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Some people are just vessels of evil.How can you machete someone this way especially your wife?

Have you sat down to ask yourself if the way you are dealing with the girl is the best?Have you considered if a gentle approach like your husband's way will work better?Your husband doesn't have to behave like you.

crackhaus:
I believe it's really my comment about the second not getting it with respect to the first that caused this miscomunication.

And NO, I wasn't looking at the value of the percentage, you give me no credit man...
I already interpreted the implication of the percentages before typing my previous response to you.

25% of 180million sperm carrying the SS genotype is indeed 45million, so what is the implication by percentage of having sperm not carrying the SS genotype?

Is it 135million non-SS carrying Sperm?

Guy,you just don't want to concede.
I've been replying you so that Op or anyone who reads the thread will not be misinformed.Let's leave out figures for now.The most important thing is;
if two people with AS genotype marry,they can have the first,second or even all their children carry the SS genotype.

Beremx:
I know of three couples who are AS but they went ahead to get married. They are all educated and are not illiterates. Does it mean the educated couples out of ignorance go ahead and marry without doing a genotype test or they just forget to do it? I don't understand o!

,Anyway, as for your friend, i have nothing to say. They should do as they wish.

Most educated ones who get married do that out of stubbornness,faith that they will be healed or just wish it away that it won't be their lot.
I know most people who start dating don't consider checking genotype(some don't even know theirs) until the relationship is far gone.By the time they realise and do checks,most of them feel they have reached a point of no return and decide to defy the odds.

crackhaus:
Brother man, free me na...
Are we not saying the same thing basically?

You say the probability of having a child with the SS genotype after the first one is 25%, I said there's a high probability the next won't be SS (which falls into the remaining 75%)

I also ended it by saying they should seek medical advise before going forward...cos even with the high (75%) probability the next won't be SS, it's still a gamble.

My submission is based on two different familes I know personally, not hear-say.
The first son in one family is SS, the second and third are not.
The second family has twins as first issue and only one twin is SS...the second issue (a boy) is not.

Seeking medical advise like I already surmised in my very first post should tell you I'm not taking the absolute stance on my opinions. The second-born may be SS and also may not be...and according to you, the chances of the former is 25%, thus leaving 75% for the latter - didn't you still prove my high probability of the latter submission in the end?

We are not saying the same thing exactly.You are looking at it from the value of the percentage rather than the implication of the percentage.
Let us see this picture:an ejaculate of s.emen contains about 180million sperma.25% will give you 45million sperma.That means about 45 million sperma could carry the SS genotype.Now only one sperma will fertilise the egg.Can you see the chances of one out of the 45million doing that job?It's no small percentage.
The family you know that has the first son as SS and the 2nd and 3rd not having is just a question of chance.In some families,the second and even the 3rd could be SS.
Like I mentioned earlier,I know of a family of four with 3 being SS.The first born,the second born who unfortunately is late,and the last born.

crackhaus:
This your scenario 2 dey defy the laws of permutation and combination sha, not to mention natural selection.

Oga Thorpido, how possible is it that all four kids end up being SS...even without a medical degree, basic biology did not teach me this one.

Yes,because It's not basic biology actually,it's genetics.It is possible to have four kids and all end up as SS.Look at this diagram below;If the first child turns out to be child 3 sperm,the second child could be child 4 sperm which also makes him an SS child.

AS. + AS
/ / / \ / \ \ \
AS AS SS AS. AS AS AS. SS
1. 2. 3. 4. 1. 2. 3. 4

The chances are neither reduced nor increased by the birth of another child.
I know a family of four children.3 of the children are SS.Unfortunately,one is late now.

crackhaus:
...there's a very high probability the next won't be SS since the first already carries the genome ...but please, they should seek medical advice first before going forward.

You no wan gree she?
We are talking medical issue here i hope you understand.
Medically,the probability of having a child with SS genotype after a first one is 25%. That means if the child falls in that 25%(which is no small percentage),it will be an SS genotype carrying child.

lilzcee:
in that situation, they can't buh they do help alot

It's just a question of time.Living like this will always result in a bad and regretful end.

Tell him to inform his parents or the girl should inform her parents.

Smh at the comments here.This girl can be in real danger and all you think about is boyfriend house.
Let her be found first at least for the sake of her parents.

crackhaus:
Like I typed before:

...there's a very high probability the next won't be SS since the first already carries the genome...but please, they should seek medical advice first before going forward.

Not true.It has no scientific basis.The first has no bearing on what the second will carry.

@Op,people still get married at this age without a knowledge of their genotypes?smh.Cos all they do during courtship is fvck.
Throwing away the wedding because of this situation is not good enough reason.They should care for this baby and hold off having more children for now.They should go through the process of testing/child selection if they can afford it later on in life or they adopt.

