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Important Notice: This article was not written to cause any mayhem/havoc to anyone, school and the country at large.

Nowadays, ask a genuine average Nigerian University Student that is in 300/400 level about what he/she wants to graduate with when leaving the higher institution? The ones that are more enlightened will say, let them just struggle to have a 2:1 (Second class upper) or even a 2:2 (Second class lower). While others who want the fame and see the rewards of their hard work will rather say they require a first class result.

Many federal universities are victims of this and one of the major factors is due to ASUU strike which happens to them. When ASUU goes on strike, it affects students in such a way that the plans they have will be affected.

Having made research on this topic, important factors have been highlighted that affects the orientation that students have about having a first-class grade. And they are;

1. Expected outcome

I could remember vividly when a friend of mine told me;

“Did you know that when a student graduates with a first class result from the higher institution, it is expected by society to get the very best from him/her, and when the person fails to give his/her best (i.e. finding solutions to challenging problems), his/her first class result will be concluded useless by the society then several assumptions like; maybe he/she bought that first class degree or he/she was privileged to get it in a chance. But someone who graduated with a 2:1 or a 2:2, as we all know, the society is expecting less from them (as they think they were not serious when they were in school). But if by any means the individual should find a remarkable/unprecedented solution to a problem, the society will be surprised at that and will want to honor him/her above that person who had a first class result and cannot prove it?”

Hmmmmm… There is this Yoruba saying which was formulated by Nigerian students which goes like this “Eni ti o mo way lo mo we” meaning “Only the ones that know the way knows book” and I presume that quote is only applicable in Nigeria. The “way” in this scenario is referred to as “connection(s)”, which means it is only when you have the right connections that you know the real “book” (I just hope you understand how it goes). Therefore, there is a kind of phobia in the minds of students about obtaining a first class result from the higher institution.

2. Stories of Great people

Education wise, where do you think the founder of Facebook, Microsoft, and Apple stopped? Steve Jobs the co-founder of apple went to Reed College somewhere in Oregon, and he could not carry on and dropped out, he explained his struggle in that college in his very well-known speech at Stanford. Also, Bill gate who was the founder of Microsoft was a drop out from Harvard University and he opened a shop in Mexico where he sells what he loves interest in doing (not related to Microsoft). Lastly, Mark Zuckerberg the originator of the most popular social media, Facebook, went to a private school, apparently, he is also privileged and as well as an extremely smart person. In Harvard days he with 3 to 4 other classmates started this web of a thing for small things for Harvard students as a social site and got expelled from the college because of a certain clash with Harvard policies.

Therefore students don’t actually believe that it is until you graduate with a first class result before you can be a success. Try to read “Why C students usually end up being the most successful”.

3. Social events around them

This is the most disturbing issue that student face. The activities that are happening on the social media have deviated the attention of the students and have greatly reduced their interests towards academics. For instance, the Big Brother Naija (#BBN) that was held few months ago which the winner went home with a sum of 25million naira compared with the best graduating student in a Nigerian university (name withheld for specific reasons) was given a sum of 10,000 naira only (but she was later appreciated with a sum of 500,000naira). Now come to think of it, of what benefit it is to go to school and waste some precious time studying and at the end of it all, the person will be appreciated with a little token? It is not by any means encouraging. (This is left to the government to restructure their educational policies to suit the students).

4. Late to seat up

Lol…. This is common to 300/400 level students. The thing is that they actually entered these levels with a very low CGPA and they realized that even if they have 5.00 as GPA in the current level (or semester), it won’t still take them to a first class. They, therefore, relent on pursuing that first class but work towards having a next better option to a first-class i.e. maybe a 2:1 or 2:2 (This tells you that for your building to stand firm, your foundation has to be rigid).

5. The absence of honor by reputable companies

Even many reputable companies in the world today are not interested in first-class candidates, but they are interested in the ones that will bring about positive changes/ development to the firm (maybe through ideas, hard work etc.)


Feel free to add yours below.............


source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2017/08/why-students-are-no-longer-interested.html

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She remembered tears rolling down his cheeks, as he said his vows to her in the presence of God, family, friends, and well-wishers. Her spirit confirming that every word Tayo was saying was for real. His firm grip on her fingers, the sincerity in his voice and the blazing passion in his charcoal eyes hit her with so much intensity, for a while she forgot how to blink.

“I’ll forever love and cherish you Omolade, after God, I can boldly say that you complete my existence”. He finished off.

My name is Omolade and I have just returned from the moon. Trust me when I say it was nothing less of a splendid and an adventurous journey to cloud nine. Impulsively I squeeze my legs together in remembrance, thinking of how my baby had turned to a perfect bad boy for me. Indeed sex is sweet when the marriage bed is left undefiled .For the briefest second I am completely unaware of my surroundings. The heat from the semo I am cooking brings my mind back to focus. I quickly vanish sweet thoughts from my mind and immediately begin to rigorously pound the semo. I am determined to break and destroy any lump that has formed or is thinking of forming.

You see, this is the first real meal that I’ll be cooking as Mrs. Tayo David Lawson and I intend on making it as perfect as the word itself. I will be serving Tayo Semo and a seven-life vegetable soup otherwise known as efo elemi meje . Lol. I call it that name because I have put all sorts (meat,stock fish, rings of pomo, shrimps, offal,ground crayfish ) to make it palatable,irresistible and delectable.

I am wrapping our semo into a transparent nylon when I hear a car horn. Heart beating with excitement I run to the door but I am disappointed when I realize it’s the next door neighbor’s. I shut the door in disappointment, walking back to the kitchen to complete my task.

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I am in the bathroom smiling alone and smiling stupidly. As the water droplets cascade over my body , I am once again lost in thoughts of how Tayo had fiercely made love to me in the pool. I am a good girl and would have preferred the security of our honey moon suite but Tayo would have non of it.

