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Hopefully back in the motherland with a triving business and a fiancée.

Ilesa omo Obokun.
I'm not from Ilesa but i lived there for a long time.
I lived around Cappa FTC. Obokun Guest House.

Eccentric

Kudos to you but just like you said

Coco29:
My mother went over the top in todays society it would be seen as abuse and i was petrified of her because she would beat and then ask question when i was raped at 6 years old i told no one

You are still implementing the old system but with changes i respect that and hope others follow through. I'm sure you read everything i said i never said don't beat just don't beat the shit out of them that they will be too scared to approach you which is exactly what you are doing.

It's also not only about sexual abuse, you often see kids doing a lot of things in order to keep their parents in the dark. I wated the manchester one but same goes gor Holly Wells and Jessica Chapman and they A level kid that was killed with an axe in Birmingham last year whilst escorting his white girlfriend home. I'm not justifying what they did to him but don't walk around that late in the night. Saying that though. i didn't get back home until 1.30am last night. So it's gotta be done sometimes.

The topic is not too focused too much om if we should spank our kids or not. Personally i think it can be a neccessity just in moderation and explain to the kid why they deserve the spanking. Obviously the spanking has to come as a last resort after warning, talking to the kid and taking away a priviledge which can even be playing with their friends(just to answer ynot's question about what priviledge an average Nigerian has).

However, the topic is more focused on our parenting style. Kids are too afraid of their parents and cannot approach them on anything and even when they eventually get through, the replies from some parents is so absurd that the kids fears intensifies. At the beginning of the topic, i gave an example. When kids happen to tell their parents of such an uncle or aunt, they tell the kid to shut up, take the side of the relative and the case will be swept under the carpet,

My question is are they doing this because of a priviledge they receive from the relative, or are they scared of what it will do to the family or do they just not believe,care or trust their kids. As a kid you will be confused and if your parents did nothing to help, i'm sure it will have an after effect later on won't it?

No way it's probably the best week or months of your life depending on the amount u have and your partner.
Mine is definitely Seychelles

I've spoken to a few Nigerians andyou can't imagine that most of these ppl either male or female went through something deeply disturbing as child. The sad truth is they never tell their parent and will never tell their parent because of their parents style of parenting. So if parents do not even know, this means the police will never know and these people cannot be prosecuted. By the way the veil i'm talking about is sexual assault either as a child or as an adult.

Is it high time we spared the rod and employ the western style parenting? i.e have an open door relationship with our kids so they are not scared to talk to us and we can quickly take actions especially by not allowing them to visit that uncle or aunty that always wants them to visit.

It seems to be working for the familie employing this style. Or is it still the case of spare the rod and spoil the child

We've heard about the candidate for next years election and the real contenders seem to be Duke, Okotie, Utomi and as much as I hate to admit it IBB.

However, some people also believe Okonjo-Iweala is a contender. I'm not suggesting she is the right candidate especially since I've never believed in an economist being the head of state, prime minister or president even though i'm an economist.

My question also comes as a result of Americans belief that the next president of the US of A is either Hillary Clinton or Condoleeza Rice.

The question is Is Nigeria ready to take that step forward and follow in the footsteps of Chile, Liberia, Phillipines, Finland, Latvia, Ireland and this is just the list of those women still in power as some have come off as you all know. Is this a good move for our country and are there any prospective candidates there. Could you name them please?

The common Nigerian will sell their vote for a few Naira because he/she needs the money and believes whoever he/she votes does not count anyway so i'd better make money out of it.

A more educated Nigerian just wants the best for himself and will vote for the candidate who's likely to help him the most i.e the one who's either his/her uncle, or friend or friend of a friend so he/she can get something in return when the candidate comes to power.

All Nigerians that do not vote just can't be bothered because of all the above reasons.

How can you be registered if you don't have a home above your head, how can you trust the electoral process if at every election some voting cards with relatively same writings just appear out of nowhere etc

@gigette how many kids are you planning to have and do they all have the same father?

