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[quote author=Efemena_xy]Na lie jor!

Eating yams nor go do the magic jare. I don try am tire so I know from experience!

~ Breakfast: Fried yam and stew with chicken

~ Lunch: Pounded yam and Ogbolo soup with cow leg, stock fish and king-sized prawns

~ Supper: Yam and pepper soup with goat meat.

~ Midnight snack: More Yams.

Ontop of all that, we painted the walls of our home blue, hubby ate lots of Okro and 24/7 bedmatics exercises.

So why dem nor gree come na?? [/quote]Eiya sorry,now I see why you dress you boys up like identical twins. I have younger ones that are twins,a boy and a girl,my father inlaw is a twin and my brother inlaw a twin as well but me I no get twin for body,my hubby dosnt want twins cause of wahala though I did love to have one. Growing up with my younger one was a movie and fun,the only part I don't like abt them is when it comes to giving them money,its always times 2 and each time I give taiwo the female either new cloths or my used ones,kenny comes for his and am forced to give him money to buy cloths. Taiwo gets jealous of that and returns d cloths instead in demand of money and still asks me to borrow her the same cloth she returned,come see kenny then as he no go gree taiwo wear the cloth o,confusion go come start with big quarrel. As the eldest if I try setling the issue I don enter pot of hot soup to be that oo.
Kai, its not easy raising kids oo. Uptill now even as adults as they are,if I call taiwo or chat with her without calling or chatting with kenny na big wahala o.

Its fun sha but their wahala too much.

sheniqua: Chei
I forgot the kids
Hehehehe
They are not that little so they can run out themselves

Lol

sheniqua: If na small fire and I have some few seconds

My handbag which has my drivers license,social security cards,checks ,credit and debit cards,insurance card ,phone and my IPad
The red folder with all our birth certificates,marriage license,professional license and travel passports

May not be able to get out the cars In the garage if the fire is in the kitchen where most fires start but will grab the key to the old Camry in the driveway so I can get to a hotel

Not my portion o Lord Jesus,my house is for sale.no fires o

Yes God forbids such happens but what about your kids

Symphony007: wow! What a story..thank God you made it out. I better modify this thrend from "fire" to all kinds of disaster.

By the way, what happened to the plantain and eggs?

The plantain and egg was history,found it when I started perceiving funny smell in my kitchen. Was rotten and spoilt on top of the kitchen cabinet where I threw it the night of the flood. Friends and colleagues feed me for the next 3days o.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Tayour, thank goodness you made it out alive and well.

But this your story sef, it's hard not to laugh, re: someone saving a wooden spoon? [/quote]Efe no be small thing oo,come and see me battling with frog on the tarred road. Cold wan kill me. All we could do was put kids into parked cars on d roads as very few had blankets and wrappers.

Siena: Taryour, you were so lucky! Thank God for the kind soul who risked his own life to save you.

You can say that again oga siena,I was damn lucky o cause while standing on the toilet sit,the water kept rising and my toilet sit was already covered and part of my feet too. I was screaming untop of my voice and crying my heart out.they brough light then and I saw everything in my room floating including my tv set,books,camp gas,pots,mattress e.t.c I got down and mistakenly my legs touched the extension cable wired from my kitchen to my room,the force at which I was trown at the wall I cand explain and I was just in the water,it was when my neighbour came in and lifted me up my eyes opened. We all spent the rest of the night on tarred road as we watched ppl belongings has they all sailed away freely in the flood. It was only God grace oo.

This thread is funny and makes me remember my experience with flood while I was still single and living in gwagwalada in abuja. I woke up 2am on a soaked mattress and rug,my books all soaked and there was no light. When it downed on me of what's happening,the rain was so heavy outside and everywhere was black out. The first thing I grabbed and saved was the plantain I had bought the previous night for my brkfast the next day with eggs. Then I went into my toilet and climbed on my toilet sit and started screaming for my neighbour to help me,obviously my voice was faint in the fall of the heavy rain. Next I started sending text messages to every contact on my phone "help,I am in trouble". I couldn't get down from the toilet sit cause I was scared to death,dint even have courage to open the door for fear of more flood coming in. It was not until after. Like 40 - 50min when my neighbour came to rescue me on out way out of my room I remembered my bag of credentials and my atm cards. Luckily for me it was just at d top most part of my wardrobe as all my cloths where already soaked.to make matters worse I heard the kanji dam was also open added to the rain wasn't funny at all.lots of helpless animals died and people drowned as well.

A family man living close by with 4kids and wife was so dis organised I heard the first thing he saved was omorogun(that wooden spoon used in making eba/garri) it was when his wife bite him with so much energy and a sounding slap he knew he had to save his kids.luckily to the glory of God they where saved.


