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Religion has its issues and what men choose to do with it determines if it's a blessing or curse.

Jesus Christ however is the best to ever happen to mankind.
'That which is born of the flesh is flesh,that which is born of the Spirit is spirit'(For those who understand).

The girl wan chop money na.

Love is not enough.

kendraloops: hmmm,its been a while o. almost 6months now but life has neva remained d same down dere. sometimes it throbs like a headache n oda times,i get a very peppery sensation when i urinate. its al so so frustrating. hubby is really understanding n all but 4 ow long wud i complain without pissing d poor guy off.
mind u, prior to childbirth, things werent like dis at all. very healthy s,ex life. good old days,lol.
il check out vaginimismus(spelling?) though. tnx 4 ur concern.

Do a urinalysis/culture too to rule out an infection.

kendraloops: little wonder. am in d same situation with d op. I just don't care abt it anymore. had a baby recently n I was stitched down dere. stil feel pains most of d time as a result so any mention or interest in se.x by hubby gets me screaming.
most times,I just go thru d motions cos d pains don't allow me even think of enjoyin anything. I don't like ow tins r,but I can't help it too.

kendraloops how long has it been since you had your child?
Usually the pain of episiotomy will reduce with time and be gone oin a month if there is no other complication like an infection.Sometimes the stitch is sewn too tight.
What you should do is try and take warm bath frequently which should help with the healing.Also use a lubricant like K-Y jelly whenever you need to make love and do enough pre-intimacy to relax yourself.
You could also be experiencing secondary vaginismus but that can be taken care of.

Lastly if the above does not help,i'll advise you get a vibrator that fits so u can use that frequently to get u comfortable again.

If you can look beyond today,I assure you there's light at the end of the tunnel.
We all go through rough patches in life but the most beautiful thing about life is NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT.
In the words of a famous author,tough times never last but tough people do.
Get tough.

Please don't compare yourself to the guy on your street who committed suicide and as for your girlfriend who's acting up,let her go.Someone better will come along.
One thing about thoughts of suicide that people never realise is that if you look at your life as having something to GIVE rather than just what you can GET,you'll realise taking your life is actually denying people of receiving from you.It's not just about material things cos that is not what life is all about.

Think about doing more for others(and it will surely come back to you)and you will realise life is beautiful.

Erm,why she no face her studies first?

She doesn't want a long distance relationship and she doesn't love this other guy.I think she should free both of them.It's not like the guy who goes to school will not be coming home frequently but if she doesn't want that,let her just forget about him.

karis23: Its not a cultural tin its basicily a church tin d guy is catholic nd we re anglicans.the guys father sees other churches as inferior 2 d catholic church sayin dat d catholic church is senior 2 all churches because other churches broke away 4rm d catholic church

The catholic church is superior to other churches?See mindset!

I think your family is going to have issues with a man like your future FIL.

In the yoruba tribe and some other places,there's no issue about where the wedding will take place,it holds in the bride/bride father's church.
For the sake of peace,I think your father should apologise and you guys work something out as adults.

Have u just had a child?Childbirth seems to affect sex drive in some women.

You need to rediscover yourself.Take time away from normal routine.Have a vacation and try new styles with your hubby.

ilelabola: 20 tips to make your marriage successful In’sha’Allah...!!!
1. Trust, help each other, be good and stay positive.
2. Please your spouse and make him/her feel special always.
3. Be humorous, playful, helpful, respectful and entertaining.
4. N
ever bring your past mistakes in your today.
5. Encourage and give hope to your spouse.
6. Do not compare each other even fortiny things.
7. Surprise your spouse with something new.
8. Spent time as much as you can.
9. Get ready for your spouse as they want you to get ready and look beautiful always.
10. Listen carefully and obey sincerely.
11. Avoid fighting, ignoring, lying, doubting, misbehaving and getting angry.
12. Be open and discuss your problems/ worries to your spouse.
13. If one of you is angry, the other should be quiet.
14. Don't argue. Simply say ‘Sorry’ whether it’s your mistake or not.
15. Always make Dua to make your marriage successful and your relationship/ bond strong.
16. Always be thankful to your spouse.
17. Say ‘I love you’ to your spouse.
18. Understand each other.
19. Make eye contact while speaking.
20. Eat together, be together and pray together...!!!
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Can these be easily practised with 3 or 4 wives?

I don't think the pain has to do with her being a virgin.
The pain is likely to be of musculoskeletal origin and people experience it,virgin or not.If the pain comes around her period,then it may be dysmenorrhea.

[quote author=tbaba1234]JINNS may take the form of a live picture portraying whatever the sorcerers and fortunetellers wish to know about. When these deviants see the image of what they sought, they then inform other humans about it. Some of them may know that the image is actually an illusion, while others may be deluded into believing that they are actually wintessing the real scene.

