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MadeINchenzen2:
An igbo girl who is probably from Imo state doesnt want to get along with an indigenous Chief Ogbuefi 1 of igboland.

Chief Ogbuefi,go help another Igbo girl.Or better still,Donate to IPOB for Biafran restoration

MadeINchenzen2:
sweetilicious my heartthrob

Dude dey your lane o! HEHEHEHE!

MadeINchenzen2:
If I hear... u ll still send a private DM... u are trying to avoid public bashing ! I understand... u still have the next 24 hrs to send the DM before I change my mind. I can smell love, with the way u give me ur time here.

DM is for only those i need enquiries about my prospects from.Dude,am not an internet Almahajiri

MadeINchenzen2:
If I hear... u ll still send a private DM... u are trying to avoid public bashing ! I understand... u still have the next 24 hrs to send the DM before I change my mind. I can smell love, with the way u give me ur time here.

Dude,am having fun not building love.Today is sunday,and my rest day.Bro don't confuse it with ruv.

MadeINchenzen2:
dont be a proud girl... anyway I withdraw my offer. ur loss

I can't loose what i never wished for!

MadeINchenzen2:
sweetilicious will u marry me?

Go marry your type

MadeINchenzen2:
send ur account details, let me send u something to enjoy ur sunday with. If pride wont shamelessly stand in ur way.

Dude,go donate to the motherless home

MadeINchenzen2:
shut up. I m worth 2.450 billion NGN that $7M, that's just from one of my import businesses off deals with my chinese partners... I know u ll want to marry me now... so I can erase poverty from ur head.

Go erase the poverty in your village dude.You are looking for a head to renew your stupid ritual. Go help your people for nothing sake! IMBE

MadeINchenzen2:
lol. e pain am... I m just joking with u bitch. Dont die please

Nigga, go get a life.You are useless to this generation. No one will want to reincarnate you in future.FOOL.Don't try to deviate with joke.Who is joking with you? Am tryna school you IDIOT! Am tryna save my fellow woman from this disastrous mentality living in you.If you got my message jokingly, then good.I have saved your future. I hope you remember me whenever those idiotic mentality creeps in to destroy you.If not,remember your type and go hit them.IMBE

MadeINchenzen2:
it doesnt matter... a rich illiterate is better than an educated u, ur dad and all ur stupid and wayward boyfriends put together... hunger is the real problem dealing with u guys. cheap girl

Rich illiterate. Hehehehe! Hunny,you don't have a heart.Bleep off with your audio money.Last i checked, i didn't see your names next to Dangote nor Adeleke names as noteble richy richys.Onye ori.Evans the kidnapper.Human trafficker, dick sharer,419er,bank hackers.THIEF!

MadeINchenzen2:
a pained pórnstar, that's what u re. After so many countless body counts u still av nothing to show for it. what a waste of precious hole !

a lifeless rabbit is far more better than u !

Pornstars are better than you. You are a thief.You take what others worked for.Don't worry, one day will be your last.Lazy yahoo boy that only knows how to share dick pictures online to white women. Defrauding them to show off to lazy girls.Your end is nearer. Kwontinu ODE

MadeINchenzen2:
Guess what! I m worth $7m from just one of my import business. 1% of my net worth will feed ur entire generation for 9 months with an all expense paid trip to dubai for shopping

Stolen money if not audio money.Swerve joor! Feed your generation kee you dia.You can't even boast of helping anybody in your family except you must have used them finish.Stupid Man with a horrible up bringing. Unfortunately, your money if not audio couldn't give you a sound education and good reasoning. Swerve joor!

MadeINchenzen2:
Girls like u have been sending multiple DM, guess what ! I turned them down. I am the most sexiest and wanted man alive. u re not my type. sorry. I ve got high taste !

DM.Sorry Hun,You are a disaster.Under age hausa girls should be your type.No wonder you can't be with a woman that got it together. Enjoy your type bro.Irresponsible and horrible man.A grown up woman's nightmare.A mistake to manhood. You just a STUPID entitled Nigerian man with no proper up bringing.Defrauded a whole lot to get the little you can boast of to suppress your type.NONSENSE!