So dear op,at that moment only God can direct someone to save the right thing.

Its so obvious,the woman is not human but only covered in human skin. Even animals in the forest will do no such thing to their babies.even a mad woman roaming about with her own child fights everyone who comes close to her just protecting her own child. Thank God for the little one.

passionate88: Hmmmm

Oh you went back to modify your post

Geomac: OP is a liar. He got it from the facebook and he twisted it.

Oga oo,see gap. 150k ratio 1million. This is a very serious case.

Wait a minute what are their job roles in the company

Ok

@op your husband is simply immature and not man enough, no matter the argument or misunderstanding no reason is enough to run away for weeks/months. its still understandable if he stays away for a night or a day,but for weeks and months is an act of cowardice and immaturity. If he can run away from home for 5yrs when he was still single and staying with his parents simply because of house chores then am not surprised at his actions now. What manner of grown up man runs away from home for months abandoning his wife and child


@efe I beg to disagree with you. What that man is doing is not enough reason abeg,he should grow up and be a man. How does he want to face more difficult challenges in life outside his home? Or if his child is being bullied or cheated in school or other public places will he run away for weeks and months because he dosnt like stress or wahala How does he handle arguments with friends and colleagues at his work place. Biko free the woman jare. Yes the woman has her own fault but it isn't enough reason to run away for months abandoning wife and kid(s). He should grow up jor

debrief08: Tayour I apologised na. Didn't see the part where she left them to be with another man.
Again am sorry

Coincidentally we posted it at the same time madam,no qualms at all sis. You know we women are all fighting for same course now so no issues at all trust me. If I have in anyway been rude to am sorry abeg,no insults intended.

debrief08: Again how was she to know that THEIR oWN Father will hurt them?
Why would the kids be angry with her? She ran away so she can be alive to care for them.
She is somewhere husstling probably carrying load to be sure the can eat.
She didn't hurt them their father did.
He is a bad man, he would have killed her and still abuse them because no one would have struggled custody for him if she was dead.
If she had stayed and died from complications from abuse would you be here blaming her?
She left so she can go and WORK and take care of them.
A man who will abuse his kids is a monster, he is responsible for his decisions, the woman left so she can be alive to care for her kids.
The woman was working to care for her kids instead of staying feeling sorry for her self and watching her kids starve?
Again how is she supposed to know that a man will abuse his own kids

why you they talk like this now debrief, "how is she supposed to know he will hurt his kids" a man that maltreated her till she left A bus driver? An agbero? Oh please spare me that debrief abeg. Of couse she knew they weren't safe which was the same reason she took them to her mother in the first place. She should have fought the battle till the end by going back and getting her kids. She fought for herself by leaving for her safety why not do the same for her kids

debrief08: Did she run and leave them behind?
She ran away with them and left them with her mother so she could go and struggle for them.
He went and picked HIS own kids from their grand mother and hurt them.
HIS KIDS not HIS STEP Children.
No family extended will meet and deny a man custody of his kids if the mother doesn't have the finances to keep them, no court will deny custody to the man if he hasn't hurt them, they will rule that divorce between spouses doesn't mean divorce from the kids. The father had not hurt them before, she wasn't a witch to know that THEIR OWN FATHER Will Rap3 them

@SisiKill, be patient jor, they will soon come, make this thread reach front page.

The woman MUST always take the blame for actions of another grown human being.

Even the 2nd paragraph of the story states it all,the daughters reported they have been going thru horrible experiences since their mother left for another man.


Even if at all the woman dint go to meet another man and only went to struggle,that what the kids will believe cause the yeye father must have filled their heads with all sorts of lies,neighbour will say the same as well and reign courses on the mother each time they see any of the kids un kept.

debrief08: Did she run and leave them behind?
She ran away with them and left them with her mother so she could go and struggle for them.
He went and picked HIS own kids from their grand mother and hurt them.
HIS KIDS not HIS STEP Children.
@SisiKill, be patient jor, they will soon come, make this thread reach front page.

The woman MUST always take the blame for actions of another grown human being.

You are very correct debrief,she left them with her mother. She must have heard of their father going to pick them from her mother now,WHY DINT SHE RETURN TO GET HER KIDS BACK TO SAFETY knowing fully well they weren't safe with that silly man For good 2 years that they where molested and she was away. Do you think those kids will b happy with her at all?

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Amazing isn't it? If you can't trust your husband with your children, who can you trust?

I'm surprised no one has come on to say the molestation is also the woman's fault. ...if she was around to fulfill her husband's sexxxxxxual needs, he wouldn't have had to get it from their 8 and 11 years old daughters.


