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Naija girls too set.

EternalTruth:
hey bro don't say that.
she's just 16 and still a virgin.
she's too young for that.

She turned 18 in october.

Girl that just turned 18 three months ago already sexualizing herself.

Jayhazard:
And you think dressing those kids indecently will help matters? To reduce sexual harassments , it's the duty of the offender to make things right by ridding his mind of poisonous thoughts, it's also the duty of the victim (in this case, the victim's guardians) to desist from actions that'll enhance those poisonous thoughts. It's a two-way thing. Stop making comparisons with the western world, a change cannot be effected overnight. We need to start from somewhere.

you had to quote me just to make the same point i made. Odiegwu.

GOD I THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME A MAN.

Ladies are really trying in this unjust and wicked world of man. Baby mamas on the rise and i keep wondering why...

Radiant1020:
What do you mean by if they look like kids? It has nothing to do with the kids... I live in North, yet little children on hijabs well covered up are still being molested...

the embolden is a crazy case and im not talking about that.You should not twist my comment cos i made myself crystal clear... in the west kids look like full grown adult females hence should not take it for granted that they are kids and go about practically naked.

Radiant1020:
Wait! Are men supposed to be attracted to kids even if their naked? Jeez
The world is indeed coming to an end

If they look like kids hell NO but not when they are more mature than an adult male.

It still baffles me that ladies don't understand the sexuality of men.

We are very visual and anything that presents itself sexually catches our attention.. EVEN AN UNCLAD 7YEAR OLD...

It is the ability for some of us to immediately code in our brain to recognize the fact that we are looking at a child that makes the difference.

Parents must make sure the girl child dresses decently at ALL TIMES.

Oblitz:
Paedophiles everywhere. Adopt Any measure that can protect your children.

It is quite amazing how hypocritical we all can be. Sexualizing 5 to 7 year old indeed.

During summer I see ladies of 14years that look like 25 and kids of 7 or 8 that look 18 walking practically naked and I had to tell myself to look away...WHY? because I KNOW they are under age BUT DOES THIS MAKE IT RIGHT FOR PARENTS TO ALLOW THIS RUBBISH?

it's because in African countries,kids look like kids but in the western world where kids look like adult I don't think this outrage will make sense.

Hisduchess:
may God bless you @op.till tomorrow I still prefer the old method of our parents or will I say dating within a short period and getting married. dating for long periods is simply a waste of time and emotions. you see why there are plenty of infidelity in marriage, its because by the time a lady gets married she has tasted all manner of d**ks and the man has tasted all manner of puna.the effect is often on the woman cos she will often end up comparing the di*k of her husband to the different men she had slept with,if the man no measure up like tunde,ekene or Ibrahim,she will start going out to go chop from dem exes. @op I support ur yarn,plenty people no go like am but I support u 100%

Good

victorian:
Serious greed!

Just too bad.

If she were like him? She would have gotten married to another man.
Guess she's still hooked on him and his bad boi looks.


If he wanders off again with another lady, people will mock her ehn?

She had better pray his head don come down and no more allowing distractions in between them.

You guys should stop judging until you know what went down.

I agree that only the woman knows the paternity of a child but not in the case of gangrape and ofcourse women do lie about the paternity of a child.

Just seeking attention.

lefulefu:
toks toks
longest time
still creating ur controversal threads wey dey piss off babes
merry christmas in advance

Nah guys this one piss off cos of their bad plan.

Freelance nah my passion so I no go fit leave am.

lefulefu:
oh u mean dat type of dating? Its not old skool na. My guy who schooled in unijos told me dats how d hausas date. Dat if u movin with a hausa girl she will introduce u to her ppl as her boyfriend. And by the way is dat not how d whites date? Its only in the south dat a guy will be sneaking around moving with a girl.

Lefu it's been a while..
How u dey?

Some men are so foolish. If you must do why disrespect your wife.

Toseenlove:
Hmmm are u trying to abuse me now.

Nope...why should I?, I'm too civil for such.

Saffi:
There’s nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning, just don’t overdo it and become a housemaid for the man when it’s not necessary. Once in a while, let him know that you’re skilled in that department, but when it starts becoming a chore and you’re expected to do it, then it becomes a problem. You get? Just find a balance.

