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 Family › Re: What Do I Do With This Pregnancy? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 1:39pm On Nov 02, 2007 |
She is not in the position to say it happened mistakenly, because God doesn't make mistakes. An option will always be, to have the baby and then give it up for adoption. There are alot of women who can not conceive and would love to have a newborn baby, tho once she sees that bundle of joy, her heart will never allow such thing to take place.  another thing you can tell here is this baby could be a like a 'messiah' figure and could be the key to change a Nation or Country for future generations. , please keep the baby. love & light, |
| Culture › Re: American Women That Marry Nigerian Men by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 1:23pm On Nov 02, 2007 |
JazzyRed, I sure would hate to see you leave Nairaland, as I enjoyed reading views of a fellow African American sista, who has a love for African men back in the motherland. Leilah. Normally, I like reading your posts, but I was a little annoyed at how cold hearted you appeared in these last couple of posts. Did u even read what TBowens said to you in the post above? I somewhat agree with some of the enlightenment she shared. I'm not trying to be as harsh as u were to JazzyRed, but she has just as much love for African culture as you do, and being a Black woman, don't u think she has just as much RIGHT as a white woman as yourself to be here to learn a little about here distant heritage? She said it may be her last post her, and u reply "Thank God". as in, 'good riddance'? Do you REALLY think thats what Nairaland and the African community is all about? We embrace each other mamma. Don't be selfish, and quick to push a sistah away, please. She needs Nairalanders views and 2 be welcomed just as much as you, myself & any other that finds the forums. love & light, 1 Like |
| Culture › Re: Ohafia War Dance by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 12:17am On Nov 02, 2007 |
LOL, what a sista, tryna make dreams come true, love & light, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Nairaland Vs. Naijaryders by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:56pm On Nov 01, 2007 |
Ive read some good topics on Naijaryders, last night actually,, but I prefer reading topics on Nairaland much better. love & light, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Looking For 3 Bed Villa To Rent In Orlando by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:49pm On Nov 01, 2007 |
um, how could someone in Nigeria help u find a rental crib in Orlando, Florida? anyway, try looking on craigslist.org, its very resourceful for temporary rentals. Here is the link, look under housing. http://orlando.craigslist.org/ love & light, |
| Health › Re: Sisters: What Is Good Medicine For Pms Cramps? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 1:10am On Nov 01, 2007 |
800 mg Ibuprofen (Motrin) works the BEST for any lady who may have these problems. love & light, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Save My Life, I Need A Good Girl. by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:38pm On Oct 31, 2007 |
@poster, you are most welcome. Its ok if she has changed your way of thinking, as long as its a positive way of thinking. When someone we love, do something to hurt us so deeply, it should soften the heart to love THE ONE even more deeply, and not shut ur heart down from loving another. I've also been betrayed & heartbroken, but we learn to dealt with it, pick up the broken pieces & keep our face to the father. Everything happens for a reason. Ive learned that people come into our lives for a reason, and possibly to prepare us for the one we are meant to be with. I much prefer that we appreciate any experience of past love. When it dies, and its time to move on, dont hesitate, as we do know the real thing is going to be everything u expect and more. um. maybe u shouldnt advertise ur private phone number on the world wide web like that,, hopefully we can chat by Yahoo sometimes, I do chat with many Nairanlanders tha way,  love & light, |
| Romance › Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:28pm On Oct 31, 2007 |
cooking & cleaning? babygurl, tell me what man in the US would do this more often, without griping, nontheless a Nigerian man? LOL tho, there are some men infact, who do enjoy contributiing like that. If u find him, keep him. My X BOYFRIEND is Nigerian (Igbo) from PH and the reason we didnt make it, is because he leaves messy 'tracks' for me to see clear evidence of his inconsistency in behaviour. If you found a Nigerian man in US, try it out and learn as much of the culture as u can, because its a beautiful thing finding a GOOD man back from our original roots. BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO!. Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. some are worth their salt, and some need the boot. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding, love & light, 1 Like 1 Share |
| Health › Re: My Wife Has A Mental Problem by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:20am On Oct 31, 2007 |