Is it possible to have that joint account and both of you are signatories to it?Money doesn't leave that account except you both sign the cheque or withdrawal booklet?
You can both sit down to draw a list of your expenditure and decide on how much you spend and what you spend on.
I don't know how well this joint account works cos I don't practice it but someone who does will come to advise you.

I believe you guys dated before marriage but I don't think you discussed issues like finances well before tying the knots.
Seems your husband is a Christian since he quotes the bible.Are you both committed Christians?You can have someone who has some spiritual leadership at your local assembly talk to him.

Why do they always have to do this.....the money or mere exhibitionism?
He must be a father for that matter.

I vote Mimzy.

Cc:NLjega

darkenkach:
For the sake of this relationship I think once (three years ago) is not enough reason to call it off.

I'll leave Op to make her decision.Once can be enough reason sometimes(we're yet to even know if it was once,my intuition tells me it wasn't just once).
If i started dating a girl known to my family and I get to hear she slept with my brother after we started dating,except it was a case of rape,the relationship is off.

rummeh:
She likes it

Aha.So people can take whatever they like even if it will harm them.

darkenkach:
Since its just once, that doesn't make him a cheat. Forgive both of them and move on with the wedding plans.

Once doesn't make one a cheat?You remind me of the statement,'i could not have gotten her pregnant because i only slept with her once'.

Take a break from the relationship.Give yourself time to clear your head.
You could decide to forgive him and continue with the relationship or you could quit.
If you decide to forgive him,what assurance is there that they still won't have something together in the future?

Shouldn't she get help?Craving is one thing,using your brain is another.

lonelyhrt:
Nah thanks

My heart is safe where it is , now leave lonelyhrt and move to nxt

Not searching

Vessi:
General Abacha could have killed Diya same way he killed Saro Wiwa.

Diya was lucky he knelt down and cried and begged and weeped and sneezed before Al-Mustapha to spare his life.

Such a coward.

It's so easy to say because you're not in his shoes.Imagine you being his son who's getting married here.Begging Al-Mustapha or Abacha would not have made a difference anyway.He would still have been killed a la military style.
It was just God who spared him.

Four months ago?
She doesn't have a choice but to let the husband know.He will decide what to do which might be to end the marriage anyway.
Why get married to another man when your heart is still with your ex?

God had mercy on this man.Abacha would have made him history.

The wife had to try to cover her husband's shameful act up......smh.

nyben4eva:
Cheating women don't think,neither do they have any remorseful feelings and they can never change because it's in their blood.

The same applies to men and you know men are more guilty.

OneManLegion:
There was a discourse between the OP's author and his wife - or there could have been if his wife hadn't prematurely killed it.

She denied all wrongdoing while subtly stating that nothing can stop her from continuing with her infidelity. That's where the lack of remorse comes in. She evidently doesn't accept that her infidelity is a grave error. How do you see reasons with that kind of recalcitrant woman?

Truth is, the woman's actions are unjustifiable. Heaven knows I won't dilly-dally this long if I were the man.

If the bolded is the situation,then the Op has every right to dissolve the marriage.

The driver go still hear am.

OneManLegion:
I won't have a woman I call my wife cheat on me and show no remorse only for me to sit her down and start begging her to stay with style.

No, I'm not married; and no, I'm nowhere close to being a teenager.

The question is why would she cheat on you in the first place;a gap was created between you or she is just not content?
Even if a wife cheats,you both still need to discuss it and decide if you will forgive or not.

masterpix:
bros this your advice does not add up, once a cheat will remain one,remember old road no dey kill once she see the man call the affection will come back again and she will start doing the needful. Why on earth will you marry a women without the love and approval of any of the two families. Storburn fly follow the cobes to the grave

It's possible to forgive and it's good that option is explored.Some people cheat and repent and never go back so it's not entirely true that a cheat will continue to cheat.Moreover,the chat the Op saw was not enough proof that the wife cheated even though it suggests that.

@bolded,it's very wrong getting married without parental consent and blessings.

OneManLegion:
Your comment lacks common sense. Someone says he found incontrovertible evidence of his wife's infidelity you're there yapping about spark. What nonsense spark?

Loveisblind, get a lawyer and speak to him. Intimate him on your stance.

Adultery is one of the factors that can qualify a person to dissolution of marriage.

If you waste time, when the matter gets to court eventually, she'll raise a defense of "condoning" on your part. This will defeat your prayers.

Act fast and send the unfaithful _bitch out of your house.

You don't talk like you're married(a teenager on this forum I guess) so you won't understand.

Which heaven?The wicked has no place there!