Same guy same agenda. Leopard's don't change their spots easily especially where s-ex is concerned.

pro01:

@ Poster

For a widow to be mean enough to give you such blood-chilling threat (i.e, date me or get fired; a woman!), I won't be surprised if it's revealed that she had a hand in her husband's death. She could even be a fetish 'high priestess' of some deep sh*tt for all you care. Could use your 'juices' for whatever. These things happen.

Anyhow, use your head bruv. For me though, being a soldier by orientation, it's death before dishonour.

boy1:

B4 u go out with a widow,u must first ask her what killed d husband.

LWKMD!   That also means you should comply quick quick, else you could end up dead before you know it.

Woman wahala no go kill you! My friend read your books!

Ignore her. She'll make advances and try to find out why you're not reacting. When she does get her to come over to yours and when she does, make your move. You obviously haven't read The Lion and the Jewel by Wole Soyinka.

Joseph doesn't cut it here. She's not married and she wants to play, he's young and he needs pay. It's the way of the world and it should all work out for him in the end.

Lol, u in some fix my man. The thing about being the main guy in a relationship is that you have to contend with all the do-gooders out there. If your woman is fine, then you've got the whole army at your door trying to get a taste of what you're eating.




It's always exciting to a woman imagining what she doesn't have and could have.Let me predict your future son, he gets nicer you get angrier, she moves closer to him. All he has to do is keep being who he is. You're in a fix and there are only two ways to sort out your problem.



She's acting confused so I'd advice you to sort out her confusion. Dump her behind and move on. I give it six months max. Nice guys don't last.


The other method involves suffering and smiling and you need lots of money. Yup, you need gifts, trips out of your immediate environment and a whole bunch of stuff. Ignore the other guy even become friendly with him. That way you'll neutralize the opposition. She'll see you as the man with the goods and substance to back it and the other guy truly as "my good friend".



Whatever you do never ever bring the guy up again, even though it kills you.If you have to mention him, don't do it like your jealous, else you're done for, she'll walk over you, dump you in the end and leave you for a wreck.


I'd advise you to do the dumping and leave her to Mr. Actor, but you've been hit by the love bug. If you have money to play, play. Hopefully you'll gain back artificial control and work your way to true control. Whatever you do, don't let her see you bleed, its like inviting sharks to a feeding frenzy.

If you're confused it means you're considering it. So if you think it'll get you where you're going, go ahead. Also remember to keep a hidden video camera ready for evidence/blackmail. Because when the affection goes south you need to have backup.

This girl na thief, she has nothing to say worth reading.

I believe this is the reason some men beat their wives. OP are you castrated or perhaps you're the one wearing the brassiere in your marriage? Are you daft or you have just never stood up for yourself in your damn life? Did your mother marry the wife for you or did you marry her yourself?

If you have no balls, grow some. A woman you spent money on a wedding for is receiving calls in the middle of the night from a male friend you know nothing about. Just how daft are you? Is she your girlfriend or your wife. Under what circumstances did you marry her? She's crying and you're feeling sorry when you're the offended party. A real wife would report any funny movement instantly before it turned to something else. Instead yours is taking funny calls at night and you are there lying down quiet like a refugee that has no name, a dog chained by its master.

In 10 years time when you have kids, these are the type of women that will tell you the kids are not yours, that her friend slipped and  his kini found its way inside hers and thus Junior was born. Then you will come here and Nairalanders will devote and entire section to discuss your woes. Strike before the woman ruins you, my friend.


I don't care what these feminista's say, give the woman a good belting and throw her out of your house. When she learns the error of her ways, let her home, or let her hook up with her lover full time  and continue what they do at night in the daytime.

MsTom:

Dont wanna argue over infrastructures or what not. Things are not as perfect as you stated. Some people are moving back to nigeria or ghana to source for a living. Believe me. Used to live amongst Africans.

