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That was why I said being realistic is the thing, now as an educated person I wouldn't really advice u to marry somebody that doesn't av any education. Let's face it there will be a social problem later in life. I mean u guys can't even relate at the same level. When ur man/woman cant contribute anything to values u hold dear not because he/she doesn't want to but because he/she doesn't know anything about it, no matter the depth of the love there will be problems later. Then a guy who has nothing to show definitely doesn't sound like women's dream man so I dont really understand what u mean when u say he has nothing to show and yet has all the quality u want in a man so what did u fall in love with?
About ur other question that's why u date. U don't just meet a person one day and follow him to the altar on the next. Dating is not just about going not together or doing romantic chats in dark corners, it's also an avenue to observe & know ur man or woman so as to be able to decide whether his/her intentions are noble. Yea I know people can pretend but the problem is that some people still believe that love is blind. One thing I always say is that tho we love with our heart we need to guide our heart to love with our heads. It's not easy I must admit cos I've been there. The love clouds ur mind so much that being objective is difficult. You just dont wanna consider that he just lied. If u don't let yourself get carried away in the euphoria of "romance" during dating and u take time to look, observe and think u will definitely know him/her for who he/she is. Nobody can pretend for ever it doesn't matter how much conscious effort is invested into it. Just dont av blind love and u'll clearly see,

Really I think u would know.
You know what u want in life and what what u want in a man. Go for a man that can give u that. Reality however is the key. The problem is that most girls want men of their fantasies and those kind of dreams are only fulfilled in movies or romance novels. Look at those guys keenly and also look at yourself, u'll definitely if that guy completes u. And if u happen to believe in God pray along for guidance it works.

Well if what u've said is true then I really must say you av tried or have your parents be locking u up and had u homeschooled? I really must commend u, damn what anybody may say, in this age of moral decadence it's a feat. However if u av held on all this while why spoil is now? It's not only women, being a virgin husband is also noble. And sincerely speaking u can have a good relationship with ur girl without sex, u'll have a life time to do that later d thing go tire u sef. Keep the zip up.

@blackweaver
Yea I did that and d lapi is now working well both on battery and when plugged to mains. Thanks a million.
Another thing however is the sound. It's not working but when I connect an external sound card and connect a speaker it works well, what could be d cause of that? The inbuilt speakers are ok, I've tested them. I just changed the windows from xp to vista premium and have had a sound driver installed so I dont know why it's still not working.
The system also came with an inbuilt bluetooth but ever since I've changed the windows I've not been able to use it, I tried to install the bluetooth driver that came with it but it's saying it's incompatible with d version of windows what can I do? Thanks

@skydancer
yea I started the lapi in safe mode and it works perfectly well even with the battery in place.

Good day 2 you all. I need help with my system. Anytime I try to boot it up with the battery attached it never boots beyond "type ur password". It doesn't matter if it is plugged to the mains or not it occurs as long as the battery is in place. If however I remove the battery and plug the lapi to the adaptor it works perfectly well. The funny thing is that if I remove the battery and boot it up plugged to the adaptor, if I now insert the battery whatever I'm doing on the system hangs at that point and I will have to remove the battery and reboot without it. Any ideas? This one wey lapi wan turn desk top I dont understand.

Good day 2 you all. I need help with my system. Anytime I try to boot it up with the battery attached it never boots beyond "type ur password". It doesn't matter if it is plugged to the mains or not it occurs as long as the battery is in place. If however I remove the battery and plug the lapi to the adaptor it works perfectly well. The funny thing is that if I remove the battery and boot it up plugged to the adaptor, if I now insert the battery whatever I'm doing on the system hangs at that point and I will have to remove the battery and reboot without it. Any ideas? This one wey lapi wan turn desk top I dont understand.

@Amaka
After reading your post I could only pray to God not to have a sister of daughter like you. Such a foul language from the mouth of a teenager Chei! I really feel sorry for your parents cos 2 me u just wasted d good efforts they've put into bringing you up. I only wish they could read your last post. To say u, the one calling everybody a pedo is the one saying rhymz should go and, you can finish the rest. To say the truth I cant but agree with rhymz's last post cos such languages are used only by gutter-bred people.
what even infuriates me most is that you are calling here everybody a sicko you really must be stupid to have said a thing like that, I hope you know there are some people here that are in the same age group with your elder bros and sis and maybe even you pop and mom I dont mean to insult anybody but yes! that's what I mean! Well after seeing your no of posts and extrapolating with the day you registered I only came to one conclusion, as teenager I think you are jobless, dont you have homeworks, assignments or thereabout that u shld b spending more time with? Personally I think you should be spending more time with your books and reading some on proper communication skills wouldn't be a bad idea. This is a forum for people with good reasoning capacity and not kids with sharp mouths but empty skulls.

