kromoto:


A LEADER prefers honest men around him than deceitful beings. Danbazau should stop causing division in the Presidential Villa among the military and DSS. A man of his so called knowledge should not be mentioned as an arrowhead in the tension we hear exist in the villa.

The men of the DSS were the ones who abandoned their constitutional duties to play politics a long time ago. Why should the President now entrust his security to them. Make them kill am? Where were you when Marilyn Ogar and co were playing politics with national issues? If na you, you will allow the same people to secure your bed at night? God forbid.

The man is an IBB boy yet he was in charge of Buhari's security. You see the irony? Is Buhari that careless to leave an IBB boy to be in charge of his security. Make una fear God abeg.

"He wanted to take over from Yar'adua but common sense prevailed". There was nothing stopping him from taking over as COAS. So any common sense he had was clearly there before handing over to Jonathan. Read the following excerpt from the Wikileaks report:

"Dambazau stressed he had not been worried about
stability, but admitted that Nigeria had entered a phase where
anything can happen. He is committed to watching out for any signs
of a coup or any involvements or subliminal efforts by politicians,
particularly from the North, to try to encourage such an action.
Dambazau said the most important thing to him was for Nigeria to
remain stable and that he would not sit back and allow the country
to become unstable, noting rule of law needs to prevail. He hoped
that the politicians would get their act together and put the
country back on track. For him, his hopes rest with the National
Assembly right now, notably the Senate, to try to find
constitutional and rule of law ways out of the mess. "

I fear Nigerians sha. This is how false stories and damaging of people's reputations start.

If you read Damabazu's work, you see a very analytical mind. There is a lot the man has written about Nigeria which has come to pass and he clearly understands the reasons why some organizations should be apolitical e.g the military in the face of crisis. I read some of the man's work and it was impressive to say the least. The man is a scholar not your stereotypical aboki wey no go school. Some of these blogs sef, they just wake up and start compiling articles without doing research

CSTR2:
Capable in your neck of woods must mean useless.

Go and read Wikileaks reports of the roles Dambazau played during the Yar'adua saga. The man fulfilled his role responsibly and kept the military in line during the period. People just came with stories in the media and ran away with the issue. Nigerians don't waste time before they hang tires on people's necks.

CSTR2:
Capable in your neck of woods must mean useless.

Leave media reports based on Yar'adua's era of which most people didn't know what was happening. Dambazau is over capable sef. The man has a BSc in Criminal Justice, MA in International Relations, MEd in Higher Educational Administration and PhD in Criminology. He attended the University of Ibadan, University of Keele, Kent State University and was a visiting fellow at Harvard University.

teflonbuzz:

Well, I guess you're not the only one. I did confront her over the phone but she vehemently denied. So I confronted her with what I know and she was shocked. She wanted by all means to know how I knew but I refused to tell her so she thinks I was stalking her...but I told her that how I knew is not important. After then she broke down and cried. Her excuse is that she was by her self and got depressed so she couldn't help it...she said she just wanted to keep her sanity. I consoled her and told her I am not gonna hate her but as expected, since then she's been trying to make up but I'm really wanting to keep at at just friend levels. I'm getting over her already.

Whatever you do. Don't fall for it. Only the guilty cry when caught and of course there's an excuse for everything. Notice she initially tried to accuse you of stalking. Before she went for claiming depression and restoring her sanity through hot sex. She will of course try to make up only to get things back and do the same thing, excuse or no excuse. Cut her off completely and leave the friend issues aside. If she calls don't pick, if she sends messages don't reply. Lest you fall down in a moment of weakness. Getting over someone is rarely as easy as it looks/sounds. Make her loss permanent.

Make una dey there dey wait big man instead of looking elsewhere. Lazy people.

