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Ignorant or jealous??

No answers yet?? I want to know also. Please someone inform this thread!

Hehehe almost Naija!!   Long story. Take care too.

snthesis:
ideally u r right!, but we r dealing with a whole lot of factors here- jst happen to b caught in d middle.
emotion, tradition, sentiments, family, -she wants to leave a seed behind, a part of her, not to be forgotten,a lineage, a replacement/ solace for her parents. the child wud b her and she d child.

But neither you or her will be around for that child, anyway i tried. Good luck in whatever you choose.

Ivynwa:
@Tink-sh
Tink is that really you talking to me? I hope you can still remember me. That wasn't a nice way to treat a friend dear. I could not believe it to the point that I did not know what to say but keep mute.

Pardon I received your last message to me. My sister had my pc while i was incapacitated. Not sure what i have done wrong. I was supporting your message! If i have done you wrong i dont think here is they way to approach it.

But again, its not about you or her, neither of you will be around. Its about an innocent human being that has no choice her. You hold his/her future in your hands. So stop thinking of you and her. You have to be a man and make the right choice for your future child. Would you be happy growing up under those circumstances. I know the law here is it doesnt matter how the child is conceived you are still responsible for the financial neds of that child til they are adult.

Ivynwa, my prayers are with you. My heart almost broke reading your comment. I wish you all the best!

Ivynwa:
Only Mrbrownjay knows where to hit greedy guys where it hurts em. Oliver twist indeed!
Nigerian guys need to stop maltreating most of these white ladies that humble themselves to help them get a piece of their country, when they need their papers they go to any length seeking the help of the natives of the country they are seeking residence in only to give them poor women all kind of bad behaviour later on. I am not against anybody marrying to get their paper, we are all seeking greener pastures and better life for ourselves and family but let's not maltreat those that help us because some black Oyoyo or Asian cutie showed up, are we not the same people shouting against racism and stuffs. Some months back, a Nigerian man that married a woman( that has passed her fertile years and is already a grandmother) to get his paper was disgracing the woman when confronted with his infidelity and had the effrontery to tell the woman out of frustration that she should leave him so that he can get children (only because he is yet to get his residence because he sure is counting days to get that residence and divorce her ASAP). It's not good to use people like that without appreciating and being thankful for their help.

Love this!!!!

IgboGirl:
why are u being all emotional over what i said? are u fat and ugly? where u used for papers? if your answer to these questions are no then i dont get why you are catching feelings.

i speak from what i've seen and noticed around me. Nigerian men that i've come across that married white women (the fat and ugly ones) did it for papers! it's a trend among Nigerian men.

you already think of saying 'gold digging black woman' u probably get the urge to say it sometimes but u just dont have the guts. but hey knock urself out and it wont even bother me, u know why? cos i aint no gold digger!

I dont say it or think it, i have only heard that phrase on here. Nowhere else. Maybe they are ugly and fat to you but your not the one dating them. Drives me mad when some people feel free to say anything then jump down someones throat for turning it around to them. So i am doing the jumping!! my point is you wouldnt be happy if i said that so why would i be happy with what you said. Its the assumption that a Nigerian guy is only with a white women for papers too. You must live in a very small world.

I just meant that he is going to keep giving it to you out of a right heart motive so maybe all you can do is keep putting it in the bank for you both . I do understand your stand on this and its good for you to be strong like that. I would assume you have spoken to him about how it makes you feel and i also feel that he is doing it out of love, so its tricky cos you are both right. Its a tricky place to be in for you both. I am sure there is a compromise somewhere.

Good for you. I like the buying furniture part, hehe!! Good thinking. I really have no idea how you stop him. He seems to be doing it with the right heart and cos he wants to give to you cos he loves you so much. I understand how you feel that you dont want him to feel he has to give it to you and you dont 'need' him to give it to you. Someone may have to compromise here and it may have to be you. Just keep stashing it away.

Yes, he is. The one and only guy i have ever dated outside of my fellow white guys, hehe!!

Ms. Potato, can you slip back into his wallet when he is asleep or in the shower? Maybe set up another account just for the money he gives you then if you get married it will be a nice surprise and spend it on a honeymoon or something for both of you.

I wish i had your problem though, hehe!! Just kidding, im too independent as well.

I apoligise if i offended. Stereotypes of any kind make me a little crazy.

weak, pathetic man! So you want to ruin her life cos you changed your mind? Get your head right!

I dont get it and never will. I have always paid my own way. My ex asked me for money but never gave it cos he says he is always broke. I moved into my parents house cos i have to save for a car as mine died and he still asked me for ticket money to come see me. I was offended as all i work hard for is for my son and providing for us. So i have no idea about all this 'guys paying for everything and girls taking everything'

nellaluv:
If your boyfriend is Nigerian, it's a Nigerian thing, you won't understand .

