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NwaAmaikpe:



I relate to this.
Sometimes leading a double life is inevitable.

Though it is okay to cheat as a man.
I practiced monogamy all the while I encouraged polygamy. God forgive me for the souls I led astray.

i have been a faithful man all my life and one woman man but i encourage polygamy because it is not a sin and i will defend it anyday.

LaCruzz:
Did you read the first thing you said at all Besides, are you married??

You wan marry Me?

ikhileomotayo:
Your last sentence Nice one

But you and I know the percentage of Nigerian guys that will stay in a relationship for a whole year without sex is very low.

Anyway have a goodnight bruv

The more reason why the advise is bae.A guy who truly wants a lady will stay even beyond a year and will practically make efforts to have her for keeps.

ikhileomotayo:
I was just being sarcastic. Of course I know what body count means.

And I was right in my assertion that if they follow your advise of giving up after just 1 year and moving on to another it increases their bodycounts

But coming to think of it, don't you think it will sink in if it was a married man giving this advise Toks Baba

Much respect bro

No need playing smart. Nobody knows it all.

The advise will not increase the body count if premarital sex is avoided.

It's not rocket science. A lady waits till she feels she is ready for marriage then she tries out a relationship and ofcourse asexual one then if after one year the guy is not even discussing the possibility of settling down with her, she simply moves on.

It sounds very foolish but it will save her a lot.

As for your last line...i prefer to keep mum over that cos whether im single or married,it adds or removes nothing from you so just face front.

ikhileomotayo:
No I don't

Good to know you admit.

Body count is the number of men a lady has slept with so on the contrary, my advise will reduce the number of body counts of a lady to the barest minimum.

ikhileomotayo:
This yeye op just wants our ladies to keep increasing in bodycounts with this his 1 year dumping rubbish

Are you sure you know the meaning of body count?

kimbraa:
You'll be surprised that for 1yr into this relationship, we didn't have canal knowledge of ourselves. Sex wasn't involved. You don't understand shìt! And I'm happy.

And after one year you gave him free access and you are now waiting and hoping it will end well.

Sis get this here and now..sex can not keep a man with you and a man who wants you will remain with you sex or no sex.

izzou:


I pity the single lady that will take your advice

She'll end up dating 7 guys in 7 years without anything to show for it.

Let people define their relationships. The important thing is to live happily ever after. That's what matters most

I dont expect guys to like this advise anyways so i perfectly understand you.

kimbraa:
You failed to realise that in a bid to sound morally upright, you ended up entangling yourself in the web of immorality you were kicking against. Will dumping men after a year get them married? Is it easy to go from one man to the other in a no sex relationship? Try to be realistic. How do you do no-sex, claim to love the man and in no time, you're dumping him for another?

Someone gave me this your advice when I broke up with my ex; my bf came around, been 2yrs now, he's a good guy, supports my dream, inspires me, but I know we're not ready for marriage. Save the morality message, I'll gladly give him myself and wait than any other man that comes for marriage. Should I now dump him because Toks thinks I'm wasting my time? Heck no! I'm happy where I am.

I think you are trying to make yourself happy here. Do what you like sis..after all it is your life.

My advise is for ladies who have not crossed the line. If i have a daughter today who is growing up into a woman this is the advise i will give her.

So once again i understand where you are coming from..you cant just break away from a guy who have had you over and over again..

kimbraa:
Wrong advice if you ask me.

Do you think it's so easy to dump someone after a year? So after they've tested the water for a year, they should move on to another one and the circle will continue 'till they get the right one?

Which water are you testing? This indomie generation wont kee me with laughter. Biko explain..

If a lady falls in love with a man and the guy is ready to start sleeping with you then he should as well be ready to marry you as long as he has a roof over his head and struggling and the girls parent should encourage both parties to do a wedding they are capable of and whenever the money comes they can do a bigger and more expensive wedding.

I know this advise will not make sense to some ladies who just want to fool themselves playing their lives away with randy guys in the name of dating. The advise will make sense to ladies who understand the idea of sexual decency,it will also make sense to some virgins but not to some group of ladies who are deep into sexual recklessness.

trust me sis,its easy to dump a guy who have not had s.x with you but will be extremely difficult to leave a guy who have had his way with you countless times so i understand you.

