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Jobs/VacanciesJob Vacancies In Warri by thelish(op): 12:11am On Sep 17, 2016
Anyone with information on Job vacancies in warri, should please bring it on.
Christianity EtcRe: Atheist--- Ur Explanation On Prophecy. by thelish(op): 11:48am On Sep 15, 2016
DeSepiero:
Someone mentioning my details to me isn't strange because I always submit them when completing forms in organizations. Don't sound funny. It takes your CV or a completed biodata submitted somewhere and a little more investigation to get detailed information about you.
It was my first time in that church. and d pastor was invited from pH. Am talking of issues that were happening in my home at dat particular time. U dey write family matters for CV? Abi I submit my CV for d church??
FamilyRe: Can You Wear This.. To An Event ? by thelish(f): 12:45pm On Sep 14, 2016
Jay542:
Haaha. Kpekus go show oo grin
Who kpekus EPP??
FamilyRe: Am Confused : My Baby Mother Disappears With Our Baby. by thelish(f): 9:59am On Sep 14, 2016
Dem dey carry pikin go do OKPO work??
The baby is certainly around. Inasmuch as its hard, just forget about this girl. Stop d chatting with her. Tell her when u see d baby, then u can continue ur chat with her.
Guy u must do that DNA o. compulsory
FamilyRe: A Wise Woman Builds Her Home Herself. by thelish(f): 9:36am On Sep 14, 2016
Nor be small discussion u and holy spirit get ooo Was he dictating while ur writing? lol
FamilyRe: Can You Wear This.. To An Event ? by thelish(f): 9:31am On Sep 14, 2016
The money involve will ginger me oo.
People dey do worst to make money not even up to this, na to show small part of kpekus con hardhuh
The same people that laughed at me, will still queue up at my gate for their share. lol
CareerRe: Should I Stay In My Old Job Or Move To This New One (I Need Serious Advice) by thelish(f): 8:49am On Sep 14, 2016
Am afraid ur boss will use this against u sooner or later. I asked others around me, they said same. And it might be when the other job is no longer available.
HealthRe: Graphic Photos: Cesarean Section Step By Step In Photos. by thelish(f): 8:11am On Sep 14, 2016
Lolaabokoku:
so ♈όϋ did CS also? It is well with us dear
Amen ooo
That was 5yrs ago
But subsequent deliveries were thru V.
To even think, I preferred d CS ......... seeing these pics makes me think twice
HealthRe: Graphic Photos: Cesarean Section Step By Step In Photos. by thelish(f): 9:03pm On Sep 13, 2016
Lolaabokoku:
Jeeezzz!!!! Is this wht I went tru??
I have been asking myself same??
BusinessRe: 8 Things N500 Cannot Buy Anymore by thelish(f): 11:44pm On Sep 10, 2016
SAMBARRY:
haaa mama tobi.how's ijebu. Hope you no see rain? cheesy

To the matter
You can see 10naira onions if you walk very well inside the market into the place habokees are just coming from the farm but it will be very small

You can also see 50 naira Palm oil which is the size of liquid peak milk tin smiley
minister for finance, take it easy ooo.
E be like say e don tay wey u go market oo
FamilyRe: Men, Who Has Used Revive Or Adam's Desire Before? by thelish(f): 11:36pm On Sep 10, 2016
crackhaus:
Nothing worse than a man who ALWAYS finishes before his woman, just helping the dude out gringrin
OK ooo. lol
CelebritiesRe: Mc Galaxy Spotted With Sexy Twins In This Photo by thelish(f): 2:49pm On Sep 08, 2016
only one woman born these OKPO??
FamilyRe: Men, Who Has Used Revive Or Adam's Desire Before? by thelish(f): 12:41am On Sep 08, 2016
crackhaus:
Lol, were you counting the words and paragraphs? grin
Oh mehn, d conditions too much ooo I lost count oo. lol Which one is bleep again? f****k
FamilyRe: Men, Who Has Used Revive Or Adam's Desire Before? by thelish(f): 10:17pm On Sep 07, 2016
crackhaus:
Dude, go down to your nearest liquor shop and get a bottle of Red Label. Keep it cool in your fridge, then contact someone who knows where and how to get some weed so he/she can get for you—he/she should also be able to tap it up nicely for you if you can't manage it on your own.

