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We have lots of mentally unstable people in this country. When your opponent is getting mad and raising their voices,slow down your voice to avoid conflict. People are mad with some spiritual problems.

DAntivirus:
Between N50,000 to N70,000

Compulsory 3months orientation training in Borno for this new intakes and paramilitary training exposure (which might involve you aiding the forces in Borno against bokoharam)


but its worth it... Sai Buhari

Even for a Masters holders?

purem:
In the process of creating women from mans crib they were naturally design and made up of evil, wickedness, witch, hatred and all sorts of bad things

Note before you come and call my mom she's late when I was 2 or three and growing up with my sisters was a hell for me

Most especially my brothers wifes they are all evil

So sorry you had bad women in your life. But do not generalize.

Pierocash:
if this boy called Davido cherishes his life and career, he should jst keep his mouth shut and stay out of politics, he is too young for what he is dabbling into

He is not too young.He is a Nigerian.We should speak up when things are not going right in this country.

snazzy5050:
kind hearted prophet

God will continue to bless his ministry

Amen.This are the things that makes Christian tighten their faith in Christ.

vanida6:
And she well so abeg make dem check her well dere will be some worms disturbing her brain


a moving car for good sake

Its like you have never been in a situation where your heart pounds for the nearest way to live.Survival when face with death doesn't reason well.She did the needful.

vanida6:
And she well so abeg make dem check her well dere will be some worms disturbing her brain


a moving car for good sake

Its like you have never been in a situation where your heart pounds for the nearest way to live.Survival when face with death doesn't reason well.

Roodez:
Are people really stupid or love acting stupidly. This generation sha

.This is so childish.Why is she monitoring his success? Can't she work for her own success too? Ndi mmadu self! Lol the guy really jammed a big pest.

Roodez:
Are people really stupid or love acting stupidly. This generation sha

Some people like to display what they watch in movies.This is so childish.Why is she monitoring his success? Can't she work for her own success too? Ndi mmadu self! Lol the guy really jammed a big pest.

ElidaxZiel:
Actually woman are not to be sex object, if the clitoris is dealt with,, we alway forget that there is a reason for everything,, woman dont have the power to control emotion as men, that why woman have very low libido naturally....

That's not true.

True talk.

vanida6:
Call someone husband my lover

my own no go stop for jealousy sef i will give her Re-setting slap for her life

I think its harmless.

hammer6F:
That is definately the guy that have been bleeping her.

U no see as dem take style resemble?

Just look at both their eyes.

No be only baby Jayce, she for kuku call am Jayz

The guy looks so gentle and calm.Linda got married. You people should stop digging for negative things to say about her.She is blessed by God.

zicoraads:
What's with this "Sweet Boys" thing I've been seeing around?

I don't know o.The guy is foolishly ignorant.This is adultery.

Bantino:
Wizkid should grow up.... you don't respond to everything

Exactly.

Live a quiet life when you come back.Just like that?

TheKingIsHere:
Aunty kemi has a valid point.

Why couldn't Linda ikeji show us pictures of her delivering the baby?

Its a private thing.

frostland:
they say never judge a man by the looks of his face see as the boy innocent for face

Am telling u

SilentWisper:
she looks fat but cute anyway

I think she has had given birth to his baby.

After I watched this movie Acrimony yesterday, I got to learn how dangerous rage can take a human beings most mind.We need anger management therapy in this country. I don't even know if there is need for marriage when you can have children peacefully without all the changes and dramas that comes with marriage. Will being with your soul mate solve the problems? I am really so scared at times.

RelationshipG:
Here are the five biggest things that I had to overcome in order to find my dream woman.

1. Fear of being seen

In my six years of being emotionally closed I learned to construct a highly convincing mask that most people couldn’t see through. I became funny, charming, charismatic, and was always ‘on’ when I was around people.

I avoided people who had the intuitive power to really see me and the suffering that I was experiencing internally. For me, allowing others to see me as a struggling, vulnerable person was a huge challenge.

One of the greatest things that I did to overcome this roadblock was to start posting articles with more of myself in them (more of my stories and experiences as opposed to simply ‘tips and tricks’ articles) and spending more time with close friends who saw and expected me to be my authentic self around them. To draw an analogy, if I was an iceberg that had previously only shown 3% of its mass above the water line, I moved the water line down so that closer to 20% of me was showing above the water. I don’t believe that 100% of the iceberg ever has to be shown above the water line because, as researcher Brene Brown has shown, not everyone that you cross paths with in your life will be deserving of knowing your fully authentic self. Only certain people deserve to know the real you while others can see and understand a more surface version.

2. Inability to receive love 

It is much easier (in my opinion) to give love than it is to receive it. This is because there is more certainty in giving than there is in receiving.

Receiving love brings up all of our issues surrounding worthiness, vulnerability, guilt, and shame that may have been layered on to us in our early childhood or through past traumatic relationship experiences.