True

Toseenlove:
Then u need change the Heading of this post then because it was generalized. So change it to "Some reasonable young ladies"

An African proverb says..."But for fools, all words should be spoken in proverbs"

HardMirror:
Yesterday a thread made front page and the advice to single ladies was to abstain from premarital sex and dump any guy that does not propose marriage to you within a year.

This is one of the most unrealistic and useless advises ever!

This advice would worsen your situation. How do i know? You should stop listening to theories and start being practical. Best way to know what works is to study what has worked already.

1. No sex before marriage.
One of the most hypocritical advises ever invented!!! Fact!
Do you have friends that are married? Ask them if they never had sex before they eventually married each other. Experience as shown me that sex never discourages a man from getting married to you. On the contrary it has lead to many marriages.

Before you deny him, are you even a virgin? If your guy is the type that needs sex once a while and you dont give him, i laugh at your fooolishness. He would soon bed a girl that would make him dump you real fast. Most girls i know also want occasional sexual pleasures, why not make each other happy?

If you dont want to have sex before marriage do it for better reasons not as strategy to keep a man.

2. Dump a guy that does not propose to you within a year.
Another advice that would destroy your chances of getting married.
You will endup dumping guys till you die!
We guys dont like desperate ladies. Infact we flee from desperate ladies. Once you start forcing marriage into our discussions, just know that even if the guy was planning to marry you that year, he would start getting stressed with your desperation. We dont want a girl that cannot work with our plans.
I am still trying to build my business and all you contribute is marriage marriage marriage.

I just made N5million and told you then you start calculating that we are ready for marriage.

The number one thing you can do for a guy is to support his hustle. He will marry you before any other girl. You know why? Very few ladies contribute anything to a guy's life. If you are the type that is supporting his hustle in fact you even cook for him once a while because you know he had a busy day trying to make ends meet. He would sleep that night thinking of you and how he is not ready to lose you.


Many guys married girls you will call ugly because of this. They know she is not beautiful but they would tell her she is the most beautiful lady in the world just because she makes them happy


Candid advice form your boy -Hardmirror

Dont let toks2008 use his advice to destroy your relationship

Your thread is dead on arrival cos you did not even comprehend my thread in the first place.

1. Is sex outside marriage right in the first instance?

2. Is discussing marriage the same as proposing marriage.

I don't use vulgar words online but you are a confirmed olodo.

HardMirror:
is this a joke? so a guy would commit to marriage because of sex? sex that a hundred other girls would give for free? this must be a joke. so a guy would hurry up because he want to have sex with you. then if he does not enjoy the sex i guess he would also hasten to divorce you. smh. #fishbrains

Exactly the point...you will leave the ladies and go for other babes that are ready to roll. Is it a do or die? If Cynthia follows my advise simply dump her and go for Caroline that will not mind you damaging her. Common sense.

Chai! I don laugh tire...see thread meant for ladies getting hijacked and masturb*ted on by guys..see guys practically wailing on top simple advise.

Ladies this is a sign for you all to wise up cos moat guys are just out to damage you.

Abeg make the guys continue to wail and let me continue to laugh in Jubril voice..

majekdom2:
this is why Nigeri ranks top in the list of poor countries. Marry marry marry. Even those that haven’t the resource to marry wants to marry. Does marriage keep people together? No, Their understanding and maturity does. Are you not aware that same way people date for selfish reasons, people also marry for same selfish reasons. Did you not read that thread where a young woman of 25 is separated because the husband had other motives. My advice is this- make money, travel and explore the world, then check if marriage is right for you. Like my parents used to say the person you used to call baby becomes baba so so or mama so so after one kid. Marriage is not for the immatured!

But sex is for the immature right? Keep fooling yourself.

By the way I have observed that it is guys who kept wailing on this thread when the thread is clearly for the ladies...

Guys wettin be una problem?

rednek:
I strongly agree with your first and second reasons, but as for the third one......i think it is very shallow

Marriage is not something i will advice anyone to rush into...........before you say something in the public, you should reason it out properly, because there are so many people listening to or reading it with different mindsets, and different levels of understanding. So that you don't end up damaging someone's physique unknowingly to both you and such person(s).

You can't possibly agree with the first and disagree with the last.

A lady dates because she is ready for marriage so why waste her time with a guy who seem not to be looking in that direction? Common sense bro.

ibietela2:
Are you married?

ki lo pa iya ijebu?

missyblissy:
It wont increase the body count if the lady has principles and respect for herself.

