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No, they're not bluffing.Your visa came with the company that recruited you.You have to run the terms of employment duration first before you can switch jobs.

musicproducer:
see this slowpoke obviously u ve not been in relationship b4.
let me lecture u, wen u are actually dating a girl, marriage might b on ur mind that doesnt mean u will have d list already. not until u are ready den u REQUEST FOR LIST stop acting like a monkey

So you had some common sense and you were talking like a dimwit initially?Did someone just reveal the bolded to you?
Didn't you read that I said in the course of the relationship initially?

Why were you talking like a reetard initially?

All these below the belt yarns sef.mcheeew

musicproducer:
lol see pickin wen u start dating a girl tell her to bring her list from ger dad cause that d first thing on mind, u never grow at all

If this is how you interpret my statement,then you just confirmed to me you're the slowpoke I thought you were.
We're discussing marriage here,not Jamb.
You obviously isn't matured enough for this discuss.
I wish you well in your post-UME.

musicproducer:
get sense, only kids talk d way u chat

No,kids like you who are not matured enough can't reason!When you are old enough you will understand.

EXOUSIAng:
You should be expanding your company by then, and for the house, its got nothing to do with age.
tho its useless building a duplex when you are too old to climb stairs

Exactly.That is what that statement 'life begins at 40' means.It means a period of expansion,period of innovation and solidifying what you have set up.

The papa will be known one day sha.

EXOUSIAng:
40 is too late for all that in the 21st Century sir

So it is late to build your own house by 40yrs,have your own company by 40?

Cantonese:
This may just be forged

Most of the things on that list are what you will find on marriage lists in Akwa Ibom.It will vary from families and local governments but it's usually a general list.
Truth is it's expensive marrying from there.

slowice:
So if it had been that you found out and would be unable to foot the bill, what would you ve done?

I would have left but I like to know where I'm going from the onset.
It was one of the first things I had to find out when we started dating.
If I had seen a list like this from her village I would walk.

Prosperisaiah1:
Which future do you have again
After clocking forty

So people die at 40?

smoke9910:
Rubbish, I'll rather waste their time than let my money be wasted on a useless list. Which kind dumb tradition be dat?. Them dey find who to exploit.

You wasted your own time too in the relationship.

slowice:
These things aren't always known from the onset... What sort of talk is this?

If you don't find out in the course of your relationship then you must be slow.
I married from that side and the first thing I had to know and prepare myself for was this marriage requirements.

Abasi mbok!
You're dating a girl and you plan to marry her and yet you have no idea what the marriage requirements are in the place you want to marry?You had to wait till you see list mbok?How naive!
Wasted your time and the girl's time.

The list is outrageous though.

MKPO NDO ETE
I dozen of underwear,half dozen of Bender pant So the papa no dey wear pants before?

She won't use her tummy to drive.........just her legs her hands and her head to see where she's going.

Were they stoning them to death with those rocks?
Africans have always had despots.....Idi Amin,Mobutu Sese Seko,Abacha......

Africans too dey suffer bad leadership.

EXOUSIAng:
Life no longer begin at 40 sir. we really need to update some of these ideologies. The world is moving too fast for life to start so late.... Some of us are planning to retire at 50-55 tops.... my 4 sons should all be graduates by my 50th birthday.... Spend my remaining years traveling to world and making new memories.... don't wanna get too old to climb the himalayas before I retire. so imagine living with the "life begins at 40" mindset.... I'll just end up lazing about telling myself there is still time....
Please lets kill that"saying" let our children not pick up that rubbish....
Life begins the moment you begin to think for yourself.... its never about age

The phrase 'life begins at 40' is often erroneously interpreted as 'starting' to aspire or work towards a goal or success.
What it actually means is that at about 40 years,you would have reached a point where you have gaimed some life experiences,developed skills that can take you into the future and generally have substantial income that can make life generally enjoyable for you.

It doesn't mean you are just starting,it actually means you have reached a certain crescendo.

Men are scum,yet she opens her legs for unprotected sex with a man she met just 2 months ago and knows little about him?

EXOUSIAng:
LoL na at 35 person dey start maturity
The b*tch is wasted, she is tryna do damage control... Even if she starts dressing like a reverend sister it won't help the zero respect she has in the society

Life begins at 40 they say She's not even 40 yet.You can't write her off just yet.

Na maturity be dat.
There's time to put nonsense away.

Wetin come happen?
The love turned sour?

That's a man's body in that picture.

The whole story get as e be.
Rape na rape sha.

sahedorf:
Normally, the first reaction was to fight it and delete everything from her phone. Unknown to her that I had copied everything details - after confirming that I knew everything then she started crying and putting all the blames on me.

You were growing apart and becoming emotionally and likely physically unavailable to her.It's no excuse for her to cheat but it's a dangerous position for a woman to be.Once she finds that attention somewhere it's so easy for her to drift.

You alone can decide to forgive her and if you do,she has to be repentant and make a vow not to go that way again.
Have a talk with her.
I hope you keep your marriage and you have to give that time,that attention both emotionally and physically.

Did you confront her with what you have seen and what was her reaction?

Your marriage was growing apart at a time with he issue of both of you not communicating.Something had gone wrong and it was just a matter of time before one of you falls.

Deepthoughts:
Did you read the part were the husband said the wife was big trouble,that should give you a clue to why the man left her in the US n returned to Nigeria, always check the both sides of every argument before jumping to conclusions.

Everyone will try to defend his own side and probably lie.
The issue here is that the woman from the story has a contribution to the building that the man is trying to claim ownership of.
Whether she was troublesome or not,she shouldn't be denied her rights.

[quote author=AreaFada2 post=98847597][/quote]Ah,in that case she has a good ground.

4yrs relationship?Na BSc be dat.
As it is now,just take it that this is rustication and you need to withdraw from this program.
You will need to find another institution where you can enroll and begin another journey.

She really must be mentally unstable.This act was premeditated so she knew what she was doing.
Inheritance matter....shior

Why are couples just easily drawn apart these days?What should draw them together seems to be pulling them apart.

I hope the wife gets justice and doesn't get cheated.It's her sweat.
I hope women wise up and make sure properties they build together are jointly in their names.

Being together and building together should be what marriage is about.

Ka Chineke mezie okwu.