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why are some people saying that women wore 'more clothes' back then. please, go and dig up pictures of your parents from the 60s and 70s. . . and honestly, tell me you cant find some pics where your mum or aunt or grandma is sporting a short mini skirt or mini dress! even this oleku way of wearing wrapper, was it invented in 2013?

infact, if you wanna look at it generally, 20s fashion consisted of women wearing what can best be described as underwear today.

abeg, women have been wearing short dresses and spaghetti straps for a while. fashion is cyclic. nothing new under the sun!

but on the subject at hand, yup, the woman looks just as pretty now as she did then!

that Oreos advert with the girl and her dad KILLS me! I cant watch it!!!! i tune off everytime its on!!!!!!

Oduduwaboy: First of all.......introductions : am new to nairaland , am a doctor, a senior registrar on Obstetrics & gynaecology. This is one of the most serious threads i have seen on this forum and i feel compelled to contribute to the discourse.

I own up to the bad attitudes but many of us are working to change things. Believe me it wont be long. But also think of working long hours under gruelling tropical conditions with poor remunerations and one could understand some of the bad attitudes....mistakes in this field are also senationalized even within the system and so everyone is on edge.......

I will have to continue this later my dearest Nigerian mothers . RIP to the dead!!!

Thanks Doc. your contribution was objective. but please dont blame tropical conditions now. doc's who work under similar 'tropical' conditions in the west (australia, florida in d us, hawaii) still manage to be civil. nurses need to be taught their job does not include slapping, making snide remarks bout how i got preg or what my husband does for a living!

men, that number 8 drives me crazy! why will you be driving slowly and hugging the left lane? infact, its so bad that sometimes, when you flash them, or horn to them to 'remind' them that you need to over take them, they will even hug the left more. as if to say, 'see road na, pass'. smh.

the right lane is where you go to when you note a car faster than you behind you.; no matter what speed you're doing! move right move right move right!

you endanger other road users and pedestrians by forcing people to overtake on the right!

lepasharon: Girl,firstly stop wearing weaves in your hair,it does nothing,there are many other protective hairstyles you can do.
Check on youtube the many beautiful styles you can do with ur natural hair,like bantu knot twist-out,braids

Use Castor oil to be moisturising ur hair as castor oil promotes hair growth and its got healing properties. Moisturise especially the edges.

not sure that a bantu twist out is a protective style o. and weaves/ weaveon is a good way to protect ur hair as well.

abeg, who knows where i can get ecostyler gel in port harcourt?

biafra kwenu: n.

4. Yam
Fresh yam can be useful to whiten the skin, it is no wonder that many beauty ingredients, such as Handbody, beauty soap, moisturizer, use yam as the base material. Grate fresh yam, Apply on underarms, Let stand about 15 minutes. For maximum results, do regularly. If you're too lazy to make the material, you can buy yam mask and apply on your underarms and rinse thoroughly



http://letsgohealthy..com/2013/01/how-to-get-rid-of-dark-underarms-simple.html

fresh yam? really? you don peel yam b4? u knw hw e de scratch? and u wanna apply to ur underarms? good luck!

LOl! so, after all her years of saying she loves herself the way she is, love urself, she was born this way etc almost even saying we should all stay fat she is now losing weight? i hope she goes to clear the crap she put in other people's ears as excuse to stay fat.
oh, but meanwhile, she does look better. welldone girlie

Young po413: Simple,just to prevent her daughter from fuckkingg like a dog.

ok but how will she stop her son from doing the same? or her daughter's husband? and how will she ever correct the wrong she's done when she discovers this thing called LIBIDO? oops, too late!

illicit: so in short, cl1toris aint dat useful since it dnt influence or affect ur sex drive like u put it, just like d male foreskin. so lets kip cutting.

you're right iin saying c1itoris has nothing to do with your libido. however, its not the same as the foreskin. the foreskin does not affect enjoyment in anyway but in the woman, cIitoris the only way she'll enjoy it. with out it, all she'll feel is penetration. dont let anyone deceive you. if you no believe am, read up online.

illicit: I dated an uncircumsised gal once, she bleeps like a dog men! I wil circumcise my daughter

This was because she has a high libido. has nothing to do with her body parts. libido is determined by hormones. will you cut off the glands that secret these hormones as well? or you think its the cIitoris that secrets hormones that determine libido.

illicit: aint it barbaric to kip many guys simply she enjoys sex, i mean dis gal turns on by merely staring at her, if u mistakenly touch her nipples or kis her, men u don slaughter am be dat, i knw wat am sayin, av dated circumsised gals and dey neva complained dey dnt enjoy it, only dat it takes longer to turn dem on

in my opinion, they never complained because they dont know what its supposed to feel like in the first place!

