₦airaland Forum

Blaze14k:
Are you kinding me? Look apc came unprepared.. how can a government spend 6month without a minister. Covid 19 lockdown is not an excuse.

Ok lets take Russia and China for example. Russian is fighting a proxy for months now have u heard them complain of economic hardship. China is currently have a tight restrictions on COVID-19 yet they have not complained about economic hardship. The problem we have is we make excuse of everything and that is y we keep goin down a country. We are not yet ready to take responsibility of our actions.

Apc has no chance anymore cos they took us back 20 times more than where we were. Just few weeks they started putting things together and its too late.

God bless you ..i love your sense of humour

May God bless us with a positive and critical thinker changer

If na Nigeria now they will abuse the government as if thief's too are not in 9verseas mtheew

Nigerians kai

Jakumo:
Whenever you travel anywhere away from home, do NOT carry all your cash in a bag that can easily be grabbed.

Put some cash in a money belt, some in your underwear, and some cash in your shoes under your feet and wrapped in plastic.

If you get robbed, you will still have cash on you that way.

Some parts of London are notorious for motorcycle or scooter riding thieves who target people talking on their smart phones by riding up on them and grabbing the phones so fast the victim doesn't even have time to yell before the culprit is gone riding away at high speed.

bjtinz:
Well I agree to an extent, but the fact remains that FG, collecting the lion share of allocation should be doing a lot better.

Alot better like how
So buhari should be moving from state to state to do the job he has already delighted to sub governors under him


U get sense at all??

Even d palliative during covid that was discovered was never discovered in buhari's office i stead he has disbursed it to state governors which they failed to give citizens ....

So what more do we expect rather than d governor's should work more harder because president alone cannot do anything with them ..

PDP STARTED THE FAILING NA, SO IT DOESN'T START WITH APC SO I THINK WE STILL OWE APC ONE MORE TriAL TO RESTRUCTURE OR TO CONVINCE NIGERIA THEY ARE BETTER THAN PDP

ask yourself how much is crude oil per barrel when PDP was in power and now when APC entered power then
And 99% of Nigerians wealth are oil don't forget that .......

Then u will know reasons why borrowing of money for structures and d likes happens during APC regimen don't forget

Coronal virus lockdown endsars etc also happen during APC..
So this are technically issues that made a lot of economy goes wrong for u to understand better u will notice on many other countries today like UK US Canada Morocco etc ask their rent and food stuffs is more hike and costly than Nigeria


So the issue is not about APc spoil the country but APC just has bad luck because it's their time many things goes wrong ...

Blaze14k:
Why are these ppl trying to deceive us again. We asked the national assembly to restructure and amend the constitution buh they brushed it off. The other day we heard shettima sayin restructuring my foot. I wonder why they are laying blame cos it's expected. Most of all im shocked ppl still want to vote same apc. You guys are really crazy.

Ban on government officials from going abroad for medical treatment: FAILED

Public declaration of assets and liabilities: FAILED

Introduction of National Gender Policy and offer of 35 per cent appointment to women: FAILED

Creation of three million jobs per year: FAILED

The revival of Ajaokuta Steel Company: FAILED

Creation of a Social Welfare Programme where a minimum of N5000 would be paid to 25 million poorest and most vulnerable citizens: FAILED

Building one of the fastest-growing emerging economies in the world with a real GDP growth averaging 10 per cent annually. FAILED

Generation, transmission and distribution of at least 20,000 MW of electricity within four years and increasing to 50,000 MW with a view to achieving 24/7 uninterrupted power supply within 10 years. FAILED

Establishment of a free-tuition and scholarship scheme for pupils who have shown exceptional aptitude in science subjects at O/Levels to study ICT-related courses. FAILED

Creating additional middle-class of at least 2 million new homeowners in our first year in government and 1 million annually thereafter. FAILED

Creating a National Conflict Resolution Commission to prevent, mitigate and resolve civil conflicts within the polity. FAILED

