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MXD5050:
CHEATING AND LIES ARE NOT THE REASON WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS END BUT LACK OF LOVE, SEX AND MONEY

Marriage is supposed to be a union that should last until death do the both partners apart. And relationship should reach its set goals which often time happens to be marriage. But why do these unions break? There are three main reasons why these agreement within two adults doesn't reach its desired goal.

*Lack of love: This most times is the reason why marriages and relationships end. Because so many people do not understand what love really is. They feel it's just a feeling for an opposite sex not knowing love has nothing to do with feelings. Love is a choice and a drive that drives us to understand and respect someone for a life time. When people attach love to feelings or emotion they tend to use words like this in future " I don't feel anything for him or her again" love must be a career you must build it, it must have some set goals as one of its qualities. You cannot love someone and cheat on that person except you confuse feelings for love that is why people would say they love their wife or partner yet they cheat on them. Some have even gone as far as saying love is not a yardstick not to cheat, you can still love your partner and cheat. Well, such persons confuse love for feelings.

*Lack of good sex: When this is jettison in marriage, it tends to promote infidelity and can cause a misunderstanding. Sex is very important in marriage. Constant ignoring of sexual activities in marriage has led so many marriages to break up. Sex helps to relieve stress, it creates bond, it procreates and it is the zenith of fun among married couples. So many couples has suffered as a result of poor sexual activities. So many women has failed to apply some techniques to get orgasm because they have seen sex therapy as secondary in marriage building. So many can hardly explore their wives sexually. When sexual climax is not being achieved in marriage, a sex therapist should be involved immediately. Over looking it is synonymous to over looking your union.

*Lack of money: They say "money can't buy love" yes that is true but money can keep love. Have you heard that poor people are vulnerable? Husbands have been taken away from their wives and wives have been taken away from their husbands mainly because of lack of love, sex and money. The heart of a woman desires good things and a proud man is he that have provided for his wife. One must not steal to have money to keep a relationship or marriage but must learn the philosophy of how to make money. Balanced view of money in marriage or relationship is vital. Seeing a professional counselor to help you get a balance view of money would help strengthen your union. Poor financial mismanagement has ended so many marriages in court seeking for the termination of their marriage contract and have pushed other partner to seek for financial solution in someone else. Do not be quick to blame them because money in itself cannot buy love but can keep love.

Issues with finding love, having a healthy sex life and understanding the philosophy of money can be normal and proffering a solution to it is that which does not demand medical attention except when it has gotten out of behavioral approach but requires the person to be patient and complete a counseling process not from a pastor, lawyer or a medical doctor but a qualified counseling psychologist.
Consult a professional counselor via WhatsApp on 0806 472 9707, Instagram on @mrbigt2020 with a fee of two thousand naira or six dollars. It's a choice, you either talk to a counselor now or end up talking to a medical doctor when it becomes a 50/50 chance medically or a lawyer when you can no longer fix the issue or when it becomes life threatening. Or talk to a pastor when you have been brain washed to believes that your case is spiritual and you need deliverance.

Yeah

2buffagain:
- They were lovers, but never friends
- had no shared interests
- No shared long term vision besides sex, swag and/or "I want to have children".
- Ignored the red flags.
- More focus on the wedding than on the life that follows (This one is huge for girls)

You are right

Essenza01:
Every lifetime comes with downtime, the prayer is to have someone reasonable as a wife, at the same time when you still have the energy to get back up.

Thank you dude.Teach that Nigga about life

If you dare close your mouth, know Yee that karma awaits you. I will suggest you block all the loopholes then inform the MD the reasons.The MD might then set a trap that will catch their incessant activities that ruins the organization.They begged to apply.The vowed to uphold the vision and missions of the organization.They should help in building and not destroying what another person is building. You can't mind your business my dear.Those people are evil. OP, if this were to be your business, would you run it that way?

Lionessza6:
1.I think a lot African parents ( mothers in particular), tend to treat their sons as mini-kings who can do no wrong in their eyes. This is where the culture of Male entitlement starts from; the upbringing. The boys grow up with a sense of superiority that somehow absolves them of certain responsibilities.

2. Staying in toxic relationships for the children. In many cases,the children end-up worse off psychologically ,than kids coming out of two healthy parents living separately.

