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[quote author=wwwihy post=85735982]Attitude is everything. I like her positive attitude[/quote]Whatever you confess with your spirit man,the universe will have no choice than to obey

GeniusWannabe:
Being a prophetess doesn't automatically give her the extraordinary ability to foresee ALL things. That would make her coequal with God.

They don't know.

CAPSLOCKED:
MARRIAGES FAIL. RELATIONSHIPS FAIL.... WHETHER SINGLE MOM OR NOT.

FROM YOUR NOTE, I'VE CONCLUDED THAT YOU WERE THE PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
WITH THE AUTHORITATIVENESS IN YOUR WRITING, THERE'S A CHANCE YOU KEPT MISTREATING HER, EXPECTING HER TO WORSHIP YOU BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT'S A FAVOUR YOU'RE DOING HER BY BEING WITH HER.

I'M HAPPY FOR HER WHOEVER SHE IS. PEOPLE DESERVE BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

High Five

etrange:
The fear of men is the beginning of wisdom!

If tomorrow the lady leaves, NL boys will gather here to call her all sorts of names for not being able to "keep a home". I pity women, honestly.

In this part of the world,women are vulnerable. If you are strong, then you should be vulnerable.

Could be true

Ayoswit:
Good points but learn to live your life for yourself and don't try too hard to please anyone.

Exactly

lazarusokafor90:
If that's not being partial, I don't know what is.

He answereth to no one.

Pentasoft1978:
The African Ally will be U and your household.

Exactly!

tillaman:

Really sad his anointing couldn’t cover those who lost their lives!!

I really hope the dead finds rest!!!
But something doesn’t add up how come he escaped unhurt and 6 lives were lost

God says,i will have mercy on those i will.He does what he wants without the opinion of a man. He doesn't need to answer your questions. He is God your creator.

THUNDER4real:
Sex sex sex, u cannot com and kill yourself ......This is the reason you should marry your friend, friendship don't die off....Marriage is not all about sex, u will get tired one day no matter your libido level..

Exactly

philfearon:
1] Be friends with your spouse during the day and be lovers at night.

2] If you want to make love to your wife at night, start in the morning.

3] Things change — respect each other and be willing to change. Remain flexible and open to compromise.

4] Stay true — cheating never works — never surrender your integrity.

5] Listen more than you talk. Think more than you say.

6] Don’t keep score. You don’t win at marriage. Strive to stay even.

7] Intimacy and affection are not always sexual. A promise is as good as the act.

8] Women crave sex for intimacy and acceptance — Men crave sex for validation. If either isn’t getting what they need, they will seek it elsewhere.

9] Sometimes she just wants to be held. If she doesn’t she’ll let you know.

10] Let him know you are interested. Don’t think he should see you are interested and act accordingly. If you want it ask.

11] Pick up after yourself. Flip the laundry. Do the dishes. Cook a meal or two or three ect and change a diaper. Neither took a vow to be the maid — if you did — the 1800’s called and want their vow back.

12] Don’t pick a fight. Stop. Wait. Think. Then say what you mean and mean what you say after you stop being angry.

13] Don’t go in thinking he or she will change or you will change them. Change grows organically from within.

14] A divorce is like finding a woman you hate and buying her a house. If that joke isn’t funny — don’t buy a house.

15] Maintain your financial independence. Everyone who was ever married either died or were divorced — you’ll need your financial independence.

16] Sometimes she cries for no reason — sometimes he broods over non-sense. This too shall pass.

17] He or she might be your one, but eventually they will be the half or the quarter — strive to keep growing back together.

18] Watch her family and see how her father treats her mother — that’s her expectation. Watch his family — that’s his expectation. If you can’t imagine living in such an environment — you won’t — don’t hesitate to reset your expectations.

19] Roughly a third of people will suffer from a mental illness during their lifetime. Better than even chance one of you will become ill. Acceptance — Treatment, early and often.

20] Children change everything. She will unapologetically love her children more than she loves you. If you can’t handle that, wrap it in latex.

