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It's better you marry someone you love and who loves you.

If you just want someone from your tribe,you might end up with a loveless marriage.

Which one is worst christian song again?

Op,have you read the portion where Jesus asked the question,'how do you hear?'.

Everyday people by Arrested Development(old skool).

^^^well said Kulyie.He shouldn't let her get away with it.

Sometimes i see guys being so mean with ladies and it upsets me but when i see the way some ladies act nowadays i don't even know what to feel anymore.

Is it Teju babyface or Ay?#confused

I felt this man's loss.A man who carved a niche for himself and has been working hard at his biz.
I just didn't think he deserved to go this way.

Life is a mystery.RIP

The thing sef still dey continue today.I have tried the ATM this morning.

kendraloops: Me too I don't like the idea of feeding bottle but the challenge is getting him to open his mouth for the spoon. Donno who taught him but when he cried earlier n we shoved a spoonful in his mouth, he keeps his mouth shut when a spoon's approaching his mouth. He has no option, he'll just have to adjust while I'm gone.
Yes can they give him glucose in case he refuses food?

I guess u'll have to make him cry like Chillisauce suggests and put the spoon in when he opens his mouth.You can give him glucose but it shouldn't be a substitute for food.

DICKtator: You apparently didn't see the "potential" that preceded the "Dr."

Even if he is a potential Dr,he should know that with 200L anatomy.
Except he is just preparing for UTME.

Try to feed your baby from a cup or small bowl rather than a bottle if you can.
The paediatric health professionals frown at the use of bottles.It's been shown to precipitate diarrhoea.

AK 48: What if none of these listed above occur,can one still get h.i.v?

I can remember a place where it is written inside a pack of gold circle that the virus cannot penetrate a latex condom.

All things being equal you shouldn't get HIV with a proper use of condom.As far as I know,it has not been reported that anyone got HIV by regularly using a condom.

omicron: Nobody has made conclusions. Read my first post and note I said she should Rule Out gay tendencies in her man. I did not label him outright gay already.

See, there is a limit to everything. A woman describes her sexual relations with her husband as BARELY TWICE IN 2 MONTHS and you disagree to revisit his sexual orientations I do not think it is correct.

And I never said a man with low libido cannot impregnate a woman. I only suggested that by virtue of that fact he has imoregnated her before, it shows that the man is at least physiologically normal.

A man's libido is a function of an interplay between psychology, behaviour, beliefs and physiology, and in this case I feel this man is physiologically okay. That left me with only psychological/bahavioural and issues of belief (eg religion and upbringing), as these can all significantly suppress libido or, more appropriately put, sexual expression. But with 2 times in two months, and the fact he used fatigue as a reason to evade possible confrontation or expression of dissatisfation from his wife during their early marital period, looks like someone who knew what his wife did not know.

Abnormal sexual orientation is not an uncommon cause of this man's behaviour.

Though I am not a psychologist nor a psychiatrist, but as a medical doctor I have had the priviledge of having some men confide in me regarding issues as this.

This issue started since immediately after wedding. It is not as if the OP had previously known the man's sexual behaviours, therefore I still stand by my advice that she should ensure her man is not attracted to males.

okay.So we can both agree that except there's proof of an abnormal sexual orientation,we can't say his reason for seldom meeting with his wife is because he has attraction towards fellow males.

omicron: you'd be shocked how many gay men out there are marrying women! This is Africa and with our homophobic attitudes more men with gay inclinations will try and suppress it because of sociatal concerns.

You cannot just be talking of low testosterone in a man who had impregnated this lady before.

His problem is basically a psychological/behavioural one and, in my opinion, she should make sure her husband's sexual orientation has been originally towards the opposite sex.

You think all this homosexual men out there are all marrying males

A man with low libido can impregnate a woman.It can take just one round at the fertile period of the woman.
I know there's a lot of media buzz about gays nowadays but to conclude that a man is gay just because he's not meeting often with a woman is wrong.