@kimba i really do pity the wife that has to produce all them kids. What happens if one is female? Or are you planning for wives

My name have been picked out for a while now

Female: Boluwatife-as God wishes,
Adeola-crown mixed with riches
Adedoyin-crown becomes honey(sweet)
Patricia

Male: Demilade-crown me

Just out of curiosity, how much is this place costing you in a year? Monthly rent and where in Ogun state are we talking about, Abeokuta or little developing towns like Kajola, Ibafoor somewhere else?

Mela how are you sure it's HIM. Seun never said anything about it being a guy. I was actually under the impression he was rying to learn to surprise a certain lady he's trying not to disclose.

Abi you know something we no know?

Khali you are a new member you said get in touch with no address on either your profile or leave it in your message.

Thanks guys for your support and old shame i understand why you believe i'm just blowing hot air, but it is definitely
true it will open next year by the grace of the Almighty as soon as everything is completed.

I said i had more than #10 million never really said how much it was so i don't give too much away. I'm beginning to think about buying a land in Ikorodu and build it from scrarch there. Ikorodu seems to be developing and it covers so many area. The place there is not too expensive and it will cover the 4th mainland bridge when it's completed.

I hnow about some of those especially SHOPRITE. I read about it in the punch earlier this year. It is a south-african company right? Mine is going to be completely different from all those already in Nigeria. The main problem i'm having is where to start it as in location of first store. I have the dimentions and the design. It's just a question of a place that covers the best areas and where it will pick up and compete with the already installed ones and still have the security i want.

Oracle you just made it a lot better sweetheart. Now i'm gonna sleep well.

Goon night

Damn there are even more sisters getting involved in the topic more than brothers een though the topic is asking about wives. Are yall lesbians

Just kiddin

Well i think i have a situation. Never let your family get in your affairs in the first place. Even if you marriage is shit (oh did i say that), it is still your problem not your family's. Isn't it annoying when they come and say it's my brothers house or it's my sons house. I personally believe the beating up or even shouting comes because in Nigeria the women seem a little intimidated. But they needn't be, they are supposed to be a little more aggressive and not say it is my huband's houe too. Tey are supposed to simply inform them that it ain't his house it is my house. or for the easily intimidated, it is our house but please don't add the TOO at the end that's the invitation to

GET OUT OF OUR BROTHER@S HOUSE and then the beating ensues.

Peace yall

I'm not an IBB fanatic but you still have to question the reason behind this. Is it beacause they really suspect something and want to get him because he's a danger to the society or just merely are out to get him because OBJ and the others are trying to get rid of the competition and once again mislead Nigerians

You guys have some good thoughts but for those who think it will never get better, please be a little more optimistic. I bet you guys hardly visit Nigeria any longer because of this thought across your mind.

To your question Yes it will get better. But first be rid of the generation currently ruling us. By that i mean all these three letter initials and forces, the likes of I.B.B., O.B.J., N.P.F., O.P.C., E.T.C.

We need young entrepreneurs both from home and abroad to come back home and not give money to the people to make themselves look big but teach, invest, and help the people in our families and even those who aren't. We also need to know the real size of the country. I mean we know it is a big country but how many are there, how many are Nigerians, how many are in each family. When we know this, we'll know where each lives, we'll know if any problem occurs and then it can be dealt with appropriately. And with the likes of the above named personalities and groups including N.E.P.A. gone, we'll move forward.

I mean just look to Ghana and look how well it is doing, look into little towns in Nigeria and you'll see the difference each successful person in their town has done. Use your money to help the country NOT give your money to people in the country.

And lastly, we all need to look down and stop blaming other people for what is wrong in our lives. We are the cause of our problems.

Well black mamba snakes already scare me with blackmamba being the most dangerous i'm even more scared of you now than i thought i shoulb be after i read you comment.

I no go mess with una at all and since you asked

Well don't know if i should answer it's always nice to keep people in suspense. Oh my mum just came in and said i should say no. Oh s**t she's pulling down my trousers to find out. She said we are going to the doctors tomorrow to have emergency surgery. She says she wants grandkids doesn't want me to end up like Vanilla Ice or Prince. Mama's love eh.

