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you have got a mail sir

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netotse: Did you get it?

No sir... I didn't sir

KanwuliaJara: My point is that THEY ALL SURVIVED. . . , . and did make the best of the worst situations!
The world is all about SURVIVING!
No need for pity parties!

Only STRONG ROLE MODELS should mentor the weak. Not DEPRESSED PEEPS! Nothing like a bunch of miserable people getting together!
TOTAL DISASTER!

yes they all did... But do know how many go thru that route and never survived...

Bride price is one of smallest if not d smallest thing to be worried abt it... The whole wedding expense.. Apart from d bride price I tink everyoda thing should be shared..

Una neva marry she don dai run u mamiwater package... As my friends wuld say.. But man gat to do wat he gat to do...

Thanks

Thanks for the iinfo okeke... But no everyone has d luxury of fixing things in relevant places as u av written. So does dat mean since av not fix things I shld not av objectives...

hispinkolo: Hello Peopleeeeee
Hope everyone is doing fantastic!


@DIDIVA
it is well..as I'll always say,keep doing your best and face front.It's quite difficult to do,but it gets easier with time.

I think that most nice guys,or lemme say the people pleasers are just this way..Everyone must be made happy at all times..well,everyone except you probably because he knows if he offends you,he can come home and beg and you'll forgive.The price we have to pay.


@cococandy,Your hubby needs to come and teach us how to be so organised!sometimes,I'm just a mess no matter how hard I try.


NUMBER 2 THING I LOVE ABOUT HUBBY


He is nice...everyone likes him.Nice to the extent of displeasing himself just so everyone else will be happy.
This is a trait I love and hate at the same time..I love the fact that my whole family love him,and use him as a standard to measure most guys.I love when I'm the focus of his niceness..I hate it when everyone else enjoys the niceness at my expense.Am I being selfish?Maybe I don't like sharing? Or maybe I'm not that sacrificial.No,I think I'm a reasonable person judging by my track record.I just don't like feeling cheated all in the name of pleasing people.
I sometimes wonder if I'd have preferred a normal guy who is just okay to Mr Nice guy.

FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE


I remember one time when one blessed babe kept calling him cos she wanted advice on some wierd stuff.I picked up a few times cos he was sick of her calls but Mr Nice guy couldn't say my friend stop calling me over useless things because the babe was introduced to him by his brother.she used to ask weird stuff like weight loss advice as if my hubby is a gym instructor
Omo,I told the man to dismiss her OR extra pepper in food.So he resorted to not answering her calls at all.She then sent some sort of rude text saying yea she knows he must be busy but he should at least try to pick her call or call back,that she needs help,who knows if he will need help tomorrow etc.I turned the 'you go die today' eye on hubby and he called her right there,answered her questions curtly and dropped the phone.
Next couple of days she sent him an invite to her graduation..We also knew people graduating so we went.I baffed up well well..killer jumpsuit,high heels,well manicured nails,everything was hot I even had to praise myself.I was giddy with delight when other dudes were looking at me and suddenly hubby was holding my hand,trying to hold my waist etc.

Finally,I heard a shrill voice saying hello to hubby..When I looked ehhh I hissed spiritually..so this is the cockroach that has been disturbing our phone?She got a gooood look at me,a good whiff of my perfume,ended up serving me correct pepper soup that night and that was it.She disappeared.

I don't know why I was so worked up..I think I had excess energy and at the time I was sooo fearful of the dreaded 'cheating'..I should have trusted that he knew where to draw the line but I just felt Abeg his Mr Nice Guy persona may be sending the wrong message or in some way trying not to hurt her feelings by telling her to stop calling.

Now I'm older I don't bother myself,I cringe when I remember how I was making such a fuss over rubbish..We are both adults,and both responsible for our actions and he hasn't ever given me any reason to be suspicious,neither have I given him any reason to suspect me so far.We are both doing what we can..I know I'm not giving my best yet(after getting hurt by his nonsense niceness) but we are doing great and are happy..one day at a time.I know the time is coming when I'll be free once more and love back without reservation.

I'm ramblinggg o jare!

Wow dat great... U not rambling at all.. It just cooling of steam as I call it.. U feel a lot better and lighter. U should do so often.. Takia and enjoy ur marriage...

Ama80: Tank u so much Temi.my kids hapines wl alwyz b my priority maried or separatd.

