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StylesX:
She was the first girl I ever had amorous feelings for, I was in secondary school then, I asked her out with all the courage my being could muster, and she turned me down, we stayed friends for over 10years, I would try to move on, and it would work for a while and all the feelings will come back all over again especially when I see her, I don't see her often as she lives in another state.

We both did well for ourselves, I concentrated on making myself a better guy, worked hard to make something of myself, she did the same, and over the years we were just friends and I went ahead and dated only 4 girls, I don't womanize, I realized I always looked for her in every girl I dated, and I mostly dated girls that looked like her, I have been lucky with love in the sense that all the girls I dated loved me, I'm currently in a relationship with a decent girl too.

So fast forward to last week, she came visiting all of a sudden, haven't seen her for over two years and here she is, we connected and spent time like best friends, shared and talked about our lives and joked about how she put me in friend zone in the past, throughout her stay she stayed in my apartment, we slept in same bed and everything yet nothing happened, she kept talking about how I am a good guy that most guys will sleep with a girl that come under their roof, sometimes she would change her clothes in my presence and I won't make any move, she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now, I didn't read meaning to any of this as I have zeroed out the thought of anything happening between us for years until she started doing strange things, like kissing me without warning, cuddling at night and pressing me to her Bossom etc,

One night she did that and I got aroused, I lost control and we got intimate, it was intense, but before we could have actual sex I came to my senses and made her stop, it was super awkward, we didn't talk about it because she has a partner and I do too, I thought we'd just pretend nothing happened and move on so we wouldn't sabotage our relationships, then the next day we were alone at home in my living room, she wore my Tshirt with undies and we were binge watching movies, suddenly she started kissing and touching me, and I lost it again and this time we had passionate sex, she left the next day, and ever since then I've been confused and guilt ridden, she told me it was a mistake she rejected me in the past that we can still start something if I want, that she is ready to be with me, but I wasn't buying it, I am confused because a part of me feel something fishy is up, and the other part wanted her but I don't know how to tell my girlfriend nor do I want to hurt my girlfriend, I don't love her like I loved this old time crush of mine, but she is a loyal girlfriend and I can't look her in the eyes since the sex thing happened, and every nerve in my body is telling me to confess and ask for forgiveness or keep quiet and move on with my life, what do I do?

Deleolu75:
Dele fisayo ok ok hatayor in turkey. They have played 7 games won 2 and draw 5 lost 0
Scored 4 goals with assist .. I think is a strong guy..
, Yes by elimination by substitution eagles could be a strong team to win the next afcon ..stiil some guys here are still 5 mins players in their clubs.

EgunMogaji2:
It’s never advisable unless there’s a seriously compelling reason. Not even love.

If you must then try to get a solid prenup and/or get your properties beforehand.

Don’t build with a woman. E get why.

delkuf:
where did you get this from. Are you married to one

Hotfreezing:
If you don't come to Lagos to serve Yorubas, you hopeless people will suffer and starve. Have you forgotten that the only reason you're alive is because of the benevolence of Yorubas.
Let them push you back to your region and see if your own brothers won't kill you.

Hotfreezing:
We told you we will show you shege, you thought it's a joke?

camri:
you are a useless man

THISLIFE01:
Don't mind d bitter lady, only her knows d real reason why she hates d guy. She's trying to say d man has no good side at all,he's just useless abi? Yet her sister keeps opening her legs 4 him.
There seem to be other personal issues between husband and wife. As a man,one should pray not to fall into financial crisis, because u will get to see another side of people that u never knew existed.

Tallesty1:
The reason she is a single mother is irrelevant as far as I am concerned. Single mothers are great, don't get me wrong. Some of them are victims of men's heartlessness, others made careless mistakes, while some are just victims of one thing or another, but neither of these is any of my business. I can't date a single mom, talk more of marrying one.

I don't have the energy to prove that I am a better man. I don't have the emotional strength to withstand their manipulation. I don't have the finances to raise another man's child.

Some of these women with no valid source of income will fight for custody of the child just so they can use it to source funds. "I am a single mother please help me"

If her ex-partner is an issue, that is a problem for me because I will need to prove that I am better before she can be committed. If she was the problem in the relationship, then she is still a problem. Forget how nicely she treats you; being nice to you and being a nice person are not the same.

She will love the child from the previous relationship more than the ones she will have with you.

I just can't deal.

If I end up a single dad, then I want women to avoid me. I personally will avoid them until I have raised my kids into adulthood because a second wife will mistreat them once she starts having her own kids. She will turn the girl into her slave, and the boy will suffer and get killed if she has her way.

xana101:
Any child I train is my child. If I train the child to university level. The child only know me as his father. The mum will never come out open that the child is not mine. Hence I marry the woman legitimately. DNA will only coz me heart break. I have 2 kids. Not that I trust my wifet. My kids are 14yrs and 8yrs. Both of them only know me as their father…. For my peace of mind and the love I have for them. I let the sleeping dog lye. Don’t let a woman kill u b4 ur time. Those kids are innocent. It’s the useless woman fault. So men, take care of ur self. Look good and no kill Urself for woman. They don’t worth it. I tell u From experience.

Persephone1:
Uncle stop trying to fit where you are not needed or wanted.

That lady obviously does not send your papa, next time move on quietly and don't disgrace yourself on a forum.

Head like "I spoke to her niece she said she isn't married" bla bla bla Monitoring spirit everywhere

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Samantha124:
Sometimes as a father, you need to put your big ego aside and be a father to your children by spending some time with them and doing the things they love, even if it means going down to their level.

This is why most African kids would be financially supporting their mothers and not their fathers when they grow older... It's not the mother's fault, but it's the man's fault for always not making time for his kids... Some kids are even afraid of their own fathers.

And by the time the fathers start thinking of making some time for their children, it'll be too late because the children would now be adults and having their own lives to live.

Fountainofyouth:
You have a serious problem, so children are blind not to know what is happening in their home? When they become adults they still do not know or are not aware that they have an absentee and terrible father? Yet you sit in your two by two and conclude that women give them hate filled orientation as if grown up adults cannot think for themselves, everything must be the mothers fault, exactly what deadbeats and potential deadbeats spew as excuses for their uselessness.

1Sharon:
Why are you defending nonsense The guy said his father refused to apologise despite knowing he is wrong, what does that have to do with the mother??

descent96:
I'm glad and always thankful to God for the kind of parents I have. I wouldn't be what I am today without the kind of training and upbringing I had from them. All I can say is, may they live longer to reap the fruit of their labour from me.,that is and will always be my prayer.

Gangster1ms:
Leave my mum outta this, na even she dey push me to love my dad. The man no be am, he has no friends, everyone runs from him, even his children

Samantha124:
So a man can't have a father and a daughter relationship with his own child?

And where is it written that a man can't help his daughter with her wig? Just because you weren't raised to do something, it doesn't mean you can't do it with your own children and bond with them.

This is why you guys don't have a relationship with your fathers even though they're married to your mothers, you know nothing about a father and a child bond.

I know what a real man and father is like because I was raised by one.

Samantha124:
The same thing applies with men, men who were raised without mothers know nothing about being good husbands.