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Mix it with about 1litre of water.
Give your baby drops every two minutes with a dropper or syringe and give about 90ml in one hour.
If she is still stooling or vomiting continue to give after each episode.Continue to breastfeed or give her food if she can still eat.

argon500:
I am in a friendship right now that is very complicated. I have been hanging out with him for a very long time. We talked on the phone, online and in person every day for several months. We both get jealous of each other being with a potential other person and his body language signifies that he likes me more than a friend.

All my friends and his friends all say that he acts as though there is feelings between us that we don't even have to say anything but they know we have a "connection." He centers all his activities on what I do every weekend and does everything that every guy will do when they like someone more than a friend.

Problem is he tells everyone that asks him what is going on that we are just friends and that's all he sees me as. I have, during this time, fallen in love with him. I don't want to lose our friendship but I want to be with him more than just a friend!

What am I missing?

He's not asked you out yet?

Why don't you go in for the nursing and find out if the 'theatre' is the same as the 'theatre'?

I'm sure there are a lot of people with nollywood 'dreams'.

rezzy:
We are from different tribes. We agreed to name our babies this way. 1st child,, he names, 2nd child i name, like that. As in, i will give 2nd child my native names. And that is what he/she will be called in school, no other names.

He agreed wen we werent married, now, his tone has changed. He said you that cant really speak ur language, the name must have good meaning, if not, bla bla. I just told him, na name wen mama call pikin dey stand. I will be d one to register him at school, i will use d name i choose to.

Una wan start kata kata be that.

You were not thinking of shame when you took in.Better go back to your parents house and 'took' the shame.

They say it's a fictional thread anyway.

duwop:
So does anyone know if companies keep spousal records?

Lady,you don't need it.What if you actually got company records and it even shows he is not tied to any woman,would you still go ahead with the marriage?

You seem not to get that one essential thing in a future partner is missing? INTEGRITY.

duwop:
Yea his dad absolutely objected to d union.

Something is definitely not right about this.
Take your time and get to the root of it.

The two points chaircover raised are my exact questions.
It's not just about if he is married or not.
My question is who is he?integrity?honesty?

chaircover:
Very weird;

Trado marriage with no one from his family in attendance? . . .Very difficult to beleive

He may have hired some people to pose as his family members.Some people have done that.

Henry is fine.I thought it was going to be something like 'soclean',cos the daughter is purity.

Their mother though.A woman will turn her back on her kids and not look back?
This one is strong.

Apparently crushed by the train.What a way to die.
I hope it was not suicide.

ajuwarhodes:
Who's this abeg?! Why do 9ja men(some) talk like fools? 60percent of childlessness is curse by men,especially those who don't zip up,some of u guys are cursed by that babe u broke her heart.some have untreated std,so I advice u to shut that gutter u call mouth!am married and I know what am talking abt

He didn't say what was right.Unfortunately,you are saying exactly what he said in a different way.

Marital blitz.What a way to start.

He's probably shy and can't approach you.
He's probably not interested in you.
He probably thinks you are involved with the 'most wanted guy'.
He doesn't like the fact that you get too much attention from guys(some guys don't like a lady with too many guys around her).
He's involved with someone.

If you are not the type that can talk to a guy about your feelings for him,then just keep your cool and let him make the move.If he doesn't,then you've just got to let it slowly burn out.

aaronson:
you talked about separation in your post and I'm like why separate from darkness(unbelievers) when you was instructed in church to win souls for christ

Yes we are to win souls.We are to bring men out of darkness into the light.We are however not to BE in the dark.

aaronson:
so why the separation when your pastor encourage you to win souls for christ rather preach to people like me to follow christ

I don't understand.

Pastor Adeboye speaks better english than what is written there.Casts doubts on the authenticity of the post.

Unfortunately,the gullible are quick to condemn.

How did you come about your conclusion?What criterion or statistics do you have?
Are you talking about what the society accepts or what Christians/church accepts.
Well I still went to church yesterday and fornication is still as condemned as adultery.

aaronson:
watch it bro,for you getting quick to slang other people error,you defeating the purpose of your believe and secondly matt7vs1

........but there is only One God.
Matt. 7:1-depends on what is judged.To separate light from darkness is not judgement.The Word of God already did.

aaronson:
As it was quoted in the bible 'xyz'...so what truth would set man free? Does it mean that other religion and belief system are living in bondage?

The Truth is God and His word.There can't be two truths,so some people are in error.

voodoo85:
Thats what am saying. But why such thing is happening? Its not like u dragged him to the church- both wanted same, innit?

People change.Some actually live in deception and some are not able to deal with the reality of a marital life.

'And ye shall know the truth,and the truth shall make you free'(John8:32KJV).The bible actually says MAKE free and not SET free.There is a difference.