Joblessness is really a curse. This ASUU strike on do good I beg

I cant deny that u guys share something special but then u av to accept reality which is simply that he's now married and it's time to let go. Honestly if he loved u to the extent u have painted here he would av married u no matter what even if his parents threatened to disown him. That apart, if u look at this critically dont u think this love thing is becoming more of u guys been obsessed with each other?
Let's look at it from another dimension do u know that in true love there actually might be a time to let go?
Put yourself in the position of his wife do u think she's happy someone's sharing her hubby with her imagine her frustration av u thought about his kids?
Do u also know u are ruining the life of this guy whom u claim to truely love does true love do that? You are not allowing him to make a home even tho the fault is not entirely yours. The fact remains that he's cheating and u re a part to it true love does not do that. U sure know the implication of this on your own life too. You will never be able to love someone else and still can't get the one you love u'll be the looser. To tell u the truth u are the only one that can stop him. You av to stop making yourself "available"(dont misinterprete me pls) to him. You first have to get over him yourself and that will take a conscious effort from you, accept the fact that he is no longer yours and u must leave him in your mind first and allow yourself to fall in love again with another good man, yes it's possible. Let him know he's ruining your life and his if you continue this pointless love affair and that really if he loves u he should know it's time to let go. Remember he's turning his back to everybody that matter in his life just to remain in love with u & you are probably doing the same cos I'm sure your parents too aren't likely to be comfortable with their daughter falling in love with a married man. Act right sis.

Do u want to hear the truth? It's simple u are still holding on to the past. You are yet to accept the fact tiat ur first girl is gone and the earlier u do that the better. Until u do that even if good girls come your way you would only see them thru the spectacle of your first relationship and they would never be good to you and u know the funny thing u would be the looser in the end. You simply have come to accept that u cant fall in love a again but u see it's a lie, u can and it will only get better but u need to make a conscious effort. Free your mind bro it aint easy but u can do it. There's a lovely lady waiting out there for your affection.

[color=#990000][/color] indeed if what u are saying is right the answer is simple dont do it. It will jeopardize ur future. Simply tell them NO! and stand on it. In fact ur stepmother must really be shameless to av even allowed such decision. What's your mom's reaction to this? In fact it's not logical to me aren't u suppose to marry ur mom too at least she's ur father's too. Are you sure u re not misinterpreting the elders or are u making this up? Anyway from which side of Ekiti are u? I spent many years there myself and never heard of such barbaric custom.

He's just been unnecessaryly suspicious and he better watch it before it becomes an obsession.

Ever stayed in an area where u av people co habiting? What people say about them is enough to let u know the society does not accept it no matter how open minded u re and most parents dont even support it. Well personally I dont support it not even weekends. Sleep overs? Not in my own personal house where I live alone except it's inevitable and that means no hotels around. Yes that's me!

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U know I'm really interested in what part of Nigeria you grew up in, where u had 25-30yrs old shameless men already making advances at u while u were just 15 or did u just make that up?
I have 2 sisters myself and we re pretty close and they never had men of that age making advances at them while they were in that age range and they never talked about their friends having such experiences too. Even tho it truly might av happened to u (probably why u re so vehement anyway), it still doesn't mean all Nig men are shameless like the ones u were unfortunate to encounter. And contrary to what u said nobody that I know sees pedophilia as a norm and it is still in this same Nig where u said it's generally accepted. Well I wouldn't know of ur area anyway. But it's quite non objective to make such generalizations. Personally I dont even subscribe to girls getting involved in relationship matters until d age of 21 and matter of factly told my sister that despite the fact that she was in 300L at that age. My environment must have influence my thinking to be that way, the fact that u said it yourself that no father here would tolerate a 28 yr old man messing around with her 16yr old daughter even negates that statement of yours and believe u me there are still law abiding citizens in Nig just as there are also lawless people in the US. So pls let's be careful of unjust generalizations. Peace
By the way did u just come across the word "pedophile"? Really can't count the no of times u've used it here. Really u should be considering a synonym

There is absolutey nothing wrong in being 12yrs older than your woman even tho personally I cant go for anybody more than 5 yrs younger than me. If you were 37 and she 25 nobody will start to frown but she 16! haba that's child abuse. It really doesnt matter if she claims to love you. You must understand that at that age she doesnt really know what she wants out of life no matter how intelligent she is and probably just infatuated because of the care of an older guy, most of the girls in her age group the same if they find themselves in her shoes. If you really love her and not just want to take advantage of her naivety you have to make her know this and if you want her still you will have to wait until at least she's 21 before you introduce the subject of love to her. For now the right thing is to care for her as you would your own sister and pls dont treat her as an adult or your gf. Let her know that all she needs to face now is her studies and by the time she's in the uni and also becomes more matured she gets to meet more people both in and outside her age group and then she would be able to define what her priorities are and also what she wants out of life romantically and otherwise. You will be suprised she might not feel the same way anymore and then both of you will be glad you took that step and she'll appreciate u for it. However if she does feel the same way about you, you can then go ahead, you fit invite me to the wedding sef I go come abi what are friends for. If however you dont give her this chance you are just taking advantage of her gullibility and robbing her of her childhood. If u think u can't wait as u are not getting any younger then u should free the girl and go for somebody more matured and older.