I'm a paramedic and I get to see and hear a lot cos of where I work.People have issues.Many men are straight but they need help.The environment where we live where men have this false macho air makes many not to seek help.

Op your husband simply has a low libido.
Get him to see a doctor who will run tests to check his testosterone level.If it's low he'll be put on some medication.
It's also possible that he might have some psychological issues about sex probably based on past experience.

He may not be getting anything outside or be gay like some people are insinuating.It's a medical/pyschological issue.I once met a guy who told me he could go for weeks without even thinking about it and that it's his wife who even reminds him.

Yes it's possible.There are quite a no of reasons;
*A condom is not 100% effective.No contraceptive is exactly 100%.
*The condom could burst while you are in the act.
*You could get infected from handling intimacy fluids especially if u have a wound or cut in your hand/fingers.
*You could get infected from MouthAction.
*You could get infected from other sources apart from sex which i hope you know.

He knew things and kept quiet about it even to the grave?
Seems Babangida is also going to keep some things till the grave.

He may not necessarily be getting it outside but to stay for a year is a bit to the extreme
I have been in d labour ward long enough to see how some men take it(or don't take it).
If you are the kind that will not be comfortable,I'll advise you stay out.I'll advise guys generally not to look down when the baby is popping out.

What proof is there that driving affects ovaries and pelvises?
He's not a doctor or medical personnel but just making a statement based on indoctrination that limits the freedom women have.

.......Unlike Christianity....
Self-righteousness.

Reminds me of Jesus' story of two people who go before God in prayer for forgiveness.One begins to talk about how much good he had done and how he is not like that other man.
The other simply goes before God seeking forgiveness.
Jesus asked who is more justified before God?(Luke 18).

Some people tell stories of how good they are and how they are not like those christians......
Time will tell

So sad.RIP
The parents will be devastated.

Just learning he was an only child.

He has to learn how to talk right.

Your brother is talking about marrying her when he doesn't even really know the meaning of marriage.He's probably saying that to save face.
Your brother is a man,young man though.He has to handle his business and take responsibility.

The child is here already!

I tried to reply d PM but doesn't seem to be working.
You can send me a mail at hopefordis@yahoo.com

Jesus was not encouraging men to be dubious.
He was not commending the act of the dubious servant but his policy.It was the shrewdness and perseverance behind his act in other to secure his future that Jesus wanted believers to learn from.

The steward used his shrewdness to secure his earthly resources and the future.Jesus wants believers to exercise such shrewdness and perseverance to secure their eternal future.He also expects believers to manage their earthly resources well.Christians are often striving in spiritual pursuits but are often not doing well in the management of their finances and material possessions.
From verse 11,you will see His attention on that.

He is more or less a hermaphrodite.Further tests on him will determine if he'll actually turn out a boy or girl.

Is the pastor's word from the Bible,the Word of God.
If the pastor preaches from the word,pick a bible and compare what he preaches from the Word.
The bible says the Berea Christians studied on their own and compared with the Word.

Apostle Paul said,' follow me as I follow Christ'.Paul was a man yet he said follow me.
Nothing wrong with following a pastor WHO FOLLOWS CHRIST.

She's been keeping fit for years so I guess she's within safe limits.However lifting such heavy weights is a bit to the extreme.
A lot of women(Naija especially) don't exercise while pregnant and that makes it difficult losing that weight gain and trimming that tummy post pregnancy.

Anniebissy: the guy is nt yet ready

Then they are not yet ready to live together.

Do the right thing.

Formalise the union and then pack to his house.

Mandy2013: yes i am seeking solutions, i want to know if the only option left is ivf.

I'll like to know what options you have taken.
Have u done HSG to confirm if the tubes are blocked(one or both of them)?
You can PM me to discuss further.I'm a paramedic and I'm trying to see what help I can offer.

Yes there's a lot of fish in the sea and a lot of men want to fool around because of that.



Some in the process have ended up with an Octopus or mammywater.

I'm yet to see anyone with proof that the fallopian tubes were unblocked by herbs.
Op,are u seeking solution to blocked tubes?