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Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by keswagz(m): 2:35am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Ibukunjah: Issues of marriage are best handled not by 'fire for fire' approach. You have to play the mature role and never make moves that will tear your marriage apart as I think that should be the last resort. Remember, divorce usually affect the children adversely emotionally and mentally.Na so that gospel singer do am so tay e reach wen him wyf slice im pr*ck o. @ op no form mumu o!, b4 ur own case go come worse o! ehen!, is either u take control or find ur square root. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by keswagz(m): 2:36am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Ibukunjah: Issues of marriage are best handled not by 'fire for fire' approach. You have to play the mature role and never make moves that will tear your marriage apart as I think that should be the last resort. Remember, divorce usually affect the children adversely emotionally and mentally.Na so that gospel singer do am so tay e reach wen him wyf slice im pr*ck o. @ op no form mumu o!, b4 ur own case go come worse o! ehen!, is either u take control or find ur square root. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Much2do: 2:58am On Jan 07, 2014 |
You're the one complicating issues and not your wife,you have failed to understand her,have giving up on her,tagged her a devil.men're like children,treat them as you would a child! This is where she has her shortcoming,because if i were ur wife,in a sure but subtle approach i'll let you understand that there's no way in the world I'm allowing my mother-in-law raise my children for me,no thanks,not when I'm still breathing,you scared the poor woman into rebelling against you,with your idea that some kids live with their grandparents till sec school level:maybe in the movies or in extreme cases where your wretched or both parents died the same time.your wife doesn't want stories for when a handshake goes beyond the elbow..that's why she wouldn't even allow the kids to visit your parents.where she got violent and tore your shirt,i would say you had it coming Doc.that your an only son is not really her problem,the children are,however difficult i think you should have mentioned it to her,your parents cannot just walk into your home and you say'honey pack a bag for the kids,they're going with them for new year'It's only a very dumb angel that might say no problem sweetheart just a moment.my sister's married to an only child and to the best of my knowledge they're not having this problem,the husband is not trying to compensate his parents with his own children and believe me they have plenty-three girls and two boys and he loves his parents too,stop reading meaning into everything your wife does or say,it's only natural for her to relate more with her parents,and forgive my asking this but how exposed and enlightened are your parents?it could also be a factor.my father went to U.I and my mother went to poly,they're more free when compared to my parents-in law and my husband always suggests for the kids to go to my place even though his family house is more comfortable.you need to have a long serious conversation with your wife,get to know her fears,try and understand why she's been acting up,i don't think marriage is this difficult and complicated,we just allow our ego get in the way of our happiness,we'll see who will back down first,in every relationship,one person must play the fool for the other,if not all the time then sometimes and there goes my best love song-endless love. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 3:08am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Much2do: You're the one complicating issues and not your wife,you have failed to understand her,have giving up on her,tagged her a devil.men're like children,treat them as you would a child! This is where she has her shortcoming,because if i were ur wife,in a sure but subtle approach i'll let you understand that there's no way in the world I'm allowing my mother-in-law raise my children for me,no thanks,not when I'm still breathing,you scared the poor woman into rebelling against you,with your idea that some kids live with their grandparents till sec school level:maybe in the movies or in extreme cases where your wretched or both parents died the same time.your wife doesn't want stories for when a handshake goes beyond the elbow..that's why she wouldn't even allow the kids to visit your parents.where she got violent and tore your shirt,i would say you had it coming Doc.that your an only son is not really her problem,the children are,however difficult i think you should have mentioned it to her,your parents cannot just walk into your home and you say'honey pack a bag for the kids,they're going with them for new year'It's only a very dumb angel that might say no problem sweetheart just a moment.my sister's married to an only child and to the best of my knowledge they're not having this problem,the husband is not trying to compensate his parents with his own children and believe me they have plenty-three girls and two boys and he loves his parents too,stop reading meaning into everything your wife does or say,it's only natural for her to relate more with her parents,and forgive my asking this but how exposed and enlightened are your parents?it could also be a factor.my father went to U.I and my mother went to poly,they're more free when compared to my parents-in law and my husband always suggests for the kids to go to my place even though his family house is more comfortable.you need to have a long serious conversation with your wife,get to know her fears,try and understand why she's been acting up,i don't think marriage is this difficult and complicated,we just allow our ego get in the way of our happiness,we'll see who will back down first,in every relationship,one person must play the fool for the other,if not all the time then sometimes and there goes my best love song-endless love.Sorry dear, we, men are not longer comfortable playing the fools for peace to reign. Even if his parents live in the village, remember that without those villagers, her husband wouldn't have been a city dweller. Let's be real here, the husband might be wrong in some ways but the wife is a big fool to fight her hubby even to the extent of tearing his clothes. I keep saying this, 60% of Nigerian ladies are not "marriageable". Go to other african countries and see what a wife should be 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by slightlyMad(f): 3:23am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Haunted: Why u dey use paracetamol for another woman's headache? was she beaten or forced to say "i do" later on at the alter? the problem with the OP is that he has not yet proven to be man. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by goshen26: 3:56am On Jan 07, 2014 |