People are just useless. Which one is all this Federal Government talk? Is the Governor the governor of Osun State or the Governor of Federal Government. It is easy to squander money when you didn't work for it. After all do they know how the oil was drilled refined or sold? No, its to share and squander and then complain. What happened to agricultural land and other initiatives that would bring money to the state? Na to they shout "cultural refinement " and "academic brilliance" in the name of my region is better than yours while feeding fat on resources from elsewhere. Let Lagos contribute the money now. Now wahala has come everybody now knows the value of other regions economic output in their own local economies. We are now one Nigeria and it is "our" oil, but the land in Osun is for Osun people.

abinsco25:
How can Osun survive this huge responsibilities. Osun is the lowest in rank in Federal allocation, highest numbers of civil servants in Nigeria after Lagos, 2 State polythecnics, 2 NCE ,Uniosun with 6 campuses plus LAUTECH. How can a state with poor IGR survive this responsibilities.

Is there no revenue coming from school fees? Who told them to build all those universities if they cannot be sustained. What are they maintaining the high number of civil servants for if the work they are doing produces no money?

adepiero:
From where is he suppose to generate the revenue?

Osun state is the second lowest state went it comes to allocation, the least paid is ekiti. How many companies are in osun even if you want to collect tax? The only viable one is "Trophy beer company" of which its not an international brand so they don't generate much too.

He has been trying so far and for him to open up shows his level of sincerity. Its GEJ we ought to blame for scuandering the nations wealth and putting us in debt

Blaming GEJ for putting you in debt. You people are not serious. So if you don't get Niger Delta money from Federal Government you won't eat? Make una no go work.

femcruz:


where have u been sir?

I've been roaming the world. Just came back to see that men are still falling into the hands of these people. Lol.

You are digging an early grave for yourself.

Yeah and I forgot to add. Those email messages you're reading. Do yourself a favour and log out. I am sure by now every 5 hours or 2 hours sef (Yes, we've been there), you log in to read the messages of how he was doing her or what she was sucking. All you're doing is cutting yourself every 5 minutes. Stop reading and logging in there, you will heal faster.

Don't ever tell her how you found out. You just know and there's nothing she can tell you. You don't owe her an explanation. If you tell her how you found out she will find somewhere to defend herself. The more she guesses about how you found out, the more guilt she suffers from and punishes herself with. You owe her no favours. Stop explaining yourself in your head to her. Man up.

teflonbuzz:

Thanks for your advice. Made lotta sense.

Ever since I wrote a classic back in the day on these issues, I don't comment on them again but for you I will make an exception in order to cure you of the illness you currently suffer from.

Before I became what they call a bad man, I chopped nonsense, in the name of love. That was until I got sense. You have to ask yourself why women cheat on nice guys but will spend their time on men who maltreat them and tell them how it is. People like Chris Brown, who will use his babe for orgie.s, have a baby outside with another babe and yet his babe keeps leaving and coming back. Or is it other men and their sidechicks? Having babies with 5 women all begging them.

A babe will carry her lifesavings and give a guy she's tripping for while another mugu will be spending silly. You're here deceiving and consoling yourself that she's not really into the guy, yet she's buying plane tickets, booking hotels and asking him to come and lash her and take her to Cloud 9? Boy, you'd better behave. Love is no excuse for foolishness.

Being an occasional romantic is fun, being a she-man is not. Even to the women. Right now, this babe has wronged you badly and truly but in your mind here you are trying to justify her actions, asking yourself why, defending her and even blaming yourself. Reminiscing of good times, what she did, what she said etc. etc. You are becoming a she-man. Accusing yourself of what is no fault of yours.

My brother, even if you confront her and she cries her eyes out, she will still end up doing the same thing again, because at this stage when she cries, your heart is ready to forgive her immediately. Its like a child who commits a crime and you beat the child, he cries a bit and then you pat him all too quickly. That child will repeat the same thing again, because they are yet to learn their lesson.

You claim your babe is occasionally stubborn. Nah. She's disrespectful. It's that disrespect that has led her to cheat on you. A man might have zero kobo and a woman will slave to be at his feet, but she will give another Mr Nice Guy all the attitude in the world. You right now, should be very angry but there is a path of action.

Right now you are holding your heart in your hand and when confronted she will step on it with high heels, blame you and then because you're so deep in love, na you go begin beg. From begging that is the beginning of your problems. No, your case is not different. I have seen it more than 20 times. It is the same issue and no amount of story or settlement between you and her will bring peace right now.