CAMEROONPRIDE: i guess we can say no vu.lva cancer
let's not forget that in most cases gen.i.tal mutilation
is done by a woman , if it was bad to them they wouldn't keep doing it on their children.

The fact that its a women who does this to the girls doesnt mean that its good practice. there are tons of things that one generation does to the next that's of no good. but its simply done because ' na so we de do am'. in early times, female circumcision was done to ensure the woman was faithful to her husband. The woman remained faithful because her c.litoris is the only part of her genitals by which full sexual satisfaction is achieved.

CAMEROONPRIDE: like i said you don't only get pleasure from your cli..t.oris .

beside how many uncircumcised women are frigid?
being uncircumcised doesn't guaranty you pleasure.

cameroon pride, I dont know how else a woman achieves satisfaction?

CAMEROONPRIDE: reason : cultrue
will i allow such: no it's not part of my culture.

but i have a question: if it was a boy would you be horrified? if no why?

I would never allow my daughter to be circumcised. there is no reason for it. it is not even the same as male circumcision because in male circumcision, his means of s.exual satisfaction is not cut off! male circumcision is for reliegious reasons and only an unimportant part of the male is cut. it has no bearing at all on his se.xual life and he would not miss that part in any way! without the c.litoris, all the woman will feel is penetration. her feeling the penetration does not mean she's enjoying it. it just means she is aware there's someone there. there are absolutely no health benefits of circumcision either!!!!!!

chai! no o. i no talk say problem no de na. no be because problem de i come dis side? well, I don tell am as we been talk sha. wetin d babe go do before? she no fit tie d man neck na. make she even try hypnosis sef to get the man to say exactly whats up and save everyone the issues of dancing around circles.

biolabee: Nice one CC

@ti-ebe to add to the issue of tip desensitisation, using a CD helps
She needs to be informed of health hazards of the stimulants

No be she de take am na. na the man de take am na. anyways, spoke to her earlier. she says she's been checking online for hazards of stimulants but she's not found anything serious. also, as she no remember the name of the oil, she cant check for the exact components of the oil.

Baba Oyo: @Op....Biolabee has said it all. She need to check the stuffs he use to know their side effects!!
As for weather its ok for a man to enhance his performance with some drugs....I will say "are you a learner?".
Really its been over a century men have tried to keep up with their show as age goes on! Your cousin should please stop making issues out of this!
I suspect the "OIL" you keep referring to is a Delay Spray to keep him longer in that holy land.
Nothing to worry about madam!!
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Adun ma ma t'eke.....yalumo yalumo....!!!

ok, its either i've been blind since, or i'm really a learner. cos this is the first time we're seeing a healthy young man taking these things. hence the worry. and its not a spray. she said he drinks it. soon as she checks the stuff and knows what they do, then her mind will be at rest.

biolabee: She gets the name of the enhancement aids to get the name of the constituents of the oil etc and checks online if it has any harmful effect
Because oils get absorbed in the skin and could do some damage to the alkanity of her g.enitals

if there is no concern, well she has to bear her cross cause afrikan men no dey like harassment from their madams

I NO WHY YOUNG MAN GO DEY USE THIS KAIN THING

ask me o! lol. she's semi panicked that she'll soon have to resign to the life of a married nun. or maybe its just that she doesnt do it for him. . .
men, thanks a bunch. will tell her. but she been say na drink e de drink am o. not applying it on himself.

[quote author=eagle,eye]op, how long havee they been married?
How long did they court?

NB.
By the way I have overcome my fear and have sinced bounced back.[/quote]They dated for like 2 years but then it was distance dating and they only saw once in a while. and s.ex wasnt always on the menu. so, its normal for a dip in the libido for guys? and congrats to you on your bouncing back.

biolabee: The age gap is next to nothing ...