On the day you choose to wow your wife, look for a way to make yourself scarce and go into your bathroom (hope you've got a big enough bathroom tho, the bigger the better). Take the weed with you as well as a lighter...shut the door, windows, and light up that joint.

Start gently as it's your first time so you don't choke on the smoke, you don't have to finish the entire wrap though—once you feel yourself getting high and the world around you starts to make more sense like hearing little sounds clearly or seeing things in slow motion, PLEASE STOP!
Dispose of whatever remains into the toilet, take off your clothes and have a cold shower.
Remember to reopen the windows as you shower.

When you get out, eat something but not too much... and afterwards, get your bottle of Red Label. Pour your liquor into a glass and put some ice in it (this will dilute it as the ice melts and turns to water so you can swallow it easier).
Now sip, pour, sip, pour, sip some more, until you feel the effect.

The last stage is getting down with your wife.
If you still end up reaching orgasm within the first 20mins, then it's either your wife's pu.nani is just too sweet or you should seek the face of God Almighty.
All these, just to Bleephuh
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by thelish(f): 8:46am On Sep 07, 2016
AlphaHandMaiden:
Rich people always seem to die of cancer because the have better access to good healthcare and doctors who can actually diagnose their illnesses.....

....... as opposed to some "other" people that always seem to die from witchcraft related issues...
I love this
FamilyRe: I Came Home To Pick Up Something And Caught Wife With Her Lover – Husband by thelish(f): 9:00pm On Sep 02, 2016
donbenedict:
abi grin the laughter go pass night of a thousand laff own.. Infact on a very special day, I go just enter igando visit d court find out wen the next sitting go hold grin
hahahahaha
FamilyRe: I Came Home To Pick Up Something And Caught Wife With Her Lover – Husband by thelish(f): 2:05pm On Sep 02, 2016
donbenedict:
Where is dis Igando customary court sef.
u spoke my mind.
This court go be comedy ground ooo
FamilyRe: How Long Can You Stay Without Sex As Married Couple by thelish(op): 8:44pm On Sep 01, 2016
cocolacec:
Since kids are involved,its better he arrives in Germany first and later apply for his family to join him in Germany depending on the family purse.
I spoke with a lady earlier this year ,who came for her Phd programme from Egypt to study in denmark ,she got her residence permit for her husband and 2 children before she left her country.
The most important thing is proof of financial means to support the family in Germany.

In Sweden it goes
The maintenance requirement for the whole time you are in Sweden is SEK 3,500 (£366) per month for adults and SEK 2,100 (£219)per month for each child.
For 2years (wife)= 24 months X 366=£8784
3 children = 24MonthsX 657=£15,768
Total = £24,552

Germany might require less in bank statement

https://www.auswaertiges-amt.de/EN/Infoservice/FAQ/Studium/09-Familiennachzug%20Studenten.html?nn=480902

Family Reunion (German embassy Nigeria) Required Documents
http://m.nigeria.diplo.de/contentblob/4051286/Daten/6755309/Checklist_Ehegattennachzug_en.pdf
Thanks so much. I really appreciate u
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by thelish(f): 10:57pm On Aug 31, 2016
cococandy:
He's very fine indeed. Fresh boy.
Thanks mummy cutie. He is three months old though.
FamilyRe: How Long Can You Stay Without Sex As Married Couple by thelish(op): 10:53pm On Aug 31, 2016
cocolacec:
If the husband is travelling abroad for studies he can apply jointly to take his wife with him or apply for the wife visa later on ,she will surely be granted a visa.

