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Those were the weapons of the Islamic terror group, Boko Haram seized on Tuesday by the JTF at the Daban Masara village in Monguno LGA of Borno state. The deadly weapons were being transported to their headquarters in Maiduguri, Borno state capital.

Lol....na wa o. This is the price of ignorance and incompetence. It's getting worse by the day.

MsDarkSkin: smh @ title.

Lol...that's the beauty of opinions, everyone's free to have 'em

These young men never learn

Indian film

Because the broad was just fronting the first place, familiarity may breed contempt but in some cases it breeds affection. A woman will love a monkey if he hangs around long enough and appeals to her psyche of self.

Lol so romance goes with finance? Ask me now whats the difference between you and a hooker?

Highbros: I don't understand girls these days o. I've been dating this girl for a year plus now and all has been going well with the relationship. I've been responsible for all her financial needs but the problem is; now she wants to go to the university, not that I have a problem with that but I proposed to her and she said yes but that'll be after her first-degree. that's where the problem is. This girl is 18 and very beautiful. The university is like freedom, anything can happen. Should I sponsor her to school first or?? Please, I need your advice.

Son, I hope I don't know this young girl or her father, you could be on the wrong end of a gun right now. 18 and you want to hold her down? Let the young bird roam free

Mrs.Chima:
You are right...it is easier to control a dummy. Having fun?

Dummies not really, just that all women like mind games. The moment you show them don't have time for that bull they turn right round, if they don't, then this brother bounces. Life's too short for drama.Why bother when you can get drama-free elsewhere? You dig?

Mrs.Chima:
2012 and mofos ARE STILL trying to control and get a woman.

True control works. Those who practice know what they preach.

Brand_new: I totally feel you bro! I sometimes prefer white girls to our Naija babes because they are up front about the whole thing. That`s much better than the pretenders i see around.

True that, at least with them you know what you're getting into. With the rest it's just pretend,pretend, pretend.

Try Planet Impossible....

SUMMARY:

20-24 - They think they're doing you a favour

25 -30 - They know you're doing them a favour

31 and above - The Lord is my Shepherd, I Shall Not Want

pro01: Keep shut, you ignoramus. How can you compare a mere communal head - and there are thousands of them in this funny jungle called Nigeria - to the Queen of England, who is the Head of State of England, the CONSTITUTIONAL monarch of the Commonwealth Realms, and the Supreme Governor of the Church of England. . .whose face is on the national currency? Are you daft or are you just mentally retarded?

To those of you who are asking the foooooolish question "who is Jonathan"? And saying that the Oba of Benin can choose not to see him? Smh. Your ignorance is worse than a terminal disease. You dumb kids don't know anything about constitutionalism and state protocol. The personality of the president is irrelevant, and so is your personal sentiments about him. What matters is the the individual occupying the office of the President and Commander-in-Chief of the Armed Forces is the MOST IMPORTANT individual in the land; the embodiment and personification of the Nigerian state, and MUST be respected as such by all other authorities in the land - be they temporal, spiritual, political, social, or legal.

The Oba of Benin, with due respect to the handful Bini people that venerate him, is not recognised by the Nigerian consitution. His position is completely devoid of any real significance other than traditional and ceremonial. He cannot overrate his importance in the Nigerian polity, much less arrogate to himself, the prerogative of defying protocol by choosing not to see the president. He realises that, of course, which is why he invited the president into his inner chamber - contrary to the claims of the OP. But for those of you here saying otherwise, you need to get a life. And in case you don't know, the traditional authorities are SUBORDINATE to political authority, and the law empowers even the governor to depose any traditional ruler in his state if need be.

You can worship your Oba for all I care, but don't make it seem like the rest of the country knows who the hell he is, or even gives a Bleep. Nothing pisses me off than an overbloated sense of self-importance.

Handful of Bini people? You forget the extent of the Benin Empire and people who are still subject to its traditional system, a majority who are non-Bini. I'd love to watch the government try and depose the Oba of Benin, if they won't perish in the chaos that follows, GEJ indeed, a spineless fellow. Who no come, no go know. As the Bini's would say: Oba ghator kpee. Ise.

Wahala dey o!

http://www.saharareporters.com/article/flight-9j-992-did-dana-air-purchase-aircraft-pre-existing-safety-problem

Una go fear movie now. See as police dey handle the so-called grenade like fresh cassava bread. See as the so-called culprit dey smile dey go. Really kak up come do suicide bombing. Nigeria sha...na so so story story, this thing looks staged if you ask me.

If you're in Lagos,Kano or Abuja and you're not rallying at the centres of protest around you and you're here on the Internet protesting fuel subsidy, you're a waste. For those rallying, the movement is towards the centres of government in all locations. They will yield before we break.

All this dilly dallying, the strike should be announced from January 3rd, that;s the only way the government will listen, don't give them time to negotiate or choose stories and options, do it while people are still at home for the holidays, cripple them, lets see who will budge. But alas, are Nigerians listening?

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Its faster here:

http://www.missitk.com/2011/12/10/wizkid-pakurumo-video/

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Mrs.Chima:
As much as I bark on this thread, my husband control the household and I am trying not to allow my alpha woman to unleash out of control so far so good.

Smart woman. You should teach these younger women a thing or two. Too much of Rita Dominic on TV is bad for their well-being.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ what r u on about?