Ibn tamiyyah (1263 - 1328) essay translated by Dr Bilal philips.

More:

The devils will often respond while talking the form of the one besought, whether dead or alive, even if he is unaware of those who call on him. Those committing Shirk in this fashion believe that the person beseeched has actually replied when in fact it is the JINN replying. This frequently happens to Christians who call on those whom they edify, whether dead or alive, like George or other holy figures [ROME, Feb 24 1989 (AFP) - A retired Italian roadman Renato Baron claims that he has been seeing and talking to the Virgin Mary for nearly three years now. Visions by Baron and about THIRTY others have attracted tens of thousands of people from Italy, France, Belgium, and West Germany to a hill near Venice, causing huge traffic jams.

Ambridge, Pennsylvania - A small Roman Catholic Church in a western Pennsylvania mill town is preparing for a deluge of pilgrims after a reported Good Friday miracle in which the eyes of a statue of Christ suddenly closed. The Rev. Vincent Cvitkovic, a Franciscan friar, and many of his parishoners reported that the eyes of a life-size statue which depicts the crucified Christ, which have been open for 60 years, closed during a prayer meeting.




Rather than just dispute the authenticity of the topic you choose to go into how it is a common practice among Christians.How many Christians believe and practice such?Is it not a practice found commonly with the Catholic church?
Let's show maturity and wisdom when passing comments.
Like i always say,what a man believes or disbelieves does not change the Truth.

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She saw a vision her marriage will break up?
The marriage failed because it didn't have a right foundation.It was a long distance relationship and I don't think they really knew each other.

At 25 years you shouldn't be under age-pressure to marry.
Take your time with this new guy,be friends with him and over time you'll know what he's about.
If i may ask how old is he?

I think your child's dad and you will never work.People do rarely change.The family may love you but you are the one who will live with him if you marry him.

About the new guy,you can go to God in prayers and He will reveal things to you himself.There's nothing wrong with seeking direction with a pastor but you can get a confirmation in your heart from God too directly.

I think you shouldn't just rush things.Take your time and just get to know this new guy well.I hope you're not under age pressure.

Are you not Nigerian or you do not reside here?

Yes there's a lot of inter-tribal marriages.Most people prefer to stick within their own tribe but with the exposure today,a lot of people are marrying from other tribes.

No.

There will be issue in marriage but they can be settled quickly and amicably.
Marriage is not about trying to prove you're right.It's two people working together for a common goal and mutual happiness.
The bible says not to let the sun go down on your anger,in other words settle quickly.
It's immatured people who don't learn to resolve issues quickly.
A man should not just jump on his wife but a woman should not use sex as a weapon against her husband.

You're not overreacting.
However,giving is a beautiful thing.I'm a giver.

What i think you need to do with your wife is to sit down and work out a budget.When you have money for the family needs mapped out,she can then give of loose funds.

Op,why don't you get yourself to a reputable hospital and get a doctor or in-house radiographer do a scan for you?

Something seems amiss here.There are people who have kept seeing their period even after they have conceived but they usually have a positive pregnancy test.There's no way you will be pregnant and your B.Hcg will not rise which will be picked up by a test.

The fact that you are TCC makes your emotions and state of mind run wild.Just keep your mind at rest and God will perfect everything at His own time.

If you are in Lagos i could have a scan done for you in a reputable hospital free.

RoyPCain: @thorpido: imagine the former 'comforter' before the another comforter. who were the former comforters if more than 1? if it was just 1, who was he? if neither the former[s] or Jesus did not abide forever, how can we expect the another to abide for ever?

id you remember what Jesus said by reading what they said he said and that is your source of remembrance, he is abiding. no?

same situation with Muhammad [sa]. and more profound, clearer in the sense that what he received is kept separate and what what they said he said is separate. so you have 2 distinctive materials on Muhammad [sa]; the first from his Lord. the second what he said. we have double remembrance and his way of abiding is double surety.

whose sending is superior; God Who sent all prophets before Jesus and then Jesus or Jesus who was reported to be sending the final comforter?


if anyone was going to be the sender, it has to be God Who has the right.


so what was reported about sending by Jesus is just machination of the writer. let me stop here because i am not one of those who kick against the pri.cks [whatever that means].


@ christkid, roselynbas, graveguy; why are you guys kicking against the pri.cks? i know you can not crucify me. Allah is Enough for me.

Jesus was(is) a Comforter.He was about to leave the disciples and they were sorrowful and that was why He said another Comforter(Alos Paraclete-another one just like Me) will come to be with you.Jesus spoke about the Holy Spirit and the relationship between Him and the Holy Spirit are one.