The problem with Nigerians is lack of information.I remembered when was wife came to scandinavia to study she wasnt aware of that fact until she saw other student resuming with their spouses at hostel accomodation.The only challenge they will have is children are not allowed in hostel accomodation.May i know which country the husband will be studying.?
Thank u for the info.
He will be travelling to Germany. They have three kids already.
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by thelish(f): 10:43am On Aug 31, 2016
cococandy:
Food food food
My cutie has grown so big oo. Tell her say one fine guy dey interested ooo. Check my profile to confirm.lol
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 11:00am On Aug 30, 2016
Jahblessme:
@twinkleme
This is nairaland,people will tell your mother (a grieving widow) to carry goat and cow and go and beg your husband's people.There will also be war room mentions.

Anyway it all depends on you,your character and what matters to you.I would say focus on burying your father and press ignore button on anyother thing.

I've done the love in-laws as your parents and siblings thing, I have flown the flag and finally burnt it.
1. Your in-laws are different people,they are not your parents neither are they your siblings you cannot love them overnight.Most will NEVER ever treat you with the same love and care they shower on their own son or sibling simply because we are humans and will always have a bias.I do not know what gives people the expectation that love suddenly blooms out from nowhere for someone who you've just known from a spouse whether they treat you nicely or not.Infact on NL you are told to love harder especially when you are Ill treated.

I believe relationships like this can be well managed,some people are naturally predisposed to loving and pursuing relationships while some others cannot be bothered. How many husbands are required to love their wives parents and siblings with the same force that keeps on being pushed on to the females?? I find it ridiculous.

I advocate for having an open mind when meeting in-law and then adjusting emotionally based on treatment.
There should be a chance to get to know and then form an opinion on how to move forward not suddenly force love and castigate you if you are not dying on the altar of inlaw.Now if you are accepted openly ,no horrid treatment won't you love back? Incase of Ill treatment,its logical that you micromanage,press ignore button and be cordial.If you are a horrible person then you also should be ignored.
It's the bending backward to the extend of pretending to be who you are not that is sad.You find that when you spend time and things gel,you have things in common,the fondness comes naturally.

For your case id say no one is chained to another,if your husband is disrespectful to your people a discussion is needed on a way forward.You lay bare your point and he says his and you find a way round it.Your energy should be focused on your family,your unit not people who largely are not feeding or clothing you.If you have a great relationship with hubby,establish your boundaries with in-laws and that's it.

I'm not a person who needs to be loved or liked,i don't even have to like people to be able to be cordial or kind.I just try to be fair and polite but it's 100% clear we are not close.Respect me ,I don't need your love.There can be a good cordial relationship,there's nothing wrong with that.You don't have to be falling over each other if you know you are just do not gel.Polite,cordial and kind is the way.

My sister in law goes out of her way to be petty but I just don't bother cos she's inconsequential in the larger picture.I also give room for the fact that probably in some way unknowingly i have offended her but she never even gave me a chance,she just saw me and probably didn't like my big nose.Then a whole host of other things complicated issues.
When we enter naija I still buy stuff for her and her family and say my hellos but I don't discuss anything.Im very fine with it especially cos I'm so far away.

That's one reason why I am against blind apologies,cos you may be apologising for crimes you don't know of which will now be held against you.It happened to me when I was still doing love.I have done a total 360 in the past couple of years in the sense that I have removed myself totally from any unnecessary interaction.M y parents in-law come to mine for months and are always happy but we know we are not close.I have managed to gain respect mainly because i am sensible,an asset to my family,because their son loves me and our home is obviously happy.

So mourn and bury your father and file away others in a cabinet labeled don't bother.You can always have a cordial bi-respectful relationship without all the unnecessary adjuncts.
This is it. God bless u for this blunt n truthful post.
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 10:28pm On Aug 29, 2016
Ishilove:
E taya me. They are dishing out advice they themselves can't follow
I swear! lol
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 1:42pm On Aug 29, 2016
kaffyfolly:
my sister,I understand ur feeling but ure still at fault,despite DT u heard d news late about d accident ,I expect u to call ur mother in law immediately to inform her DT ure just hearing from his son now,so DT she will able to know DT it is d faults of his son,also ur mum should also do d same.
then as for his brother DT did not greet ur mummy,bone DT one, don't even behave u know his attitude towards ur mother.
my sis, note that if u want to stay long in ur home den not everything u must take important just for peace to reigned.
She suppose bone abi?
why d man with his people nor con sabi bone? boning na for women alone?
women don suffer oo
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 1:26pm On Aug 29, 2016
Ishilove:
If I could like your comment thousands of times, I would. Hers is the only realistic comment so far.