Now, what happens when you get a job of say 1million per month, get married, probably have kids and then both hubby and wife loses the job? Wont life continue? Didnt you do the right thing by getting married when you had money? Believe me, only few people save or invest. No one knows the future. Please answer these questions, then I would understand why you say he cannot get married.

With 1 million you could have saved enough. Even if you didn't save, you would have assets which you could pawn and cope with the situation of having no job. 40k is something else entirely. 40k a month means he earns 480,000k a year and probably saves none of it.

Let us assume the impossible, that  in this economy he has saved half his salary for a whole year in order to start his "happily" married life:

1. So he starts out with 200k

2.Rent in for a rundown location,if he lives in Lagos= 80k

He now has 120k

4. Furnishing his new location  with cheap furniture and the assorted kerosene stove =20k

We now have 100k

5. The wedding assuming he gets people to contribute and holds it in a very modest location. Traditional drinks for greedy village relatives included = 80k

We now have 20k

6. He starts out his marriage with 20k

7. Feeding is set at how much for the month, lets give him 15k for feeding


8. Transportation at 250 bucks a day for the month = 7.5k



9. Calls for the month @ 400 naira a week so for the month =2k



10. He has to cut his hair and at a cheap barber 150 bucks every week = 600 naira



11. He needs to purchase things in the house such as soap to wash their clothes, lotion, soap, deodorant etc =10k



12. The almighty Nigerian tithe = 4k


13. Let us assume he has a small debt or two to take care of = 4-9k


No newspapers, he doesn't drink beer, he never falls sick, he does not have a generator, neither does he buy fuel, has no younger ones to give money, never lends anyone a kobo,  doesn't buy new clothes or even books to advance his career prospects , wait.,we haven't even factored his new wife in all this , I don't think you people are serious.

If you lived in a country with infrastructure, great public schools, efficient and reliable transportation system, housing, low rate of unemployment and chances for career progression, perhaps I'd say go ahead. This is Nigeria, so don't be stupid. Have you noticed how all the people who are talking of marrying wives on 19k and 2,5k are talking of by the grace of God by the grace of God? Is it by the grace of God alone you want to train your future kids, open your damn eyes!

It is opinions like these that are the cause of so many criminals we have in society today, people with no money to maintain a home get married and start giving birth like rabbits, then when these children grow up in a Nigerian society that is as selfish as they come, they start looking for means to get money quick and fast because they are trying to escape the vicious cycle of poverty their parents brought them into.

Nigeria has no infrastructure period. How are you going to afford school fees, rent etc? Some people are here suggesting you put off having children for a while. I laugh. In Nigeria, where your relatives come knocking on your door after 1 year asking for grandkids? Don't put yourself in trouble in order to satisfy the urges of others. How much have you saved ? If you get sacked from your job after marriage what will you do?

Think of the people whose lives you want to ruin. Grace of God is a lazy man's prayer, God gives us all his grace, it is what we choose to do with it that counts. Sort out your problems first before you end up marrying a woman who will spend her night's in church doing night vigil praying for a miracle. God gives us all brains, use yours. This is why other countries are more developed than we are, other people approach problems practically, Nigerians approach problems hoping for the next miracle. Then when the miracle doesn't come they look for who to blame for their woes.I have given you the advice I will give any man and this is my second post on the matter. Open your eyes.

See Nairaland women out with their claws over  someone else's boyfriend, I didn't know y'all were so protective of your relationships. Abeg, OP do your worst, any chick who leaves her boyfriend with another chick until 3/4 a-m is not serious. Do they guy a favour and spice things up a little bit, lol, you're obviously itching for it.

40 k a month? My friend sort out your life first before end up in perpetual penury, do you know how much it takes to feed and clothe children? You want to get married simply because it feels good, forgetting the fact that there are consequences. This isn't 1920 when every man had a village and taking care of the family meant going to the farm early enough to work. This is 2010, you have rent costs, schools costs, entertainment costs and all what not. Evildoers are here advising you to go ahead with your marriage on a 40k salary, don't make that mistake. Think well before you act, calculate your current expenses and potential expenses after you get married and see how it all pans out. The wedding alone is enough to leave you indebted for the next 6 years ( you know Nigerians and their "big eye", they don't do small weddings).