It’s much easier (and less anxiety-producing) to give love than to receive it because when we start to allow ourselves to receive love we may start to fear that the love we are receiving could be pulled away from us at any time. Which would then feel like a rejection. Which could then trigger our feelings of “See… I knew I wasn’t worthy enough of love to begin with. Why did I even bother trying?”

To overcome my inability to receive love I did weekly sessions with a self-love coach. While you think that I might have been able to work through this on my own (being a relationship coach myself) I am a person just like you and, just like you, I can’t see my own blind spots. This was a necessary step in my emotional process. Having someone externally be able to point out the flawed logic in my emotional thinking was absolutely critical towards my growth. If you think that you might be spinning your wheels in the mud as well, I can’t recommend reaching out enough.

I’m always here to chat if you need an outsider’s perspective.

3. Fear of rejection

I dated women that were safe for the vast majority of the six years I was emotionally closed. What does that mean exactly? It means that I dated women that rarely challenged me or stood up to me. They didn’t have solid personal boundaries.

I dated women that were safe because it meant that I would be able to stay closed off and keep my romantic partners at an emotional arms distance.

In order to find my dream woman, I had to let go of this habit that I knew wasn’t serving me.

4. Playing small

Not only was I playing small in my love life (by dating women that were safe) but I was also playing small throughout my entire life.

I stayed inside of my comfort zone in all matters. I didn’t go to the gym too frequently because I didn’t want to become one of those guys that was overly strong. I didn’t push my comfort zone in my business because I didn’t want to hear what the critics would have to say about me. I didn’t want to leave my hometown for extended periods of time because of other fear-based rationalizations.

In short, my ego would flare up and I would let it win.

Then one day (near the beginning of the calendar year) I decided that enough was enough. I decided to face all of my emotional demons, get the help that I knew I needed, and start playing bigger throughout my entire life.

And before long, I met the woman that I knew I could spend forever with.

5. Fear of big feelings

One of the overarching things that I was avoiding was the fear of big feelings.

What do I mean by big feelings? Well, in my previous years of emotional closure, I convinced myself that I needed to live within a smaller range of emotions. Because the pain from my old break up was so overwhelmingly huge I wanted to numb out the big, scary emotions like those. But we can’t selectively numb emotions. If you numb the lows you also numb the highs. And that’s exactly what happened.

When I first met my significant other and true love was offered to me, everything that was unlike love inside of me was brought to the surface. I went through a hellacious month of emotional processing. There were days where I felt like I was possessed. It was as if all of the grief, shame, and sadness were ripped out of my body.

When this happened, I had two options on how to deal with it. I could have said “Uh-oh… incoming BIG emotions! I should dodge these by numbing myself!”… or I could face the emotions head on and feel the shit out of them. I decided on the second option. So, while it was the furthest thing from being easy, it was an absolutely necessary step in my process towards finding my love.

Op can this be applicable to women that are ready to give love and receive love too?

morningstar55:
The guy isn't your problem,i strongly believe if you ask your girl what's up that guy...she'll say we are just friends...na so e dey start,your best shot is to let your girl know how you feel about seeing them together and you shud be blunt about it.If she doesn't change,you know what to do already,you shud channel your energy on better things

True

chris20000:
Alright, we have heard you. Baby mama.

She is not a baby mama

Romantic relationship

wink2015:
Serena Williams should take it easy with all this opposition forces that are intimidating her both at the tennis pitch with a view to having a punch of her.

She has won all the biggest tournament in tennis history.

Let her cool off her temper, obey tennis laws and then close out a successful career.

Thank God she is married and have kid and with sucess, fame and money, the sky is already in her arm.

I thought racism is only in football but I am beginning to learn that tennis and sports generally have their own share of racism.

So true.

Am so touched.Its sweet when your effort is being encouraged and acknowledged.

OneCorner:
Wow. I’m in love

Panel beater?

Ifeanyi4491:
Sometimes i use to wonder if hell fire is better than this our country or because of the hardship in this country causes all this gbege...

I boarded a bus to work and immediately I turned back,I saw #500 drop out of a ladies pulse unknowingly to her. My driver was already leaving but I unconsciously tried to call her attention all to no avail. Immediate, someone out of many seated directly along the area her money fell off rushed and picked it up without calling the attention of the lady. I knew then that this country is full of bad people without conscience.

Aww!

I don't do drugs.Will never do drugs.Since my 2016 birthday celebration, I have not taken alcohol. Never liked it though.Stay away from drugs.

Thank God my younger brother's dream for this defense academy was squashed with aviation school.Dude turned black after two weeks of trainings. Dude was disqualified cos he had no recommendations from top connections.The trainers divulged the info to them.You need to see how happy my mom was. She can't come and loose her child to bokoharam.Dude still cherish those moment and his dreams but he is good with his newly found passion.