3. The "if Kevin can do it ,you can do it too ".mentality. you have a lot of parents who see the neighbour's kid doing well selling bread ,& they start pushing their own children towards that trade or career without assisting them in what they are really good at so that they too can be a shining example in their own right. You see the results of this in many African markets ,everyone sells the samethings ,hardly will you find people who produce the products or selling something that is not readily available.

African parents don't know how to say "I love you"

My mom is a midwife

The guy died because he lost everything. He borrowed money to marry a woman that only cares about his cash. When she found out that all the monies they were enjoying was borrowed and not savings, she ran away.The borrowed money has to be repaid nah.She no wan join repay. Dude go kill himself. This will serve as a note of warning � to all ye fake ass dudes.

Remaboy:
This is my quote, oga. Pls point out where I called Exynos rubbish.

Lol

With my plans of traveling outside Nigeria, whomsoever I marry,which must be out of love and respect, be it a white man, Indian, Chinese, Caribbean, African, Divorce is not an option except you are a psycho.I no dey for that marry and remarry. We muuusssttt work everything out.

I hate people that does evil with impunity.How the hell?

We all have in born potential waiting for the right opportunity to harness.

I like people with conscience.I like you

Exact definition of children one should not pray for.Kikikikiki

Good.If I talk now,Dem go say Accountants are stingy

saasala:
Brace up guys, no one is going to work anytime soon.

Sh1t is looking more scary. 86 new cases with 4 new deaths?

I have been reading on the internet how Nigerians claim the Lagos doctors are doing wonders and other countries need to come check the formular they are using. Sorry to burst your burbles, our recovery rate is just as good as that of every other country. In fact some countries like Italy, Germany, Netherlands etc have higher percentage of recovered patients. Check https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/ . We are not doing well at all.

That aside, with the cases going northward on daily bases, I for see lockdown for longer weeks ahead. We are in deepshit in Lagos. And if the govt decides to allow us go to work to save the economy and our stomach, we will still be in deep sh1t as more Corona casualties will immerge. Now there is a conundrum.

How does Emeka who sells Gala in traffic for daily gain of 500 Naira feed, Mukaila the mechanic cant fix cars anymore and his kids are going hungary, the okada men, the danfo drivers and conductors, the keke napep guy, the agbero, even the pick pocketers. How about the Computer village hustlers, the Alaba market hustlers, the Katangora sellers and alabaru at Mile 12. The list goes on and on. These are the common every day Lagosians who cant feed their families if they do not go out to hustle in a day. What do you think is their current state now?

Even the so called elites in fancy offices waiting for salary every month are not left out. Many companies will stop paying salaries, in fact some of them have stopped already. From next month some banks wont pay at all or pay half...

Now this is where Anarchy comes. People will disregard law and order and go all out to work, since it is better to work and eat and die of coronavirus than sit down to watch hunger kill your household. Oh, I have not talked about the armed robbers. All these boys doing vigilante every night will soon turn to the real robbers themselves.

Now I know Nigerian govt will try to fight the Anarchy with Martial Law. Imagine a society riddled with Anarchy and Martial Law, just imagine. There will be chaos, our clime will become ungovernable, unlivable and in total disarray. Lagos State most especially will be worse. Everyone living anyhow and doing anyhow. Daylight robbery and gun bullets flying everywhere. Death toll from crime and Martial Law will surpass that of Covid 19 itself.

At this point, I will just jejely carry my load and travel to inside inside Osun State or somewhere far, withdraw enough cash and enjoy my life. You dont want to experience Anarchy in a city like Lagos....And mind you Anarchy can birth revolution, rebels springing up everywhere. Police and Soldiers go kill them go taya.

I knew Africa, especially Nigeria will be the last to see their worst cases and the time is nigh. Our best shot is the vaccine.

PS: If you have plans to make a lot of money this year, buy or build a house, buy a car, get married etc, cancel it. Its not happening.

PSS: Stop doing flesh to flesh with your woman. A woman getting pregnant at this perilous time is dangerous.

Hehehehe

iCauseTrouble:
Things learnt from the Covid-19 pandemic
1. Scientists are more important than pastors. We need more doctors than Men of God (MOGs).

2. We live in connected world, what affects China affects Nigeria, Belgium, Ghana etc..... We should be our brothers keeper.

3. The most important thing in life is life itself and the most important people is family.

4. Cooking skill is a survival skill.

5. Health care budget is more important than defense budget.

6. Biological weapons are more potent than military missiles

7. The border should be the human body not country borders. We should stop the virus from getting into man not man from getting into our borders.

