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Interesting

OP, don't tell anything to anyone. Remain silent until something happens to your sister and then you can wallow in self pity

Greatzeus:
Before reading any story created to solicit help on nairaland,I already made up my mind it's a scam but I am opened to being convinced that it wasn't.
My scammometer is so high I can smell a scam from miles away

Seriously!!! There are genuine cases that deserve our attention

Fountainofyouth:
Op sat behind a keyboard to tell us her ordeal, so yes, I'll sit behind my keyboard and type out my opinion, if it is irresponsible of me, it is also irresponsible of you to comment at all, if you want the husband's opinion, ask Op for their address and go hear the husband's own, no one is stopping you, I said what I said, deal with it.

I am also asking you, what do you know about this couple? What if the wife isn't denying him sex? Do you know if its the husband that is denying her sex? What if the wife is being bullied by the husband and his family? We will continue to comment based on Op's version, husband can come and refute it if he likes,

As CsRockefeller wrote, let's try to help OP fix this marriage and not break it.

There are too many unanswered questions on this topic.

No one in their right mind would ever ask a married woman to divorce her husband just because the husband was caught with pictures of other ladies.
People would always try to reconcile the couple first ... mediation would take place ...and so on.

Divorce isn't an easy process given that it has far reaching implications. We don't even know if any child is involved here.

Fountainofyouth:
So, in the aspect of marriage, you cannot tell me that it is better for men to cheat than women becos the consequences for women is dire, that is misleading and falsehood, there are wives that cheated who were forgiven by their husbands and still enjoying their marriage till today, and there are cheating men who were divorced becos of cheating, do you think all women will die if they are divorced or don't answer "Mrs"?

So yes, Op can divorce the disgusting cheat if its suits her, and giving the diick hopper the seven figure money to revive his business is encouraging him to spread his fallus all over town, hopping his life and energy away, we all know he wouldn't use it for his business, some men are stupid like that.

It is also easy and very irresponsible to seat behind a keyboard and to start crucifying a man you know nothing about except from the piece of evidence OP has provided in the original post.

What do you know about this case or about this couple? Do you know if the husband has been denied sex by his wife? Do you know if the husband is constantly bullied by his wife and wife's family?
Did you get the husband 's version of the story?
By the way, when was the last time the husband has sex with anyone?

Fountainofyouth, are you married? It is very unfortunate that nowadays many ladies are keeping cheating and abusive men in their relationships but on public forums they are urging others ladies to dump such men.

Smh

Fountainofyouth:
Why?

Ok this feedback was provided by CsRockefeller and I completely agree with that:

She divorces him and then what? She stays alone all through her life or probably finds another man who would cheat on her?

Men who wouldn't flirt or cheat in this life while married are very few.

CsRockefeller:
The earlier we recognize that penalties issued out to either gender based on public opinion most times are never the same.

A man who is caught stealing would probably be burnt and beaten to death, a woman would probably be stripped and flogged.

The consequences for societal ills for each gender has never been same since the creation of man.

Thank you so much.
Unfortunately some of us are nearsighted dinausor who would never understand that even nature treat men and women differently

Fountainofyouth:
I'm waiting for when you guys will say same thing to a cheating wife.

Why are you turning this into a men vs women thing?
I have responded to OP based on my perception. Let us here your feedback to op now. What would you recommend?

Fountainofyouth:
Why?

Why not?

bukatyne:
Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

By the way, what if this was a gay couple?

bukatyne:
Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

And let us be realistic. There is a huge difference between a men who sleeps around and a lady who does the same. A man can sleep around via the polygamy channel. As for a lady... she can do the same through prostitution. So which one of the 2 is morally acceptable?

bukatyne:
Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

I am not into the gender card game.

bukatyne:
Hmmmmm.

Hopefully, you are this 'understanding' if it was a cheating wife

Do unto others as you want them to do unto you.

So, what would you suggest? Not to help him?

OP, the wife should still help the husband if she can. Issues that prompted the husband to flirt should be addressed. Maybe the husband is flirting out of frustration. Maybe the wife is sex starving him

Ningen:
Now that you've confirmed it's your story, and its genuine, please ignore my previous comments.

Sorry. I was only being sarcastic.

Well, you are right. It's NOT a case of hacking.
Behind all the religious facade is an ugly cheat and the only gift he should be getting is divorce.

Pocket your money deeply and work towards presenting those papers for him to sign on his birthday. It's not worth it giving him a chance.

OP, please ignore the bolded part

Ebere044:
No wonder my friend who promised to help me in this lockdown recently stopped replying my text.

OP you may be right but a stingy being will always look for an excuse not to assist his friends or even family. It doesn't matter where you are. If you're stingy, it means you're stingy.

If you don't want to help ,you tell them so .its not by force. Instead of promising and giving them Hopes. I've a friend who I gave almost everything I had when he was here in Nigeria hustling. His other friends and family abandoned him. I took him in until to God be the glory for him. He made it out of Nigeria and boom turned back at me. My brother a stingy being is a stingy person. I know alot of people would ask unnecessarily but its left for you to know who could ask when in dire need.

To me, the bolded part summarizes this thread.
The day we will stop helping one another is the day humanity will cease to exist.

Oluromantic:
So now your topic is suggesting that he should remain single throughout life bcus his libido is low? Is that the solution you're suggesting?

GBAM

Lionessza6:
Don't complicate your life,respect your wife & your marriage, and you shall have peace of mind. What she is suggesting does happen in some cultures, but the woman usually talks to the elders 1st,and they are the ones that will recommend her the right* sperm donor in the family. What she is doing is creepy,sneaky and suspicious. One is left to think she was lusting over you all this while,& your uncle was a deterrent . Maybe she wants a younger man to awaken her senses ,and her need for another child is just an excuse to lure you into her web of deceit. Becareful with such people.

Wisdom is your middle name

Interresting.
How do they tell a fake stamp from a real one?
Maybe the stamp in your friend passport was fake.

Following

OP, I don't know of any country where you can work on tourist visa. Be very careful with the journey you are trying to embark on

isaacpro1957:
Making bitcoins through advertisement on telegram bot with the use of automation code.... Then sell the btc to exchangers for cash!

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pfadom:
Where are you from? What is your nationality?
Bangladeshi?
Naija?
Singaporean?
Malaysian?

Lol..... ...I was asking myself the same thing

sapientia:
The President is just taking risks

So is WHO

iyimide:
Dont waste your hope my brother.. it cant be true!

And why is that?

Christy8906:
You see the reason this world will be difficult to become good? What I expect from WHO is to collect the vacines and the cure to their lab for cross examination.
You don't just condem what people suffer to produce on their own. I see something fishy there..

Madagascar please o send the vacines and drugs to Nigeria, even if it will cost us money we will buy it ...

I believe there is a business motive behind the WHO action or inaction

unscripted:
I am praying with all my heart that this Madagascar cure works .. Am monitoring their covid 19 cases every day .. God help us

And how are they doing so far ?