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Oturugbeke!!

What Hairat said.

We had asmall registry wedding so we were not that tired.

What can I say, my husband's a lucky man,

Both.

Have you worked full-time, had two or three young children and done housework with no househelp? What energy will you have? Try helping more, or getting a house help or cleaning agency, whatever works. It's your home and as the head of the family it's yours to handle.

My husband is not the romantic type,but he did say, after I put on weight following the kids , "You will always be to me the most beautiful woman on earth." For him,that was a lot!!

So she has a past so what? Are you perfect? She loves you right now, she made mistakes, forgive her and move on. You have a good woman there and that is very rare. She may have slept with these guys because she was looking for someone to love her, only to be deceived.
Be man enough to stand up for her, be her covering and put her on a pedestal. You won't regret it.

We could not keep our hands off each other.

You will still find other people attractive if you are married. Just remember that 'grass is always greener on the other side' and it can cost you more than it is worth!! You already have someone who fulfils 70-90% of your requirements (no one is perfect, neither are you). Don't turn the remaining 10-30% into 70-90%, which is what most people do and end up with problems.

The key is to turn those sexual feelings on your spouse. If you felt 'one-kind' after seeing an attractive person that is not your spouse, come home and give them the best sex of their lives. It will bring you even closer to your spouse and might 'rekindle' the romance that might have been lost.

God loves you as you are. I have a very critical mother, it used to get on my nerves until I understood that God's opinion is what matters. It may also be that she wants the best for you and her criticism is her way of saying "you can do better". I didn't understand that about my mum until I turned 30.

Live every day like it was your last.

Who says a functional wife can't be good in bed? All it takes is enough pampering and a good makeover to turn a functional wife into an attractive one (watch any Tyra Banks show and you'll see what I mean). So go for the functional wife, your love will turn the attractiveness inside to the outside.

But to re-iterate what timothy001 said, she should convince you why you should trust her again. My opinion is that she should go, and I agree that she may have had more than one partner. She obviously is not remorseful, no begging,nothing and then expects you to take her back!! You are yopung and there is a lot ahead of you. You should not be dealing with this. You deserve a lot better!!

timpothy001, you obviously have not seen some people at some parties, total strangers going wild.

I had both living with me and got on well with them. I just ignored their quirks and made myself happy.

Very funny.

I have Igbo, Yorub and Urhobo blood in me, married to a Yoruba man. What kind of wife does that make me?

Actually,look at the relationship between him and all the women in his family. If his mum does everything for him or he is a mummy's boy, be prepared to spoil him. That union will work if you like to spoil your man.

If he is the sole beadwinner in the house, he is most likely to be a workaholic and will put hard work first. That union will work if you don't mind being second to work.

The same goes for girls and their fathers. I'm a daddy's girl, so I ended up with a man who took care of his baby sister and is quite used to women like me. There is no way I could have married a mama's boy.

They both have an addiction problem and should be sent to a drug rehabilitation clinic. It is not normal behaviour and they need HELP,not condemnation.

She's gotta go!

The problem is people don't know how to separate romance form marriage. Marriag eis what happens whenyou see the real person. I personally think if you can live with all the bad habits you see after the romance has faded, then marriage is for you. If you are realistically expecting the romance to last forever, then no, marriage is not for you.

Marriage takes DEDICATION and PATIENCE. The more of both you develop, the more successful it will be. I've been married for 15 years and I am still learning.

Do you love this man? If so it won't matter. There might be an attraction because you are used to taking care of siblings and will automatically do the same to him, and he might be used to being taken care of. But at long as you are both reasonable towards each other, there should not be a problem.

I do occasional short contracts in Brussels and it is generally peaceful. I do speak French,so it helps me a lot more, but I agree with the bureaucracy and aggressiveness in order to get things done. Apart form that the people are like anywhere else.

I do occasional short contracts in Brussels and it is generally peaceful. I do speak French,so it helps me a lot more, but I agree with the bureaucracy and aggressiveness in order to get things done. Apart form that the people are like anywhere else.

Thanks for that information, lawyer.

When I receive the documents, I'll contact you again.

I have an acquaintance I have worked with for a while. He claims to have bought some plots of land in Ajah, Lagos and God has led him to give me one plot. He is now going to transfer the deeds and other legal documents to me.

At this point, I am not getting excited over anything, because I have not been asked for any money, but I need to know what the documents should look like. Unfortunately, apart form being in church circles, this is not someone I know very well and the whole situation, despite my strong faith, seems too good to be true.

Please let me know in detail
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Thank you.