@OP

Truth is only Nigerian men can actually cope with the demanding nature of Nigerian women, where the problem lies is when a Nigerian man sees he can get thrice what a Nigerian woman will give him for less than half the effort with some SA or Zim woman.

When Nigerian women see their men moving on to calmer and saner pastures, then they begin to direct their aggression at these women. Ask Nigerian women why within their own country they are so scared of Calabar babes.

^^^^^^^^ You're welcome. I'm glad it works for you.

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I just confirmed what I've suspected for a very long time. My fellow Nigerians are indeed daft.

IMHO Erastus Akingbola should be shot or hung from a noose until dead. Thieving b4stards stealing in the name of God!!!

2buff u r 2 much! Topic understood and summarized precisely.

Oyinda, I agree self-control is the aim on different levels but it's also a bit more. When I say control your woman, I mean control her reactions towards you, I don't mean control her like a zombie.

When you achieve true control, you earn respect from your woman and everything else follows.

pro01:
Bros, don't you think you're taking this true control thing too far? Control or no control, a woman who earns more than her man is likely to subject him to varying degrees of ridicule. Only patience and tolerance would make a man in that abominable situation weather the storm. And ONLY TRUE LOVE would make a woman respect and continually adore a husband that she's wealthier than, not 'true control'. Lest we mix things up, don't forget that the main element of true control (as described by you) is a certain self-absorbed aloofness and mind games that sends mixed signals to the woman of interest. I don't see how such mind games would work forever, especially when you are no longer 'mysterious' to her (after years of marriage, she go don see you finish).

The truth is that if you seek permanent CONTROL over a woman (i.e. all through till the very end), you have to unite elements of both artificial control and true control, and then pray that the vicissitudes of life do not rock the boat for you at any point in the future. So called 'true control' will be nothing but a farce in the long run if one does not make headway financially, socially and otherwise. How much 'true control' can you have when you can't provide a comfortable life for your wife and children? We live in a real world man, where reality rules. I know super-stud husbands who are held in scorn by their wives because "na so-so koboko he sabi, he wan break my waist for nothing, lazy stingy man - see him friend as he dey spoil im wife with money. . .she dey change cars like play".

We must understand that all these our schemes (true or artificial control) are essentially meant to boost our game - in the short term, to score with women, sow our wild oats, and enjoy our youth. Suggesting that 'true control' alone (without the elements of articial reinforcements) is the key to long term success will be patently fallacious. With women, there is no rule for long term success. That's why even the greatest seducers and playboys in history did not have successful marriages. Nothing, absolutely nothing, can guarantee a woman's devotion, loyalty and faithfulness to you in the long term. Not koboko, not charisma, not attention, not care, not even money. Nothing! Who doesn't know how fickle and insatiable women are? You may be a Koboko King but that wouldn't stop her from falling blissfully for the heavenly charm of her new colleague - and bleeping him for the emotional satisfaction it engenders. You may have all the money but give her little attention, and she'll find it in the arms of her daughter's lesson teacher. It goes on and on. . .

For long term relationships, you can't help but be yourself (warts and all), and the over-familiarity inherent in such close, long term unions necessarily eliminates the mystique factor upon which 'true control' depends. Only luck can give you a heavenly, down to earth woman that is capable of respecting and loving you, for good or bad, for eternity. When it comes to long term unions with women, only luck (or a great deal of tolerance) can bring success. Nothing else. . .certainly not 'true control' as defined here.

There's a reason it becomes true control, its true control because it becomes part of you. Its worked for me for 5 years and I have no intention of changing, I have a long-term relationship and she's as  happy as the word and I don't pretend about squat because control has become part of me. When you say you can't help but be yourself in a long-term relationship, you just don't get it, it's like you are still talking of something artificial something planned.

When I say true control, I mean be that person in control, do not pretend to be. It's not a mask, it's life changing surgery. Some skills you learn, some you are born with. True control is about unlearning the years of dumb things you thought would work and learning the things that do.

If you think I take it too far, well fine, but that's just the truth and the way life is. Just because you find women sexy, doesn't mean you try to screw everyone you meet. Just because you're in love, doesn't mean you have to act the fool. Just because you have money doesn't mean you should spend it all on something impulsive. If there was no control every man would have at least 10 kids and AIDS would have wiped away half the planet already,  there are rules to everything in life.

Women want a man in control, they just hate to admit it.

Think why it's a normal thing for a woman to stay home while a man makes all the money, but try being a stay-at-home Dad in Nigeria while your wife goes to work, lol, you won't hear the end of it from her, her friends, her family members etc. ("That lazy man!"

Even women who work and earn more than their husbands hold it over them and belittle them ( all those Nigerian men killing their Nurse wives in America for example, them don chop emasculation tire until frustration carry them enter murder. From artificial control where he tells his wife-to-be " follow me to America, I'll change your life" to no control where she's now working in America, earns more and asks you "do you pay the bills in this house?" and comes and goes as she pleases).

Equality does not work, women don't want to be treated like zombies and they shouldn't, but as far as relationships go a man has to be in control of himself or he's headed for a ditch.

If you have true control and self-respect, even when a woman earns more than you do, she knows who's in control of the relationship.

It's too much artificial control that makes a women who finds her liberation through her salary, come home to cuckold her man and tell him his life history. Nigerian men will use money control, age control and even job control and other forms of artificial control to maintain women, once such control goes, the women go.

True control on the other hand is a permanent thing and like someone here said it applies to everything in life.