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Its not marriage thats the problem its the attitude of the people who enter in to it. I read your reasons not to and for me they where some things i would enjoy about being married. Each to their own but you have kids out of marriage then they have kids out of marriage and its the start of trouble. Trust me. Some traditions are there for a reason. I dont believe its good to run around doing whatever we please all the time without consequences, sacrifice or commitment. Just my opinion though. I am a believer in marriage as God intended between two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together, end of story. Friends of mine got married so they can be together, they didnt want or have children.

I agree that marriage isnt a guarentee for anything but the two parents at least should love each other and be committed to each other. Sounds like the huys want a baby machine but still have the freedom to go do what and whoever they want to. What if you have a son. Will you teach him to be the same? How is this world ever going to improve if we teach our children to not do anything differently.

Its this idea some have that marriage is a noose around your neck that makes me sad. You have no idea how beautiful it is or how amazing and fullfilling it can be. Open your mind and you may surprise yourself.

I am hoping and praying this is a joke!!!!! Otherwise you incure my wrath!! I will give you the benifit of the doubt for now and assume it is a story.

So you guys want to get some chick pregnant then she spends her life raising that child and you just send money. How is that not the most selfish thing?? You cant have everything. You dont want to marry, cool. Then dont have a child. Children are not a toy or a possession. They are a gift to two people who love each other and are committed to each other. Just cos some do it doesnt make it right. And you guys wonder why so many problems in society. You are the cause with this attitude!!

Ofido:
@Tink, Tell me Watz so selfish about the idea. And you Akinna is surpporting her.
See the problem we have is that we are so entangled in this thing called 'the ways things has been done' some call it culture or law but tell me watz good about bringing a girl as a wife and u end up not enjoying your home again,

Its simple lets make a child, I wil pay and take care of all expensis. You come and see her anytime u wish or he or she can come,we are good friend or even lovers or partners but this union called marriage, : am out of it.

Or cant u do it for 5m naira

Firstly my body and my womb is not for sale for any price!! I have never heard of anyone getting married cos they have to. If you chose to marry its because you love the other person and want to spend your life with them. Thats my culture and i am so grateful for that choice. So many things i want to say about two people having a baby cos you want it not in the best interest of the child!! Unbelievable. So your needs and your wants come before the best interest of the child,?? You are not in the right mind frame to be a parent. There are so many things wrong with what you say. If you dont want to get married, fine thats your choice but dont bring an innocent child into your selfish world.

Here is a good one for your talents, How do i stop my Nigerian ex from being pyscho and leave me the hell alone?? Ive tried all the basic things so i need you to tell me something other then the basic things.

Wow!!! Yet another thread that makes me soooo grateful i was born into a different culture! I am learning but not good things. So many things to say to you but will take too long. One thing i will say is how incredibly selfish some men can be.

Do you have kids?? Good thing if not cos they will be a burden on you with that attitude. Your not fit to raise a child with that attitude. But its your life as is anyones else's to decide for themselves. Its not right to judge others choices. If its not illegal and its their choice then so be it. I do have a younger brother and if he chose to have 9 kids what business is it of mine?? Its his life and his choice. I just cant believe you see children as a drain on your life. Thats why i am sad for you. You will never know the joy. Good on you for being a good partner, doesnt mean you will be a good father. Each to there own.

harakiri:
First of all, i live in a real world and not E! Channel.The purpose of having children from time immemorial is to have heirs.Any other sentimental value that has been added to this by either romance novels and the media is nonsense.Now, the world has changed.People no longer need to have 47 children to farm on 100 acres of land so what is the point of having so many kids? Even extremely rich people are now careful about the amount of children they have (ask bill gates). Why would any struggling/upcoming or averagely rich man want to have more than 3 kids? [b]WHAT IS THE GOD DAMNED POINT? [/b]There are people who can barely take of themselves as a couple who have 4-5 kids.Na madness be dat one or wetin? Some give lame excuses such as "they don't know how many will survive, that's why they have as many as possible". What happens if the whole entire family dies in a flood or fatal accident? Hmmm?

Abeg, make person hia word!

I truly feel sorry for you and any women that crosses your path. No one needs to have that many but they did so good for them. Why cant you just be happy for them. You have to infect this with your bitterness. I have a child and i can tell you it wasnt to plow some inaginary field or to have an heir. He was truly a miracle of God and no one like you will ever take that away from me. I suspect your jealous of this man. You dont know their circumstances so be happy for them or be quiet.

harakiri:
Gift of which god? Na so una go use 8 children tie one man down unto say all na "gift of god".Tomorrow, when he can't take care of them, you are the same creatures that will nag his poor life to an early death!

How can you say that? Why do you assume he didnt want them. Plenty of guys want children. Just cos you dont doesnt mean you have to spew your vomit here. Take it somewhere else.

Thank you so much for posting this pic, gave me reason to smile and feel good. What a blessing to the couple. Hope they love each other forever!!!

No thank you!! Not interested in it! Love my life the way it is, uncomplicated!