Establishing a national mortgage system to lend funds at single-digit interest rates for prospective homeowners. FAILED

Raising life expectancy level by an additional 10 years on average – FAILED

Making free education at primary, secondary and tertiary levels for Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (STEM) and education – FAILED

Making naira stable at the international market – FAILED

Giving up to 20 per cent of the national budget for the educational sector while also making substantial investments in training quality teachers at all levels – FAILED

Establishing world-class sports academy and training institutes- FAILED

Establishing a strong business relationship with top emerging economies including Brazil, Russia, India and China (BRIC) and other strategic partners around the world – FAILED

All crimes on the last 2 weeks are all coming from Ogun state

Na only una dey Nigeria

Ok

Sweetvie:
Hmm
I understand you. Then why do you want to get married? A marriage without love and understanding is nothing and won't last.

Thanks bro

Oddfinder01:
Adeleke has 4 four years to reapoint them after due process.
How can u just wake up and appoint 12k civil servants immediately u lost ur reelection? Is he mad? Wat has he been doing all these years? He was busy embezzling monies that was supposed to take care of employments and promotions

Ok now I understand you ..

It's not adelekes fault then

Ok

delzbaba:
Just imagine those 12000 people are linked to another 120,000 people in the state and they will hold a grudge against him that will spread to another 120,000 people, then he won't win reelection.

Infact many that voted for him and that supported him wholeheartedly will also be among the sacked workers

Christistruth00:
Do you know that he has deposed 3 Traditional rulers in Ikirun, Igbajo, Ire

and you know that the People in those Towns can fight for Africa

Towns that already had a huge reputation as Warriors

Adeleke must cool down because we must not hear even “ Pim” in Osun

It took more than 20 years to settle the Modakeke/Ife Crisis

My problem is part of those that voted for him to enter power too will loose their job

What a pity

Sweetvie:
Hmm
Marriage is a big deal
Tho' it's good to marry someone that love you more but it more better if both side feel same.
You guys will really gonna av issue coz what you can take/ endure if you love her, you can't if you don't love her.
Why don't you like her?

My brother nothing OO is just bxos of my own past experiences that is making me fear woman to lay down my heart for them

U should understand me technically now ...


Women are not worthy to give your heart because they can undo at anytime

What are d east governor doing with all the attrocities on the region

Obi and Ikpeazu

lilmax:
well I didn't read your story

but the comments here says you're foolish


I believe those comments

;Du don smoke weed i swear

How d are u cos according to wat i understand in ur writeup was that u got.marroed to her because.of.sex and nothing else

What i noticed is that my past experiences Abt loving the wrong people and later finding my wanting that's why am finding it hard to fall again ...cos if she is angry sometimes to an extent of leaving and not dating me again that's when I realise i won't want her to go or leave me alone

Meaning i like hard and found her acttractive but the love is not yet in me cos am afraid of women ..

My experience is really hectic Abt them

Desusi:
Wow,you don't really love her and you're about to marry her despite what you have heard her saying about you?Marriage is a relatioship between two people who are deeply in love with each other.if the love is on one sided love, l doubt if it could work.Where there's a mutual love by both,you would always fall in love with her over and over again, no matter what be tides. Marriage is a life's journey, and lots of things are associated with it.

Yes sure i found her acttractive
But sometimes if she is angry to extent that she will stop loving me that's when I will realise that i need her and don't want her to leave me

So a friend of mine was telling me that maybe because of my bad past experiences Abt falling in love that's why I am too hard to fall again ..
That not that i don't like d girl in d picture but am just too afraid

Emaprince:
If she truly love you, its very good to wife her. You may not really be in love with her. You don't need to fall in love.. Falling in love is feminine..it is designed for women, not men. As long as you find her attractive and believe you won't be bored with her soon, you are good. She will treat you like a king if she truly love you. But don't take it for granted and treat her bad. I am one that loves to return every good gesture in double fold. Her love for you should motive you to work hard and be the best man you can be and make her proud for choosing you.