“God knows that I did not refrain myself from dipping into the cookie jar while dating you only to limit myself to taking you only in the confinement of a bedroom. It was by his grace I was able to resist touching you”. He had said.

“What if someone see us?”. I ask afraid of the prospect of doing it out of my comfort zone. I am also happy to know that I had that physical effect on Tayo. At a point, I thought he did not find me attractive when I had told him no sex or kissing before marriage and he had agreed like it was no big deal. Before Tayo, I had dated Christian brothers that I had to beg to be patient and deal with the onerous task of removing prying fingers from my body. After a while the number of times I said NO became equivalent to the number of times I blinked my eyes in a day.

“That’s part of the excitement wifey, Adrenalin is sometimes good ooo. It adds spice to the mix”.Tayo replies as he changes into his swim suite.

Truth be told, I had imagined Tayo being gentle and nice in doing that stuff as his general demeanour is, but I was pleasantly surprised and pleased at the same time when he turned out to be a skilled, bold prowess in doing the stuff. Truly the scripture is true for it says ‘for unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we could ever think or ask according to the power that is at work in us.

Who would know that the holyspirit can teach my husband ways to make me have orgasms.

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Hello wifey do you mind if I join you?”. I hear the baritone voice of my husband. It brings me back to earth and my eyes takes in his handsome chubby face with full beards.

I squeal in delight flying out of the bathtub to him. I wrap my slim hands tightly around his neck. I don’t care that I am soaking his suit with the water from my body, I am just delighted to have him around. I place numerous kisses on his face, eliciting giggles from him.

“Awwww my baby misses me”. He says smiling. I can tell that he is very pleased from his sparkling eyes and megawatt smile.

“I nod vigorously “.

“How was work darling? Would you like to eat now or what’s your plan?”. I ask acting the perfect wife. I am eager to put into practice all I had learnt from our marriage counselling class in church .

“I actually have a ton of work to do. It seems those guys were patiently waiting for me cos’ my work is piled up and I’m still getting more “. He replies.

“Pele olowo ori mi ” I reply kissing the frown off his forehead.

“I think I’ll have noodles and chicken with a cup of coffee. I need to do some work tonight”.

“Ehn noodles keh? “. I ask in surprise, I think of all the stress I went through in preparing dinner, I do not bother to ask why he is requesting for noodles.

“Tayo you can’t have noodles o”. I whine, pouting my lips and folding my hands. I stare at the floor like it’s the next best thing made by man.

“Is there a problem? ” I hear him ask,concern in his voice. I don’t answer nor change my stance.

He comes close to me and pulls me to his chest, wrapping me with his hands .

“My love tell me what the matter is? If there’s no noodles in the house I can send Audu to get it from the shop. I’ll even cook it myself if you’re tired “.

I smile to myself, thinking of how clueless a man can be sometimes. I expect him to know that I am acting this way cos he is choosing noodles over the efo and semo that I had painstakingly prepared for him.

“But you haven’t told him what you cooked so don’t blame him“. I hear my spirit respond to me.

“Omolademi? ” he calls my name sweetly,nudging me to speak.

“I am fine o,it’s just that I have cooked your favourite meal and it’s already set on the table”. I say this like a five-year old reluctant to tell her parent that someone broke her new toy. After all I am his baby, I’m allowed to act that way.

“Is that all?” He ask.

“Yes”. I nod.

“I’m sorry for my insensitivity, let’s have the food and we’ll have one of the appetizer created by God”. He winks saying the last part. I smile in anticipation.

Let me help you take off your tie……

I busy myself with my phone as I wait for my husband to finish off from the bathroom before eating. I am feeling all giddy, I decide to update my pm on bbm.

I could talk about him all day, he is not perfect but he is perfect for me. He makes marriage beautiful.

I get several messages after my pm update. I am feeling like the queen of marriage as I answer several questions . I have suddenly become a connoisseur of marriage throwing relationship advice at my still single friends. I bask in their envy, even if I know I shouldn’t be doing that.

“Hey babes I am ready”. I hear my husband say

“oh let’s go”. I scramble out of the bed eager to join my husband .

I am so excited to be able to call him my husband. I unconsciously stare at my fourth finger,admiring my ring.

We gist, talk and laugh over dinner. My husband can’t stop praising my cooking as he chews on chunks of assortment in the efo.

At the end of his meal, he yawns like a satisfied man. I am contented with his contentment. As a good wife, I make sure he doesn’t forget to have his appetizer winks.

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I stretch my body in satisfaction after a wonderful night with my hubby. If I had known marriage was this sweet I would have married since. I am jobless at the moment cos’ I had to resign from my work in Abuja to join Tayo in Lagos, so I have enough time on my hand.

I think of any friend in Lagos who is also temporarily jobless as I am. When I come out blank I scroll through my BBM contact. I tick off friends one by one giving excuses why I couldn’t contact them. My spirit tells me to seize this quiet time to fellowship with him but I postpone it. I can’t help my mind from reminiscing over my honeymoon period and the seed that might have been planted in me.

Thinking of seeds, I jump out of bed to face the full-length mirror in the room. I run my hands over my tummy envisaging each stage of my pregnancy period before I pop out an adorable chubby little princess with full dark hair like mine and lovely eyes like her dad’s. Her name would be Eleanor and we will do plenty mini-me pictures on Instagram. I chuckle in delight of my thoughts, they are pleasant and they make me excited. I run back to the bed, I grab my phone to search Instagram for possible pictures that I could use when my baby comes. I spare a brief prayer to God, asking him to at least let one out of the million *** spilled into me during and after the honeymoon fertilize.


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