Have you seen Coldfusion 9? You can do almost about anything in ColdFusion these days. Try drawing a graph in PHP.

Erm, me no speakey forum, which one be *death*?

The man just speaks in tongues. It was quite amusing when he spoke against people objecting to Goodluck Jonathan as acting president, 'cabodo rejectamenta". I'll be using that one in my prayers to 'bind' and 'loose' from now on,

If this man is causing you this much bitterness and you are sure you can not forgive him, leave and do things the right way.

You might be feeling this way because you met him young and due to the hurt, you wonder if things will be different? There is no 'yes' or 'no' answer to this question. Relationships involve a little bit of risk-taking. who's to say the next relationship will not be all sex and no substance? Or the next man will be better? You  don't know.

All I can say to you is life is too short for you to be this unhappy. Make yourself happy, but by all means, do so the right way.

I agree with chaircover. You need to learn to pu your foot down in this marriage without being insulting to him. He sounds like he has a very fragile ego (I've never met him so i don't know), but this iwll take a lot of wisdom and patience. Good marriages require DETERMINATION and HARD WORK.

IT IS WELL WITH YOU.

Start dating eachother again.

The guy should take the initiative for the first few months of the relationship, after which the woman should make occasional efforts to take him out. His birthday, valentines day, your anniversary, that is maximum 3 or 4 times a year, should not be too hard for a woman to do.

I sometimes surprise my husband by taking him out once in a while. He'll do the same too.

Forgive them but keep your distance form them, they are not to be trusted. Get a divorce, that marriage is over.

Sorry but you are a murderer. May God forgive you.

As a last resort. We spend a lot of time talking to the kids before resorting to smacking. As they have now become teenagers, we explain what was wrong with their behaviour and why they are being punished and do things like take away their pocket money or ground them.

When they were younger smacking seemed the easiest deterrent until they became old enough to talk to. I have not smacked my eldest since he was 10.

Mama gee, who says the husband can't take care of children? Some men are very good parents. What's important is that at least one parent loves and cares for them.

Not only would I do so, I will spend extra on nannies whose job it is to take care of them and a driver to take them wherever they want. It's the least I can do, in-laws or not.

Pray!! Talk to the child!! A lot!!

I trust in God first and not human beings. That way I am assured that no matter what happens, it will be okay. His thoughts towards me are of good and not of evil and he being the ultimate judge will decide.

But what kind of woman prays for her husband to be poor? So she can work like a dog all her life? Why live your life accepting defeat? Why avoid something that you don't know the outcome of? Will you refuse a job because you might get fired?

The heading of this thread, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart."

Works for me anyway, 

he should just give money instead.

If you are sure you have tired absoulutely everything. I almost divorced my husband 5 years ago, only for us to get back together and start again. Now I'm gad I did not. It's up to you, but please think it through thoroughly as it is a very emotionally draining experience.

To answer your question, there is no reason why you can't get a massage from a psysio. I would let my husband get one.

The gynaecological experience is not a pleasurable one, considering the sharp medevial instruments of torture used. Trust me on that one. The doctor is not turned on either, considering the wide range of diseases 'there' they see!

My children are raised in the good old-fashioned Nigerian way. They are both born-again, attend church etc, yet can still 'happen'among their mates. I'm not saying they are perfect, but that as parents, we have not tolerated any nonsense from our kids and the kids have responded well. It's a mixture of talking to the kids and being strict when we have to. White parents send their kids to our house to learn how to cook, make their beds and to behave.
My son prostrates for his elders, my daughter kneels. We are not living ina ghetto, the children go to private schools, we are both working in top companies (I can't not disclose, but that is not the issue).

It's a shame most Nigerian parents abroad copy the 'ghetto behaviour' of bad parents abroad (the real posh ones still hold on to old-fashioned values), thinking they are being  sophisticated. The strange thing is that in the Western world, the trend is moving back to old-fashioned values.

Read the 5 love languages. What one person calls love might be different from another. So you might be doing the right things, but not the right things for her. Find out what her love language is and work with that.

Both, God does not distinguish between who commits the sin.

Whether or not you toasted her, YOU could have said no.

I think what you did was very bad.

You way no one will find out and you're posting on this forum? Hmm,

Eventually you both will. Yes, you both wanted it, but the poor woman might lose her husband and a good relationship, all for what? 15 minutes of a 'sausage'? (Don't tell me you are an Adonis in bed, that's not the issue here). You've destroyed someone's marriage. I hope you don'#t get your comeuppance when you do get married and some 'uncle' starts to 'do' your wife., because 'they wanted it'.

OMG!!!

No.

What I'm saying is in cases of genuine love, age ain't nothing but a number.

But form what has been posted here, it looks like the love is either one-way or non-existent. Why would a woman who GENUINELY cares for her husband cheat on him, so blatantly as well?

There are some women who genuinely love the older ones they are married to. This one, however, is cheating on her husband so there must be something missing. I'm guessing it is sexual, I don't know for sure because I don't know her. Besides, isn't that what 'they' invented Viagra for?

Abi o, chaircover. I'm not 'dissing' the woman alone here o!

Fhemmy it is normal,. with men who don't know what they are doing.

I would call it off. I can't handle that situation personally.

I believe every individual has the right to financial independence, but if this is the case, then the wife should cover more of the bills. As long as the couple is happy,

Sounds like the step-mum was a gold-digger. Let's be fair, the younger man can probably satisfy her physical needs more than the older guy.

Does a widow count as a single mum?

No. I' have the right to something for myself. That reeks of a control freak to me.