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 Nairaland General › Re: Hello Nairaland Family: I Am New, Please Welcome Me With Open Arms: by SwtNsoFLyy(op): 1:15pm On Aug 24, 2007 |
thank you all again, I am happy to be here, and have met alot of nairalanders on messenger. haha,  peace, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Very 1st Time You Fired A Gun by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 11:03pm On Aug 23, 2007 |
LOL, I was going to reply, but since you specifically said. this is not for trained Armed Forces, I'll keep my weapon training out of it. haha peace, |
| Politics › Re: Do You Support A State-of-emergency In Port Harcourt? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 10:57pm On Aug 23, 2007 |
I think whats going on in Port Harcourt is terrible. I have a close friend that lives in Port Harcourt, and I do worry about him alot, tho we keep in touch everday, By whatever means it takes for the people of the city to be safer, I would like to see the Government take charge and handle it, but when he told me today, that some guys were forced to take their clothes off at 'certain points' before proceeding, i think is humiliating and not necessary. I was hoping the recent problems in Port Harcourt could draw foreign attention, for proper help to be negotiated and put in place, Im just worried about innocent people, and those who have already lost their lives, I pray for safety and the best possible outcome on behalf of the families.,, and my dear friend , peace |
| Romance › Re: Can U Marry A Male Virgin by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:27am On Aug 23, 2007 |
that is a good question, and his reasons for still being a virgin at an older age can also make a lady wonder. Somehow, it would seem unnatural for me to marry a guy whose a virgin, Our experience levels are not the same, and I would often wander, if he would even know what to do,, do I have to teach him,, overall, I think if a man has with held himself as a vigin into adulthood ,, maybe he deserves a woman who is also a virgin, this is a hard one, peace, |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Women Think It's A Mistake To Tell The Truth by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 5:06am On Aug 21, 2007 |
Gentlemen. From where is all of this information being given to you? It appears to be based on someone's opinion, versus fact. While this is not true, some of these views (may) be, being in a relationship is based on trust, and living in the present, prospering 2gether in the future, Not continuing to reflect on someone's past. People change, that includes MEN and women, and if you fell in love with the person for what they represent this day and time in your life,, their past should bear little effect of how you progress together in life, What matters MOST is having a positive mindset, that determines the final outcome of of weather or not you will make the relationship last. Only a person with a negative mindset, unable to control their reactions or emotions will allow someone's past to interfere with establishing a solid foundation to build upon today and forward, If a man, or woman ask their partner about their past, then you must be willing to accept and live with an answer to that particular question that YOU asked. Unless you are looking for a reason to be angry, or break up, focus on buiilding together, and the added benefits the person brings into your life, or people will always find themselves digging into history, when they can be living a very filling life with the person they fell in love with, We have got to stop sabatoging our OWN happiness with this sort of meaninglessness, as no man or woman is perfect, peace,, |
| Romance › Re: Where Are The Good Girls? The Answer by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:57pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
To the poster: There is such a thing as a good girl in Naiija,, its called the "LAW OF ATTRACTION" , We attract the exact energy in the opposite sex,, (same sex for those who choose), same energy that we release or put out, In order to find / & connect with someone of a certain calibre or s tandard we may secretly desire,, we must also represent this within ourselves. In other words,, BECOME that mirror image, male reflection of who you want in your female partner. Work at getting SELF together, before being judmemtal,, Until then, the same ones that we find crossing our paths, are the ones that we attract with a 'mirror' mentality. that may difficult to understand, but it is quite,, very real, |
| Romance › Re: Ladies Whats Your Criteria by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:47pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
1. ONE MOST important criteria for me, His fear and love of GOD. , and it has got to be real, not just someone babbling for the sake of impressing another, 2. Common ground and same focus in life. (same aspirations, same dreams, someone who elevates you to your highest self,, with the ability and desire to give back to humanity - this is outlined as twin soul /soulmates) 3. Integrity. A man of high integrity speaks high volumes of the essence of his entire being,, his character, respect for self and all, There could be more, and sorry for those who may not care for 'criteria's', but these 3 are absolutely necessary for me to give him a chance, funny thing. tho, these are simple 'criterias', I have yet to meet this man anywhere in the world that I have travelled. All across U.S., Europe, Asia,, who knows,, he may be in the Motherland, peace, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Hello Nairaland Family: I Am New, Please Welcome Me With Open Arms: by SwtNsoFLyy(op): 2:57pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