She told you that she had depression, but being diagnosed with depression and schitzophrenia are 2 different illnesses, and not treated the same. You should not feel dispair in ur marriage, you are here, so now as her husband you must take on the responsibility to make sure she has proper medical care. This is a brain disease whereas certain chemicals are not present for her to function as you will. The psychologist that diagnosed her with the illness, should have prescribed her with the proper medications to elliminate the recurring episodes of 'seeing people', and the behaviours she has described. If she is still behaving the way you have said, she obviously has not been prescribed the proper medications that her body is responding to properly. IT sometimes takes trial and error with a few medications, until the proper dosage, and particular drug needed for her body make up, as different ppl react differently to different medicines. Once she is on the right medicine, she will have to continue to take it, even when she feels she is doing 'good',, because she needs it to maintain that chemical balance in her life, in order for her to live a healthy and normal life, as well and enjoyment of her relationships. The best thing that you can do to support your wife, is to EDUCATE yourself about the disease, and what your role should be as a supportive partner. Life really can be beautiful, but you are going to have to put forth effort in order for you both to see happy days. Talk therapy can also help her in addition to the medicine, which can help her with behaviour management as far as anger outbursts, etc, do some google searches on the disease, and symptoms to better understand what you are dealing with. The internet is such a resourceful tool. we just have to take advantage of it, Best of luck, and i know it will be ok, once you know what ur dealing with, and how to get a grip of getting your wife on the right path, love & light, 2 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Seun- Please Is This Yahoo Id Yours Seunfide? (Answer: Hell No) by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:05am On Oct 31, 2007 |
hmmmm, Im glad I read this thread, because this person has been on my yahoo buddy list since i first became a member here on Nairaland. We've had chats (can't remember about what), tho I have not had a problem with him, love & light, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Just Need A Babe by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 12:36am On Oct 31, 2007 |
too bad u didnt post this with a pic a few months ago, b4 i had my bad experience with an Igbo man from Port Harcourt. Good luck in ur search. love & light, |
| Culture › Re: Ohafia War Dance by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 12:13am On Oct 31, 2007 |
Here u go bruh. Im very much into West African dance, and I found this clip some months ago. Its not but a few minutes, tho if you keep searching, you may find more it the links on the right of the video. http://youtube.com/watch?v=ExHWaf6rT9o tho, u may have to intensely search the internet for what u need. love & light, |
| Culture › Re: White/latino/asian Wearing Native by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 12:06am On Oct 31, 2007 |
you wouldnt believe just how MUCH respect that some white folks have for the African culture and history, I saw a topic when many Niralanders were amazed and proud of a white lady singing a Nigerian song awhile back, why would Africans be upset at a white person showing appreciation for African dress attire? PPL look at me and think im Latina, or sometimes White, and even asked if I was Asian,, but im African American, so where would the disrepsect be when I marry my African husband whenever I dress in African attire? not knowing my background, and based solely on 'seeing me' in the attire, would i be viewed as disrespecting African culture? I would hope such is not true. love & light, |
| Family › Re: Can A Woman Steal From Her Husband? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:55pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
I don't agree with a woman stealing from her man like that. NOR do I think a man should steal from his woman either. goes both ways. What should u do? First, you need to talk to her to find out why she would do such a thing, when its much simplier for her to ask. Then you need to find out WHAT is the real reason she is stealling from you,, is it to buy food for you BOTH to eat? Does she need money to buy things for the house, or to look pretty for you? She may have a gambling or drug problem, and that will be bad if so. but, Obviously she is taking the money for some reason or another. Find out what that reason is, and see if u can reach some agreement as to some allowance u can give her to stop her from stealing. OR. better, just keep your money in the bank, and use your bank card or debit card if its allowed in Nigeria. You dont always have to carry cash around to have access to your money. love & light, |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Quitting My Present Job To Study Abroad by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:42pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