If you are not attracted to her..then bail out. If I am not attracted to a woman sexually, even with the best of good morals, I no do...I'm not interested in breaking any ones heart.

Be sure she doesn't have any one on the corner though. Women dey confuse me these days. They will love you and still be getting humped by some unserious folks. Guess its the Badboy thrill.

They are easily influenced and swayed too. So the love you see today may dissappear tomorrow. You should hope for the best but always expect the worst so you dont get knocked out by the worst surprise.

I wish you luck.

streetwise2015:
In all my experiences so far in relationships this is best lady for you to marry..The one that loves you more than you love her..It’s a cheat code

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Thanks bro for d info

harmony75:
let her go if you know you don't love her.. Don't try it if you don't love her it will not last na you go frustrate Las Las you think you're wise!

But my problem again is those ones have once loved ehn will never stay with me i will b d one chasing them up and down ..so am kind of fedup with such that's why am thinking of giving this a trial maybe i will soon love her as time flies

Am planning on getting married soon but d few problem is I DONT REALLY LOVE HER
but she loved me 100 % with her life and have tested her in many ways infact she told her elder sister secretly Abt it too and her friend on her chat which she didn't know i saw all of this proclaiming the love she have for me ....

With ur idea can I still marry such a lady

Emaprince:
Anyway any man getting married should be very sure that he is financially capable of taking good care of his wife and kids. No man should be out there looking for what a woman brings to the table. A womans gift sef is like the devils gift. If she do anything for you today, it will be used against you tomorrow. So pray against becoming a man that may, at one point, need a woman as your helper..rather be the helper of women. You really have to work your socks off to make sure your wife and kids are well taken care of. Pray as well that God bless the works of your hands. Do not make any sacrifices for your wife which will make your only means of income which place s you as the provider slip away. I have heard of men quit their jobs just to join their wives who are working abroad or in another state..only to get their and become a house boy.

Never ever trust a woman!!!.... not even your wife. This will help you cushion the effect of the heart break or heart attack you might get on finding out that becoming a wife doesn't make any woman a saint. In todays world of social media..where women will do anything for validation. she won't even need to move out. Just indoors posting sultry pics on tiktoks..IG etc getting likes and the consequent advances and hence may end up sneaking around. Just know your wife is not exempted from wanting attention from other men. Every women wants a piece of the attention from the wolves out there.

If you are igbo ..prepare to have your wives siblings coming over to stay regularly. Your own siblings will be distanced from you cos they will never be comfortable in your home anymore. Thanks to your wife's hostility towards them. Women that makes their inlaws comfortable are 1 in a million. Do not stop rendering help to your siblings, but they don't have to come to your place to get it. If you have the capacity, you can set them up to stand on their own.

Do not beat your wife. Never ever do it. See eh..silent treatment pains women more than physical abuse. If she annoys you to a point you feel like hitting her, give her the silent treatment and stay the Bleep away from her for a while. But she will only feel the effect if you are financially important o..cos she can't stand thinking of another woman giving you peace of mind and possibly snatching you. A rich man is a jewel to his wife...you see as E money wife dey praise the guy? If you no get shi shi... she may not care. This means in all you do, strive to get your pocket phat.

Lastly. NEVER fall in love. You will be acting like a fool in the name of love. Treat your woman well provide for her. But run from falling in love, so you won't be applauding her for behaving badly. Or commit suicide if you find her chat with another man. Every woman is replaceable.

Am planning on getting married soon but d few problem is I DONT REALLY LOVE HER
but she loved me 100 % with her life and have tested her in many ways infact she told her elder sister secretly Abt it too and her friend on her chat which she didn't know i saw all of this proclaiming the love she have for me ....

With ur idea can I still marry such a lady ??