21] Most fights start over money and end in the bedroom — good or bad.

22] A three-some is never a good idea. It’s a desperate decision — a cancer with no cure. If you have an open relationship, good for you, but follow your rules. Mileage varies.

23] Space is more than what’s 20 miles straight up, or the inches between your ears. Maintain your space and allow him or her their’s.

24] Don’t threaten divorce — you either are or you aren’t. Threats breed fear — fear leads to distrust — It’s nearly impossible to earn someone’s trust, again.

25] If you are on the couch and your spouse is doing chores you are in the wrong place. Do things together.

26] If one of you is using drugs/alcohol and the other isn’t — there’s a problem. There is help available — use it.

27] You are married the person they are, but you’ll be in love with the person they were — reconcile those statements.

28] Once it’s over, it’s over. Move on quickly and quietly.

29] We can’t do anything about the ex parked outside your house — nor can we stop them from sleeping with someone new. Neither of you took a vow of celibacy. The contrary is true.

30] Don’t drunk text, call, write, or skype — Don’t drunk anything except sleep.

31] If you can’t control your emotions — leave — take a walk — pray. But whatever you do, don’t hit, slap, grab, pull, push, hug, knock, slam, choke, pinch, pin, head lock, arm bar, round kick, front kick or beat each other in anyway shape, form or fashion. If you must fight, use your words and remember anger equals ten feet. Never pick up a weapon in anger.

32] Spousal rape is real. No still means No — even if there’s a ring, a vow and several days/weeks/months/years of unrealized expectations.

May the Lord grant you the courage to change the things you must, the grace to accept the things you can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference.


QUORA

Ok

EFULEFU1:
I saw my best friends wife in a hotel with another man. Since then I have not been myself

Should I tell my friend?

Immediately. If you don't, you are an evil person.

chiommy123:
Man inhumanity to man. Imagine the way he just killed someone that loved him and probably took care of him. People are evil. Ladies should be more careful this new year

Exactly

Blakjewelry:
Clear your head and stay focus. This is the point I was trying to raise when people talk about broke guy issue. So what happened if things go wrong in the future, our parents where true to each other no matter the situation or condition. Just try and dust yourself up, just believe you can do it again, being frustrated will only keep you from achieving your goals, I pray 2020 smile on you

I agree

Kendumazy:
I guess you didn't pray about your relationship or you didn't get to do spiritual consultation about the kind of person your wife is. See, when it comes to two people coming together to get married. There are a lot of things involved. A wife star might superceed that of the husband and atimes it could be the other way round. These are parts of what parents sees that make them stand their ground that their son or daughter won't get married to a particular person. Not that the person is bad but it's just that, we all have the star we carry. You don't need to fight your wife. You just need some prayer or spiritual journey to see what could be the cause of your downfall or you can try and leave the home for like a month and watch any changes.

NONSENSE!

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

Oh my! Anyways, women like your wife is the reason why some men are insecure about women raising up their head. When power enters the wrong hands, its used to oppress. I hope this one works lol

dominique:
Such a terrifying experience for the little boy, thank God his dad was able to rescue him before he got crushed by the monster snake. Too many dangerous reptiles in that country, Nigerians hoping to flee there should first learn to protect themselves from snakes, crocodiles and alligators.

Exactly

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

You didn't. Your wife is so heartless. I wonder what your daughters will become if you don't chooke your eyes into their upbringing. My dear,you better send that girl to her people after her WAEC.Pay her fees if you deem it fit with the knowledge of your wife o.Am saying this cos with such person as a wife,she is ready to make life hard for the young lady.

Amanee:
You want us to tell you it's okay to meet someone else and leave your wife, that you are not married to her and your unhappiness in the marriage is not a good sign,


Right?


Wrong.


You are married whether you like it or not and you are cheating on your wife. Wake up

Hehehehe

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

Your job is to love her.Her job is to respect and honor you.