I suggest that you make proper plans to travel abroad to broaden your horizons. Before you leave, put in a letter of resignation, and make sure you let the current employer know that you not only have enjoyed working with them, but you have grown professionally and personally by working with them, and you want to utilize the growth potential to expand worldwide. These sort of partings on 'good standings' are always good for you, because it is not only professional, but it opens the opportunity to be welcomed to work with them again upon returning to Naija. Schooling abroad. I wil tell you the same that I told my daughter yesterday during a 2 hour talk. NEVER let anyone stop you from dreaming and expanding yourself in life. NEVER. If you have enthusiasm in your heart to travel and study, and the opportunity presents itself, please take the opportunity. If God plants a seed into your heart, it is up to you to nourish and make the seed grow. The seed that I am speaking of, is your DESIRE to study, your personal goals, your determination to expand your knowledge to become whatever it is that your heart desires. remember. Some people are content in living from day to day, and will never grow to understand the heart of a person that wants to travel OUTSIDE of that comfort zone. You will do quite well, because you fisrt have the determination to take a courageous step outside of what most consider 'comfort'. when u take broad leaps like this, its coraugeous, and shows your faith, and when u step out in faith, as I told my daughter, always keep GOD as the foundation, and give him thanks for all the doors he will open to lenghten and broaden your path in life. You can also put 2gether a well written resume (CV) as called in Nigeria, and can possibly land a good job based on your past experience at ur present job. and more likely, it will pay more, even part time. Good luck and best wishes to you as u travel along ur journey. Life is beautiful, and u will come to recognize and appreciate it more, as u are exposed to the many cultures in this world. trust i n GOD to help u see that my words 2 be truth and in ur favour , love & light, 1 Like |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Save My Life, I Need A Good Girl. by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:18pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
LOL@iice, I would like to think that no man or woman needs a partner to validate who they are in life. we attract real love naturally, not by advertising it as if we can not live without it. yes? Try first, focusing on loving yourself in whole first, and they say,, when u least expect it, love comes pulling on your heartstrings. love & light, |
| Romance › Re: Can Ladies Be Trusted ? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:05pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
um, sorry . double post. |
| Romance › Re: Can Ladies Be Trusted ? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:04pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
The question is, can MEN be trusted? I've actually wandered this for many years now, with no answer to avail, your actions/question has helped to keep this a question in the back of my mind. Why shouldn't women be trusted? All do not fall in the same category, just as men. As someone mentioned, the covenant of marriage is sacred, and we all know that God is the ruler of such matrimonies, please do not put yourself in a compromising situation. You may be judged by man, but ultimately you will be stepping onto a sacred matter that u will have to deal with God as a result. Temporary satisfaction with temptation, is not worth the KARMA you will face bruh, Be wiser than satan, and increase ur own blessings as a result, by thinking with ur mind and not ur private man in this matter dear. Your choice will help YOU understand. can MAN be trusted? Trust your own instincts. love & lilght, |
| Romance › Re: Your Childhood Crush? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 10:32pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
my childhood crush was Michael Jackson, |
| Romance › Re: Did U Smile Today? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 10:28pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
sad to say, but I do not remember smiling today. maybe I did, but I dont think so. People say that it takes less muscles in your face to smile than to frown. Smiling is good for the soul, so I will try to get one in b4 the day is out, love & light, |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Look Before You Leap! Scammers On The Prowl! by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 4:40pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
yes, that's definately a scam, because most corporations in the US would mail an appointment letter of employment directly to you through mail, and it will welcome u aboard, indicate the benefits (briefly) and let you know when u can come into the coroprate office for new employee orientation or training, fill out paperwork, IRS tax forms/ witholding statements and insurance packages. And it most certainly wouldnt be from US, and ask for money. Please avoid these scams at all costs. Remember, if in doubt, always, CHECK IT OUT. (that goes for relationships too) lol love & light, |
| Family › Re: 2day Is My Birthday! by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 1:25pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
Happy Birthday to you. May all your dreams come true!!! love & light, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Babe, I'm Sorry For What I Did by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 1:07pm On Oct 30, 2007 |