Op its a wonderful advice but the indomine generation and some slay queens with foolish thinking will not accept it at all.

Ladies, know this, sex can never and will never keep a man no matter how skilled you think you are in bed. I learn a lot from my experience and from people's experiences.

I was dated a guy for years he never mentioned anything about our future, whenever i asked he will change the topic or say something not realistic. I met another guy that pestered me for months i tried all i could to chase him away but he was persistent. Since am a believer of dating one guy at a time. I went home prayed and thought long and heard. I asked my bf where are we heading this relationship, dame silly, unserious and excuses. I ended the relationship and started dating the guy, 6months into the relationship, i got engaged, 3 months later, we were married.

He is indeed Godsent for me!!!! He is everything and more i want my man to be. He treats me like his Queen, and He is my King!!!!! I thank God everyday for this decision else na so i for miss the love of my life.

Ladies, make hay when the sun shines.... Call your bfs today and ask him about your future with him. Base on his response you will know what to do. THINK WITH YOUR HEAD THIS TIME, NOT YOUR HEART OR PUSSY!!!!!

Coming from a mature lady and from vivid experience. Good one sis and i wish you success in your marriage.

AreaFada2:
So you mean a guy who just doesn't want to marry should not date at all?
The world is changing and choices change with it. Some people will not marry. 100 years ago, you'd not be allowed to see your future wife alone. There had to be a chaperone. Now boys and girls can sample tens of bfs/gfs if they wish before picking one. . There was no dating, let alone for a year. That's how much things have changed

Someone reading what you wrote now in 50 years would think you are writing from the era of Nebuchadnezzar.

If Nigerian economy seriously improves and most women do not rely on men to survive and society's perception changes, some women too will never marry.

We should start accepting what the future will bring NOT some hypocritical moralisation. Whizkid, Flavour, Davido and others are already showing us what to expect in the years ahead.

The reason we have so many people killing their spouses and divorces everywhere is that MANY people, male & female, were never caught out to be husbands or wives. But they still marry to tick the box. And fail miserably. Is it not better to "kukuma" not marry knowing you'll be a gargantuan disaster in marriage?

lol see me see wahala.this is an advise and not every lady will take it. Some ladies want to be used as long as they get something in return and such girls are everywhere so why the fuss? the advise is for reasonable young ladies who are not interested in being used as toys and not for every young lady out there so calm your nerves bro.

Shugavee:
it’s a simple question,, don’t use this to avoid it.. all ur points r sex sex sex!! Is sex the only thing in a relationship, again I ask, r u a baby How old r you by the way? Lol

Anyone actually thinking of taking this advise is dumber than u

i honestly understand your quest to justify the fact that you are terribly damaged by your present guy and leaving him after all the sacrifice you have made is tantamount to suicide for you. I honestly understand your plight but leave this advise for the younger ladies who are still growing and have not found themselves in your situation ok.

Pray hard that this guy eventually put a ring on it and dont try justifying your point with lies cos i can see through your posts how hard you are trying to justify your situation.

It is only an advise and you dont have to take it but please stop condemning it.

Have a good night rest my lady

Shugavee:
n why do u think relationships r only about sex? R u a baby?

Do you have issues with simple comprehension? Sorry I can't help you in this area.

PotatoSalad:
And your opinion still doesn't make sense. Sleep over it and post better threads

By now you should understand that no matter how foolish an opinion is, it gives you no right to curse. Be guarded. Have a good night rest.

Shugavee:
And u r sure the next nigga would be any better??

As long as they don't take undue advantage if You,no problem but wettin you gain if every guy you date keeps drilling and dumping u?

PotatoSalad:
I don't have one but your post doesn't make any sense.
You wake up one morning, think some crap and vomit it on nairaland.
Not cool dude. not cool

On a serious note, learn to articulate your point without vulgarity. It's an online forum where we all are entitled to our opinions.

PotatoSalad:
This OP is mad, very very mad.
Anyway, it's the internet. Even teenagers and overgrown adult babies give marriage advice.
Like I said, Toks2008 you are very mad.
Stop misleading these gullible people

Habba wettin happen? Why use vulgar words?Is your girlfriend on nairaland? E be like sey the OP don spoil show for you.

Please stop using those words or I go ban you and your isp join.