Jesus said, I can do nothing of Myself,but what I see the Father do:for what things soever he does,these also does the Son likewise(John5:19).Whatever the father does is approved in Jesus.Who the Father sends is sent also by Jesus.
Don't ask me how?Jesus said these things are hidden from the wise and prudent and God has revealed them to babes and it pleases God that it is that way.
Jesus further said,...but He that sent Me is true WHOM YE KNOW NOT.
If a man does not know The God Who sent Jesus,how will he believe His words or anything to do with Him.
Jesus said,..ye have not His word(The One Who sent Me)abiding in you(John5:38).

munex007: I read every word!..This is fiction..The Morning call to prayer is around 4:30 am to 5:00am(i.e d first call)and not 3:30 am as you claimed

And the miscarriage part..In reality she will seek immediate medical attention and not going back to the class due to the loss of blood

The prophet part..The difference between a Jew,christain and muslim..The jews don't believe in Jesus(A.S),they believe in Moses(A.S)..The Christains don't believe in Muhammed(S.A.W),they believe in Jesus(A.S)..The Muslims believe in Moses(A.S),Jesus(A.S) and Muhammed (S.A.W)..They believe in their message,miracles and principles..

Biblical Prophecy on the Advent of Muhammed(S.A.W)

John 14:15-16
"If you love me,keep my commandments.And I will pray the Father and he Shall give you another COMFORTER that he may abide with you forever"

John 16:26-27
"But when the comforter is come,whom I will send unto you from the Father,even the SPIRIT OF TRUTH,which proceedeth from the Father,he shall TESTIFY of me:And ye also shall bear withness,because ye have been with me from the begining"

The 'Person' whom Jesus(A.S) prophesied will come after him is called in the Bible 'Parqaleeta' This word was deleted by later interpreters and translators and changed at times to 'spirit of truth'and at other times 'Comforter'.The Original word in Greek and its meaning is 'One whom people praise exceedingly'..which Means 'Muhammad' (In Arabic)

When Muhammed(S.A.W) came he truly Testify and attest about Jesus(A.S)...

Islam is beyond what you see on TV,Newspaper..Don't judge Islam because of an action of an Individual,group or sect..Islam is perfect and independent of a Muslim action!!...

Make research about islam(Submission to the will of God) with a free mind and you will see that all Prophet from Adam,Abraham,Noah,Joshua,Solomon,David,Moses,Jesus,Muhammed came preached the same message...MONOTHEISM!!

God guides whom he wills!

NBA.S) Alayhi Salam(May the peace of God be with him)..

Keep deceiving yourself!The very first part of the Bible scripture you quoted says the Comforter will abide forever.Did Muhammad abide forever?Again Jesus said'whom I will send'.Was Muhammad sent by Jesus?
You muslims just quote without even reading what you quote.You just accept what your imams taught you.

[quote author=Oildichotomy^]The men are jealous that you've been taken.. Ride on lady[/quote]We men wey dey talk e get wetin we know.Don't you know you ladies make decisions mainly cos of emotions which often fails you?

Nice.

You were not ready some years ago and he comes cruising in a white jeep and you're ready.
I'll ask you thread with caution.He may not be the guy you knew 5yrs ago.Guys can really change.

Wish u the best in your endeavours.

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^^That's it my sister.It sounds religious and far-fetched but it's reality.

God has made available to us a 'life' that can rule our bodies.

I've been trying to reach u on phone.Your no isn't going.

jidegirl12: I hear you.

Like Debrief said we need to face the fact tho... My entire family use prescription glasses and contact lens ... That automatically will make my eyes dimmer and susceptible to other eye disease risks than normal people when I'm older. I'm not cursing myself It's just the truth. Abraham blessings are mine too.

RR are you an ordained pastor??

Lol, don't say you hear me,it's reality.
There's the fact like you said but there's the truth-the Word of God.I have experienced changes in my body as a result of this.

That's why Jesus came...to give us an abundant life.
There's the life of the flesh and there's the life of the spirit.It's reality.

Dementia?Naaa.My brain will be sound till i leave.

deols: @Op

If you want to keep getting all she gives you now, marry her. It is your choice.



If you all say, he should leave her, who do you want her to marry?

There are probably some good things in her that he isnt speaking of.


Comon o jare @ op, when she gets cooled down after being angry, you guys go ahead and have a beautiful time together abi. Stop getting her angry and you would be fine

Who will she marry?Let her marry someone that gets angry like her.

@Op,marrying a temperamental woman is dangerous.Don't let her burn your house like left eye(of TLC) or d lady that set fire on a jeep i saw here on Nairaland.