Plan your life and become financially stable before you get married. Don't let love," vision" from your pastor or your woman's pressure trap you into something you regret later.

******walks in and shakes his head, mutters "Evil Women" under his breath and walks out******

platinumnk:

What about women who dont like to be controlled?
What about women doing their own thing and is not looking for the next mugu NOR is sleeping around town like a common harlot?


Who "controls" these women?
Control me . . for what? am i come kinda cattle?
Ure not affectionate, fine! I move on, don't worry about my facials, I pay for them myself!
What else are u seeking to control, when the guy don't even put gas in my car?
One cute guy doesn't mean there aren't going to other cute guys.
What goes around comes around period.
I have no patience for people to carry a "front" around me because you can quickly save it for some the next joker!

Though marriage is different than a relationship, a relationship reflects what marriage would be like.
A guy that pays no attention to you now, will do so in a marriage.
And what do u mean by a strong man? You mean in the bedroom? lol then I would say yes, it is a MUST.
But strong man as in overly stubborn, haughty and arrogant?
They can kiss it, were they also born by a woman?
There is a difference between authoritative than an authoritarian .

Nah, you've got it confused, thinking of true control as if it's about male chauvinism and arrogance, that's associated more with men of artificial control than true control. A man of true control makes love like a p0rn star, doesn't do the romance thing like a fool but when he does it he has he you dreaming about him all night because he does it with class. He's not clingy like goo, makes them funny jokes when he has to, but if you step out of line, he makes it quite clear that he's ready to walk and can do without you.

****walks in, shakes his head and mutters under his breath "All ye men of no control, when will ye learn?"****

The bank manager has artificial control and he is using it to play your woman like cybersleek's ukelele. A corps member dating another corp member is a recipe for disaster, who wants to bail who out, especially when its the sort of chick that doesn't come from a well-to-do home and is looking for money. All that one wey she dey talk na story, oga bank manager is screwing your woman five ways from Sunday and she wants to eat her cake and have it, she's crying and you're playing Oprah, are you trying to catch something like a bad STD or worse ?I'm sure you love her and screw without protection.  It's not your fault, you have no control.

Forget love, except you want to manage her like that and become a  bigger mugu. There are no two ways about controlling a woman, you either do it or suffer for not doing the control thing, this is my advice, if you like listen, if you like ignore it and listen to the fellow mugus and women who will throng this thread shortly looking for something silly to say.

This is what I implore ye to do in order to free thine self from bondage:

Invite her over, take whatever it is you have to take and screw her like a p0rn star. Give her the greatest f-uck of her life and then throw her out.  Nuff said.

You shouldn't lack potential suitors on Nairaland , especially if you put up a picture or sth, some NL members are career toasters

where is that guy who was talking about having an affair with a married woman? hope he's reading this before it is too late for him./,

Didn't they both die in the end?

jhonrider19:

It is really difficult to control a women. The tips given in this post are really good. I hope these tips will really help me in controlling my wife.

She's your wife, control should be relatively easier, however most men lose their footing in marriage by choosing to engage in unnecessary arguments with their wives and losing control in the process. Arguing with a woman just gives her leverage over you. The rules for married men differ to some degree from those that are just chasing girlfriends. Obviously you can't limit phone calls, spend 10% etc etc but the basic rules of control apply all the same. Self control is essential in not getting yourself dragged into arguments (that's their turf and they know how to use it against you).  If you have a point to make known, make it known  calmly and if she fails to see reason, the silent treatment is always a good option.Silence gives an advantage because then you say nothing that ca be used against you and women find it really irritating 'cos it means they don't have an idea what you're thinking about and they can't get under your skin. When she's ready to come around, she knows what to do.

