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meobizy:
Everybody na professional for woman affairs for Nairaland. Who then are the men simping for women in the real world?

you dey mind dem. Some go dey do as if dem Sabi everything lol.

Stephen0mozzy:
Oh no no. Girls actually know the kind of guys they "bill" senselessly. For one, if you have hungry girls in your CL, then the problem is you - you need to find girls wey get class - just that girls with class they make some guys fear.

That's why many of them dey date rubbish, and generalize that all girls are bad.

Find a girl that can stimulate, engage and even initiate brain-wracking conversations.

It's okay to ask a person why they're not fine. If you care for someone you'd want to know. Unless you're her husband or father, you don't have the responsibility of giving her a solution - unless you want to.

your post reeks of insensitivity. Do you know how many bad eggs are there in society? Lmao. Even the one you're currently dating, give it time. Don't blow your trumpet yet. Everything isn't black and white.

Amovingman:
tenrack come see ooo 😹

ROTFL e go dey all right

LordIsaac:
When I first truly fell in love. I loved the innocent experience, but still regret ever meeting that individual.

women go stain your white. Mafo

SoliBayNG:
So many children on nairaland these days. Back in the days, you will see mature and constructive inputs.

Brah, women are focused on achievements these days. Fulls making someone that's 31 seem like she's 60. Only boys talk like that. New studies even show that men should be as wary, as quality of sperm reduce as they get older.

Brah, the signs are there. In her circles, there are many guys that are more suitable. Just cos someone wants to get married doesn't mean they should settle for someone that lacks focus or doesnt wanna upgrade himself. As a man, I get irritated with directionless women, talkless of being a woman and carrying the weight of the home.

She should not start what she can finish. A man with vision and dreams that isnt well off isnt a problem. But how will a man leave what's giving him money to go run errands? He cant think? Cant tell his mom he will do it later?

What happens when they get married? He would still tell her she's trying to change him, and she saw him the way he was. Motivating him to greatness will be termed nagging.

If I was a woman, I rather get a sperm donor, focus on my career and be happy, than be married to many men these days, that aren't worthy of being called men.

Being a man isnt a title, it's about the ability to lead, command the respect of your wife, not by coercion, but by actions.
No one can follow who isn't more knowledge than them, or they struggle to respect.

This is Africa, men are still providers and supposed to lead. If he cant do that, he's still a boy.

Age is irrelevant. Better to be married to a 45 year old lady that suits your vision and gives you peace, than a 25 year old that still has her eyes outside and leaves you restless, all in the name of marrying young.

Guys on nairaland are super embarrassing. Lots of learning to do. 15 years or so ago, you wouldn't see these comments calling a 31 year old, old. Funny enough, many of these dudes at 35, haven't achieved what this lady has achieved when she was 27.

Girls, dont be afraid to have standards. Stick to it and focus on your personal growth.

There are still fantastic guys out there that age means nothing to.

you insulted guys on Nairaland only for you to begin to sound like a kid. Wow

Goo0dHardDick:
Swears!

On Facebook is worst. They'll either insult you or ignore or look for ways to use reverse psychology and reasked you the question to begin exchanging words with them

I don't know why Nigerian girls are cursed with stinginess and selfishness. I swear na only fool go take dem seriously.

Goo0dHardDick:
I know this has been asked a billion times, but women will rather choose to insult than to answer the question.

Others will ignore because they have no answers fully implying they're naturally stingy.

I keep asking, if giving of money to women is a proof of love why are men not receiving from women too?

CC seun farano justwise nlfpmod mynd44

lmao. Question wey majority of them go look pass. Very self centered things.

Pukkalolo:
After my first painful breakup with my first girlfriend, I made myself a promise:

I'd never use money to win a woman's romantic companionship.
Instead, I'd attract her with the one thing many women deeply crave but rarely say out loud.

What is that one thing?

Let me explain.


First off, understand that money is a form of distraction when it comes to triggering raw genuine attraction in a woman.


I once saw two different videos that explain this perfectly.