Just kidding lol. if you don't know what it means check out http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colonoscopy

don't worry it's good nothin you'll imagine

u'll find out when i finish the story i'll wait for more replies but is the story line ok

Never did never will but if i ever have kids i'll let them have believe if they want to at least until a certain age

ok sorry to confuse you hope you are unconfused now so how was ur day sweethert and surprisingly how come you ain't in bed coz i know why i ain't i'm a sad sad man

I woke up on this beautiful morning and remembered that the D-Day was here. I was finally going to take this big step. I have been quite ashamed for a while since it always felt like I was the only one who hadn’t done it. I took a short hot shower as. I wanted to get this out of the way. I was quite nervous, but at the same time happy that this was going to be a forgotten thing very shortly.

I walked briskly over to my destination. On arrival, I sat down waiting for a few minutes. This added to then tension but. I was still looking forward to it all been over and done with that I didn’t realise time was gone. A while after, I looked up and realised I’d been waiting for 30 minutes. Shortly, he walked into the door. The door almost didn’t accommodate him as he was very tall, handsome and smartly dressed.

He asked if I needed anything and rightly informed him I was ok. He then asked if I was ready to go to the room. Once again I replied yes but this time it was a quiet, shaky reply. We made way for the room. On arrival he once again asked if I needed anything and again I refused. Then action begins.

Trying to be nice and polite, asked me to lie down and asked how if I wanted it quick and painful or nice, slow and steady. Obviously, I asked for the latter. The he said it would be much better if I saw the equipments 4 just in case I started getting nervous about what was it was that was going in. He even had a cheesy name for each obviously I’m not going to give you the names just so you don’t get excited if you ever visit or know who I’m referring to.

Part two coming up. Post your comments

Don't be hostile sweetie just wanted u guys to be clearer with the details of each ind=cident thats all.

One love is all i got 4 u ladies. The topic was focusing at you ladies especially

You are totally spoiling the purpose of the topic you tell us about what happened. Like if you didn't want to talk bout private life you could talk about the accident that almost happened.

I remember the poem

who sat and watched my infant head
when sleeping on my cradle bed
and wept of tears affection shed
my mother

when pain and sickness made me cry
who gazed upon my heavy eyes
and tears of sweet affection shed
my mother
etc

Other than this i can't really help you guys coz i really don't know my mamma. Don't feel sorry for me though feel for the mamma, she lost what could be the best news of her life.

I see most of us come to nairaland after a hard days work and check nairaland to see what's happening. But after a day and you go back to yor empty room/apartment or the cybercafe where you hardly talk to anyone you are so sad it feels like noone cares about you, well Nairaland does which is why we are asking you "Hi welcome home sweetheart, how was your day".

Share your exciting events of the day may it be on campus, on danfo/molue, on the roadside, in your area, at work, at school, your family/friends or anything else.

I was trying to be modest with the few millions. As i'm trying not to mention the real amount i have i'll say over the course of the first few years of the business i have more than #10 million naira to spend. And about your calac about how much they make the revenue is great no question about that. It's the profits which is why i'm trying to get in contact with farmers, bakers and other small business and see if they can come up with something. I'm trying to come up several USPs-Unique selling point.

Most of the supermarkets still have nothing in them. I want to answer everyone's quetions. If you want more details or you want to help by filling a questionnaire or have an idea of what you want in a superstore in nigeria but can't seem to find, contact me on tinard@googlemail.com.
Remember you can never do too much research and since i'm new in the biz and i don't reside in Nigeria permenently things are a little bit more difficult especially trying to buy a bar code reader machine so stocktake, supplies and demand is easier to manage. We don't want to run out of stocks now do we and we don't want thieves to ruin the place for us. Abi we be Nigerians now and we know each other.

Keep posting guys the contribution is great 10ks and Seun thanks for putting me on the main page.Momney it's nice to see another united supporter.

I don't know if you knew about this two pages but maybe they can be an inspiration for your photo comic and even other stories you are trying to come up with.

http://www.abeokuta.org/Atoka1aNew.htm

http://www.abeokuta.org/Atoka1ac.htm

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Mamaput I feel you and i like your contribution on this topic but you made one mistake sha. Where are you really from?