@Topic
Can they just castrate him? This man is a pedophile and pedophiles can't curb their urges. ...they can't. Even if they lock him up now, he will get out someday....what happens then? I say do the little girls who might be unfortunate to cross his path a huge favor and just castrate him.[/quote]I am not leaving the useless man out of blame,for him to have acted such as battering his wife and doing such to his daughter makes him an animal. All am bringing out here is all this could have been avoided if those kids where not with him. If she can leave the man and run for her own safety then why allow her kids in such danger

debrief08: Tayour, You are not being realistic.
If a woman comes to your neighbourhood and starts crying that her husband should give her back her grown children, won't you be among those telling the woman to go and look for family to "settle" the matter?
Won't some people be asking her if the father is not their father and where she wants to take them too?
Won't she be castigated for wanting to deny the kids their father?
Even in court she will be asked where she wants to take the kids too and they will see if the father offers a better more condusive choice before awarding custody.
Why can't yo leave your kids with their father? Is he not their parent? Even if my husband hates me I will never expect that he will hurt my kids except it he did so while they were still together and from this story he didn't.
My Mum was in school while I was growing up and I spent most of th time with my father.
The man is a horrible man, don't turn it to her fault.

I am being very very realistic here debrief,I know abaranje very very well, abaranje isn't like lekki,ikoyi or the big places of lagos where ppl mind businesses and go to court. She isn't a stranger in that neibourhood,she will be well known with her family cause I guessed she lived there for a while and probably had those kids there. Hence those living in that environments her hubby and the kind of job he does,his way of life. Bus drvers that leave home at 4:30am and don't return till 12midnight,tell me what rubbish care he will give to those girls After he has taken lots of paraga and dealt with all sorts of ppl and various encounters with police and agberos screaming ontop of his voice on a daily basis.do you expect any iota of care or right thinking from such man Which am sure must have lead to him battering his wife before she left. Am also sure at some occasions he would have flooged hell out of those those kids since their mother whom he dishes his beatings on was no more there and on those occasions wouldn't neighbour have reigned blames and courses on their mother for leaving them behind How on earth was she able to have rest of mind knowing her kids where with such man for two years? Sending money for their upkeep is nothing oo, that's even if they where feeding well.

debrief08: Tayour did you read the story?
She said she left the girls with her mom, left her home where she was being battered even though she was responsible for the upkeep, she left the girls with her mom, their father went to take them, who will deny a man the custody of his kids? Except she went to court which am sure she couldn't afford to while she was trying to hustle for their feeding and probably education.
Please let's stop always trying to blamde women for the actions of others. They are his kids for Christ Sake, you can hate your husband or wife but no one will expect you to hurt your kids even the court.
The woman just left a home where she was unsafe and was trying to start a new life and provide for her kids.
The kids should be safe with their dad since they can't trust him who will they trust?
This is not some distant relative, its their father, even if she went to court a judge would have probably awarded custody to their father since they are above 8.
Please stop blaming people who did nothing wrong, blame the person who committed the act.
What was she suppose to do? Do you even know if she has a house where she is or if she is living on the streets or perching with someone and her only focus is saving enough money to care for her daughters?

My dear I understand you perfectly well,I read and understand the story very well too.she took a great step by leaving her husband for her safety. My point is that she must have been aware that the useless father had gone to take thoes kids from her mother where she left them initially. And for christ sake she herself knew leaving them$ with their father wasn't safe which was the reason she took them to her mother. Now my point is when she heard their father had taken them back,why dint she go back there and fought tooth and nail with the man to have them with her,even if it meant crying and attracting neighbours and sympathisers to her aid,and woe betide who will stop her then. Everyone in that environment can not be insane to see how insane it is for those kids to stay with their father alone at such age with the kind of job he does. What good thinking and act can come out of a bus driver/agero/tout who goes abt with messed up life. No matter how much suffering she was going tru in ibadan where she was,either squatting or living in a one room or half room or even an uncompleted building without a room,her kids are stil safe with her and would have provided them more protection. Debrief you and I know this very very well,NINE months isn't a joke oo. If I leave my husband (God forbid) I go with my kids either their father is rich or poor, good or bad. Gaskia

Siena: I'm sure the Bible Thumpers will arrive soon, saying "to err is human, to forgive is divine." In other words, this guy should be forgiven. Well, left to me, I would take a shotgun, and blow his ugly, misshapoen and incestous head clean off his shoulders.

Disgusting creature.