That is wat we get when we had sex with spouse before marriage. A woman you had sex with b4 marriage, already has the leadership of that family in her hands, i know some people will eat me raw for this, who cares, that's the truth. May God restore you my bro and return your leadership power as the head of the family. Divorce is not always the ryt option, ur first woman is very important. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 4:15am On Jan 07, 2014 |
@ the OP,go through all the posts and read techwalker007 Read all his posts that is your fellow man and he gave you the most candid counsel here He said everything I wanted to say If you wanted to hear from some small immature boys,you must have read loads If you want the truth,read the poster I just mentioned and do the right thing Time for some introspection |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 4:30am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Ada Nri1: Op what did your in laws do to her. There must have been a trigger. Women are no saints But one thing I know is that no woman comes into her husband home to show her parents in law pepper None whatsoever Women come in and want to take them as her own parents but what they are met with oftentimes is not what they bargained for so what does she do? She builds a wall to shut them off as a self protective mechanism This is an only child ,born 8 solid after his parent's marriage who has entertained and voiced ideas to send the two kids to his parents for a period as some sort of compensation. Nonsense The same man brings in his parents without her knowledge to take the kids for the holidays That is one example,who knows what else he had done in the past that scared this woman to death Every woman with blood in her veins will resist that move with her life I would too 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 4:43am On Jan 07, 2014 |
opetu: My wife has been a torn on my flesh, giving me headaches daily. It happens dat I met her in my final year in school (fellowship), we got close just as friends nd within 7 mnths of knowing her one thing led to the other nd she got pregnant for me, well i accepted my responsibilty. telling my parents also , It was actually a thing of mixed feelingz, bein dat i am the only child of my parentz, at least thats like having a second child for dem. Long story short i decided to marry her cos of the baby..wit the notion dat we woud build our early relationship in marriage .. Gosh I couldn't help it How many times have you told her to her face how you married her to take the shame of pregnancy off her With the the way you are carrying on here,I bet the woman gets that sorry line every solitary moment Besides the other selfish reason about populating your father's compound Nonsense! You regret having a second child with her?,infact you hate having a second child What father says that about their own child/children? She is a torn in your flesh What a wuss You regret the first child,you regret the second,you regret your marriage Your whole life is full of regrets,when will you grow up and be a man? What a zero The Bible says a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife You haven't read that part abi? Read that first post,it's all about your parents Where does this woman come in right in this marriage of yours You married her because she was carrying a child that will be like a second child to your parents You hate her yet she birthed yet another child Now you and your parents want to turn her into a mere uterus ,baby making machine since you can wake up and make decisions regarding the children she carried 9 months a piece sotay your parents will waka from their abode to come and take the kids You do have a nerve don't you? You are lucky it was just your torn clothes,some mothers would have attacked both you and your parents and NTA will come and snap foto Do you want real truth or you want some small boys advising you Retrace your steps If you divorce this woman and keep the same parents and same mindset,I promise you,you will divorce again unless the next wife is barren and or jobless. If you doubt me try it I wish the woman will even wake up and divorce you when she gets wind of exactly what you think of the union She is a medical doctor you say,she can do without your immature self 7 Likes |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Kirinwa: 5:16am On Jan 07, 2014 |
m-ployer: Kilode! So granny should wait until they grow up? What if she dies before then or don't you know that granny enjoys them better as kids so she can carry them on her laps. Me wonder if a bot actually wrote this o. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by omiobo: 5:25am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Baby mama: I love this! Op sounded like a kid that is being controlled by his parent. He is not ripe for marriage. Sometimes when my parent want to act funny I take action that seem rude to my parent but I know within me I'm doing something right. They have lived their lives they should allow me to live mine. All I need is their prayer not physical interference. The parents of the op are acting funny because op is the only son. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by michkenokey(m): 6:22am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Your case is not far from what many men are experiencing these days. Men are now managing their wives and are no more marrying them. About 50% of men are regretting ever marrying the woman they married, 30% are seriously suing for divorce while only 10-20% are enjoying their marital lives. The reason is that men are no more looking out for the inner qualities of a woman but rather the outward qualities. Is she tall & beautiful? Is she fair complexioned? Is she a graduate or about to graduate? Is she a working class? Is she from a buoyant family? and so on. My advice to my fellow men is that when they are looking out for a lady to marry, they should focus their attention & look out for a lady that is honest, somebody that will respect not only you but your family members and friends; a lady that knows how to cook b/c the easiest way to a man's heart is good food; a lady that is careful, neat and ordery since your home is d mirrow of who u are; a lady that knows how to pray b/c the family that prays 2geda, stays 2geda and u know sometimes men finds it very difficult to pray; a lady u'll wish to be seeing every day without getting bored; a lady that knows how to manage when things are hard; a lady that has sth in her brain who can comfortably manage the home in ur absence etc. Therefore, my advice to you is that u shld wake her up one mid- night & try to tell her how much u love her & how her behaviour is trying to ruin their marriage, assure her of ur love & forgiveness and remember to carry ur request to God in prayers. Good luck! 2 Likes |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Harpesin(m): 6:24am On Jan 07, 2014 |
immortalvoices: Sorry sir for the domestic marital problem... Dis is out of it....ao do u mean ? Waz she raped? It takes 2 to tangle na.....na wha 4 dis kind advice o |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Harpesin(m): 6:41am On Jan 07, 2014 |
opetu: What's her parents comments on this issue especially her father? If they are all in support of her then you have a lot to do.....are u performing ur responsibilities the way it suppose to be...e.g. House rent, children skool fees, feeding, her allowances, settling her parents / families accordingly etc.....also have u sat her down and seek her mind over this? Hope she did not catch u with any girl?....who are her friends? Has she for ones had issue with ur parents (ur mom) ? Guy if you are not guilty of dis I will advise you to take ur stand and stop all her families / friends from coming to your house (if truely u are d one paying ur house rent o) but if na your wife or inlaw, na now ur calamity start o...........also let her know that she is d one dragging the marriage to grave and she will be d loser at d end.........caution ursef and don't let another child come forth for now......U are not happy and ur parents are sad cos of ur wife, let her know that she is sowing a seed and by the time fruit will be mature, she will regret it o. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by pickabeau1: 6:45am On Jan 07, 2014 |
The story is one sided However the premise that no woman sets out to frustrate her in laws deliberately is not always true 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by brownlord: 7:13am On Jan 07, 2014 |
apache77: THE ONLY SENSIBLE COMMENT. @OP KICK HER ASS OUT AND DO A SIM REPLACEMENT, SORRY WIFE 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 7:25am On Jan 07, 2014 |
slightlyMad:See how you get things twisted. This case is not about acting out outdated inaccurate stereotypes as to what it takes to be a man, as if it is a Nollywood movie. The issue is really a very specific problem that is threatening to tear the home apart. Namely the security and custody of the children. The solution is communication. I suppose that the OP has very unwisely acted like a dictator and taken steps with regards the kids without discussion and consent of the wife carelessly thinking that she would go along with whatever he decides. It doesn't work like that in such a charged sensitive matter. This is precisely the time for the OP to apply tact, wisdom and discretion as opposed to using caveman tactics. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by ruggish10: 7:25am On Jan 07, 2014 |
my advice is that you have to be in charge of your game! you have to be man enough! |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 7:32am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Kirinwa:Your words betray that you are still a kid. Is it compulsory to comment? |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Sike(m): 7:41am On Jan 07, 2014 |
apache77:WOW! *claps* |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by TechWalker007: 7:43am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Baby mama: God bless you. You said a lot I didn't even notice. The parts of his post you highlighted are worse than what he claims the wife does. It seems the whole thing was about raising kids for his parents to compensate them for having only one child. I am not here to victimize the Op, but like my parents taught me, the op has to look to himself where he missed it, if he adjust, he'll be amazed how that same wife may become an angel! 2 Likes |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by guseman(m): 7:43am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Abbey2sam: Fast n pray broMust fast and pray be solution to every problem? This requires common sense. This op did not tell us so many things 1. What was his mother's relationship with the wife's like at the beginning of their marriage and up till date. Cos from experience, if the two of them go hand in hand from pregnancy stage, there won't be issue with the child. 2. Do you relate with her parents and siblings well I sensed you don't know your woman enough before marrying her but dat you can correct. Most of the people here are not married. Almost every woman misbehaves like wise us the man but seeing us as the head we think we are above the law. Do you know the implications of divorce on children? And the other sister you are considering, how do you know what her behavior will be? Marriage na one chance, anything you meet in it take it that way. Maybe your mum was even packaging another woman before for you before you go colobi this one, she knows about it and now reacting (just joking) You can travel with your kids to see your parents, if she agreed to go with you fine and if she is feeling uncomfortable, go alone with your kids and if possible leave them there for a while. She can't go to your father's house and start causing problems there cos she is out of her territory. Lastly, remember you paid her dowry so you should be in charge. You don't need permission to do everything. Even if she contributes to the welfare of the house more than you |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by curtain: 7:47am On Jan 07, 2014 |
