why go through all that hassle and drama when it can be avoided.

A single father or widower is more reasonable and realistic. I will rather advise a lady to look for an upcoming brother or a guy with prospects even if you can't get everything you need, as far as he has the potentials and drive to make you happy, give you peace of mind and strives to make it in life to make his family comfortable then that fair enough.

Doctorazz: Hi all,been dating this guy for almost over 5yrs ,hes very hot[url][/url] tempered&verbally abusive,at the slightest provocation he calls me names eg fool etc etc he's precently waiting for ajob to click.i visit him most weekends to keep him company since hes bored most of the time,he always looks for one fault in me or the other,when i leave esp for work in d morning after being with him,hestarts sending me messages of what i did thats wrong,and what i ddnt do etc.he teaches me how to cook to his satisfaction ,and if i make a suggestion,he gets mad at me and starts calling me all sorts of names,most times because hes so particular i always ask Him how he wants a particular food cooked,cos if one thing is put before another and its not the way he does it,he wont eat the food again.even times when i make a suggestion and he refuses,i do what he says yet when i go,he'll send me abusiv messages saying" why did i want to do it dat way,am i a fool etc etc and a quarell ensues,despite doing it his way.hes pushed me severally and i fear he may be physically abusive too.Anything i tell him about myself,he uses it against me when next we quarell,please i need advice,the most embarassing thing now is,wev been engaged for a year and from the look of things we may be breaking up very soon,iv been wearing his ring all along,how do i go through the shame of not getting married to him despite evry1 knowing us together?

Mikkygeezy: ı don't blıve cos ı trust 9ja guys

silvaspecs: This is gradually eating becoming an issue to ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥. ȋ̝̊̅ went to a cousine's house and he was out, just to find his wife sleeping and after a while she began singing this ringtone while sleeping. ȋ̝̊̅ felt quite embarrassed and S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ ȋ̝̊̅ tried to put myself in his shoe, and just couldn't imagine what I'd do If ȋ̝̊̅ were him. Can it be stopped once started?

ayobase: Pls, whats d solution to snoring?
I was told I snore like pig!
NLers.....pls dont give me those mocking replies!

ayobase: Pls, whats d solution to snoring?
I was told I snore like pig!
NLers.....pls dont give me those mocking replies!

Ileke-IdI:
Na which kain name be that?

Aren't those yoruba kids? What does diamond/ bright mean in Yoruba?

O ga o.

Please you guys should stop that one o, before we turn into another "precious" and "Gift".

shaneroberts26: . Hehe,u wish.

shaneroberts26: Cheq ma profile picture and c for ur self den comment.

ayobase: Couple?
Cousins dont make couple!
She is Diamond and he is Bright.
LOL!

niyitogun: Jst curious...wats your opinion about the u.k docs going on strike from the 21st of this month

niyitogun: Jst curious...wats your opinion about the u.k docs going on strike from the 21st of this month

ayobase: Thats aboki ayobase!
A sample!

Lagusta: KAI, ARE ABOKIS THAT DUMB
Anyways.....

ayobase: Nice pick up line!

femzy: Hmmm but there used to be a fb like button ....
I can see you are getting comfy ere already.

greenmouse: MTN is the worst network in Nigeria, in all ramifications, they are bad.

people should think of changing to etisalat bc i use both so i know well.

acidtalk: what i detest most is being held to ransom, women will toy with your somach once they know you cant cook.

ayobase: Here comes I&my chick....u wanna beat that?
Bring it on then......
##WHERE R THOSE KIDS?##

deejay_harry1: Guys u aint gunn bliv dis....jst bout 30 mins ago,,,some wierd lookin four digits number somethng like 1417(nt sure its d ryt number tho bcoz i deleted it immediately) calld me ones....it rang ones bt i didnt answer none coz there waz sum news bout sum couple of months ago about killer numbers and all tht....does it mean them killer numbers are backand if yes im i a target?holy moses God knws i wrngd no one o....

deejay_harry1: Guys u aint gunn bliv dis....jst bout 30 mins ago,,,some wierd lookin four digits number somethng like 1417(nt sure its d ryt number tho bcoz i deleted it immediately) calld me ones....it rang ones bt i didnt answer none coz there waz sum news bout sum couple of months ago about killer numbers and all tht....does it mean them killer numbers are backand if yes im i a target?holy moses God knws i wrngd no one o....

