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Career › Re: Is It Right To Tell Your Boss "Send Your Account Let Me Credit You For Xmas? by Theama(m): 8:24pm On Dec 16, 2023

Education › Re: I Am Not Taking This! My Baby Girl Deserves The 1st Position. 15as! by Theama(m): 2:08pm On Dec 16, 2023*

This reminds me of secondary school when I beat someone by about 0.33 mark difference to collect a prize grin

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Romance › Re: What Advice Do You Have For Him. by Theama(m): 1:13pm On Dec 15, 2023

Say whaaarrrr

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 4:32pm On Dec 10, 2023*

Samantha124:
You're the one who should read to understand and not to argue... Even after I told you that I'm not against the man not financially supporting his in-laws, you're still trying to force your ideology on me.

You're entitled to your own opinion, so stop trying to project it on me.

I just went through and re-read from the initial post.

"When they visit, they should cook for themselves..." This was what I was trying to address aif you go through my responses.

I didn't pay attention to the ''whenever the wife is busy," part. Re-reading it, I assume busy means when at work.

Apparently, admittedly, I read out of context including your initial(also actual) view on the financial support stuff.

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 11:49am On Dec 10, 2023

Samantha124:
You're the one who should read to understand and not to argue... Even after I told you that I'm not against the man not financially supporting his in-laws, you're still trying to force your ideology on me.

You're entitled to your own opinion, so stop trying to project it on me.

Toh!

Nairaland General › Re: Dey Play, Idan, No Evidence, Other Popular Nigerian Slangs In 2023 by Theama(m): 11:16am On Dec 10, 2023

Slang of the year award. lipsrsealed

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 11:10am On Dec 10, 2023

Samantha124:
Clearly you didn't read my first comment.

And since when is helping your in-laws financially a burden and slavery? it's not like they'll be asking for financial assistance forever too.

My point exactly

Helping them isn't slavery the same thing as being hospitable isn't slavery . Give if you're able to and not be forced to is the point.

They requesting financial assistance and demanding for it constantly and by force is slavery. That is abuse and is different from if he decides to be constantly sending it by his own will. This is the point.

You get?

The same way cooking/being hospitable when people come to your house isn't slavery. You can't chase them back to where they're coming from.

You being forced to go to their house to cook and nurse them is slavery and abuse. This is different from if you decided willingly/agree to go there.

Now, assuming the couple's distance from their relatives is long.

Yes, the relatives can ask for financial assistance forever over the phone ( e.g every week, month); it is possible. No, they cannot visit your house (every week, month)

Read to understand and not always to argue

Now, do you understand?

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 10:47am On Dec 10, 2023

Samantha124:
Like I said, I'm against it the same way I'm against a woman being made a slave for her in-laws.

Didn't sound like you were against it. tongue

Besides since when did being hospitable e.g cooking for family, friends and guests when they visit become slavery? It's not like they're staying forever. undecided

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 8:22am On Dec 10, 2023

Samantha124:
So what you're telling me is that Nigerian men don't love and respect their in-laws, yet they expect their wives to love and respect their in-laws just because a bride price was paid for them

That's not what I'm saying undecided

So what you're telling me is that a man being overburdened, slaving or made compulsorily to provide for his in-laws and not out of his personal will is your definition of him being loving and respectful? huh

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 8:23pm On Dec 08, 2023

Samantha124:
I'll also cook for his family when I can.

Why prepare to be the first wife when I can just give him the money he paid for the bride price and go my separate way?

And remember that getting him a girl from the village wouldn't mean he'll love her because his family would've gotten her just to spite me, but he'd have married me because he'd have chosen me for himself and because he loved me.

He'll probably just see the girl as his maid and sex object while I'll find myself the man I love and move on in peace.

You don't know how the average man works grin

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If he's a no nonsense man

As long as the new wife gives him

Peace of mind
Respects him and his family
Cooks
Good character
Doesn't over burden him or nag at him

That's what it basically takes for the average man to fall in love. You can ask your Fianceé why he chose you and you might see most of this being told to you.

He'll eventually fall in love with her because that's what he saw in the first wife before she started misbehaving and wanting him to become a beast of burden forget family.

If the first wife goes her Separate ways he has seen an alternative who gives him and his family the peace of mind they want and he's least concerned about the first wife.

If she eventually finds a manage loves if she still refuses to cook for his family she'll be booted out again because there's a higher tendency she exhibits the signs of somebody who overburdens others.

Unless the man she end up with has no respect for his family, he might tolerate such acts.

If you were Nigerian you'd probably understand sha.

Family › Re: Looking After Inlaws Is Not A Man Responsibility - Reno Omokri by Theama(m): 7:47pm On Dec 08, 2023*

Samantha124:
I don't disagree with what everyone is saying, in fact I agree that the groom shouldn't be burdened with the responsibility of financially supporting his in-laws, but the wife should also not be expected to perform certain responsibilities towards her in-laws.