None of the above..still single... So whatever it comes to let us know how it goes... I wish u luck sis.. And pls get urself tested for stds and d likes has d oda guy has stated.. Stay safe..

santakris: https://www.nairaland.com/1379574/mtn-customer-care-thread/68#25418449 contact jidesm.

thanks boss

JideSM: Hi. At least one of the sim slot is not locked. You can easily get a sim at our office to use with the device. There is no free data upon purchase, although there are other freebies attached. For full details, you may need to visit any of our offices.

broda jiide.. God evening pls ma BBM is not workiing with my mobile data ( I use mtn data share plan)except I use wireless connection.. Pls is dere a way around dis

Please gurus, I use a samsung galaxy note 10.1.. But my BBM does not work with my mobile data( I use mtn data share) I can't send or receive messages.. But when I connect to a wireless network or hotspot.. It seems to work well.. Pls help me solve dis problem.. Thanks in advance

@dspecialist
Its quite tough. Ive seen a similar situation among a husband and wife who has been married for more than 20 yrs. When
the lady confronted the husband, he said he saw the pix flying around and he joined the fun. From your explanations so far,
i believe you just saw the ladies pictures and not your husband with her, so there is possibilities of denial as well.
Its a really tight situation. The descision is yours to make, we can just advice. The family i know this happened to, the lady
knew he cheated but couldnt prove it, she was hrt broken but still held on to the marriage but made more diggins. Tapped
the husband line and all. Eventually she nailed the husband and despite allllllllll evidence the man still kept denying.
Because the marriage already bore children she just stood for her children and stoped having intimacy with the husband.
Thats a scenario, first question you should ask yourself is if you want to stick to the marriage and win your man back if
hes worth it, second is if you cant live with such thoughts and want to leave. If you want to keep the relationship, confront
him now and what ever reason he give you would build up from there, but i personally believe he's going to deny. Second
option, build up on the case since you have a leverage and he doesnt know yet, you dont have to trail, just tap his phone.
There are several softwares that does that on the IOS and Android markets. Install one, you can then listen to all his phone
calls, here his conversations whenever you want and even use his phone to snap when hez not aware. But know that after
knowing all these, it would be difficult for you to keep the marriage because you would have had concrete evidence to face
him.

The fact that he was abe to prove the father wrong is one way of pay back.. Anoda way is to just treat him like a father and do in arms length by that I mean.. Probably sending cash and d likes to take care of his needs.. Whether he ask for it not... D man wuld no he doesn't deserve it... Now the holy book says we shld takia of those who do not wish us well by doing that we are pouring coals of fire on dere head... And it also says we shld honour our parents (weda dai Bleep up or not since dere is no condition attached) just honour them so dat ur days wuld b long..

Ama80: D mariage is dead either way.how can i condone ds insanity.

dis is the thread www.nairaland.com/1817310/counselling-strictly-couples-intending-couples/11

Ama80: 8Yrs old mariage.he is very discreet at wateva he does so found it difcult to acuse hm but my suspicion has alwys been thr n it has been ds same loose brain.it s not abt cheatin itslf but ds madnes,i mean hw bad can it get.each time i view ds pixs,i feel raged.

hmm... Ur marriage is pretty young.. Your hubby has made things very difflicult.. It is one thing to cheat and anoda thing to rob it on ur partner's face. pls avoid looking at those pictures it would make you feel worse. it might affect whatever decision u decide to make.. If I tell u it is gonna be easy I will be lieing to u.. The decision is for u to make and all we can do is advise it is you dat know where the shoe pinches.. I would suggest u find a very good time to confront him of your findings.. Whatever he says and whatever you decide will help you know how u would handle these.. I hope u av a job and if u do have children pls put dem into consideration in whatever decision u decide to make.. Dere is d thread for married peeps on NL.. I wuld get you the link am sure dai would help thru these... All is well.. All is well.. The lord is with you..

Graviton2: 100+ likes.

Preparation is key. This is the reason I changed my mind about travelling this year. Don't travel except you are certain everything is in place.

yes oo brodaly... So that u don't get their and u get hanged cos of finances and u call ur sponsor and u hear siituation very critical at home... So man must plan for contingency... Just incase no body prays for it but it happens...

tonyx4x44: the first one!