In the first video (a scene from a movie clip), some men tried to steal meat from lions using clever DISTRACTIONS. They used their van, noise, and tricks to pull the lions away, then they rushed in to grab the dead antelope. It worked for a moment. But as soon as the lions figured out the tricks the men played, they charged back and chased the men. The men dropped the meat and ran. One wasn’t fast enough. The lion pounced on him.


That is exactly what most men do today. They use money, cars, dinners, trips, and promises as DISTRACTIONS to get sex and companionship. It can work temporarily. She’ll play along.

But the moment she gets her own money or finds a better option…she leaves. In the Western world, she leaves while taking half the man's assets with her and ruining his life in the process.



Now the second video… from a BBC documentary on Kenyan warriors.

These men didn’t use vehicles or tricks. They waited for a pride of lions to make a fresh kill of a buffalo. Then they walked straight toward the lions on foot, calm, bold, confident, showing zero fear. They maintained strong eye contact with the lions while heading towards the lions

As they got closer, the lions began to panic and retreat. Then the men cut off a large piece of fresh meat and walked away calmly and confidently. The lions only returned after the men were gone.



Why did it work? The lions sensed the
Men raw, DANGEROUS MASCULINE ENERGY… These men weren’t begging or tricking the lions with distractions. They were claiming what they wanted with raw dominance and audacity.



Bro… This is the wiser path in 2026 and beyond. As a man, you have to Return to your Raw Masculine Energy

Nature’s default design is simple: Strong masculine energy meets feminine energy and raw attraction happens. Money is secondary. It can amplify things, but it cannot replace the real spark.

Masculine energy is that unapologetic vibe of “I own this situation. I don't give Bleep about what you think.” It shows in. your eye contact, behavior, the way you talk, your decisions, and the way you lead without hesitation.

When a woman feels this energy from a man, her body responds. She gets wetter. She becomes more submissive and drawn to him. Not because he’s rich, but because he feels DANGEROUS in the right way… like the Kenyan hunters the lions respected.



Society, women and women fight hard to suppress this masculine energy. They push men to become nice, simp, safe, understanding providers who use money to impress. Because a man with suppressed masculinity is easier to control, easier to disappoint, and easier to leave when something better appears.

This is why so many men today feel depressed and lost. Their raw natural masculine fire has been buried under layers of female-pleasing and financial performance anxiety.

The wise adaptation is to reset to your core mascot energy..

Money will still matter. But it will come as a bonus, not your only weapon. And when you combine real resources with unstoppable masculine energy, That’s when you become the kind of man women crave and respect.

bro where did you learn these abeg. Give me books to read

vickyhow:
Women tell on themselves 😂
There is no way she’s coming out of that, she’s drowning 😝

Checkmate

I'm telling you bro. Very despicable lot. Since I started seeing them for what they really are, I've started to loathe them. One had the effrontery to tell me to send her money before she connects me to her brother for a business deal. Even hung up on me. Like seriously? How do these creatures even reason? Despite promising her that once it breaks even, I'll send her money. Same person I've sent money couple of times o. I just laughed. Selfish things.

Akir2025:
. Men Stop

Don't Send Her Money for hair
Birthday
Shoes
clothes
Phone
Family issues.
School Fees .
Medications
Call cards and Data

Wake Up Guys .

If any Girls wants Free money they should go and meet there Parents .

Girls Go and Work if you need Money .

Men Spend wisely even if you have Intensions to Marry Her

The Naked Truth. .Those that are Hurts by this Bitter Truth Would keep getting Hurts .

No Man Force any Lady to Go and starts Turning any Man to ATM Machine

If What Your father Gave You is not enough ,Go and Work ...Stop Trying to Be Smarts .

Truth Hurts Badly

no mind dem. See as dem dey cry. Very selfish and wicked creatures. It's always about them. Everybody else can go to hell. Shiorr

Yourbbydora:
ClapforYourselfFirst.....Just know that the kind of men you're advicing today are the same kind of men your sisters, daughters will meet tomorrow. Hope you go still dey proud of the advice then.

lmao. See how pained y'all are.

faxana:
All these expletives for Nigerian women because they're not fools that will let you use them for money? 😂

fools? Lmao. In other words, you're admitting men have been taken for fools by Nigerian girls for a long time now? Interesting. Well I feel sorry for my brother's that keep spending their hard earned money on Nigerian girls in a bid to sustain a relationship.