LaCruzz:
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is golden

Jesu..which aspect is hard for you to grasp? Discussing marriage may not be outright proposal but at least he is making his interest known to you.

A year is too much for a real man who knows what he wants to know if he wants you as a wife except you are dating a boy.

I guess this makes sense.

Date only when you are ready for marriage,abstain from premarital sex and if you date a guy for a year and he is not discussing marriage with you...LEAVE HIM.

To a great extent,this is a good way for wise unmarried young ladies to avoid guys who are just out to damage them.

A clone or imposter indeed.

I smell stunt.

The kind of beauty that only money can buy....ask Ojukwu

Quote me wrongly and catch fire.

I remember my ordeal with my project supervisor who vowed that I won't graduate cos I kicked against exorbitant project fee demanded by him.

Anyways I eventually graduated but with 1.0 in my project and also 1.0 in my seminar.

But where is he today and how has he fared in his academic pursuit?

Mad saddist lecturers everywhere. I have forgiven him though after nursing strong hatred and bitterness for him for many years.

mezarddinny:
she obviously cried before taking this picture, her barrenness and lack of husband has frustrated her so much

I laugh at you guys thinking a 31 year old lady is frustrated about marriage...smh!

I think a lady should start worrying at 40 cos 40 is the new 30

Honestly I was appalled when I watched the video but I just felt he has his own freedom of expression.

Ranchhoddas:
Bros leave me na. I don hear. I no want argument. Today na Monday.

Better not argue it please.

Enjoy your week and no matter what you do, don't ever be caught dead without having Jesus as your Lord and saviour.

Charly68:
Better leave Biafra man alone..forcing fake news on people everywhere is his trade mark..he called his own people fake what else do you expect

In all fairness let's just assume he is saying the truth but dies it not make sense if he can at least come up with sensible evidence?

The Atiku and Saraki I know would have exposed Jibril a long time ago if any at all.

Cownu should please stop showcasing madness.

Ray97:
So buhari died and jubril was brought to impersonate him..

in this 21st centuary?...

This is why I pity every igbo looking up to this brain dead guy as a liberator.

Please someone should beg this Cownu guy to come up with solid evidence and stop disgracing the Igbo race which he represents.

We are reasonable people in Nigeria and we will demand for the remover 9f the Imposter if any but let him COME out with vivid evidence and not the doctored picture of a sick and healthy Buhari.

Ranchhoddas:
Tell yourself that if it makes you happy.

Which one be "if it makes me happy"

As he is called Yahweh in Hebrew so is he Olodumare in Yoruba, and different other names in other languages so Allah is just an Arabic name for Jehovah.

Is this another topic you want to argue about?

Ranchhoddas:
What if you believe and Allah turns out to be the true God. Will you also lose for all eternity because you did not accept Allah?

Of course Allah is the only true GOD. Allah is just an Arabic translation of Yahweh

Saffi:
This whole a ‘ man can choose to be a good or bad, but a woman must be respectful to keep her home’ is one of the reasons why I don’t like to entertain your comments. You come across very misogynistic, entitled and biased. What is wrong is wrong, I never agreed with the lady, I only spoke on an issue regarding the topic. However I do feel like respect is reciprocal, as an elder you must learn to respect other people’s privacy, marriage is a very sensitive topic, don’t poke nose in everything. A woman’s goal in life is not to keep her home, and men should also learn the basics of respect and integrity, don’t lay the emphasis only on women. Both genders need to be respectful to keep relationships.

Did you just make that embolden comment? poking nose on a thread that is up for discussion.. Are you for real? Anyways let me make this last comment for the purpose of people who want to learn a thing or two.

We live in a wicked,uncaring and unjust world of men and the sexuality of a man can never be the same as the woman. The day any lady understands this is the day she gets liberated from perpetual self destruct as a result of subliminal feminism.

Have a great day.

koyyes:
The content of your epistle is far from being objective. I say so because even married and single people ( male and female) say the same thing.