Ehimax: My head has been in the clouds for some days now,I am a microbiology final year student and with my knownledge on STIs infection i know they are aquired if not 100% from haveing multiple sex patners and haveing unprotected sex. Symptoms of STIs infections includes, for the female viginal discharge,itching,flow smell from viginal e.t.c while the males will experience painful micturation(passing out urine) pus or blood stained urine,discharge from pennis in chronic cases these sympton can also be manisfested in the female gender. I am currently going out with a 200LEVEL computer sciences student, when we started date she never welcomed the idea of sex in the relationship telling me she is a "VIRGIN" i was happy about it because i've never had any experience with one. After months of dating we finally agreed to do it, when i entered inside her she complained it was painful even when my full lenght has not penetrated i wasnt suprised because my friends who had been with Virgins shared there experience with me and the lady involved feeling pains was part of it. But something happened that was worth taking note of, when i finally penetrated with my full lenght she started to enjoy it and morn like a porn star, i was expecting cry of pain just as what my friends told me. After a great time of sex i started to ask her questions.. Our conversation after sex Me: Sandra Her: Yes honey Me: Why was your Pu**y very free? i tought u said you were virgin and besides you did'nt bleed? Her: It pained me initially but i started enjoying it later, and moreover i have masturbated in the past with some objects i believe thats why its was free. Me: But you did'nt tell me this before now, what else have you not told me? Her: Ok i once escaped rape,honey you the 1st man i ever had sex with trust me on that you are. I was suprise and scared when she told me all this because i just had this feeling she was lieing about the virgin thing and i already had unprotected sex with her. I did my IT(Industrial Training) when i was in 300LEVEL in a medical lab so i know how to carryout some test myself. The next day i bought HIV test kit and tested her it was negative i was reliefed. After some days spending time with her in her own room off campus i discovered Cantab A drugs with inserter and Mycoten viginal cream in her cupboard all of which are used for the treathment of viginal infection(STI/UTI). When i asked what she was doing with it she told me it was her room mates own, I took her answer with a pinch of salt. I later discovered that my "VIRGIN" girlfriend was having viginal discharge i was shocked to my spinal cord, i asked her how long she has been experiencing it she said since last year but that it comes and go from time to time that she once went to a lab for testing and the lab attentent recorded no growth on her request card. Just yesterday the discharge was too much and it scares the crip out of me. I did my urine MCS and screening for STI when working in the lab last year and all were negative so no way she got infected from me.can a VIRGIN have STI if she really was one? Please give me reasons to comfirm she is a liar.Expecting your responce NLers.

superdude007: Why can't Nairaland as a virtual social medium streamline false information and fruadster before they info. We need real people.

davidylan: like i said... for sanity and peace of mind, its better to find your own single spouse.

feminine A: Before a woman delve into marriage with a divorcee especially one that has never been married, she needs to do her research properly. What caused her man's divorce? What re the 'irreconcillable differences'(that's the grammar they use this days) between the man and his formal wife.
The truth is like the yourbas will say its the same rod that was used to beat the 1st wife is the same rod that will be used on the second wife. This research is very important.
Ask outsiders too to be able to come to a firm conclusion.
Then is the woman ready for rejection from the mans kids?
Initially, she will be rejected and also there will be rift between her and the kids especially the mature ones how is she planning to handle it and show the kids she's not a rival?is she ready to share the love of the man with his kids?many at times women marrying divorcees ignore this but it is one of the majoor causes of rift in the home. Your place as a wife is different from their place as his kids never get jealous.

Finally is she ready to take this kids as her own?
Marriage to a divorcee must be handled with a lot of research and preparation and not allow ones emotions be cloud one's sense of judgement.