Everyone knows what they are doing sha. What's my own

Jman06:
Lolzzz...I honestly believe there's a sort of divine intervention. It's not about synergy or personal efforts because I had been synergising and trying hard before now. Those favours actually came without me breaking a sweat.

Don't worry poco, I'll take very good care of my girl. I can assure you that you won't hear any negative stories about my marriage.

lmfaoooooooooooo honeymoon stage still dey shack you.

Afrah04:
As a very beautiful girl that suits societal standards ( well confirmed by a good number of people); that ratchet men or both street and urban urchins tend to have a degree of boldness when they see a lady they walk up straight to her which I find disgusting and silly. On the hand their counterparts tend to kind of acknowledge they notice you, yet seems like they're keeping tabs on you, probably watching or something I don't know, but I do know they don't walk up to a girl on first sight. It's feels in between I admire the courage yet hates the low life approach of the former, and kinda confused on what is running in the minds of the latter category. Seems they're slow or think ur engaged. So what does it mean when men act that way?

ROTFFFFFFFFFFFFLLLLLLL

Mikedel80:
Thanks for your advice. So you said you wana delve into tech. You wanna be a Techpreneur or a Software Engineer

don't know shii about being a techprenneur. But I'd love to learn programming and also delve into hacking at some point. Finances is at its shit mode. I wish I could say more here. But I can't.

Mikedel80:
Wow. I'll have a re-think on it

you don't need a live in partner. Just a casual relationship. You're doing well financially that alone is magnet for the wolves. Enjoy your life abeg. You deserve it. Btw, I also wanna delve into tech, I wish I could get some resources from you. I'm like a decade younger. Your advice is golden.

Mikedel80:
ly.

what are you doing bro? Why invite trouble into your life?

Sirchiboy:
Met this girl on michat.
Took interest on her and I thought I will change her but she use juju on me.
Spent my entire life savings on this hoeee.

give us the full gist please

PJI161616:
This Actress is very beautiful and focus, 32 and most successful in Nigeria


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AaCwY0novfM?si=nnFNaNMZop9EOUYk

see the useless BBL. These girls think say we all dumb like Tinubu and him supporters.

Tell the guy say if e think say you go follow am fight because of babe, then e dey confuse you for a fellow without dignity or principles. Tell am to take the girl home. She no worth the hassle.

Reverseng:
Flow State Definition: An optimal state of consciousness where you are completely immersed in a task or activity. At this point of concentration, your sense of time will likely be altered.
For example, you could be at an activity thinking it's just 45 minutes you spent, but when you check the clock, 3 hrs have just gone by.

That definition up there is how flow state is perceived by many, but what is left out about flow state is that it happens to you when your will is directed towards the task that you're involved in.

There's a difference between an activity you were 'stimulated' or saw the need and conviction to carry out yourself, and an activity you were forced to do.

Popular movies like inception can explain what it means to "stimulate a person" to make an "original thought"

For a deeper read, I've explained more in this link, here on nairaland:
https://www.nairaland.com/8598916/chimamanda-adichie-case-choiceless-children

thank you for this. I needed this.

dontrulee:
Lol, dey play.
Even if I give you her number, she no go give you face

oya make we put am to test na.

Israel5:
As lawless as we are, it CANNOT happen in Nigeria o.

you're funny lol. Nigeria wey be zoo. Anything can happen here. No be here parents come beat teacher up for school for disciplining their child?

dontrulee:
She gave me her ATM card and said to me "My money is your money, everything I have is yours". The thing shock me mhen.

While it is true that I have helped her in the past by being there for her when no one was, I have zero attraction for her, but Omo, I'll end up marrying this girl. Her good qualities are topnotch. I'm indeed a very lucky Man

she still dey available? Drop her contact abeg.

dontrulee:
True, very true.
But me I'm a different breed.
My girls dey give me money steady, joy wan wound me! Lol

How!!!!

fattprince:
Thank you for explaining these to them. I didn't know I needed to explain, my bad for thinking everyone on this forum is smart.

weyre you no see my response ba. I just replied to thin air ba