Well i dont know what to say again
This one na man and hin wife mata.. just be diplomatic about it

The koko is if she shoud check for health concernsand if there are none, should enjoy the best of what she has now

That's where the problem lies na. how does she diplomatically check for health concerns? she cant drag him to hospital na. and she cant force him to tell her anything. she doenst wanna bruise his ego. but she also doesnt want a situation where he only bothers with the supplements till they have children. as soon as they do, he throws them away then they only have some once in 3 years!

biolabee: Well in that case I belive it's too early for her to engage in speculation

It may be he does not have the stamina for prolonged s.exercise or he has gotten used to the enhancement aids and feels inadequate without them

Luckily getting pregnant is not linked to these aids so that is out of the way

I wish you could give us an insight into the age gap if it is much that may be an indicator

More importantly she could reseach the aids being used to be sure there is no adverse effects
If there is no problem she should enjoy the s.ex before child stress and whatnot sets in

Oh you mean age gap between the couple? e no plenty na. 2 years. she's 30, he's 32. which is why she's a lil worried cos he's supposed to be at the age when he's at his sexual prime. so, without the 'supplements' will she have to be begging for it?

They dont have kids yet. they just got married. and she's just wondering if he's taking the drugs because he doenst enjoy being with her or if he doesnt enjoy it at all (even though he has gist about other girl friends) or if its a dysfunction thing. we only know that these drugs are taken by people who have issues.

biolabee: S.ex enhacement has existed from time immemorial
Before I say anything I will ask do they have kids
And age gap between them

LOL! no vex o. but as e be say she come tell me and we no know wetin we go do, that one still qualify as aproko? all the things wey we de talk for nairaland don turn to aproko? anyways, she's really worried, we dnt knw what to do. thot i'd ask people here. na d same aproko make u branch here na.

cantell: Abroko, wetin concern you? Na you be the wife now?
I tire o!

People o! please help. my cousin said a few days ago, she saw a pack of some sort of sexual enhancement oil that her husband has been drinking. she says while they were dating, she remembers seeing some tablets called 'something 100' (she cant remember the exact name but it had 100 in it) in his car and he said they were for his friend who he gave a lift.
Her husband doesnt seem to be too keen on sex and now she thinks that the 'something 100' meds she saw in his car were actually his. she confronted him bout the oil and he said he takes it to 'increase his sexual enjoyment' not like he has any erectile or sexual dysfunction or that he doesnt enjoy sex with her. but me I no know o. why will a man be taking all sorts of so called sex enhancement tabs and oils if he doesnt have issues. He also told her it was normal that most guys take such things to make sex more enjoyable.

when she tries to discuss it with him, he dodges and almost turns it to quarrel and says she's over reacting.

Please, guys, is it normal for guys to take meds and oils? what is their exact use? should she be worried that he has some issues? even impotence?

Gbenge 77: It depends on your definition of best.I ve flown with Delta a couple of times and had a rewardinG experience.They do serve some local meals like Jollof rice,and drinks like Funman fruit juice,so you really do feel at home on board.But their price is a bit on the high side.Essentially,if you want a bargain price,BA Might just be your best bet.Have been flying BA lately due to their reasonable price.

kai, 2 issues with flying BA, first, means i'll have to break journey in london. secondly, dia air hostesses have strong strong faces. is Delta the only airline that flies direct? If i have to break the journey, might as well go with my darling Emirates. . .

Gbenge 77: [b]Show up for the interview on an English dress.Its quite important.[/b]The Consular Officer may demand to see your documents or not.Its his/her prerogative.x

er. . . not quite clear here. why must one show up in english dress?

van bonattel: Marriage has no recipe, no formular, no written constitutions and no rigid rules. Two strange people can have nothing in common and still be married happily for life.

I strongly believe so. it all takes wisdom and consideration. without these, even 2 pple who were head over heels in luv can fall out. . . and

Stegomiah: Before you get married please read...


2 .Compatibility is worked out, of
course you may never get a perfect
person.
But with dedication, knowledge and
wisdom compatibility will start
building, that is if he or she is the
right person.