8. Many pastors are more concerned about tithes and offering than salvation.

9. A lot of things can wait, church, jumat service, weddings, birthday, board meeting, etc.

10. African govt need to invest in the basics - education, healthcare, database, electricity, internet, refuse disposal, food, security etc

11. The world has abundant supply of stupid people across borders

12. World power is beyond financial nor military weapons but knowledge based and bioscience.

13. It is not the end of time nor Antichrist rather an avenue to know that there are more hidden facts that are more dangerous than known facts

14. Planning is Paramount as well as savings to the survival of mankind.

exactly

Ironic:
Kemi Olonuyo might be controversial, but she's never wrong with her journalism.

In Akon's voice.

No need to cherish luxuries
‘Cause everything come and go
Even the life that you have is borrowed
‘Cause you’re not promised tomorrow
So live your life as if every day is gon’ be your last

Rest In Peace Abba.

Coronavirus is fvckin REAL

exactly

Ayomideayo:
What some are praying for, you better dont let them snatch your husband...follow him inside like that and continue

Osino?

NextD18:
I want the Government to lift this lockdown and open the border so that this Coronavirus virus will wipe the entire country since we are feeling to wise and stubborn to obey the "Stay at home" order from the Government.


Rubbish!!!

SHUT UP. HUMAN LOVER! SMH

Ayomideayo:
Are you sure you want her to go because of prayer or you want to bath with black soap

Chineke Mee!

4reala:
The truth is that she hates those kids, because if you love someone, you won't hurt them

Exactly

DCmonster:
Why have I not gotten it? Why has p.diddy and all the people he is gonna co-host the revolt news with not gotten it? Mad people, black Americans are bunch of deluded alarmists. Over here an average black American will commit a crime and will expect a judge not to convict and send him to jail when found guilty. Over here they don't go to college, they all wanna be gangsters and they hate on the whites for no just reason. All they do is drugs and hoeing around and yet they wanna compete with the whites. Latinos have more morals now than my African American brothers and sisters. For p.diddy it's all about the money. Corona virus knows no race, the blacks dying from it are probably the chain smokers and drug addicts whose lungs are semi-damaged already.

Exactly!

BestAccessories:
My brother, not only in Canada, come and observe small in Nigeria.

If you have time, take time out to visit Lekki, Ikoyi or Victoria Island and you would see the height of loneliness (Guys & Babes). See beyond the big houses, the flashy cars and the rest. Look at the person living in the house or riding the big car.

I will however, not discourage anyone (male or female) from travelling for greener pasture or to earn more money as far as you can cope.

Making more money also comes with depression and it isn't everyone that know how to cope or manage the pressure that comes with having more money at your disposal. You have all the resources to make you comfortable but can't find true love.

You don't know if the babe or guy you are dating is dating you for your money or really love you. Making more money also comes with arrogance. You don't wanna take shit from anyone, because he earns good money and you also earn good money, so why should I take shit from you.

Until you reach certain level, you can't understand what it takes to survives there.

I get you

gargoylern:
A couple of reasons. They don't know how to approach, since they have never approached a man all their life. Na una Naija guys dey rush them na, lol.
Two, the white guys don't really find them attractive. Some asian men do though. Some Nigerian men also do. But because most Nigerian guys are not stable (i..e they are still working survival jobs), they are not ready to marry.
Trust me , these Nigerian girls are in serious dilemma.

Again, if you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada. Think twice about it. Be sure that's what you really want.

Am traveling. Your assertion has no questionnaire attached to it. Am not going to conclude on your research.

Good

Yenefer:
Social Distancing =People who have not been exposed to d virus
Quarantine =People who 've been exposed to people with virus symptoms & don't 've symptoms.
Self-Isolation =People who think they've d virus or 've tested positive for d virus.
My safety, it's ur safety. #Covid19Out

Good

MadeINchenzen2:
lol... u re making me laugh now

Laughter is free.I don't sell it.

MadeINchenzen2:
u cant be sure... he may be poor and also have fish brains too

Then that person is meant for your daughter not me!

MadeINchenzen2:
as far as the money is there girls like u have no choice. what if God reveals to u that ur type is a randy poor boy. what will u do?

He can't be poor of much money as well as mentality

MadeINchenzen2:
forget that thing... ur love for me is so strong !

Stronger than Chinese products

MadeINchenzen2:
call me dude one more time and I ll send u a slap from here !

DUUUUUDDEE! Physical Abuser!