haha, thanks for the welcome again everyone. I have chatted with 3 Nairaland members to date, and it was quite fun actually, It should be fun posting on Nairaland, . much love and thanks again, peace, |
| Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For His Ex by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 2:45pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
Very good. Time AND distance is the mother of healing,, and although you are not completely in love, its the idea of another woman stepping in so soon, without proper closure, is the trigger of your pain, but you know what? its ok, because you stood your position like the lady you are, and did not mess up the relationship, he did this on his own, so someday it will come back to him,, and his pain will be much much worse. Alhtough, don't say that you are done with all Nigerian men as a result of one bad apple. Good men are to be found in all ethnicities,, but your idea is right on point, but more specifically, rest your mind from all guys for awhile until you are finished with this lesson, and ready to move into that new chapter of ur life, Beautiful things await people that learn and grow from these experiences, without second guessing wise decisions, You got it mamma. Hold your head up, |
| Romance › Re: Should I Stick To Her Or Should I Let Her Go by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 2:35pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
Na Wa,, it sounds as if you are in a world of confusion with this lady. Give yourself time to think things through, and reflect on the positives and negatives in this relationship to better understand what you must do to make yourself happy. If someone begins to lie in a relationship, their sincerity is not on the same page as you are. The last thing you want to do is raise your hand to hit her, because that is not 'gentleman' like, and you will be the final cause of her to run to the other man, if there is one, You deserve much better from a woman, and must know that love can not be faked for too long. If you see all the signs that she is interested in someone else, why would you hesitate to just let it go? Its hard letting go, but once you are over her, you wil open your heart to someone that really cares. If you do decide to let it go, give yourself time to heal commpletely before moving on to another relationship. There really are some good girls (and guys) out there waiting on faithful partners like yourself, and can even cook properly to your satisfaction, Don't overlook the 'red flags' that are flying brightly before your eyes, They are there for a reason,, peace, |
| Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For His Ex by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 2:19pm On Aug 20, 2007 |
Good for you, but no he is not mad at you, contrary to what his actions are indicating. what he is doing right now, is playing a 'mind game' with you dear sista , meaning, he is trying to make you WANT him more, by not responding to you, when in fact he is clearly showing that he cares for the other girl more. Theres no sugar coating it from a woman of experience, If he cared for you, he would never dismiss your phone calls, or would have been eager to receive you calls as he did when u first started falling in love, remember that feeling and how he used to act? Some guys (not all) will even go to the extent of making YOU feel guilty about something that you have not even done, and you wind up apologizing for their wrong doing, or making you feel as if it was your fault it happened, thats that 'charisma' of a playa, You have called him ENOUGH. Trust me on this. As hard as it may be, to look at the phone, and want to call him, for your sake, its called "NO contact Rule". The more you call him, worse the situation becomes but not in your favour, because he will then think that you can be easily stringed along, Let HIM wander about you for a change,, forget about him as best you can, by focusing on YOU. CRY if you must in private, but wipe ur tears, make yourself look good and attractive when you step out in public,go get yourself a nice pretty new hair do, cute outfit, and show off that beautiful lady that God created for someone who WILL appreciate you, so Smile, and let him see you enjoying life, b ut do not sit by the phone waiting on his call, because he most certainly is not waiting on your phone call, peace |
| Family › Re: What Do I Do With Dis My Wife by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 7:38am On Aug 20, 2007 |
Sit down with her and have a heart to hear talk about the family income. You must come up with a plan that will get you ahead, and not cause unecessary stress, if you are the bread winner and doing your best to make her happy with your current earnings. From this point forward, you must write down all of your bills, and set a budget for bills, clothing, entertainment, food and tiding, if you contribute to your church. I dont have this problem, (and need to budget better) because I am the head of my own household, and spend as wisely as I can. As the man of your household, I suggest that you take proper place and bring peace into your home. Many people break up because of money or mis handling of finances, but if you want it to work, you will be able to communicate this to her, and hopefully she is understanding that you are ONLY doing your best. If she can't settle for that, and ifshe is not handicap, then it may be wise for her to bring more money into the household. Two incomes are WAY better than one, and provides so much more than you can alone, God bless, peace |
| Romance › Re: I Need A Wifey by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:54am On Aug 20, 2007 |