MadeINchenzen2:
u ll be wiser the day u stop judging people by their opinion and stick with urs if u cant share it constructively without insults. stupid dirty girl. u re probably one of those whóres, u had to leave home to focus on ur trade. where are u so I can come and patronize u. hope u dont charge more than 500 naira for 7 rounds?

Your mates are busy working on their purposes.Inventing and innovating. Lazy yahoo boy.Poor little thing with no achievement other than a Toyota car and a paid flat rent of 250k. With your mentality, poverty will definitely come to roast with you forever.Stop breaking God's heart.Use your senses correctly. NONSENSE ILL BROUGHT UP NON WORTHY OF A WOMAN. I PITY YOUR FUTURE WIFE.

MadeINchenzen2:
u Nigerian cheap lowlifes bitches are not my type, I ll rather commit suicide than end up with one of u blood sucking demons !

You are just a potential divorcee.No sane Nigerian woman will give you her life easily to destroy. Destiny crusher,go and meet your foreign smurfs.Smh!

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MadeINchenzen2:
what do you think guys?

Is it okay for a lady to move-out to live alone on a rented apartment as a single person. Than stay with her mum, dad and siblings?

Usually it is prevalent with most guys especially when they get to a certain age, probably after school or perhaps because of an essential need for some privacy and a sense of responsibility.

In my own thought. I think it is dangerous and untimely for a single lady to leave her family to live alone before she s married.

You are a true definition of Archaic. Ignorant,and dependent Nigerian boyfriend. I pity who you marry.

I have been having sleep disorder since i saw this video.How was she able to carry this precious for 9 months and discard him like this? Why did she do this?

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Romanoff:
That wasn't how God instituted marriage. That's why he said to keep the marriage bed undefiled.

If you have this mentality, then I'm glad you're not a Christian.

If you can't be faithful, you have no business getting married.

Christian women out there, shine your eyes o. There are many men with this devilish mentality, some in church, parading as sheep when they are indeed wolves.

Exactly

NextD18:
This man's political doings, further explains why the people of Ebonyi are considered low-budget Igbos.

SHUT UP YOUR MOUTH YOU ILLITERATE

A305:
* The Sex (Mismatch libido)

* Not giving each other space (Don't come near me, cuddle, grope me or touch me all the time. I need some (me time) alone, I have been alone before you showed up in my life - the alone craving is still there sometimes.

* Silence (sometimes, I need silence to concentrate and think about next business deal, bills, our family affairs, my out family and relatives and NO wiffy, i'm not ignoring you, I just need silence)

* Women always getting emotional to make logic seem invalid and then emotionally blackmailing their spouse.

* Men inability to flee from free sex.

*Men inability to satisfy their wife. (Always thinking banging her hard is what she want NOT knowing climax is what she needs - Also not paying attention to her sexaul need.)

*Women ranging hormone/mood swings (please women; learn to always deal and communicate with your spouse when your hormone begins to determine your mood such as; Ovulation, menstruation, financially broke, insecurity, sex starved, Pregnancy, Post - pregnancy, Stress, Depression and anxiety.)

*Lack of communication from both end.

Good one

bigpicture001:
Financial compatibility....

This does not mean being rich by the guy,instead it means being able to share na be of help financially in marriage..,.

Women are non not to be supportive in this aspect nd that see it as their right....

This is a silent home breaker especially for the middle income spouses.


A guy I know divorced his wife straight after sh delivered of their first child... He saved for the D- day..but still fell short of 95k cuz there was complication of deliverering that no one expected.....

While he run from pillar to post to his friends seeking a soft loan pending wen he is paid..the wife still held at the hospital sent her younger sis,who stays with them to secretly go to the house go nd to her matrimonial room nd collect the 65k sh kept in her bag b4 d hubby mistakenly sees it

Unfortunately for her the hubby went home nd met his teenage in law with 65k cash....sh TLD him her elder sis instruction....