Always ensure koboko control and fashion control is maintained, she has to constantly remember who she married. A good sense of humor is necessary as well in all situations. Ensure she respects you and don't defer any little problem you encounter to her all of the time. Women as a rule do NOT like men who whine. Listen to her talk instead of talking more than she does.

adosjun:

@tai2, you hv been awarded nairaland noble article prize. Dis is d best post i hv seen in NL. men don't love a woman like her n she will love u. Love her n u wash her red,blue and black pants.
My question: how do u control a lady dat is richer than u but she is crazy 4 your look. Prof Tai2.

She likes you so thats half the job done. But because she has more money than you she might occasionally think you are there cos of the money and try and use it to run your life. My advice, take no bull. If she steps out of line, treat her f-u-ck-ups. But also remember to be romantic every once in a while (use your own money). Always remember to maintain fashion control and koboko control is extremely important as well. But remember never let the fact that she has money come up in the relationship, NEVER mention it. NEVER focus on it and NEVER complain about it. If she crosses the line, treat her transgression as you would any other daughter of Eve. This sort of relationship is great sometimes because you never have to wonder whether she's with you because of your money, some of these women will lie through their teeth to get their hands on your wallet. If she has more than you, that's something you never have to worry about but remember to stay in control or else you will become a houseboy and p-u-ssy servicing machine.

Classical mugu. , all ye men of no control, learn the ways of true control and bury misery.

platinumnk:

To Op

Lol, ma, you're too tense, you need to chill a lil' bit. I'd offer a massage to loosen you up but,

Lol, she has a conscience so @ least she told you, makes her different from the 99% who don't tell, me I couldn't care either way, but go ahead and marry her she's better than most of the lot.

frank3.16:

This is an award wining post. Any man who does not accept that the posta speaks the truth certainly is not a part of king solomon's generation. He must b part of the generation of fooools. At poster, is your father a wise professor?

Yes he was. How did you know? Lol,

Why are you surprised? you have chosen to invest in the Bank of "Bia Bia". All deposit and no withdrawal, I hope you learn your lesson and find a better financial investment next time around. Bank of "Bia Bia" no get dividend and the money no dey yield interest.

Lol, that girl is nasty! What rattles me the most is that her "boyfriend" is probably somewhere whining while she has gone to "shake body small" for Chairman.

chipmunkey:

Wonders shall never end. Just can't stand girls like that. _irritating.

Girls like who? The one in the video?

VERY True. The problem is that there is too much stolen money in Nigeria, so guys are pleased to splurge on women all the time and women are pleased to receive (often without giving in return), we have the culture of loving to reap where you do not sow, thus women in Nigeria expect money that they didn't give you to keep. Abroad however, people are used to earning their own money so Nigerian women abroad do not get the same treatment from their non-Nigerian boyfriends and so they seek the comfort of familiar territory. However, the Nigerian men abroad who are professional toasters ( having learnt their skills chasing elusive Nigerian women) apply a measure of their charm to oyibo girls who are used to men of less talent. When these oyibo girls get a touch of the verbal skill, plus the special "koko" it's no going back for them. So the Nigerian men gets the best of loving from the oyibo chick and wonders what he was doing with Nigerian women all along chasing them with little in the way of appreciation.  So when Nigerian women abroad are looking for homegrown because their own oyibo boyfriends refuse to treat them the way we treat them and chase them, homegrown is busy enjoying what the Lord has done for him by way of oyibo chicks.

martinosi:

A video showing "Artificial Control!"

Big Bossman in Lagos Office Controlling Campus-chick lol

http://www./video/203794-9369533aae.html

Lol, kai, na wa o, I'm sure this is one Mugu Nairalander's babe, he has probably sent her enough recharge cards, which she used to call her Chairman, from there they scheduled a Chairmanly meeting in his office where they committed this dastardly act, 

Brother, free yourself from bondage and follow the way of true control. Nice guy and mugu are one and the same person and the road to Mugu-hood is paved with the bones of nice guys and their good intentions