My question is why do you have a problem with females making the same statements? Probably they trigger the same fear in males like you who need females to crave after them in order to feel relevant.

I will advice you to build your life around something more productive.

I have come to realize that it is better not to respond to some lame comments on nairaland but at the same time i believe there are reasonable people who want to learn hence the reason why i respond sometimes.

@ the embolden,you really got me cracking there cos i really dont see the correlation of that foolish comment to the topic at hand,,apparently you are not intellectually sound enough for me to have a healthy discussion with. I am fully productive at my age and i could help make your life productive too if you dont mind.

Have a great day and only quote me if you are mature enough to discuss intellectually.

Godsgal:
God bless u for this. and the captivating way u wrote this is amazing. More Grace bro.

AMEN sis. GOD BLESS YOU TOO.

Saffi:
Those who “claim” to be good, may have underlying problems that nobody knows about. Sometimes you need to patient enough too, good men are rare. Its just that simple. You attract who you are, and that’s the number one truth. Husbands and wives are normally a reflection of themselves.

You claim you’re not looking for a lady, that’s fine. Maybe I just assumed from the countless of singles threads you’ve made, and from the fact that nearly everybody on this site knows that you’re 40+ and single. You’ve made that very clear and pronounced for a reason. By hey, I could be wrong.

Look at the lady in question and see how she responded to an Aunt.. Does that show that she is a respectful lady? HELL NO so how can such keep a man?

This is the point im making. Even if a guy is bad,he can still wiggle his way through by having baby mamas and just laying with as many ladies as he likes which is not a good life but at least he can still choose the option good or bad unlike a lady who needs to be more careful about her choices hence the need to maintain proper status quo in her decorum so that she can at least keep her home.

As regards your second paragraph,you are still making same mistakes...Just leave my personal life out of it.Whether im 50 or 60plus, single,married,divorced,widower or whatever..just focus on the subject matter..that is how intellectuals roll.

koyyes:
Confidence and poverty go hand in hand as far as the negro males are concerned. There are rich people who have poverty stricken mentality.

If a guy had said the same thing this lady said, everyone will be cool with it including females. Now it happened to be a female and your ego is bruised. It clearly says a lot about you.

Most negroes are not mentally wired to handle women either.

lol! have you ever come across the word ''objectivity''? i am too objective to discuss issues based on what i believe to be right or wrong but rather i always address matters from the realistic point of view.

How come it is ladies who are still single at marriageable ages are the ones using that popular line ''it is better to wait to be with the right guy rather than rush and make mistakes''? does this not tell you something?

FEAR is what they have and coupled with their unwillingness to maintain the status quo that makes a marriage work. Many of them will still run out of their marriage even when they take all the time in the world before settling with their ''Mr Right''

Saffi:
You attract what you are, the universe feeds you the energy you put out in the world. I’m not saying they’re not bad mannered babes, but if those are the type of women you keep on jamming, then you need to check yourself. Check yourself emotionally and spiritually. Just saying.

If the embolden is true then why the annoying recurring rants by many ladies ''who claim to be good'' finding it hard to attract good guys?

And about checking myself i keep wondering why you pointed the discussion towards me and i think that is a sign that you just might be intellectually lame(Another reason why many ladies find it hard to keep a man) cos i cant remember telling you im looking for a lady. We are having general discussion here and not about our personal lives.

koyyes:
No negroe male confident of himself will see this post and start throwing tantrums.

What is wrong if a female is afraid of being unevenly yoked with a brute?

Have you met her before?

Confidence and poverty have nothing to do with this. I know rich people who have low self esteem.

A bad woman is a bad woman and many ladies out there dont have what it takes to keep a man but they usually play the victim card.

koyyes:
Only poverty stricken negro males will be angry with this post.

Instead of showing your frustration, why not sit down and reason why most females are afraid of marriage. Even at 40, some females will rather remain single than settle for the type of males in the society.

Use your brains for once and think about it.

What has poverty got to do with this?

I know there are some men out there who are jerks but Believe it or not,the crop of women we have these days are mostly arrogant,proud,irresponsible,serious liabilities who have nothing to put on the table but their sexuality...let me just stop here.