But seriously from the comments of some ladies here, i wonder why they always think you should love and trust them authomatically above everyone else the moment they step into your life. As if men fell from the sky or Did they always forget that you were once loved and cared for by someone else before they came? Its a silly and unintelligent way of thinking. No true mother would entrust her son to a lady just like that only because they wedded after six months of courtship. Its not the mothers fault but the way ladies of our time places money above everything, we have seen married women with kids and stiill without conscience. I implore nigerian ladies to understand this hard facts and know that even though trust is a sign of love, trust is entirely different from love and it takes time to attain trust in a family you cant even die for. As for us, if she must earn our trust, my wife must appreciate what and who made me who i am just as i must appriciate hers. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Xyge(m): 7:53am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Hehehehehe... Churchy gurl gone evillll... Joking apart now. Impregnating a lady doesn't AUTOmatically makes you her hubby-to-be... It only makes you an 'AUTOmatic' father of that child.. Many are oblivious of this very fact... Like...uhmmmm.. Mehn! I need to save to get an AUTO- a ride.. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Johnnycife(m): 8:07am On Jan 07, 2014 |
I want to know where your wife is from, I have some how come to realize that most of the women from the south don't respect their husbands--mind you before somebody misquotes me I said not all. They always want to take laws into their hands sometimes if you are not careful they may even beat you up, especially now that we have been seeing head lines of women using kitchen knives to cutoff the manhoods of their husbands. Women of these last days honestly are getting really weird I know that I'm 22yr and am not married but I cannot give a phantomable report of the woman that is in our house now because that now na fire. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by PastorOluT(m): 8:12am On Jan 07, 2014 |
"If the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do?" @ op U met a girl in a school fellowship (she claim to be a "sister" n u guys were sleeping with each other, what do u expect from a pretender? 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:22am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Johnnycife: I want to know where your wife is from, I have some how come to realize that most of the women from the south don't respect their husbands--mind you before somebody misquotes me I said not all. They always want to take laws into their hands sometimes if you are not careful they may even beat you up, especially now that we have been seeing head lines of women using kitchen knives to cutoff the manhoods of their husbands. Women of these last days honestly are getting really weird I know that I'm 22yr and am not married but I cannot give a phantomable report of the woman that is in our house now because that now na fire.Johnny Jony SHUT UP. If you are just 22 years old bachelor to boot why start generalising. Respect is a two-way street and in this scenario the OP selfish actions and self-indulgent attitude have led to his marital probems. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:30am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Pastor Olu T: "If the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do?"Don't judge. What God has joined together let no man put asunder. You really are kidding yourself if you think that the wife would have gone along with his plans to send the kids from to MIL if they had not had premarital sex. He is just bringing that up to spite the woman as if he were not the one that initiated the act. Maybe he even went to the fellowship specifically to look for a wife rather than because he is a "brother". His words and actions betray that he has never been one. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Johnnycife(m): 8:32am On Jan 07, 2014 |
tensor77:thanks for shutting me up I hope you'll not very soon end up opening a thread like this requesting for people's advices we have made mistakes besides you don't know a woman by the kind of religion he tends to put on- note that her character reveals with the proceeds of time. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:43am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Johnnycife:Its just that I detest people generalising when it comes to very specific circumstances like this. The Bible says by their fruits we shall know them. By the OP'S posts on this thread it is pretty clear the kind of person he is and why his spouse has reacted the way she has. Well he has been given good advice as well as some clearly twisted mule-headed utterances. Its up to him to choose which ones to follow. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by kepstone: 8:44am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Ya. This some how saddening. My elder brothers wife insults him my mum n even my late Dad when it got to my Dad I faced her n told her never in her life to insult my Dad our Father n Hero. The devil disturbing u should pack well when it comes to my father. My elder brother gave her d beating of her life into submission. I knw him to be d quiet type n none violent but dis tym he dealt wit her n senses came to her head. I am nt advocating wife beating but truly some women are nt wives but knives. Bro let God help u oh cos dis a fire dt has to be quench take ur stand but not divorce. Grace. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Reference(m): 8:47am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Blue Scholar: Always remember that your parents comes first,if she can't learn to love them then you have to man up and divorce her... Stop this. Your parents can NEVER come first. Every living thing grows and ages. You are growing older not younger. Be wise, consider your future and work on it. 4 Likes |
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