When they visit, they should cook for themselves whenever the wife is busy, for she's not their chef... And if one of the groom's parents gets sick and needs 24/7 care, the groom should care for his parent to good health, for his wife wouldn't have signed up to be a nurse when she agreed to get married to him.

What do you think guys?

In the traditional African setting then the wife should prepare to become first wife.

When the husband's people see the wife of their"brother" has misbehaving because he has refused to become a beast of burden for her family.

E no hard the husband's family go bring one small girl from their village who doesn't mind to take over. Soon she becomes that second wife that can be cooking for them and taking care of them whenever they visit. Some men from the man's village might be having at least 2 wives so all your nuclear family blah blah doesn't freak them.

Soon the first wife becomes redundant and marginalised as attention moves to the second wife. The husband's family and friends and everybody moves on with their life till nobody even cares about her. Everybody is Happy at the end of the day.

On a serious note so because the Man has decided not to overburden himself but helps the in-laws as he can does it mean the wife should rebel and start displaying a rebellious attitude? As if she can't take care of her own family too.

I know a man, his wife's family gave an amount to be contributed by every son-in-law for an event. Imagine such undecided

Romance › Re: As A Man What Do You Bring To The Table Aside Money- Naija Man Questions by Theama(m): 7:09pm On Dec 06, 2023

Fahvvy:
Why do people do business? To make money ...

Why do people spend years learning a trade or a skill? To make money ...

Why do people go through the stress of waking up by 2am to beat the traffic, so they can get to work early? To make money ...

Why are politicians fighting tooth and nail to remain in office? Money ...

Why do most girls go into prost.itution and most young men into fraud? Money ...

The house you're living in was rented in with money (house rent) ...

The food you eat was bought with money ...

The school you're attending was paid for with money (school fees) ...

So if I bring money to the table, then I have brought EVERYTHING my money can buy ...

I'm not saying money is everything, however trying to downplay the importance of money in life in general is dum.best thing anyone can do ...

Cause no one on earth can survive without money (or the things money can provide) ...

And besides...
Since money isn't so important, why is it the deciding factor in how females choose to date? ...

You and this " undecided

Romance › Re: Decided To Start Going To Church. by Theama(m): 9:50am On Dec 05, 2023

Sirchiboy:
Stopped going to church in 2006 and it had been a terrible moment for the past 17 years I stopped church.
Please suggest to me a good church to attend where I can grow spiritually and also church that help their members too in terms of job connection and career development

Ask the Lord to lead you to one.

Food › Re: Drinking Garri: Who Else Will Never Stop Enjoying This Food? by Theama(m): 4:39pm On Dec 03, 2023

EDUECO:
Garri plus peanut,milk, chocolate and honey is best taken after passing through the hot Nigerian sun!

Garri snack is best taken when soaked in cold water medium.

Soaking garri has always been a staple snack in ₦igeria.

Garri flakes( aka soak and travel) can never be as useless as Nigerian political class.

Add Cold water there + Fried Chicken/Turkey grin

Romance › Re: The Type Of Men I Don't Want (personal Opinion) by Theama(m): 2:46pm On Dec 03, 2023

LilMissFavvy:
Funny thread. Thought I was the only one who hates a bald head. I don't think baldness can be genetic, rather, I believe it is caused by lack of care, or lack of good nutrition.

Madam what you "believe" doesn't change fact; baldness is majorly based on genetics.

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Politics › Re: Imagine You're A Policy Maker In Your State, What Policies Would You Formulate? by Theama(m): 11:31pm On Dec 01, 2023

Maybe on resources:

If you own land, ensure its active use—either lease it out or engage in agricultural activities. Unless under bush fallow, inactive land faces revocation.

For dormant business properties or buildings closed for an extended period, you either rent the facilities out or demolish them if no further use is envisaged. Repurposing the land for something beneficial e.g the issue of long-closed fuel stations wasting valuable space.

Romance › Re: What Does A Nigerian Girl Offer In A Relationship by Theama(m): 7:59pm On Dec 01, 2023

muyico:
She made u to be responsible man,a father,married man,then complete man, God said isn't good for a man to live alone, so been single and living alone isn't good in God sight

You say?

Romance › Re: Someone's Wife Material �� by Theama(m): 1:54am On Nov 30, 2023*

1) Seems some women are to relationships as some men are to football clubs grin

"We did this...",
"We won that..."
"We own this..."
"Go and check our properties/trophy cabinet."

Some support na by talk
Some dey give support in many ways nor just talk (actually by buying Tickets, Jerseys, showing solidarity e.t.c)
Some hide only to show when there is success

2) Some view it as Kingdom stuff:
In some conquest, although the efforts were by the generals, soldiers, People and King , the Kingdom is ruled by he and his Queen and she still remains Queen whether they win the battle or not. Nothing concerns her with the planning and tough work on getting new territories but she somehow gets involved in the celebrations and visiting of the conquered territories. She can as well claim she was with the King when he had not expanded his empire.