At Op,if you check the verse before the verse above,Jesus said,....'If ye continue in my word.......There is where the Truth lies.Jesus said,thy word is truth!
Get to know the Word of God and let it dwell in you richly.That knowledge makes you free.

voodoo85:
Ofc not but when u fix the roads and sidewalks and still traffic runs only one side, u start blocking the road

If the other part is not facilitating the communication,there's nothing you can do.

Godmystrength:
Why this? If he feels so convinced that they are already married and entitiled to married benefits, what is he afraid of if she gets pregnant before ''our wedding''

Married people don't decide not to get pregnant because of what people will say......

If he doesn't want pregnancy ''before our wedding'' then i assume that he doesn't yet see themselves as married so let him wait like he has been waiting before till ''their wedding''

Exactly.In addition,Let her stop coming to sleep over 'before our wedding' until they do the church wedding.

Phema:
Oh really? So for people that did Trad and Registery, their wedding isn't "complete"?

To each his own.

Not complete without the church wedding.The Op knows that and that is why he is avoiding pregnancy.

You should have put all these into consideration before deciding to go abroad for studies.Living apart poses challenges but you both should have agreed on making that sacrifice.
The most important question is,if your wife comes abroad,what will she do?
Your are a post-graduiate student,how much finance do you have to support a family?
I think you should let your wife visit and you both try to see how things can work if she stays.Don't let her resign yet
As per your inlaws,people need time to build relationships.Your wife will need to get accustomed to your mum especially if she has not been.Let her visit more often but don't force the relationship.Your FIL can advise and he may be right putting economic and career decisions of his daughter into consideration.He can't enforce it but consider it and you can speak with him and discuss it.
You choose to discipline yourself.Single girls is not your course of study.

voodoo85:
Whatvi have noticed, that men in general treat a marriage as a task- showed colorful feathers, promissed the world, proposed, got the stamp and papers of marriage and seems their job is done. It seems they believe that marriage is itself going engine, which doesnt need care, fixing and so on. Here stops understanding and listening. I dont understand the point of marriage nowadays. Not mine only example, my some friends feel same. Woman starts complaing about one thing but in reallity its thousand things which u both hid under the carpet and didnt solve them, didnt talk about them. And rubbish pile under the carpet is getting bigger and bigger

Communication is key.However,it's a 2-way street.It's not just the responsibility of the man.

Guardianangel:
I've always entered this forum as a guest to but today, my spirit has been vexed through this topic to join nairaland.
Firstly at Op, do you think we woman do not bear all the abuses you take us through in marriage? For the sake of your post I'll narrate my predicament of an over 6 years marriage with 3 children. My hubby is over ten yrs older than me. I've gone thru and still going thru one of the worst relationship a woman can have with a man. He never says sorry for errors on his part, never says thank you for efforts I put in the marriage be it financially or physically, has never bought me a birthday , anniversary or even one cloth, I buy all by myself. Not that I'm bothered with material things but just a show of care will do as I know he's not so rich but just struggling.
now the big issue is that I'm going thru emotional abuse. I love sex like crazy but he's decided to pocket his "machine" . I always like him to clean up every night before bedtime but he's the type that hardly showers 2wice or even more. Sometimes I do endure the sweaty body scent during the act just for the sake of peace if not, na war. I try to turn my nose away though...what does a woman do when her man thinks he doesnt needb to be appealing towards her? .....that has resulted in great act of masturbation for me in fact, I'm considering a sweeter option... intimacy gadgets! And oh yes, I'd really still very attractive and still get advances from both single and ready men but I made a vow and do wanna keep it.
This is a man that I've spoken to several times, tried to make happy, told what pleases me but yet remains adamant to my cries....
If not because of this post, I'll never have voiced out so, you men should be careful how you behave in marriage. Simply because a woman cherishes her children and desires a happy role model of a home does not mean we cannot do the unimaginable.
@op, pls go back to your wife, thank her for her patience thus far, re strategies new methods for a happy her. Begin to do the little things she likes which you never did, do some TLC, listen to Luther Vandrose's."Buy me a rose". Most of all, be a man and not a weakling cos every woman is only attracted to a man who can at least partially fulfill her fantasy.
good luck!

madam,I think there might have been a poor foundation in your marriage.Did you guys court for a reasonable period of time?Did you observe his character then?If I may ask,why did you marry a man over ten years older than you?

lynpetra:
Women go into marriage thinking their men would change with time,they hardly ever do.Men go into marriage thinking their women will remain that wonderful still,but....Marriage it is.

Not everyone.It depends on the type of foundation you lay and your purpose for marrying.Moreover you don't go into marriage 'thinking'.If the right things are put in place,there will be no need 'thinking'.My wife has not changed and i don't see her changing.

Sex in early pregnancy is safe.However,you need to be cautious and watch out for any sign of discomfort,bleeding or spotting and stomach cramping.Also if there has been a history of miscarriage,you need to stay away for a while.
If you make love,just do it gently.No deep trusting and the bump and grind stuff.

firstolalekan:
Liar!
Alaafin is a Christian.

Alaafin of Oyo is a muslim.