He was shocked...nd told the gal to go ahead nd deposit d money to d wife's bank as sh was instructed by her. He continued his nuzzle nd two days later he got them out of the hospital paying 126k additional from the first delivery cost...

Sh came back home nd can't look him in the eyes...quarell after quarelk ensued DT led to divorce exactly one month later....

Gals of this days are too stingy nd mny of them take d Character into marriages.....never ever Marry a lady DT will not b supportive..as a guy,u can't solve all them financial problems in marriage...

This is a big p,no one talks abt

Wicked woman that doesn't know the role of the job she applied as a wife.

SassyGem101:
Well...I'm not married but I'll say...the hardest part is having to wake up everyday of your life to the same face which tends to become boring. Now no matter the initial butterflies in your belly thing, you'll get bored at some point and the only thing that can keep you going is your commitment to be with them and the fear of God. If you lack this two virtues, there's going to be a big problem especially if you are the type that likes meeting new people.


Another part it gets hard is where the niti gritty of marriage hits you. Like taking care of the responsibiity of the home especially the financial aspect. In fact before you know it, you'll wear out to the point you won't even remember how you guys started. This is not to scare you but its a fact I've seen in many homes that has made me begin to plan my marriage life in a way I won't have to be totally caught up in that hard part. Hmm....let me just stop here.

Please on a more serious note, if you must marry, prepare your mind to face these things otherwise you'll freak out before it even begins. Or stay away from it.
I have seen a lot of marriages and I wonder what happened to the initial " I love yous" and all that. Though still learning.


Dem say, nor be eye wen person take do girlfriend and boyfriend na him dem dey take do marriage ooo.

Exactly

Mzflexydeeva:
Over the weekend I had the privilege to attend a couple’s wedding anniversary. It was over 40 years of marriage. While the couple and kids danced and had merry I kept an observant eye trying to figure out within me how 2 strangers managed to live that long together looking all happy and equally having their kids all around them looking like this one big family.

Then something happened. This in itself helped me conclude that indeed for a marriage to be successful a woman had 99% of the hard work to do and this is also guiding my conclusion in this write up.

It was time for dance, dance, dance and lots of people came out to spray the couple just to appreciate them. Since I was close to the family, I was part of the money picking committee. In fact I was the coordinator. At the end of it all I counted the total money realized and was about to hand over to the daughter of the celebrant when she whispered.

“Who do I hand over the money to? My mum or my dad”?

I quickly answered your mum of course. The men don’t know how to manage money more so women are better at financial matters. She laughed and looked at me saying “I would have given my mum but I know she will give it to my dad who may just keep it all to himself so I have decided to share it into 2 half and give them both their share. I was amazed at such wisdom as I walked away to my seat thinking how fair that decision their daughter had made was. Later that day I called my friend to congratulate her again and praise her for being so wise but to my surprise she had something else to say.

Just as I finished praising her she said, I did as I thought was just for my parents but to my greatest surprise as I handed over the money to my mum and explained to her she rejected it. I heard myself shout “what” over the phone. Just then my friend said, my mum refused half the money and asked me to hand everything over to my dad at this point my voice could be heard by others around me. See me see wahala, what’s my own? Na me get money?

Then my friend continued, my mum said she wasn’t going to be a part if that sharing. Give it to your dad she said, what ever he gives me I would take and if he gives me nothing so be it. He is my husband after all. On hearing this I told my girl I would call her back as I need to check on somethings.

This really got me thinking... what is happening to marriages today?

Now I am summarizing some of the things destroying our marriages inspired by the woman in this encounter.

Love is not enough to take that life decision called marriage. Marriage should be a decision carefully thought out. Not something rushed into out of peer pressure or social intimidation. Not a decision made by friends or family but one for which one has carefully sat down to weigh the cons and pros. Having said that, it is still scary to see the level of broken homes arising each day.
Divorce is not a solution to marital problems but in itself can cause more harm than good. Although I am not a fan of divorce but when sanity and safety is at stake I fully Stan.

