₦airaland Forum

Lol...the only advice for a single man searching for a wife is to "get money"...it works like a magnet...rather than looking for them, they'll be looking for you.

Charles1234: they are suppose to be handcuff that the way every developed country treat corrupt official pending when the investigation is concluded.

My brother "who will bell the cat?", who get fear handcuff big oga abi madam aka "do you know who I am?"...some people value their jobs o.

This is Nigeria, when you steal a couple of billions, you're allow to strut and swagger.

yeye4live: activist must chop na s he not a man

I tire. What did they expect? Besides what was the broad thinking when she slept with him without rubber? Are we sure it wasn't part of her plan.

The intention is half the crime done....so I guess it is cheating after all.

It wasn't Borno ..it was Yobe and it wasn't Shekau but one of his closest lieutenants, a one-eyed demon known as Bakaka. They killed plenty of the BH people and rounded them and their weapons.

Lol...trust me you probably wouldn't know what you'll say then...until it happens tho'

That is no burqa...and the veil covering is a cultural tradition that earlier applied to Jews, Christians and Muslims from long ago. No religion holds a monopoly on the usage.

Tell her to come over, let me help her "bulk" up....lol.... seriously tho...she should tell him to get with the program or leave her alone.

Rather than adhere to simple instructions....she feels she still has market value and is thus willing to accept the divorce and get back into the market... pride goeth before a downfall of a thousand steps...rather than kneel down and apologize now, you're there forming. You've been married for what, 5 years? 5 years of depreciation...your value has fallen considerably believe me.... better wise up before you find yourself on the streets. Younger women with degrees, manners, kitchen and dangerous s.exu.al skills are fully ready to benefit from your exit and take over where you're stu.pidity has clearly failed you....dey dere dey dull...you no know say husband scarce for market...marketable indeed.

You're in for a good life. Luxury cars, feeding, trips and bank accounts sponsored by clueless victims sorry faithful church members in the name of tithing.

I've actually been bundled by those miscreants before. Bundled into a bus, pepper sprayed and spent the night at their headquarters with no recourse to assistance. They are apes and someone needs to deal with them.

Jesus should come quickly. One pastor, three jets, anyway it's money from his "father" in heaven. Appropriating other people's money in the name of Sunday collection and tithing. The Pope that caters to over 1 billion Catholics doesn't have a private jet.

Una go hear am that day...

Nairalandi: Since she travelled to lagos for her IT our 3yr old relationship began to fall apart.I tried as much as I can to communicate but she does not respond well,always telling that her work does not allow her.it is affecting me seriously.I have tried everything possible to keep the relationship alive tru frequent communication but all to no avail.at night she will complain she is tired and wants to go bed.please what do I do to bring her mind home.or should I give a break..pls I need ur advice.

It's over son. Don't try to fix it. In fact its better you just disappear. That way when she comes back from IT, you might have a chance. But as far as she's in Lagos telling these stories, there's no amount of noise or stories you will tell that will change things. The more you push the worse it gets. Let her be and disappear. Find someone else to screw or something get your mind of it.

These stories need to be vetted, too many question marks, seems some people don't know the value of $2m as at 1998.

sadeiyare: I was dating this lady to the extent that we had fixed a date for our introduction. When she decided to opt out of the relationship. Knowing that both families have had some kind of pre-introduction formalities about the wedding, I asked her the obvious question, how she was going to tell her family that we are no-longer together, been that there wasn't any rift or quarel. Her reply to me was jaw dropping.
She said that she will tell her family that we did the normal pre-marital medical test and discovered that I was HIV positive, even when I am not.
I was dumbfounded, this was when I discovered that it was God that just saved me from entereing a dungeon.

If I may ask, what is the most ridiculous break-up story, your ex ever cooked up.

Women can be evil and selfish....more often than not. Proceed accordingly

I know I'll be crucified for this but I genuinely believe there's a big difference between wife battering and giving a woman a slap.

Some women have a mouth on them and if left unchecked can cause damage just by words alone...in some of these cases it is natural for a man pushed to the edge to issue a slap of caution and in order to stop the verbal assault. If not, she go just dey go dey go dey go, you know Nigerian women now. They run themselves down with words much less a man who they can ridicule in public. So sometimes you never know what provoked the slap.