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pls help with these....

temi4fash: Op , May God cont to bleSs u for us.. I use a samsumg galaxy note 10.1... Seems to be haviing in compartabilty issues and money issues on sum games on playstore... Can any one pls give the link a very gud arcade and car racing games I wuld enjoy pls and also some very important and make sense apps.. Thanks

tonyx4x44: the first one!


both apps perform like function

Mehn obodo america no be beans mehn.... Make I still dai find schools and prepare wella.. To avoid stories dat touch...

Ama80: D mariage is dead either way.how can i condone ds insanity.

u don't av to... If u don't want to... First thngs first.. How old is ur marriage??.. Was he like dis before u married hiim... When u were dating did he cheat on u or tendencies to do so.. Dere must av been red flags u ignored.. Ans all dis and let us know where we are.. Dis marriage can stil work.. If u pple want it to..

Ama80: Thinkin d same tin.

then d marriage is as good as dead...

Op , May God cont to bleSs u for us.. I use a samsumg galaxy note 10.1... Seems to be haviing in compartabilty issues and money issues on sum games on playstore... Can any one pls give the link a very gud arcade and car racing games I wuld enjoy pls and also some very important and make sense apps.. Thanks

ibkgab001: Now I see more reasons why God is against you people despite been blessed with more resources your Parents wandering around the street to get 1 tin cup of Garri to survive ... Hold on to your God vengeane there is always a way for us who trust and have Faith in Him

are u sure everything is alright..

Use to be a left handed but was beaten and forced to use my right.. Now I use my right for writing and left for every oda thing... Do u know dat leg legged footballers av d hottest shot in foot ball...

carmelion: Hello everyone.......

wehere av been

sandra50: I'm lily doll,I want to share my not so nice love story with ladies.he was my everytin,I built my world around him with a very tall fence so no one could enter..I was told by friends not to put my eggs in one basket but I told them not with my nedu.

We were more than friends infact he was my best friend.we did a lot 2gether,the way we played and laughed like the whole world belonged to us.u gave me a reason to be happy...my friend,my brother,my daddy and my family...all these was what u were to me.


It was like a night mare when all of a sudden u started to change,u nolonger call me those names u know I like being called and then u started having reasons why we wld not be seeing as often as we used to(one in 2weeks became to often for us to see)I called endlessly but u wldnt pick and when u finaly do,it wldnt last upto a min cos u had to excuse ur self from who ever u were with.


U didn't know how to tell me it was over cos u didn't know how I wld take it after taking 4years of my time but some how some how,u did it and my world came crumbling,I felt so alone but it didn't touch u.u pleaded that I hang out with friends but I couldn't cos if it was not u,it couldn't never be like u but some how I think God save me on time,u got fed up for no reason..that simply shows u can not put up with one wife for the rest of ur life.

O my God am so so sowi.. it happened that way..

Am not going to be making excuses for him.. but i want you to know all is well and it was better he left now that you can get alot of other options than leaving when then are minima options..

U made him give u a reason to be happy but u have to find urself a reason to b happy...

nobody is worth pausing ur life over.. if you had all d fun u said u have i abt 70% sure is gonna comeback.. but u dont av to wait for that,, let the joy come from within not from anybody who culd toil with it anytime dai chose..

Shalom.

It is well.. the lordis with u

Ishilove: Don't mind the yeye lipseal. When he was writing thesis dissertation on the first page, detailing the transactions with Inspired, he didn't then remember that he didn't owe anybody any explanation. When he was giving us blow by blow accounts of his correspondence with Inspired, he didn't remember that he didn't owe us any explanation. Now that he has gottrn his car, he now knows he doesn't owe anybody any explanation. Odofion individual.

He is lucky I am not close by to slap the ''I don't owe anybody any explanation'' out of his lizard mouth. Mscheeew

don't mind d Op I think d guy is extra ordinarily very gentle.. And d guy is someone dat leaves everything for baba God... We don't need any soothsayer to tell us.. He was not satisfiied with d deal.. Though these was not d kind of reply I anticipated but I think d op is too disappointed to talk abt it.. Anyway God dai,,

masterpieceboss: forms still on sale.

pls how do we fill d form after buying it... I intend to buy it 2mao...

egopersonified: Conscience and personal determination not to cheat ON HIS WIFE. #justmyopinion

yes madam... Because even wifes with the best of behaviours get cheated upon so it has a lot to do with d wife as well as d hubby conviction on cheating... its not a one cap fit all kinda thing but I tink dat is 2 most congent factors dat wuld make a man not cheat on him wife..