The best scenario right now is to send her an SMS. Not a long one. A short one (not pouring your heart out). Something along the lines of "I know you and Mr. Bleep have been doing the nasty and I'm disappointed to find out but nonetheless, I wish you and him a pleasant future together. There's no need talking about it, asking me the how or telling me the why. It's over between us.".

My brother at this stage you are, your heart wants to tell her so many things, how you would have done this, how you would have done that, how you're so in love with her and had plans etc. Let me tell you the truth. All those things you're planning to tell her, will do no good. She might weep, she might initially act touched but she's still off in the distance and she will repeat the same thing again, if she does not go ahead and continue with the guy. Keep the SMS short and discharge her. Do not explain. It may seem sweet when you do. It is a waste of your blooody time. Women prefer being brutalized and cut off abruptly, not long explanations. Why are you explaining? Are you the one who cheated? Is this your fault?

You need to burn her bridges, let her be the babe who went out to sample excitement and came back and found the door locked and her things packed out. You need to shock her to her marrow and leave her abandoned. Trust me if you abandon her and whoever she's with, that relationship with the guy will crumble in a few months. Don't think sitting down to talk or accepting her back now will solve anything. You will just be digging your grave, because if you make the mistake of confronting and forgiving, hahahaha, you will never sleep in peace, you will always remain in suspicion, checking her emails etc.

She's at a stage where her mind is in conflict, she cannot decide what she wants and because of the new catch, she's leaning towards the other guy. Cut her off now and do it quick. Let her know that you have made her decision for her.

She might initially cry and beg, send you SMSes, call your phone etc etc. My brother do not yield. Women cry in this case because they have been caught. Not necessarily because of deep down remorse. Initially when she begs, your body go sweet you small. Then when she stops begging you will be tempted to reach out and accept her because despite the silence you're forming, you still love her. My brother even then, do not yield. Stonewall your heart. Pain now will be your salvation later.

My brother confront her with the SMS and cease all communication with the babe for 90 days. If she doesn't reach out to you after that and moves on with her life. Swallow your bitter pill there and there.

Yes, we have been there, some of us have almost committed suicide, drank to stupor, felt there was no one else in this life for us etc. A broken heart can feel almost like death or worse itself. You wake up clutching your heart at night but my brother,six months, one year later or two. You will heal.

I would advice you even if you do not love anyone but her right now. After confronting her, two weeks later, get yourself a new girl. A rebound chick. Not a chick you will complain about your ex to. Someone you will screw and set your head straight even if you don't love her. Loneliness is your enemy.

In closing let me give you a final warning. The last person you should take advice over this issue from is women. Including the ones here. They say one thing and mean another. The moment you become putty in their sister's hands from following their advice, you will never know peace. Trust me, endure the pain now and leave with your pride first, you will never regret it in future.


Anything you think you're feeling now. We've been there. Trust me. Do not justify. Do not explain. Do not yield. Act accordingly.

Any man who thinks that showing more love, trying to reason or arguing with a cantankerous woman or a woman who lacks respect is the way forward, is out of his mind.

Women, especially Nigerian women, do not know the meaning of equality in a relationship. To them equality is a weakness and once they see you as weak it turns to a lack of respect.

If OP was being a man, his wife would not try this nonsense. First he got railroaded into marrying her because she was pregnant. Then now she wants to control the house, I'd ask him to DNA check those kids to make sure they're his. A woman who does not respect you and shows contempt to your parents can sleep with everyone from your guard to your next door neighbor.

That's the problem with all these fellowship and bible-business relationships. It starts off on an assumption that the world is good and certain "moral" standards must be followed. All woman thirst after bad boys, yet when some want to marry they look for a mugu to get married to.

The OP has probably refrained from dealing with his wife in the appropriate manner based on "biblical reasoning", trying to rationalize or be a loving husband. All moves which in my opinion are stupid and pointless. She's only pulling off all this rubbish because you're being a weakling and she has no respect.