At 20, is such a tender age to explore the WORLD of possibilities in your future. Looking for a wife, is always a beautiful thing, tho I would suggest giving yourself some years to sow your 'Royal Oats" first. haha, You have yet, sooo much to learn about life, as you go through so many exciting chapters,, from young adulthood, into the prime of your life. Allow yourself to generate and magnitize the wealth of opportunities surrounding your bachelorhood,, and once you become stable in life, and have closed a few more chapters of life, then begin your search for a wife, The responsibilities at this age, will weigh you down faster than imaginable. continue your education, and dont go looking for love, allow it to happen naturally in the course of time that God has mapped out for you. It is only when we step too far ahead along our journey, is when we make the mistakes we regret later in life, God bless, peace, |
| Romance › Re: Soul Ties by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:46am On Aug 20, 2007 |
very interesting question. I believe in 'soul-ties' as well. I would not base it on my own choosing, or I will make yet, another mistake. I do believe that we are pre-destined to be with our better halves. I'm still trying to figure out who, and where my soul-mate is, but people always say that we will know when we find him/ or her because your souls will recognize the other, The unity or union is quite powerful, and like non-other, from what I understand, True love is everlasting, I think it can be tricky,, but pray for the 'one' to be revealed and 'brightly lit', and that all obstacles and wrong choices in your path will be "removed", peace, |
| Health › Re: Help! I Need To Gain Weight Fast: Any Suggestions? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:34am On Aug 20, 2007 |
You don't want to just gain 'fat',, but want to gain muscle tone to add a nice shapely, definition to your body. Increase your protein, and if it is available, try to buy some WHEY protein. Protein rich foods include, fish, peanutbutter, and chicken to name a couple. Potatoes and rice are good fillers too, just do some online research, and im sure you will be gaining the weight you want in no time, If you can do a little exercise, that will be good, it will increase your matabolism, as well as increase your appetite, peace, |
| Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For His Ex by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 6:12am On Aug 20, 2007 |
Relationships can be beautiful, yet painfully confusing when we face these sort of situations. This is the perfect time for you to look deep inside of yourself, and connect with the valuable woman that you are. The relationship is so new, that if you were to walk away, your pain will be less, than if you were to wait until he chooses what matters most to him. If he were to decide at some point, that he wants to rekindle the fire between him and his ex, the biggest heartache will be yours to bear. Sometimes, when we love someone, it may seem to be the most beautiful thing in the world to us, but it hurts even more to know that another woman has a part of his heart, that may even be stronger than the part of his heart that you occupy. Its ok to hurt, and give yourself time to think through this, sometimes that distance in time and communication may be what he needs to realize one of two things. Either he loves her or you. There are no middle grounds to walk on here. Tell him how you feel, and how much you love him, but it is not posssible for you to grow together, if he is spending quality time 'rekindling' things with her. He may disagree, but that is to be expected. Dont put the ball in his court completely, but do let him know that YOU must decide if you are willing to be swallowed up in torture of always wandering, and hoping for the best between you two. Whatever is meant to be, and in time, his intentions will unfold, perfectly in God's time. Just remember, that if he is the man that God has set aside for you, regardless of her being a part of his past, he will part ways, and ur love will grow stronger. Just celebrate the special woman that you are, and the love that is rightly meant for you, will come along,, weather its him or not. Stay strong, and do not chase him, If its meant to be, he will come to you. peace,, |
| Culture › Re: Proper Greeting For Black American Meeting Boyfriend's Nigerian Mother by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 5:57am On Aug 20, 2007 |
wow. this post is very very enlightening. I was reading & impressed with the cultural differences, and the respect factor is amazing in AFrica, it made my heart smile, because it is teaching me more of my very own roots of origin, but just seeing a tiny bit of anger rising from a simple conversation, struck me hard. . In some parts of US., there are still racist, or prejudice against African Americans, as well Africans,, all because of our skin colour, and it really saddened me to see this between our sisters and or brothers here, is really disheartening. Africa is the center of my heartbeat, yet I've never set foot in the motherland. , and desires of giving back to my African heritage so bad, but, I almost feel as if I would be rejected by my own African ancestors, just as bits of rejection from a majority of white or otherwise Americans, where can we draw the line for unity among our people? We should be embracing our sisters & brothers, and helping one another to succeed in life, sharing knowledge to get ahead, without the hurtful words, because we really are ONE, accept it or not, I was really touched & proud to read that, this young lady,, loves her man enough to WANT to learn his customary lifestyle, and present herself in the most respectful way possible to his family. That is so beautiful to me. Because her heart has good intentions, and she was reaching out here on Nairaland, I am most positive she will be well received by his family. To me this is being herself, Peace, |