Damilolacoker:
Trust me, I correct my daughter with so much love. I do not want to do an online business, i want a real job

Go for it girl.You are trying to be useful to him,your parents,your siblings, his siblings and to the society. No be prostitution or abomination you dey go do.You will forever regret not utilizing your youth age well in being productive. My aunt who worked in first bank was made to resign by her husband because he felt insecure of her job.With so many stories. 10 years down the line,the man called her jobless and useless to him as the burden is now too much on him.She practically told me she regrets her decision then as her colleagues are now earning higher and are at the peak of their career.

SBL28:
You have to take some hard decisions. Your parents failed you by not fighting for you, it is now left to you to save yourself.

You should be doing something meaningful with your life. Why did he not marry a stark illiterate instead of imprisoning someone's daughter.

Go and start looking for a job and avoid getting pregnant at this period (that is what some men use to pin down their wives). If he wants to break the marriage because of that, let him. You can't just be sitting on your hands waiting for him to feed you for the rest of your life.


Edited to add for the slow pokes here yarning dust under my comment:

No sensible man will divorce his wife because she got a job. She can't be crying about not being able to do a job when she does not even have one in the first place. For how long will she continue to nurture her husband's insecurities?? She should look for a job that won't be too far, somewhere she won't have to close late so he won't have more ammunition to use against her.

Many older women today regret not standing up for themselves on time. The earlier the issue is trashed out the better.

Women that are married to such insecure African men are the ones that finds it difficult to cater for the family if anything happens to the man.They can't even get a good job if they are older with no job experience. If they eventually start up a business if he is deceased,they tend to run it down.They always run around other men both old and young just to keep up with life and feed her children. Children has no choice than to fend for themselves in any means available.Of what economic importance and improvement is all this to our society? If you talk now,they will call you a feminist. God knows I will choke being with such an ignorant man. He can't give me such a burden.

Akuruoulo:
U mean feminist kind of ( Caring )
u mean reverse role caring ?

I don't know how you will raise your daughters. I just need women to be useful and stop being vulnerable. If your man is not there,it won't be hard to cater for your family.1+1=2

Akuruoulo:
Which better life ?

There are girls who have a better life than most boys , but aren't feminist

What is feminism. Read your books with meaning biko

TheRedpillguy:
Lol you mean the same girls that don't have to do anything and get privileges for just being girls. Anyways I suuport feminism 100% let women work, let them work for hours even in their old ages, let them fix and do the heavy lifting, let them have sex with who ever thy want, this will make my life very easy. Let women pay their bills and men pay their bills. Women can be empowerd all the time if they are paying their bills. No entitlement to anything

Exactly.

madridguy:
She went into our room and locked the door , she was in there for a long time and the next morning , her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

Bros, this may sound somehow but you never get wife.

Exactly. Marriage is not just living together and bearing children. If she can't forgive after you show remorse, emm

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

Nawao for your assertion.

vincentjk:
Chimamanda Ngozi adichie tricked them only to get married and take care of her man properly including doing all the choirs secretly.

Make una node follow these people mouth o esp all these nairaland feminists

She is a feminist and not a misogynist. Beyonce is also a feminist but she takes care of her man too.

themonk:


There are feminists and there are Narcissists and sociopaths hiding under the umbrella of feminism. Bitter women who want to control men but are not smart enough so they hide under the name of feminism to dish out their hate.

That being said, there is nothing wrong with being a feminist but any toxic person who attacks men just to feel better about her own self is a sociopath and should be called out.

Exactly. Advocating for a better life for girls shouldn't be seen as bad.

ceeroh:
See where free pussy has landed you. Not once, but twice.

A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problems on earth.
Go for a DNA test, know the truth and be free.

Exactly! How come you are unstable. She should allow DNA first.

Readonee35L:
Damn.
This is Inhumane.

To think the person who did this is walking around freely amongst other people and acting sane.

You never know who's sitting next to you in that bus or restaurant.
Could be a freak or psycho .

We need to be very careful.
Make God protect us.

Exactly