@AMAKA
Seems you are just typing away at your keyboard and I guess you are typing too fast for your brain to keep up the pace cos I dont see why anybody whose brain processes anything he/she does will write that rubbish you've put in this thread. Anybody reading your thoughless posts would think Nigeria is hopless dumb of you. And to think your name is AMAKA or can I safely say it's an abbreviation for something I'm sure it's stupid and not actually the beautiful igbo name. FYI Nigeria is not a lawless nation it just contains some lawless people just like any othe nation in the world including your so much cherished US. And if you want to know if you can get away with anything in Nigeria so long you have the money why dont you come down and commit a crime here and see if you will not rot in prison together with your dollars. To even say you called Nigerian girls bush girls, you really must be deluded, even the ones we refer to as stupid wont display the high level of dumbness you just displayed here. You really need to take a look around and to think you have spent so much time in nairaland. Why dont you take a clue from chiolo, or chigolo really dont get the id now at least you guys made the same point but then she was thoughful about it why you were thouthless.
Anyway in case you dont know US and Europe has more cases of pedophilia and other forms of child abuse,homosexuality and all forms of abominable sexual practices than the rest of the world put together. So no just dey open mouth dey yarn rubbish.

Yes I'm taking it personal!

Based on what u've said here I think if u really love this girl u can go ahead and marry her. She obviously has regretted her mistake and for her to have taken the step to tell shows she sincerely intends to make things right. U should also understand that when this happened u guys had broken up i.e at that time u were no longer going out in which case it actually in the real sense of things may not have been wrong for her to go out with someone else it could have been u. It only seems a big deal cos u guys are back together and I understand we are humans. But what if u had decided then that it's the end and u moved on, would u av considered her sleeping with someone else cheating? Even tho what izeek said is true but if we decide things based on that no body is really worthy then what is forgiveness? And people really do change. This thoughts will surely come to mind but really if u've forgiven her u will deal with them and mind u some men are just the suspicious type it doesn't matter if the woman once cheated they will start getting ideas if she's a bit late, doesn't pick calls etc and like someone said u guys went out for six good years and u probably know helluva lot about your girl so u know if she's sincere now or not and personally I dont think u should be eager to throw away a six year relationship cos only real love and understanding can make a relationship last that long

@Danny,
I've got om 2.06 and I need the settings so that I can browse and download free. I'll be glad if could send them to me. The phone is N70 and I use mtn. My email is sweetdoct247@yahoo.com. Thanks in advance.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with hibernation. All it basically does is write your current session on your hard disk and then shuts your system down. COMPLETELY. So next time u boot up windows loads up that session for u immediately. It hence doesnt place any demand on your battery like sleep or standby.

I've noticed that everytime I defragment my hard drive I end up loosing disc space instead of gaining it. The last time I defragmentded the drive b4 the action I had 160gig left and after all I had left was 157gig and I didn't install any new app nor did I even run any program while it was on and it has always been like that the one before this reduced my disk space from 164gig to 160gig. I really dont understand. The os is vista(home premium) and the brand is hp.
I also would like to know maybe it's safe to include the drive containing the recovery partition during defragmenting.

@ poster
Well that was very wrong of u. Shouldn't av used the word "stupid" really. Isn't a nice way to talk to a woman. Most of them get all emotional over it even if u are just joking. So u should apologise FOR THAT ONLY.
Also at least based on just what u have told us I dont see the girl
as a serious person, maybe she's not really worth ur time. She knows that u av become aware of the fact that she went parting with another man and it wasn't as if she told u about it before. And the next thing she does is work out of the relationship just because in ur anger u called her stupid even tho it aint right. Does she expect u to hug her, kiss her and say "I love u sweetheart u have done well"? how funny some girls can really be. That means she has seen nothing wrong in what she's done. Fine she might not need excuse to go out but definitely not when she's going out with another man. I dont expect my girl to smile at me if she hears I'm taking another woman out. I should at least tell her about it.
If u still want her like u said u guys need to talk. Apologise for what u said and she should also realize what she's done is not right. If she'll not come back to u all the same I guess she's probably tired of the relationship before and this's just an excuse to opt out so I guess u are going to have to move on. Best of luck.