I agree with u mr siena. Plus the mother is very stupid and has more blame here than the devil in my own opinion,how can she leave her two daughters in lagos while she is in ibadan,knowing the kind of father they have? A bus driver for that matter. There is little or no responsible bus driver in Nigeria,especially in lagos,their whole life style is messed up.
That excuse of leaving them with her mother is trash,like she doesn't know their father could go pick them,or is she just getting to know the stupid father has his kids Useless mother,am sure she got her enjoyment to the feel with this reward. Going to live far from her kids at such age is wickedness as far as am concerned and she doesn't deserve forgiveness from her daughters either.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]

At least you don upgrade from that your Higher Education notebook

How family life? And Omomo? [/quote]Abi o,me sef wan feel among. Omomo dey o,can't wait to be done with it. How are yours too?

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Why was my post hidden now tgirl

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Boys, @OP, not men.

Real men don't shrink from their responsibilities.

Depending on the couple and how the woman's coping with her pregnancy, it can be a fun time and an opportunity to try out more things. New things that help spice up your bedmatics exercises. Do you know that some men find their heavily pregnant wives even more sexy? I don't know, maybe it the knowledge that the woman carries their seed, all rounded and protruded that turns them on...

And for many women, after the first trimester, their strength returns to them with renewed vigour. Hmmmm....I tell you, sex is so good at that point, never better. You get to sit atop your hubby...gives you a feeling of power, being in control, the dominant one...

Need I continue?? [/quote]Oh yes please continue,I got my notepad filling up.

I can't bear to watch that video so I no fit open d link,I got the broadcast yesterday night. Who the hell filmed the video? Have they been caught? I mean the kidnappers or how did the video come about? God be the innocent boy parent and give them strength to bear these great loss.

snthesis: tanx for the advice, but it is delaying the inevitable or making things worse cos the numbers i added will go up due to inflation.

mayb marriage can wait till i have money to throw away

If you go on in life with this kind of mentality,young man I really pity you. Who told you getting married and settling down is throwing money away or you have to spend millions to marry You still leaving in a free house which guess belongs to your parents and not a rented apartment. You don't have a property of your own and you talking of RR. You are opportuned to have such amount if its true,make use of your brain n spend it wisely. God help you

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[quote author=Efemena_xy]@BigZ Boy, ignore the other posters here jare. They don't know what they're talking about.

Seeing as you handle flashing the cash, berra do both: Marry the Range Rover then buy the wife.

Simple![/quote]Una no go kill me with laff this early momo efe,howdy

snthesis: dear NL members,
i need your advice.
i am in my late 20's got a good payin Job, unfortuntely/fortunately met a beautiful angel 5months ago ( twasnt planned). a few hours ago was almost tempted to ask her to marry me, but sum1 interrupted our blues.
so I'm back home, and contemplating my decision to settle down,
economically, it would involve
1. moving out of my rent free abode- accommodation (2yrs+ Agency) =1.9million naira
2. furnishing = 1million naira
3. wedding hall = 1million naira
4. entertainment of guest (traditional + white wedding) = 1million naira
5. Honeymoon tinz = 1million naira
grand total for settling down = 5.9million naira

alternatively
i cud just buy a tokunmbo Range Rover = 3.5million naira and use the change to be a "Bigs Boy"

i have the said money, so i aint sourcing, so pls by fellow NL members what should i Do, PROPOSE, marry, and settle down or buy a RANGE rOVER AND BE A bIGZ bOY.

You don't sound like you are in your late 20s,more like a teen. Grow up boy

mamatee: I remember whilst I was preggers with my 1st son, I cldnt eat d food I cooked. Ah my hubby see wahala cos I didn't let him rest always demanding for amala and ewedu, and if he didn't buy it there was trouble ooo. I had to call on one of my sisters' from kaduna to come and cook for me in abuja. Hmmmmm dat was how bad it was. Long throat (oju kokoro) did not let me rest ooo.At times I would just sit alone and just cry so much and then I wld ask myself what is really making me cry. And lest I forget I suffered a gr8 deal from morning sickness to the extent that I was so afraid of brushing my teeth for fear that I would throw-up.

No b small thing oo,unlike me,my vomit was in excess. I vomited at least 6 - 10 times a day,every day of the first 3months of my first baby's pregnancy. So the first 3months kept me at the hospital on countless drips and injections. If I should ever say a word as short as ME before brushing my tooth when I wake up is hell for me cause I would almost vomit my internal organs. I fearfully asked my doctors if I wunt vomit my baby out..

But my second baby wasn't as bad as my first,I vomited daily but not so much and na buka food I dey chop o,my hubby would carry food flask and go in search of buka food for me,I couldn't eat my food and sugar was my enemy. When I look back at those days,I just laugh at myself.

It is well with we mothers jare,God is our strength.