To be frank, I've done it twice and in both instances it was provoked by the "mouth" issue and in both instances, the mistake was never repeated again by those who made it. However it was easy for them to market the issue to other people as "he slapped me" to which the normal question is "what did you do?". No normal man slaps his wife for no just cause. However, I believe if a woman's attitude makes you consider slapping her on a regular basis, you should exit that relationship there's no need being involved in something that brings out the worst in you. A marriage should have some mutual respect as a foundation not damaging your humanity and that of another person. Not something you want your kids to see.

As for the consistent battering of a woman for no just cause, that one is some sadistic stuff and trust me it usually applies to men who have issues that should ordinarily be evident during the dating period. Some people are just unstable. For some its an alcohol thing or they're just unbalanced.

One thing you should understand is that it's not about how it looks. It's about whether it works and the damage it may cause. The thing might look like a toy on sight but in application, don't doubt it's deadliness.

@OP Find your solution here:

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

LastApostle: That girl is worth more than a million naira to me. I am finding it hard to let go sincerely.

Consider it a business transaction, cut your losses and cash out early. Some investors never get their money back.

Agbesky: This must be a personal beef btw Jonah and ehindero

Abi o.....this is so suspicious

duke4ever: very much on point. Shows me you assimilated this issue very well. But, the question is, how many Naija ladies are willing to go by what you've stateD? Could it be that most are too lazy to think for themselves or something? You will discover that most of them have avoided this topic cos they hate the home truth. Only a handful may end up commenting on this issue.

Well it's to their benefit, if they don't listen they might end up single forever.

The summary of a typical Nigerian woman and contributions in a relationship is : "of no mean value"

They don't seem to understand that the best way to secure yourself in a relationship is to come with value. Because a woman of value is hard to discard.

Rather the concept of value these days is artificial: Brazilian hair, fake Louboutin's and co. My dears these things aren't adding value to any relationship and can easily be replicated by any woman out there with a budget. Real value does not wash as easily as makeup. A woman with real value is the main woman a man keeps even if he crosses the line occasionally, the rest will just be eye candy, babes of no real value.

Get value. Gather your degrees, get a good job, get alternative hobbies other than "Kim K and E! Entertainment", build your bank account, develop manners, learn how to cook a great deal, be receptive and giving to your partners while having a healthy sense of self-respect.

Show you have real value and a man will seek you out and if they don't seek out find someone with potential and contribute to that project.

Men respect true value. Chances are that if you are still single, you either have an overbloated sense of value or no value compared to the rest out there.

Babes who always wonder why fine young men get married to babes who might be ugly or average, it's all about true value.

superior1: 40 Laptops doing what they know best

Lol....thank you my brother...they must think we're stupid.

Lol...Nigeria...land of anything goes.

You go fear mafia banking now....December is around the corner, if she's not good looking enough to hustle the other way as her colleagues do....she had to pursue the outsourced armed robbery option...

Godogwu: 80%, dude that's a lie.....not possible

Where do you consider not a slum in Lagos? Is it Ikeja, Victoria Island, Ikoyi, Lekki, Festac....go to all those places and you'll find they are surrounded by slums.Do you know how big Lagos is? So everyone stays in these "non slum" places. Have you thought of where the hawkers, mechanics, newspaper sellers etc live?

80% of people in Lagos live like that....the rest are either in luxury or the sufferhead middle class. Yet, we want him to show us a different story because Nigerians don't like hearing the truth. All Lagosians live in Ikoyi and were born with an accent. Crazy people.

Funny how Nigerian musicians keep claiming "streets" and all they have to show for it is music videos in clubs with champagne or hotels. If our outdoor scenes were so wonderful they'd be shooting in these same "streets" not running to SA and Ghana to shoot music videos.

People need to see reality and stop thinking this is DSTV.

Men....screw this nonsense. I'm definitely not getting married...lol.. what kind of creatures are these?

She wants the "koko"....forget that testing you story....the problem is are you ready to give it to her and damn the consequences.....as a sure boy....

Hmmm....some people are award winners o.