That was beautifully said,, but what was the mistake u made? I enjoyed reading your heartfelt apology. love & light, |
| Family › Re: Is It True That Love Comes Once In A Life Time? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 4:18am On Oct 27, 2007 |
I think jaguar1 said it all, but oh boy. what a beautiful feeling being in love like this. I know the feeling oh too well, with men asking for the hand in marriage, while someone else has ur heart in the palm of their hand, and dont even know it. Please fill us in with the details, because Im really hoping for the best between u 2, Life is so short, but what I've learned is, people can not read our minds, and there is no way he will know u love him like this until u open up and let him know. The only thing that was running thru my mind, is to say 2 u. please dont wait until its too late, and some other lady captures his heart, once u know if he feels the same or not, it will definatly be a stepping stone to move forward with ur life in either direction. love & light, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Can You Tell Age From Looks? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:11am On Oct 27, 2007 |
over at Nigerian Circle, i could not finish the registration process and read the topics because of not being able to do so, |
| Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Cares More About His Family by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:56pm On Oct 26, 2007 |
Care more about his family how? there is not much of details for much guidance. tho,, I think its a beautiful thing to see a man that has close ties with his relatives. If he shows a strong bond with his sibblings, and parents, more likely the longer u are n a relationship with him, u will gain more of his heart as well. Remember, his family has been in his life, ALL of his life, and you two are just beginning a future. You must give it time, but in the meantime, look at it in a positive light, and be greatful he is a loving man,, who loves his family,, it could have been the misfortune of a womanizer or worse, an abuser, i think ur a very lucky lady, love & light, 1 Like |
| Car Talk › Re: How Reliable Is Kia? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:17pm On Oct 26, 2007 |
I had a Kia for a short time, and I was not that impressed with it. Tho it was brand new, and no problems, when it would rain, I could hear water as if it was getting inside of the car under the gear shift. Not a bad car, but just not my style for comfort. I prefer my Chrysler. love & light, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Can You Tell Age From Looks? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:11pm On Oct 26, 2007 |
you look 18 to me, offtopic. @Sienna on Nigerian Circle, it wont allow me to add my city & state. whats the prob do u know? love & light, |
| Romance › Re: Dilema,my Pastor Told Me Not To Marry My Love. Plz Help Its Urgent by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 5:52am On Oct 19, 2007 |
If you can honestly say that you've witnessed things come pass that your pastor has said to members ,, and,, if he is a verified prophet, I would not encourage u to go against his guidance. Tho,, please bear in mind that all Pastors are not filled with that all-knowing gift of ' prophecy'. So in this instance and based on what you know of her character, you must follow your own inner widsom. Tho, I question such wisdom, because you mentioned bringing another woman's name to the pastor for approval. Thats hipocritical confusion in the face of love, as you clearly show signs of being a double minded man. You have shown the pastor that you YOURSELF have doubts. Please read. James 1: 5-8, if you need confirmation of what I have just shared with you, When a man knows without a doubt of his true love, all of his energies should vested in one woman, and there would be no need to having a 'back-up' plan. Its not about disobeying a pastor, its about praying faithfully to GOD for favour in turning aroung a situation for a positive outcome, and then obeying what God tell you to. The choice to marry is yours, and God gives you free will to choose whomever u wish. If u love her, and you both work on your walk with God together, I don't see a reason why it may not work. I promise u, if u bring her to church with u, and she becomes active member,, I can almost assure the pastor will give u both his blessings, as u will be moving onward and upward and increasing compatibility. As long as God is the foundation in the relationship, and is for you,, then who can be against you? Certainly not your pastor, Be of sound mind & judgement, Make firm decisions and stick to them. , These are admirable characteristics of a man of integrity, Your woman will take notice of such traits. Just let the 'other' babe know, that you have to sever all ties with her, as u are building yourself up spiritually with your future wife. All your going to do is rob yourself of spiritual riches and delay your own progression in life, if u allow urself to be consumed in unstable ways and indecisiveness. Stand up and be the man God created you to be, and live life according to your own choices, we create destiny, it doesn't come by chance, Remember that. Its simple for a wise man to see, but a foolsih man would think quite differently, Best Wishes, love & light, Natalie |
