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@opuro

gone are the days where i have time to keep exchanging words with the number of fools we have on NL. so this the last i would reply to you. tit tat.



@sylvao2000

Your simply a pathetic attention seeker and not worth my time, so this is the last i would accord you that attention you crave for.

The devil you know is better than the angel you don't in the sense that, you have known the guy you met on new year's day for six months. you have feelings for him, and he is caring and bla bla bla. but not ready to settle down yet.

He might just be taking his time and wanting to get to know you better. there's no need to rush anything. Marriage is a serious issue, and not something to just decide on.

while the second one hardly knows you well and he is already talking marriage. he sounds fishy.

you better apply caution in whatever decision you make. not because you wanna get married, you end up rushing into something and making mistakes you might regret later.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=109690.msg1910022#msg1910022 date=1201876155]@Thoniaslim
But u say it like it's demeaning either way. My take on putting up the post was not to debate rite or wrong but to say hey should there be a line somewhere where should d line be?[/quote]Nope, i don't see it as demeaning. there shouldn't be any line at all. relationships are all about doing things for each other.
And doing things for one's partner should not be seen as altering your ego in whatever way or a competition for the upper hand.

i see nothing there in deciding to do the cooking and cleaning up for the lady. after all she can do it all the time for you, so why can't you do it for her once in a while?

who are you, please?
who else was the post directed to?

Your get your answer from the above question.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=109690.msg1909763#msg1909763 date=1201872960]@Thoniaslim
You no dey wash plate for your house? Abi u no go wash them for your husband house?[/quote]Of course i wash my plates, and would wash in my husband's house.

but her own dedication to the plate washing tire me.

like say na do or die affair or if her man wash plate that is it, a curse by the wicked evil witch would be on him.

there is nothing wrong in a guy pampering his woman.

but as the saying goes different strokes for different folks, thats why i wished her a merry plate washing, ALWAYS.

tonia2000:
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Madam slim,
whatever even if im 9 months pregnant never wl i allow my husband wash my dishes.Il pay a househelp to help me with that.Thx

I hear you. please continue with the plate washing job, it suits you well.

dummy, i did not bring any topic back, i got that picture from linda ikeji's blog.

no problem pal.

rockiedink:
to help you out thoniaslim, 0702xxxxxxx is SIM-enabled CDMA networks in Nigeria which Starcomms, Reltel and Multilinks are already selling. u can use it in any part of Nigeria where they have coverage.

oh thats good for them.

sylvao2000:
@poster

Is that your direct brother or uncle? were you at the wedding? nice couple wish them all the best, , hmmmmm your brother ugly ooo and same time too short but never mind such is life.

You think your being cool and funny, but you ain't.
Read a thread well next time before posting.

emmanas:
Every fool finds a greater one to admire them.

Don't think the guy is a fool, but know this that he know what he is looking for in dating a big madam, to you & I it might not be love, but to him it might be because one old word people use is that love is blind but to me is not blind.

Whats that quote on my signature got to do with the thread?

@tonia2000

I saw your post and couldn't help Lmao.
I pity for you. there's a difference between being right and being plain stupid.

when your 8 months pregnant, please be pounding yam for your husband, because you want to be a good and dedicated wife.

A fool at 30 is a fool forever. A pot calling kettle black.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=108145.msg1909141#msg1909141 date=1201863511]@Thoniaslim
Where are u from? Naija guys tell dumb jokes? Just say u don't get the jokes.
As for Naija gals being humorous or not on a general note I'd say they are if u tell it at the rite moment n the rite type to the rite person.[/quote]am from nigeria, but that does not stop me from saying it the way it is.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=109690.msg1909006#msg1909006 date=1201860998]Last night my girl was eating n she couldn't finish her meal n handed it to me. I had earlier told her that I didn't want any but because I didnt want the food to waste I ate it. On my way to the kitchen she says "Please wash the plate".
The look I gave her made her know that sometin was wrong n I said to her "When did you start ordering me around?"
Suffice it to say I did not wash the tin.

I want to know your views on this.[/quote]She told you please to wash the plate, so how has she ordered you or done wrong by pleading with you to help her wash the plate?

so if she had slapped you and told you to wash the plate, that one would no more be ordering, but punishment.

sometimes some men amaze me. Something that has no meaning, you want to show power and authority.
When the real yawa comes, you won't be able to handle. abeg go and sit down jare.

A confident man needs not make noise or show how strong he is. only an unsecured man needs to constantly reassure himself that he's a man because he knows he's not one.

Resources:
Help again, as the matter on the folllowing threat is injuring my heart
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-109330.0.html#msg1903755
I found myself n another problem again. the problem is that my boss wife is interested in me and I told her[b] I will go and think about it [/b]and if I refused her I will loss my job as she promised. And now she is threating my life, and I can not reveal the matter with anyone, all shes telling people is that she sent me errand and I refused to go and I must go.
What can I do.ooooooooooooo

Yet you decided to go and think about it, how wont she keep disturbing you even if you said No at last.

Get evidence and report her to her husband, its better to lose your job than sin against God and Man.