Sweetvie:
Marriage is not easy
Marry someone who's ready to stand with you. Someone who is ready to help you achieve ur dream. Marry a woman that see things in same view as you.
As the head of the house be ready for challenges. Yeah, no marriage is perfect... No person is perfect so don't be surprise if there's little changes in ur partner be mature enough to handle the situation.
Lastly, communication is the key to every relationship. It for better for worst so don't be ashame to share secret, don't keep things from each other it do cause a lot of misunderstanding in marriage. Let your wife/ husband be ur best pal

Rubbiish:
All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.

God bless you i was about saying similar thing too before u dropped a bomb shell ...

All this love of a thing are all infactuations on d pit of hell...

A man just need to be bouyant and ready to take responsibility then love may later find a way to come in to make marriage work

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!

Since u are d only son that's a big cheating or rather she is under spell cos how can a man will want to come and love in a woman's house??

And yet the woman will want to send his only son out of the house because of this man ......

Please do this .....
Don't leave the house
Don't eat her food, or stay away from items of the mouth from her...
Report to the case to d police station and make her aware of it so she won't want to poison u or whatever..
Also tell ur uncle often d updates ...

Or ARE U SURE SHE IS NOT THE ONE THAT KILLED YOUR DAD IN THE FIRST PLACE

Am seeing Jagaban in aso rock already

Ademola47:
Nairalanders, which nation (team) are you rooting for as the 2022 World Cup winner.

Mine is Argentina.

Mine is Nigeria but in another 4years time

Terror48:
Shut up there? You guys disgust me so much with this attitude.Nigeria is a religious country and the most corrupt.Go to every street in Nigeria, you will find a church and even mosque,yet there is still corruption everywhere.

Don't mind them my brother ...

They try tod relate everything to religion and in most case our attitude lifestyle behavior is the key in achieving most thing

shortgun:
We always want God to do things we can always do ourselves.

God bless you for this speech religion no dey make us understand facts and reality again

nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.

U are only after her beauty from onset and didn't investigate all this before saying u want to marry her ...

Love has blocked ur eyes..

.this man is beating around the bush

Abeg keep your vote for jagaban..

APC BA THE SUREST

HomeTutorsPro:
As for you the man in a dilemma, this is NAIRALAND.
Any advice you receive here should contribute not more than 10% of your decision-making reason.
There are people who court women for years living in same house with them and still see hell after marriage.
There are also people who marry within weeks of meeting and enjoy bliss in their marriage.
Just follow your heart and don't let nairaland rob you off a possible good woman.
I am not saying you should go ahead and marry her.
I am saying she could be a good woman.
Just make sure that trusted relatives check her out thoroughly.
And hey!
December is too early.
Just give it a little more time.
Another 3 to 4 months won't be a bad idea.
All the best.

My brother you are God sent am actually facing similar issue too after 5 years of dating then getting married to her was d greatest mistake of my life ..
I think the game of marriage love or relationship don't have formular make person just pray for grace

God bless you my brother
That's why I agreed sometimes that dating relationship orarriage doesn't have rules and is a black market ...
Nobody can be produ Abt getting it right only by the Grace of the almighty God

generalwo:
..... I once met a lady who i thought was the queen of the world at the time....
Her true nature came out when she got pregnant and knew i cared for her and the baby so much...

Long story short, after met her, i lost my job, became a serial debtor and not on good terms with my family....

Guess what, she left with my kid in the middle of all these...

My greatest happiness is that i was never married to her...

Things are looking up now that she's out of the picture (though I still keep in touch because of my kid).

I'm not saying your woman will be like that but just be careful.

At one point in our lives, our worst exes were once the best persons we have met.

Time Nd circumstances change people.

May the heavens not allow you make a grave mistake..... Amen

Nazgul:
The mistake you made was telling her that you're in the UK. If you had told her you're in northern Nigeria and she still showed seriousness, you could have concluded that she's into you. Cos no girl who you tell that you're in UK, US or Canada would turn you down. You're like an answered prayer to them.

My brother u no lie even me too I will control myself just to become a UK citizen soonest