Leave all these "new worlders" talking about slapping a woman being barbaric. Even in the so-called developed world, it was a tool for putting women in line until political correctness came into the world 30-40 years ago. Ever watched a Sean Connery Bond movie, he slapped plenty an erring broad.

Don't get me wrong, I believe if a woman errs to the point of total disrespect, a slap is only merited once in the lifetime of a relationship. Any woman who does not get the point after that should be divorced or disengaged from, don't let anyone turn you to a murderer or sadist.

Sometimes there are other ways of getting your point across. Arguing with her is a sign of weakness. If she is unreasonable so is reasoning with her. You can either choose to ignore or let her know that continuing with that attitude will earn her a divorce. If you choose you can start by locking the devil out of your house.

You're in an unfortunate position, but you need to correct it before you end up with further years of misery. This is Nigeria, where women want equality in order to disrespect a man, but won't remember equality when it comes to comes to contributing to the upkeep of a home or splitting a restaurant bill.

There are enough good and well-trained Nigerian women out there especially with scarcity of husbands, who deserve a meaningful relationship where problems are settled maturedly and everyone contributes their quota to making things work. Unfortunately, I don't know where you people meet these devils you end up marrying.

If you had read this thread before you met her, you wouldn't be suffering this nonsense now:

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

Lol...Nigerian women, always with the attitude, fall for it and you turn mugu. Every human emotion requires some form of control whether its anger, lust or joy, yet when it comes to love men simply want to open the floodgates and drown in it while ignoring the fact that the woman they're loving may be stepping out of line. When you lose control of something, it may very well drive you into the unknown. A relationship is a vehicle, guide it to where you'd like it to end, lose control and end up in a ditch.

All women respond to true control...

Mrs.Chima:


Even you laughed at the bullshit you wrote.

Still into the feminism business. I see its not treating you kindly...lol

Nduka no dey pay salary o...beware!

Harry Potter Pastors and their stories

Na wa o...some men no wan wait for the young to grow, they want to harvest early and ruin the future market value of the product...people are wicked sha.

He should go and get laid and stop being a monk.

ashmanpolo: Seriously i gave mine my ATM card and password for one whole week to use @ school.... Guess what, she withdrew only 3K from an account worth over 2M.
Isn't she the best babe ever?

Beware, she might be setting you up for the big withdrawal...lol.

Ahh...the good barrister is a time-tested player in this game. He has reiterated what I've been saying all along, any young woman looking to get hitched should focus on building her own value before finding a husband.

This age of DSTV and E! entertainment has left Nigerian women with Kim Kardashian-like expectations, forgetting that what works for those women they see on TV might not necessarily work for them. Stop investing in Brazilian hair and Makari and focus on self-development. Stop looking for ready-made Aliko's and focus on young men with plans and a future.

Rich young men are not stupid. More often than not they had a previous life where they were rejected, insulted and relegated to the background. When they become rich and have a bevy of young women flocking around, chances are they already know what you're after, why should they treat you with respect?

There are way too many women and few good men in the country for women to be spoilt for choice. Nigerian babes have an overwarped sense of self-importance. They should leave their movie lifestyles and focus on reality, role models like Kim K, Genevieve Nnaji and Rita Dominic won't pay off when you're 40 sitting in a church somewhere thinking "had I known". It's not by making noise.

Keep her away from your mother. You can't have one without the other. Better a home at peace than a home in disarray. Don't confuse your affection for your mother with maintaining the stability of your marriage.

Do it anonymously by filing a petition with CCB...else your life might be in danger. You go fear human cloning. Desperate times. Desperate measures.

African men are adventurous by nature, thus they need something to climb and conquer. Thus the lust for big big butt.ocks.

He wants the date. He should pay the toll..not like the babe indicated she was hungry and asked him on the date...besides she's actually going easy on him...some greedy vipers would have chosen an exotic venue, champagne and all.Ice cream and cake, please...that's reasonable.

Buy her a phone and use it to communicate with her. It's not that hard.

Can I sample the package before I decide to marry?