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Good friends are hard to find.

This one must be possessed.

Those things are part of what is used for the traditional marriage.Usually after the ceremony,they are shared with relatives.

If your Uncle is part of the family(or regarded as such),he will get those things.

Hmmm.See wetin hot temper dey cause.

DaddyRochie1642:
God Knows that One of my Most Sincere Prayers is to have Only 3 Male Kids.

Female Children go through alot that if the decide to Open Up to you, the shock waves you'll Feel all over your body, if care is not taken, it can send someone into Coma just by Listening to her.

I hope you'll teach the male kids how to treat the females right.
The female children are victims of the morally bankrupt males.

It's odd though for a boyfriend to go seeking a loan from his girlfriend's parents.

I think your parents agreed to loan him that money to boost whatever business he's doing so he can come marry their daughter.They already see him as family so the trust is there.

Op,leave your parents to do what they want with their money.

It's reported that he had ill health even when he was to preside over the wedding.
He's finished his race.

slyfoxxjoe:
read well. He said 900k per year. Not per cut.

N900k per year is still much.That's about N80k per month.Some women don't spend that much on their hair

Mumu talk.Even washing and setting no reach like that.

Godoverevery:
they are even the worst... have met handful.
they are egoistic and over sensitive.

You said you were looking for someone with a hustling spirit like you.Egoism is another thing entirely.

Godoverevery:
where is the right place ??

Hang around professional groups.

You're looking in the wrong places.

They obviously had something going on when he was still married to Tonto.
They're both shameless.

Anxiety neurosis.

Chisom,27.Even with all the red flags I saw, I still went ahead and got married to him.

They always blame others but never themselves.It starts first from the choices you make.How come they never blame themselves for the poor choices?
@Anita says he lied about everything.Isn't it your duty to do a background check on him before saying I do?How come you married someone you didn't know husband family?

Klass99:
My classmate said something similar during a heart to heart conversation, where we were catching up after years of being out of touch and not seeing each other.

In her case, she said she hadn't even discovered herself nor really known herself when she got married, then the kids started coming and everything became about her hubby and kids, while her own wants, needs, aspirations and life pretty much faded into the background.

Another classmate said, she's tired of just being a mom and a wife, if she knew marriage was this way, she would have held off on it for some time and focused on herself, life and career before getting into it.

Amaka (the 2nd lady in the original post) wasn't off point when she said - you lose more than you benefit as a woman in marriage. I have seen this happen with my own cousin and another classmate who was such a bright and shining star in school. Nah 3 different classmates I dey reference here

I'm not against marriage but I think young girls/women should live a little, as in, live life by themselves, for themselves and on their terms for a while, before they venture into it.

I think when you do it too soon like right after college or during uni, it's as if your life gets taken over by hubby and kids, before you've actually had a chance to live and discover you a bit.

Then it also feels like you are mostly told what to do all your life and decisions are made for you by others, when you go straight from daddy's house to hubby's house.
There was no break and no chance at all, to do you and make independent decisions of your own without being overruled.

What I have learnt generally is that an early marriage does not guarantee happiness, neither does a late one. Just do you and do the things that bring joy and happiness into your heart.

If it's so bad,how come there are females who are married and are professors?How come there are married women who are MDs of big organisations?
It's not just gloom and doom.

Plan your marriage well,get a man with a good support system and all will fall into place.We can't have it all, sacrifices have to be made at some point.One thing has to be forgone or delayed for another.

Marriage is never the problem.

UncleKoboko:
Lol!
Your level of doltness amazes me...
For your mind you can engage abi? Lol
The internet is really a funny place....
If not, how will a frustrated low life hag and shamless whorè be arguing with me?

I just knew you had to be a mo.ron and you keep proving it.
How do you call a man a who.re?Even when it's so obvious I'm a man with the sign on my moniker?
Your foolishness is boundless.

laluski:
I'll very much appreciate you explain what you mean by this statement so I'll understand what you're trying to say

This statement below was you comment.

laluski:
Don't mind the fool

You quoted someone who had made a remark.


Don't be the fool here.

Owologbo:
When your marriage recognize by the government, there's nothing they can do. you can only do it at your own will.
it only lacks some traditional backing that 1 can over look if wife is faithful.

Man, there are many things involved o.If you don't fulfil the obligations arnd you just take the daughter away,it'a debt you will still owe ..........and will need to pay someday........except you probably don't want to have anything to do with the lady's family again.One thing is that you can negotiate some of these things.
I guess you are Yoruba........cultures and traditions are different.

laluski:
Don't mind the fool

Only fools don't know nothing.....too dumb to find things out.

The owner of the hotel just lost his property because of the mindless action of a commercial sex worker.
He knew the risks though running that kind of business.

Another one.

Owologbo:
The guy should go and do court wedding if the girl agree with him.
I've heard something like before. And it also involves Akwaibom lady.

He will still 'owe' them and he will be required to pay it one way or the other.Sometimes,even the children will be required to pay it later.

No,it's not inherited.You unconsciously picked it up by observations of people around you.

cooooooks:
Do you know how hard it is to get list requirements??

The girl sef won't know. Her family, if it is their first time, won't know how the list has changed from the last family marriage.

It's an idea.
At least know most of the things that will be expected.You can know this by attending weddings of cousins,neighbours or friends Generally,one should have an inquisitive mind.

No, they're not bluffing.Your visa came with the company that recruited you.You have to run the terms of employment duration first before you can switch jobs.

musicproducer:
see this slowpoke obviously u ve not been in relationship b4.
let me lecture u, wen u are actually dating a girl, marriage might b on ur mind that doesnt mean u will have d list already. not until u are ready den u REQUEST FOR LIST stop acting like a monkey

So you had some common sense and you were talking like a dimwit initially?Did someone just reveal the bolded to you?
Didn't you read that I said in the course of the relationship initially?

Why were you talking like a reetard initially?

All these below the belt yarns sef.mcheeew

musicproducer:
lol see pickin wen u start dating a girl tell her to bring her list from ger dad cause that d first thing on mind, u never grow at all

If this is how you interpret my statement,then you just confirmed to me you're the slowpoke I thought you were.
We're discussing marriage here,not Jamb.
You obviously isn't matured enough for this discuss.
I wish you well in your post-UME.

musicproducer:
get sense, only kids talk d way u chat

No,kids like you who are not matured enough can't reason!When you are old enough you will understand.

EXOUSIAng:
You should be expanding your company by then, and for the house, its got nothing to do with age.
tho its useless building a duplex when you are too old to climb stairs

Exactly.That is what that statement 'life begins at 40' means.It means a period of expansion,period of innovation and solidifying what you have set up.