My previous was a nigerian and in two years i got one birthday gift. I was grateful for that but no other gifts or money as you guys talk about. I think its all a make believe dream.

Im just so tired of the 'fat, ugly, white woman' crap. It would be like me saying 'gold digging black woman', i would never fall to that crap. So tired of it and even more surprised it came from a woman.

Please do not get her pregnant unless your ready to be a father. MR brownJAY is right, think of the child. Its not about her dying request or your ego or that you really like her. This is a life you are talking about. This child will grow to be a teenager then an adult and start asking why its father wasnt in his/her life. Why did his/her father get the mother pregnant while dying then disappear from the babies life. Its so complicated unless you are planning on being in the childs life.

The baby wont be a baby forever. And what about when you are happily married and have children and you get a knock on the door and its your grown child. How will that affect everything? What if something happens to her parents and that cant raise it anymore? If you can accept the worst case scenario then consider it. This baby your considering deserves the best start and the best start is with two parents that are devoted to raising it right. Both of you are being damn selfish. Please dont think of now, think of later.

What if she has a miracle healing? What if she doesnt die? Are you a doctor, do you know everything for sure? Sounds fishy to me. If she is sick enough to be dying she wouldnt be well enough to carry a child for nine months. Be extremely careful. This is a life changing thing with many lives affected.

Easy, they need to GROW UP and stop being children and running their lives by their friends.

MOBO, have you ben tested? Im concerned for your life. I understand that you are proud of your number but would you feel differently if some guy was bragging and your daughter was on hs list?? You would want to kill!!! Please be careful with your life!

[quote author=Area_boy link=topic=533944.msg6967616#msg6967616 date=1287439637]lol, i just might, it all depends on the values u grew up with, and all i'm saying is a typical nigerian girl goes for money over everything else. which makes logical sense since nigerian men love to show off their wealth, i guess we made them wat they are, kinda ironic if i think hard about it, hmmmmmmmmmmmm[/quote]Hehe, dont hurt yourself pondering!!! I think you are right but it depends on personality. We werent raised to want things uncontrollably we were raised to be happy with the basics and everything else is a bonus. I hate money hungry people. Yes we need some money but it doesnt make you a better person or a better wife/husband. It can change people, but im not Nigerian so maybe its a culture thing.

IgboGirl:
oh please poster, cut the crap, will ya? the only reason Nigerian men go after white women is for papers! funny thing is yall always go for the fat ugly white women *tufiakwa*

White women, like black women, have a lot more to offer than papers! If you want to insult the poster go for it but try not to use another race to do it!! Colour is supposed to mean nothing!! Each to there own.

dobodobo:
I will dance ALANTA to your music,we are no mugu here

[quote author=Area_boy link=topic=533944.msg6962674#msg6962674 date=1287390401]and i know a few bus conductors that have all the qualities u just mentioned, so can i hook u up? thats if u dont mind,


u know all y'all have a price, [/quote]I would take a bus conductor with all those qualities any day over a guy who has money and is a player and full of himself!

Oh and by the way, my father is a tour bus driver and has made a very nice, honest living, so bite me!!!

Hey 190, how is England treating ya??

I am sure Omolola is a strong girl and is more then able to take care of herself, you go girl!!!!

Whats with all the damn lies!!! Shame on her!!! This is very serious cos how do you trust her. There is no good to come out of staying with her ex, very suspicious!!

And if a woman did it she is labelled a slut and you guys want to marry virgins, geez i hate hypocrisy with a passion!!!!

darlforme:
Good Woman. Some guys posess these qualities but wont find a lady like you

No they wont cos they are looking for a girl that looks like a super model and is easy to get into bed, so they get what they deserve.

But technically has she fallen yet? Im not sure but has she done anything to make you feel she has betrayed you. Is she just chatting? Or flirting? Or sex talk? etc?

Poster, i dont think you have enough proof to know anything for sure. Start chatting to her on f/b and ask if she is single, etc, if she would like to hook up, or do some dirty talk and see if she responds. Then you will know if she means to betray you or not. At the moment she may just be at a friendship level that has no harm. Good luck and be very careful that it doesnt backfire on you.

My price is not financial, its honesty, trustworthy,faithfull, strong, god fearing and of good character. I could go on but you get the picture. Not financial but personal character is my price.

[quote author=Mr-Cork link=topic=533843.msg6961600#msg6961600 date=1287363683]Bro dont worry about 190, he is not human

he a Computer virus [/quote]Hehehehehe!!!!

teeboyseve:
You mean sex with those broke backside white girls in clubs and pubs, Guy the best white chick is a working class babe,and they are hard to get I swear, not those dirty white girls on benefits all their life with smelly cigarette odour. Sex hungry white girls. Goodluck 190.

As a white girl i totally agree! You got to be careful of the skanky ones. All cultures have the good and the bad, the classy and the crap!!!