Some guys aren't cool with this and thus dey avoid official relationships. So that no one in particular has a single claim to them
Dem no wan hear that "we were this..." "We were that.". Their style na "I belong to everybody and I belong to nobody."

But really, whatever form you can offer (commitment, contribution of ideas, financial e.t.c), to the best of your ability and capability isn't bad. Not the one that you barely did anything, sat there looking like a rock and you want to claim "We..."

Summary: Human Beings are funny creatures; higher animals who sometimes act like clowns of the animal kingdom. cheesy

Romance › Re: Let's Have Some Light Fun by Theama(m): 4:25pm On Nov 29, 2023

Congratulatuons angry

Congratulations

Congratulations grin

Now the word sounds weird to me.

Family › Re: Who Knows You The Most? by Theama(m): 11:27am On Nov 26, 2023

The Lord Jesus cool

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Celebrities › Re: Una Don Start With Dis Una Camera, Na U Dey Cast Me - Wizkid Says As He Step Out by Theama(m): 6:13pm On Nov 25, 2023

Successdude:
Not just rumour - its virtually true. Especially sex. The age you start having sex for example, you stop growing but at most start expanding.

I use this apot to guess the age people start sexing and/or if fheyre virgin or not. And it goes correct more than 95% of the time

As in?

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Manchester City Vs Liverpool (1 - 1) On 25th November 2023 by Theama(m): 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2023

Superbia in Proelio, cool

Phones › Re: Warning ⚠️ Mind What You Post On Whatsapp. Pics Attached by Theama(m): 12:42pm On Nov 24, 2023

oluwaseyi0:
Just like that UK master student that is accused of terrorism and might be jailed and deported

All I see is empty someone with loud mouth

More like Nigeria version of do you know who I am

Guy didn't look like who know or can do shit

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Politics › Re: FG Slashes Wage By N100bn, Labour Kicks by Theama(m): 7:05pm On Nov 23, 2023

Administration1:
I noticed something, all these APC e media dumbfcks switch to their alternate monikers to cry about their sufferings.

How can you tell?

Food › Re: How Nigerians Should Eat Swallows By Zeelicious Foods (Video) by Theama(m): 9:13am On Nov 23, 2023

chariisGRACE:
Let me share what my economics teacher told us.

He attended an international conference at Calabar , some years ago. There were Caucasians, Asians etc.

After everything, it was time for Item 7. A buffet was set up. He said, he walked up to the stand, served himself some eba and soup.

He got back to his seat, watched as other Africans were using cutleries to eat swallow, he shook his head in disgust.

He opened the bottled water that was given to him, poured some water on his hands and started digging into the meal. He said, everybody were just looking at him in 'disgust' - "what kind of a local lawyer is this one".

At the close of conference, a journalist walked up to him, and asked him why he ate his meal with his bare hands and not with the cutleries.

His words:

"I am an African man. The meal I served myself is an African dish, and I ate the meal the African way".

So, it is only inferiority complex that would make an African person to eat his local delicacy in a foreign way.

The Indians eat with their bare hands. Because we like copying rubbish, we always want to eat out local delicacy like a certain Mr. Bruce Cornwall who lives somewhere in Surrey, England.

*spits*

Almost Sounds like what mine told me.

Buh hin name na Mr Williams?

Romance › Re: A Girl I Was Chatting Suddenly Sent Me This Poem by Theama(m): 8:50am On Nov 16, 2023

Ballzproblemm:
delusion

Crime › Re: U.S Police Seizes Fake Designer Clothes, Shoes & Bags Worth $1 Billion (Pics) by Theama(m): 8:46am On Nov 16, 2023

tankoagaie:
tgis should be original in nigeria

Crime › Re: Gunmen Kill ECWA Pastor's Wife Mrs Olawale, Clergyman, Others Kidnapped In Kwara by Theama(m): 8:53am On Nov 13, 2023

Lasgidi90:
This insecurity of a thing go reach everybody.
Make we just dey play.

God forbid this statement undecided

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Manchester City (4 - 4) On 12th November 2023 by Theama(m): 3:32pm On Nov 12, 2023

City!

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Manchester United Vs Luton (1 - 0) On 11th November 2023 by Theama(m): 1:55pm On Nov 11, 2023

MrBroke:
Man u go win. Man u : 1 2 : Luton

Eh Kai now!

Politics › Re: SERAP Sues Tinubu Over Failure To Probe Missing $15bn, N200bn Oil Revenues by Theama(m): 5:03pm On Nov 05, 2023

Magnoliaa:
Lmao. I'm genuinely curious . There was a time I used to be excited by their filings, but now...

They might not be interested in pushing it self ..

It might be just for clout.

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