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Darn, that question is enough to make one reconsider having kids.

@ Hairat exactly, when there is love and respect age ceases to matter.

My Friend is married to a man much younger than her. in fact when we talk about the music we danced to in secondary school he is clueless. she refused to go out with him at first because of the age gap, and even i found it hard wrapping my head around it even though i adviced her to follow her heart. people sadly said a lot of nasty things even at the wedding, but they are now married and happy so I suppose it depends on the parties involved.

Dear M

You taught me what it means not to be alone,and i loved you very much.

you were always there when I needed you, you loved me the way no one ever had. you wanted us to get married but on condidtion i changed my religion. apparently i was not good enough to be a mother to your children the way i was. we had already been together 4 years and i had to face up to the fact that it wont work, because you wanted more than i could give.

That is all water under the bridge, you once asked me if i thought any man would ever love me or be as good to me as you were. my answer today as then still remains, even if not at least i will be true to myself and my faith. somedays i miss you so much i cry but i knew i could not be happy being what you wanted me to be. you now have a lovely family and i'm happy for you, but please do me a favor, stop coming round. its over and we cant change the past.
i wish you a good life and a rainbow at the end of every path you walk.
I will always pray for you.

tine

How cheap?

I think your sister in law should get out while she can.
The way i see it, if she stays he might kill her and then what becomes of her children? she would be leaving them with a monster.

I also think her husband needs help he doesn't sound sane to me.

what makes children a necessity?

without doubt they are good to have, but that doesn't mean they are necessary.

I hear of marriages breaking down because one party is sterile or some such, and I always ask did they marry for kids or love and companionship?

just my opinion sha.

my aunt's husband tried too set her ablaze. apparently he had been abusive but she kept it from the family.

this one she couldn't hide cos my sister was there and my sister called every member of the family she could reach that day.

needless to say, she was bundled out of the marriage by my uncles. the church then sent people to try and reconcile them. my grandfather who's also a pastor told them to give a would be murderer there own daughters not his.

your sister and sister in law should remember that marriage is only for as long as you both shall live, no one said anything about a partner hastening the process. they should get wise and forget what society will say. its them that might end up in some grave not society.

yes

Wht has saying not saying thank you got to do with being independent?

i thought that was simple good manners.

correct me if i'm wrong.

Our leadership has been undeniably corrupt and remained corrupt. The average Nigerian however can be unbelievably selfish. I feel the average Nigerian on the street also needs to change his selfish way of thinking. most Nigerians crying foul to day would do the same or worse if given leadership.

@poster,

I understand exactly what you mean. anyone that's not been there wont understand.
I had discolored teeth since child hood, and it was hell growing up.
Say whatever you like about self esteem the truth is our growing up years do affect how we see ourselfs as grown ups.
I tried ignoring it but it didnt work so I got caps.

I did it in Nija.

There is a good dentist in Zankli med centre in Abuja o has an office in Ceddi plaza.

Go see them they might be able to help.

They are a bit pricey but you could start with a few at a time.

good luck.

this is my first post on Naira land and I would really like honest opinions as this has really bugged me for a while now .
I was quite young when I overheard my grand ma talking with my aunt. my aunt was having problems with her husband.My grandma was at her wits end as their problems seemed never ending. I heard my grandma say to my aunt in my day you marry because you love each other, and because you love each other you stand together and weather whatever life throws at you. She said there had been days when as a young couple she and her husband didn't have much they didn't even have oil for their lamp, but they would sit by the fire, tell each other stories,eat whatever they had and go to bed content, Knowing that even though they had nothing they had each other. Now that's the kind of love i have always wanted, but as the years have come and gone it seems to get more elusive. I'm now wondering if that kind of love really exists or is it just in my head? i would like to know what Naira landers think. Thank you

A romantic person is one who See's the silver lining on every cloud and views life through rose colored lenses. A romantic See's some good in every one. That is what makes it easy for them to empathise with others and do all the mushy stuff they are good at.

All said and done it can be catastrophic. I for one will not marry a man that is not a graduate. My Aunt a lawyer married a man that is not a graduate. My mum told her not to.My mums argument was that the guy my develop an inferiority complex with time and moreover their thinking will be on different levels. My aunt went ahead and got married and it almost cost her her life. It got to a stage where if she goes to see a male client he will accuse her of having an affair. It all came to a head when he poured petrol on her and tried to set her ablaze. You might argue and say its him as an individual but I tell u it was a gradual process that started off with his feeling inferior

B, sorry. I was young and had an education to acquire. Didn't know anything about love an was scared to find out. you moved on but i always felt your hurt when ever we meet.
Now you are gone and i can never see you to say sorry.