By the way, how is she threatening your life?

Different strokes for different folks.

But to be sincere some naija guys crack the dumbest jokes.

So the girls are now wares you can decide and choose which one you need?

if you have made your decision, what advice do you need again.

From your post you seem to have made your choice, so what more advice do you need. go with your heart and not your head.


By the way, why should there still be two girls in your life?

zheroes:
A friend broke up with his ex-girlfriend some 4years ago and a year after she travelled to UK for her post graduate studies, since then life has not been fair to him, i mean a guy that had a car, a parcel of land in one of naija's major cities, a flat he rented,all of a sudden went completely broke. (am not going to be too detailed so we don't end up sleeping here).

situations got so bad that he lost everything he had, so bad that he had to go back to his father's house. whatever business he got involved in always went wrong, as jobs could not easily be fetched. before his situation got so bad he was already dating an undergraduate and they 've both been believing God for something great

sometime last year friend's raised some money so he could travel to the UK for his post-graduate studies but he was denied a visa because it was said they were unsure if he actually was going to study.

sometime in december, his ex' mum called like she has always been doing, and asked hope they still communicate, he was like well since she travelled they lost contact, but he believes she still has his number, just last month(january) she called and was like: what up and stuff, life ,blah blah? and then she asked if he still intends to study overseas because i guess they both had that in mind before they broke up, he said actually but that his major constraints has been finances.

she offered to assist him with $12000(six thousand pounds) for his studies and intends to send her papers: passport, tenancy agreement, and bank statement so he could get a visa come september.

the problem now: what happens to his present girlfriend that has stuck with him through thick and thin, that has been praying along side him believing God for something beyond the ordinary? what i know is accepting the money is accepting her back, since he cannot eat his cake and have it,guys and girls what are your views? whats the best option for this young man because am pretty confused here.

You seem to be so sure. are you sure its a friend and not you?

Back to your question.

It might be both.

Of course, accepting her help also means accepting her back. it might not be immediately, but gradually it would lead there.

all the fuss to help him with 6,000 pounds and all the paper work, doesn't just go for nothing.

but if i might ask, why did he just end the relationship like that, just because she left the country. b

The ball is in his court, he either accept the money and break a heart in the process. or reject the money and keep praying to God, for another breakthrough.

as someone said above. "SECURITY" no woman wants to suffer. neither does any woman want a lazy man who has no dreams or aspirations. or sometime this might just be a conversational line.

interesting. But too generalized.

Exactly, wetin concern romance with your news. pls move the topic.

Person dey find awoof.

Please is 070, the new Nigerian code?

All of you calling celebrities ugly, are you fine?

Then your a complete dummy. why would he call back, when he has had his own share of the pudding.

better move on and acknowledge it as just one of those flings. because its obvious "the one" ain't into you. your just his booty call.

The girl has no fault at all for her actions. he stopped contacting her, what was she suppose to do, keep waiting like a dummy.

she better tell the guy, that she is a married woman now. more over, how can she trust this guy who just swept back into her life, does she know if he is the same person that left years ago.

she better be careful and not do anything stupid.

Love should be 50/50 so no one feels over loved or under loved.

Do not consider anything. even before he got married to you, he could not zip up. you think its when he gets married to you, he would then zip up. HELL NO.

tell those people/friends telling you to consider him, to go and marry him. as if in their case they would want to do so.

Marriage is a serious issue and not a joke. do not do something you might regret later, just because you want to get married.

See this as a revelation of the true person, you where thinking you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Move on with your life jare. A better man who is truly worthy of your trust would come.

Then its no fault of her's but that of her wicked evil sick friend and the stupid guy. What sort of a friend is that sef, may she get a pound of the flesh one day.

angelchyke:
My Dear, relax. Just relax. You see, I don't believe in snatching out the life of any animal or creature, let alone , AN INNOCENT BABY! It wasn't her fault, it wasn't yours either. This is even a time to test if your love for her is really true. Want my honest advice? Stick with her. Go ahead and marry her. Let her have the baby. Treat the baby like he\she was your own child. The only reason she feels guilty is because she doesn't trust the way you may be looking at her, I mean, your current opinion of her. Even if you have nothing against her, she'll never know. From the bottom of your heart, show and demonstrate your love to her practically. Affirm your commitment to her constantly and remind her it wasn't her fault. Never leave her. It could happen to your sister, you know. Guy, help her. I pray for peace and a blissful future for the both of you in Jesus' name, AMEN. Chou,

What more can i say. good advice.

Resources:
@Angelchyke
Thanks alot, You don't only sound like good man but also like a caring mother, but I have try all you adicve me to do 4 her to make her know that I still love her in any situation she may found herself but she still in the same mood, what else can I do to prove my lov for her again. Also to take the baby like mine may not be very easy, you know my mum know we are in love and get me a baby outside will never accepted in the family.
[size=16pt]Now I am down, what else can I do[/size]

Her case is a combination rape and betrayal by someone she thought was a friend. So she might just be going through a difficult period of trying to come to terms with her experience.

the wounds and pains are still fresh. just give her time to heal. why she heals, do not relent in your support.