1. Finance: most times the issues caused by finances in a home is out of greed, social validation and peer pressure. A woman should understand her husband’s financial capability and live within such. Do not be tempted to live like your mates are living resulting in unhealthy pressure of your spouse. Men should be hard working and proactive. Do not be the type that believes I own my wife and all she owns. The easiest way to loose a woman’s respect is to misuse her finances.

2. Patience: This is by far the life one of marriages. Patience from either man or woman. Patience is what will keep you when she is nagging, what will keep you when he starts keeping late nights

3. Understanding: To be able to live together,there has to be a certain level of understanding of which once the understanding is compromised the marriage can as well be over.

4. Love: what exactly is Ione? Love isn’t what keeps 2 people together. Love is what brings them together

5. Forgiveness: once you have the spirit of forgiveness,your marriage is bound to sail with less friction. Forgiveness is so important in marriage that if partners can’t forgive each other they can not be cohabiting. Infidelity, disrespect,lack of control and all what may become irrelevant once the spirit of forgiveness visits you.

6. Interpersonal relationships : this involves the level of friendship. Once you consider your partner a friend you will never feel cheated rather you will see you both as equals not also neglecting the place of each one.

7. Sensitivity to the feelings of your partner: the ability to tell what your partner is feeling is a special gift. A gift that allows you to leave in harmony with everyone. The feelings of your partner should never be taken for granted. Women like it when you can tell at every point how emotionally stable they are. Men love to be seen and treated like babies. Do it and when it’s time to be happy, your home will know no bounds for love and happiness.

Let’s help save marriages and teach people to remain married unless in cases of domestic violence by either party.

Good

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womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

There is a saying that if he doesn't truly love God,then he can never truly love another person.

Brodapounds:
Nice but what type of business?

But sincerely, part of the reason why i want to leave is safety of my life and my sanity.

I want my future kids to come into the world in a sane environment with top class Education.

I feel with me in the USA, i will be opening doors and opportunity for my siblings which are in school right now.

One of my sisters is studying as a nurse, i want her to work in USA as a professional Nurse and i feel with me establishing myself there, if will be possible.

I don't think about myself only, as the eldest child and son, i want the best life for my siblings, so my parents will be proud of me, i want my parents to visit me freely In USA and i feel this 20 million naira is GOD answering my prayers.

Hope you understand?

If its possible for you to travel to the USA your dream country, please go.If you go with this mantra of investing it here,dude the money will finish on expenses before you know it.Nigeria is an enjoyment ground.You will buy cars,build house,carry women, drink with friends, dash people money,pay careless workers with no dedication etc.Before you know it,you don dey regret am.
ADVICE: This is a building time.If you can invest in importation of goods from china,please do. Migrate to USA through studies while also working on student visa.Your plans of having your kids in a saner cline is also a good decision. Nigeria has no vision,mission and target.Investing in such an entity is dangerous. You will definitely regret it in 25years time.Foreigners migrate to other countries for so many reasons. Migrate at least for a healthy mindset and a place that have value for human life.I swear,your family won't regret this your strong decision. Move to where you will utilize your youth age wella.Dont waste it in Nigeria.Our leaders are MAD!

veryconcluded:
My Journey

My departure experience from Nigerian Airport was as usual, nothing ghen ghen. I had a stop over at Abu Dhabi and Perth, unknown to me Australia is really a big country cos it took me additional six hours from Perth to Sydney. I dare not make such mistake again

My Stopover experience? When I landed at the Abu Dhabi airport, the overzealous airport staff selected me out of the crowd, being the only black and a Nigerian, I knew what this was only a time wasting process started asking silly questions of why I was going to Australia and why I was studying the course I chose. Not even in Australia yet and I am going through all this, despite a valid student's visa.
A little clumsy at Perth Airport with all my goodbye nigeria luggage, cos you had to take a bus from the international to the local airport, thankfully i was able to get the Trolley Cart using the Aud coins I had on me because I had my currency changed at Abu dhabi.
Nothing remarkable at Perth Airport.