I sooooo believe the above point. you cant force compatibility. give it a little time. the couple each grew up in different environments. so, from day one, they may not immediately blend. but as the poster said, with dedication, knowledge and wisdom, it will build. the point is, its not from day one that we'll immediately start eating from the same bowl, or sharing toothbrush (IF THAT'S UR KINDA THING EWWWWWW)! Even sharing account sef. its not for everyone. there r not rules. its the couple who should make up the rules that suit them!

aadetoyin: Did u even read the part where I said WHENEVER WE SPEAK YORUBA. That should show we don't speak it all the time. And nobody is forcing anything down her throat.

ok, i read it na. and it just seemed like it as a regular thin.

abeg, make una no vex o, which airline is best to go to US with?

Superbrain: Congrats ti-ebe. Can you please share your interview experience?

Where in the US are you visiting?

well, i dnt have a line by line report of the interview o. but i was asked how many countries I'd visited? are all your family abroad? (i say mba o) and er . . . was also asked about what i did for a living. purpose of visit? I said i was going to look around a bit and also hoped to attend a course while i'm there. dem no look paper o. and i dnt think I saw anybody's documents being inspected sef. I'm going to Denver and Dallas.

[quote author=ti-ebe]My good people! i'm planning to visit the U.S as a tourist in july. I dont want to have to go as a family visitor. the only relative close enough to invite me is even a distant relative. I've been to holland, uk as family visitor and dubai and Barbados as tourist. I'm a single gal, work in an oil firm, have land, and fixed dep. now, my questions are:

will i be seen to have enough ties in Nigeria?
How much do i need to have in my acc to satisfy VO? seeing as i have most of my dough in my fixed dep. do i need to present that as well?
how do i 'prove' i am actually going there for tourism?

many thanks[/quote]Thanks pple. eventually got d visa.

when most of us were growing up, we could put our plates away after eating, wash plates, sweep, make up beds we slept in, arrange the room, fill water bottles and empty dustbin by 10yrs. but these days, i see children of about the same age who cant sweep (or vaccum), wash plates, make their beds etc. So, are your children as chore savy as you were at their age? and why?

aadetoyin: The most difficult one is the language barrier. My brother is married to a Delta girl so whenever we re speakin yoruba she is always squeezing her face. There re times she will feel we re talkin about her which isnt so. I ve advised her to learn yoruba.
another thing is the difference in culture. Ur in laws might not want to agree that u re sincerely ignorant of certain things in their culture.
I would rather stick to my yoruba hubby. becos I dont ve to learn any new language and culture.

by saying that you'd rather stick to your yoruba husband because u dnt wanna learn another lang, it means you too wont like it if u were married to a deltan or some other tribe and they were always speaking their language. so, pls show some consideration and reduce the yoruba speaking to a mininum around her. instead of forcing it down her throat. :d

tzetzefly: You have quite a whole lot going for you there......

You have been to the Caribbean Island, Asia, Europe/Shengen.

You quite have an extensive travel history right there.......

First and foremost, the VO will try to nail you from that angle asking:

1. What has been your purpose for past travels as indicated on your passport page?

2. What is your job specification and what are your duties?

3. Do you have families resident outside Nigeria and if Yes, what is their status?

4. How much is your income and show your bank statements..?

5. What are your activities or what do you have back home that can make you return, ''if'' granted visa...?

6. Take note, all your past travel histories has no meaning at the US Embassy as you are still viewed as a potential immigrant...

Your reply to these questions and your confidence in the first 1.5mins before the VO, will decide your fate....

chai. see questions o. how i wan take show am say i go come back? make i go de swear 'oath of return'? shior. The fact that i'm not married nko? anyways, I guess i should just cross my fingers and go for it. anyhow wey e wan b, make e b like dat. will start the process soon sha. i never even schedule appointment.

My good people! i'm planning to visit the U.S as a tourist in july. I dont want to have to go as a family visitor. the only relative close enough to invite me is even a distant relative. I've been to holland, uk as family visitor and dubai and Barbados as tourist. I'm a single gal, work in an oil firm, have land, and fixed dep. now, my questions are:

will i be seen to have enough ties in Nigeria?
How much do i need to have in my acc to satisfy VO? seeing as i have most of my dough in my fixed dep. do i need to present that as well?
how do i 'prove' i am actually going there for tourism?

many thanks

abeg, who has seen this hair do? am i the only one who's on fire for the hair?

ok, having issues uploading the image o. but u can look up teyonah parris at the SAG awards!