Her brother-in-law came but did not greet her mother, a mourning widow, yet they are saying 'ignore their immature behaviour and show them love'.

I hope they will do same if they were in her shoes
My dear, u know almost everybody on nairaland are peace loving people oo. lol
Some are even suggesting the mourning mother go visiting the in-laws for peace to reign.
Even if the wife nor know herself, the mama too nor still know herself??
Those in laws must be dangote's family oo
EventsRe: A Wedding Ceremony Of A Beautiful Sister. by thelish(f): 8:54am On Aug 29, 2016
davidsgal:
I no talk anything oooooo
Buh seriously...
The gown is decent nd beautiful.
hmmmmm.
EventsRe: A Wedding Ceremony Of A Beautiful Sister. by thelish(f): 1:57am On Aug 29, 2016
davidsgal:
Nice gown.
We know wetin dey ur mind Nor fear, just talk am. lol
EventsRe: A Wedding Ceremony Of A Beautiful Sister. by thelish(f): 1:52am On Aug 29, 2016
Saraha1:
Nairalander!!!!!!! Haba?
If a youngman comes here to seek for advice that he needs to get marry but not financially capable. It is this same set of people saaying the groom is poor that will keep telling the youngman to go and marry , that all that matter is love.
Now someone decide to get marry without any complain, yet majority are still saying the groom is poor.
Fingers are not equal.

@op, pls ignore haters majority of them wish they re the one getting married.
This is not a matter of being poor but lack of packaging.
U can be poor but ur packaging will make u look rich.
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 1:16am On Aug 29, 2016
Clone2020:
Do you have a problem comprehending simple sentences? Where did I say wives don't come from a family? All I said was, I'm very sure her husband would have a different version of the story.
Go beg the husband for his version na.
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 12:19am On Aug 29, 2016
CioAngels:
My dear friend, ideally her parents should have called them to know if they got home safely, but what if her parents had their own problems too? My dear friend, the unity will start with her, she has to visit her in-laws to apologise and make sure she stays over with them. She will have to do this for peace to reign in her home. Her mother will have to play part by visiting and settle with her daughter's in-laws becos without this her husband will make her miserable in the house becos his mother is not happy with her family. As for her father's death which they did not visit, yes it is painful, but let me ask her, would their visit to condole with her people, would it have brought papa back? No. She has to make her marriage work. Now, are her brothers so young that her husband is taken decisions on how to bury papa? You know already there are issues on ground so why can't her sibbling stamp their feet and bury papa within their reach and forget about it. As for her brother, it is not compulsory he virits her when there is telephone. Please let her apologise to her husband to have a happy home but she should avoid doing things that would make her apologising all the time so that she will not make herself a slave to him. Good luck.
So we pay condolence visit in order to bring the dead back?? What is wrong is wrong dear.
FamilyRe: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by thelish(f): 12:14am On Aug 29, 2016
sho0369:
Madam please forgive me if u are hurt. you do not understand what marriage is all abouut. Fro
m ur text ur family is ur dad , mom and sibilings. Chec
k urself or be prepared to be thrown out someday. Amasingly u said that u do not condone wrong doing but ur husband. Please ensure u do not get him angry any further.. I tolally agree with clone2020 that teenagers here will hail u but trust me truth is bitter. See ur husband as ur family with ur child(ren). Mind u, do not despise ur mother an
d father in laws as they matter so much in ur marriage. They have all it takes to make or mar ur marriage.
U guys behave as if the wives never came from a family.
Thank God say e go reach everybody. Hope u have daughters oo

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