| Food › Re: Nigerian Recipes by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:55am On Aug 20, 2007 |
aaah Omoge25, I love meatpies, I used to buy them frozen, but now I will try to cook them, and hopefully my family will not frown. haha thank u for the recipe , |
| Food › Re: Worst Things Seen While Cooking. by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:48am On Aug 20, 2007 |
LOL!!!!!!  2 Likes |
| Food › Re: Mr Biggs' Fried Rice by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:46am On Aug 20, 2007 |
hahaha. that was funny to read,, thanks for the laff, but that kind of standard is not just there, you will find that in some US restaurants too,, in areas where its the 'customers' that dont care to clean up behind themselves, although, its up to the management to keep the cleanliness up to standard so they wont lose their good customers as yourself, haha, Glad that you found another Mr. Biggs. I have never heard of Mr. Biggs, but I have been dying for some Nigerian food, and recipes for about a month now, I hope I find some on this discussion forum, thats easy to cook. lol |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Get Love In The Real World by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:16am On Aug 20, 2007 |
This is very true, I met a guy from Port Harcourt, who seems to be the perfect gentleman, tho, such long distance would never allow me to know the sincerity of his heart, or his real intentions. So, I will just not allow myself to get so involved, that I lose face of reality. Being in Nigeria, two people may have a good chance of meeting and growing in love, versus being half way around the world apart, Not to downplay online love, my cousin met and married her spouse online, so it can happen, but finding true lasting love will be quite a challenge, |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Dating And Meet-up Zone by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 3:11am On Aug 20, 2007 |
It can work, according to how deeply you love one another. It works for many happily married couples in U.S., and other countries too,, but if they allow outside influences (Racist people of all colours) to have any effect on their marriage, it won't last. And if it doesn't last, it wasn't meant to be, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Hello Nairaland Family: I Am New, Please Welcome Me With Open Arms: by SwtNsoFLyy(op): 2:36am On Aug 20, 2007 |
thank you both for the welcome!!!, I have met three other members from Nairaland on yahoo instant messenger, |
| Romance › Re: Would You Marry a Single Parent? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:50pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
very interesting topic and views here on marrying a single parent. Being blessed with a child, I do not consider 'baggage',, but a gift from God. The sort of 'baggage' that we should rather focus on is, drug use, integrity, how they treat us or their last mate. These are key indicators of negative baggage that will HOLD you down from succeeding into a new chapter in your life. All single mothers, do not go into relationships with the intent of gaining a father for their child, but a compliment and completion to her very own being. There are alot of beautiful women in this world, how have had the unfortunate event of a failed marriage. There are also alot of men, that have gone through the same, and may have children as a result. Its not a matter of judging the lady(or man) of their child,, but finding that complimentary mate to help us grow, increase our wisdom, as well, reach our fullest potential in life, If we continue to allow ourselves to be judgemental of the single 'parent' be it, man or woman, this immature mindset will hinder us from opening doors to possibly one of GOD's greatest blessing in our lives, and this is coming from quite a mature, established, yet stable single mother, When I find the right mate, he will be honoured other men with this mentality has passed the opportunity by. God allows us to choose as we desire,, A bit of wisdom for the younger gentlemen on Nairaland, everything that glitters aint always gold, so be open minded as to weather or not a woman has bear children or even childless, What matters most is God's divine connection of your hearts and the strength of this woman to uplift you to your highest potential in life, be blessed, peace, |
| Jokes Etc › Re: Nigerians Are Born Great by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 8:08pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
hahahha, this is great, |
| Jokes Etc › Re: Heavenly Conversation by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 8:05pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
| LOL very good. |
| Jokes Etc › Re: "the Obedient Wife" by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 7:58pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
LOL, that was funny,, and such an obedient wife, |
| Nairaland General › Hello Nairaland Family: I Am New, Please Welcome Me With Open Arms: by SwtNsoFLyy(op): 7:41pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
Hi Nairaland members. I was not able to post at first, now it has been fixed. My name is Natalie, and I live in Los Angeles area of California, U.S. I have visited this website for awhile, and enjoyed reading some of the posts. Nairaland seems to be family oriented, and I hope to be welcomed as a part of your family and look forward to getting to know my sisters & brothers from the motherland, I love Africa, and wish that I could be there now,  all my best, SweetNsoFLyy (Natalie) |
| Nairaland General › Re: New by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 7:30pm On Aug 19, 2007 |
HI, I am new to Nairaland Forum, and I do not have the option to start a new post. Sorry for posting this in this thread, but can someone please help me? |