@ poster
Well that was very wrong of u. Shouldn't av used the word "stupid" really. Isn't a nice way to talk to a woman. Most of them get all emotional over it even if u are just joking. So u should apologise FOR THAT ONLY.
Also at least based on just what u have told us I dont see the girl
as a serious person, maybe she's not really worth ur time. She knows that u av become aware of the fact that she went parting with another man and it wasn't as if she told u about it before. And the next thing she does is work out of the relationship just because in ur anger u called her stupid even tho it aint right. Does she expect u to hug her, kiss her and say "I love u sweetheart u have done well"? how funny some girls can really be. That means she has seen nothing wrong in what she's done. Fine she might not need excuse to go out but definitely not when she's going out with another man. I dont expect my girl to smile at me if she hears I'm taking another woman out. I should at least tell her about it.
If u still want her like u said u guys need to talk. Apologise for what u said and she should also realize what she's done is not right. If she'll not come back to u all the same I guess she's probably tired of the relationship before and this's just an excuse to opt out so I guess u are going to have to move on. Best of luck.

Alright. Ve checking in for it everyday actually

It doesnt matter what u believe, no religion: xtianity, islam, traditional or what av u exactly smiles on sex b4 or outside marriage. Even moralists that dont believe in anything dont see it as a practice to be proud of either. The issue here is therefore not about forcing xtian opinions on others. Unless we want to deceive ourselves, by all standard of morality sex b4 or outside marriage is sexual immorality pure & simple. It doesnt matter if the people involved are in love or not. It's just that the society is so decayed we dont see anything wrong with it anymore. Anything outside of this, I just see the guilty trying to console themselves but hey that's me.
About been special to God, everybody is, virgin or non virgin. Fornication is just another sin. A liar who is a virgin is no different from a prostitute as far as God is concerned and He loves them both always ready to 4give if they ask for it.
However even tho people are no less to me virgin or not I still deeply respect ladies and guys alike that av decided to keep themselves till marriage in this age of moral decadence. It shows great discipline and self control and really it's a form of purity.

The is issue is not facebook, it's just the manifestation of the fact that there are some fundamental problems in ur relationship. It doesnt matter if d relationship is 2 days or 10 yrs if you are confident in it and proud of it u wouldnt put single even in yahoo where nobody might see it because u just want everybody to know u re no longer available. The fact that he put is there in the first place let alone not changing it on ur suggestion indicates that he still has reasons to let people know he might be available. Both of u really need to av a good talk just as it's been suggested to u. U really need to decide if both of u are still interested in each other or u re just holding on. U must understand that even tho 6yrs is enough to build a strong relationship it's also enough to make it boring. And pls forget that thing 6yrs is negligible compared to the rest of ur life which I'm sure u want to live happily. So be ready to let go if it's not working.
Finally u already going out with some1 else is not the answer, u should av at least waited and see where this ends first. It shows that u'Ve already forseen trouble and given yourself an insurance policy as in "just in case" but relationship is not business. Remember the saying "Ori bibe lo logun ori fifo"

To me, in this age of moral decadence ladies(and guys as well) that decide to say no to sex till they are married are to be highly respected. It shows high level of discipline and self control. Fine everybody is special to God but may we no deceive ourselves it has never and will never please God when unmarried people sleep around with each other it doesnt matter how deep the love they profess for each other is. So I guess that's what the poster meant.
Concerning sex and love, sex can be an expression of love but only under the umbrella of marriage.
I also dont believe that line on virgins not having the opportunity it's nothing but a blatant lie. These days unless a girl has the head of a goat there's @ least 1 guy that's after her for "that thing" even sisters are not spared. So virgins dont be intimidated. It's a big deal in this generation. Really it's something u should be proud of. Many will give anything to be in ur shoes but the best they can do is encourage themselves as u can see.

@ poster
U must be out of ur frigging mind, u re sleeping with someone else's wife and u expect us to pat ur head? How selfish people can really be, why dont u put ur filthy self in the hubby's position. I guess in his position u re going to smile and say that's my girl? Well no matter what u shouldnt sleep with another man's woman it doesnt matter if she's begging for it. Besides what sort of woman would do that? Definitely aint worth spending the rest of ur life with. Free d girl sharp sharp. I also agree with igwe.

I cant agree with u less but it's one thing for God to appoint and it's another thing for the appointed to want to do the will of the "appointer" He always gives us that choice. But God's time always comes,
But wait arent we deviating from the topic?

Who says what the politicians are doing is good. D judiciary? It's like calling an armed robber to judge someone who has stolen a biro na God go purnish all of them together. And no matter how merciful God gets He will not see immorality as normal not even lying?