* What are the immigration rules to follow?
Do not bring growing seeds, anything that can be cracked like beans, nuts. Instead have them all blended and in air tight white bags.You can google Australia incoming passenger card to get familiar with their forbidden foods. Please declare every thing. I declared my wooden stick (omorogun). Have an address that you will be staying handy and also an Australian phone cos you will be asked to fill this in the form.

* How did you carry all that cash with you?
I had just $4000 us dollars, which was declared .

* Can you open bank account while still in Naija?
I opened a NAB account which I opened online in Nigeria, and they actually sent the welcome letter to my home address in Lagos. I had my handy eftpos card waiting to be picked up at my selected branch when I got to Australia.

* Which State/suburb did you settle in and why?
Just like most people, it is where you know someone that you feel comfortable to settle in. I settled in popular gbogbo ero in Liverpool, Sydney . You find a lot of migrants there

* Driving in Australia? How long can you use your Naija driving license before you get Aussie license?
Hmmmm. This one pass me. It took me a long while to get used to be comfortable driving, I used my Nigeria driving for a year then it expired, kept renewing the Nigeria International driver license yearly for 2 years, until I got the permanent residency then I had no choice but to sit for the dreaded driving test, almost had a heart attack in my preparation. I had to go for a crash driving lesson at the rate of 40 dollars per hr for 4 hrs in 2 weeks. Thank God for that, cos that Naija driving would have failed me woefully. I cannot risk the license taken at all.

* Where you live and why you like it or don't like it? Tips on choosing the right neighborhood, mortgage plans, proximity to work etc.
Levels changed after no more school fees, we had to move to a quiet neighborhood cos it is closer to kids school. There is really no tips, depends on how much you are willing to pay for the accommodation and proximity to school, station/bus stop, and work
Mortgage plan is seriously on the way, tired of the agent peering into your house during the house inspection not to talk of the liability called house rent.

* How easy was it to settle in, with your kids? How did you go about finding the right schools for them? What is their school system like for toddlers (age 5 and below)?
There is pre-school for 4years old
As a parent of little ones , at least a quarter of your income goes to child care. Damn, it was really expensive. Thankfully, we had couple of friends around that sometimes helped to care for our little ones, but remember it is do me I do you and this also comes with a bit of begging and often disappointment.

* Can a mother combine work and taking care of the kids? Easier if the kids are older, not less than 8 years. It is possible but one of the parents will have a flexible shift. Here in Australia, it is not mother thing, it is parent thing.

* Tips on how to cloth and cope with the cold weather
Easy, just like nigeria weather most times of the year. Thankfully, I visited a boutique in lagos before coming and got really beautiful clothes because they don't really have nice female outfits aside their jeans and tops, the classy quality ones are ridiculously expensive. Meanwhile you will get them at affordable prices in Nigeria, UK or America.

* How much does your family survive on in a month?
It is an expensive place, you cannot risk not getting a good well job.
By the way, I was scammed when I was new in town. Got employed by a guy but was not paid for my job, at least if he wont pay he will talk - I used the guy as a work reference to get my accommodation and my 2nd job which was a step to greater heights.

Praying for bountiful rain upon the land of Australia and Merry Christmas Everyone.

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Solitin40:
What’s the relationship between you and the sponsor?

hello.pls dm me.i have been trying to dm you but was restricted.

sarrki:
This alone can demoralized the troops at war front

The ineptitude and I don’t care attitude towards national issue of Pmb government gave rise and compounded our security and other matters

He’s the only one not to be blame if anything bass happened

Only the one to be praised if good things happen

Mr President your performance is total abysmal

Which commander will remain in Ethiopia after the Maiduguri carnage yesterday

Buhari failed God and Humanity

Exactly