Religious section?

bawomolo:
so a man showing emotion is pathetic now? lol

Nooooooo!!! Not at all. I meant if he has done the wrong thing and is begging for forgiveness and he starts crying to soften the women, thats pathetic. Not crying for other reasons.

chic2pimp:
Lol. . . . Can' say I am that suprised. Methinks it is the Nigerian Mentality and I can't say I wasn't brought out that way. Even Kids in Nigeria are only to aware of it. In my primary school days, Boys were not allowed to shed any tear when the teachers flogged em'(anyone who failed to abide by that rule was literally mocked and made fun of).

Im not Nigerian!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=540517.msg7030842#msg7030842 date=1288258158]
lol, my cousin was over 6'3" and he had a girlfriend who was 5'2"

Oooh, good response as well

[/quote]O.M.G!!! Really! Thats so funny. friend of mine is 6' 4" and its so bizarre when he is standing close to me, i feel really uncomfortable, easier to talk to him when he is sitting down!!

kokoletz:
Can't u see dt Tink_sh likes shorty guy like me so am switching 2 her.

Hehehe!!! As i said i am a shorty, 5ft 2in so anything above that is tall for me, lol!!! But i have a limit of 5 9 cos any taller is just ridiculous next to me

Wish i had long legs. I dont think 5 9 is short for a guy, especisally for a 5f 2 girl like me, cant do too tall!!

It doesnt impress me at all! Doesnt convince me either. I dont put on the tears so it doesnt work on me, just makes me think he is pathetic. The only reason would if he is mourning or over whelmed not to convince me of lies or apology.

johndoe200:
Nice to hear from a Nigerian (those that live in Nigeria), all these foreigners live in a different world.

Are you saying in Nigeria its ok to slap a women?? Just interested!

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=539736.msg7021896#msg7021896 date=1288151031]@ Reality: The feds were all over you!!

@ Tink_sh

Now you said it was even a marriage deal for you, I'm glad I held back my comments. Sorry bout the abuses dear, life sure is a bitc'h![/quote]Thank you, i appreciate that. I apoligise too if i went nuts on you, its just when some guys hit a women they say its her fault like 'she didnt cook my meat properly' or 'she didnt fold my clothes right' crap like that. They say 'oh she brought it on herself' So i jumped down your throat. I apoligise. Sore subject. Lifes not a bitch anymore but, all good here!!

REALITY101, No i wont take it easy!!!!!, not on this subject. If someone doesnt know or hasnt experienced it then they should be quiet.

Okija_juju, i have never laid a hand on any man. But the next guy that raises his hand to me, i will. The only mistake i made was to stay longer than i should. But marriage vows where deeply important to me. Ya live and learn, some of us take longer to learn.

I do understand what your saying. I have seen girls verbally or physically attack their man. The best thing is to walk away cos the law will take her side. It sux big time cos its women like that that make it harder for women in real trouble.

johndoe200:
Don't know the circumstances, but most of the time women bring this on themselves with their behavior.

There are so many words of rage in my head for your comment but i will assume you are just ignorant, be very careful what you say when you obviously know nothing.

Okija_juju, abuse is not something to make a joke of. Please control yourself. It not fun for a women thats for sure. Especially when the guy is twice her size and heavier than her. Keep your sickness to yourself.

Yes i have beeen, Wonder why i am happy single and cynical about that thing called 'love', there is your reason!!

steeze:
Tink, even if u open it i don't want to see your bosom. I want to sleep well at night.

Well lucky for you you will never get a chance, pity!! You would sleep so well!!!

O.M.G!! Those bubbies are soooooo gorgeous, Well done guys!!!

Bite my big white butt!!!

When your dead!!!

[quote author=Mr-Cork link=topic=538931.msg7014456#msg7014456 date=1288053921]Tink_sh? type? nah, I dont have a type, I nyansh anything (eermm WOmen only, pls). I still tink I love u

though. Yea am off to ITALY 7am tommorow moring and back the same day: Back 6pm GMT. Its just a one day trip [/quote]hehehe, of course you love me, i am awesome, hehe!! But i am a very hard to get prize, i am not easily swayed! So good luck to you, you have your work cut out for you if your lookin at this white chick. Have a wonderful trip to Italy!

steeze:
Tink, it's like your bosom is sagging too. See as d thread dey pain u.

It doesnt matter if mine are or are not sagging does it, not like you guys will ever have a chance to find out for real. Mine are wonderful!!! Just never stops amazing me the shallowness of some guys. Its all good but hope you are perfect too with no flaws. If your being picky then so shall your women to be. All good!!

[quote author=Mr-Cork link=topic=538931.msg7014408#msg7014408 date=1288052740]Tink_sh (f), sweetie, actualy, its you I love, NOT Queen eve or MyGoldie. They both ugly, actualy [/quote]Hehehe!! silly!! So you find a women who says she wont swoon at your words and you have to have her, hehe!!! Im not your type, trust me! You couldnt handle me, there is not a man born that could. Anyway, thought you where going to italy now!

Ok, tell me your age and i will confirm i am not your typ. I just know some things, im a smart women, hehe!!! You put your facebook address up here if you want to. Im not that brave, lol!!

I have a feeling im not your type, but a person can never have too many friends. Feel free to add me if you wish.