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softysparky:
@Toks2008 Shes pretty. You must be an old man then

lagmostkuit:
There are certain rare qualities that are difficult to find in a man, but there are men out there who do possess them. Perhaps you are staying single until you meet one of these men, and it may take a while to find one. But, it’s worth the wait. Sometimes a man has to be slapped in the face by the dating game several times before he has a grasp on the type of man he should strive to be. In staying single until you meet one of these types of men, you are being smart and selective. Here are five rare types of men you would be extremely lucky to meet:

1. The Man Who Is Not Shallow:
This man is looking for something beyond looks. This man notices a woman with depth, drive, layers and character. Of course, it’s important to be attracted to someone, but a man who is not shallow is a man who won’t forget all about you the moment he meets a gorgeous bombshell. Although many men claim they place a higher importance on personality than they do looks, at the end of the day, they’re choosing the woman who was the most stunning in the looks department. It’s not your problem, though. It can take several years for a man to come to terms with what is truly important in a woman, and until he comes to that realization on his own, he’ll be swimming in the shallow end. Eventually, when diving into the shallow end of the pool results in nothing but bruises and scrapes, he’ll test the waters of the deep end, and that is where he will find you.

2. The Direct Man
This man is a rare breed. He is direct, and if he likes you, he tells you. Similarly, if he’s not into you, he tells you right away instead of wasting your time by procrastinating to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. If there is something you’re doing that is bothering him, the direct man is honest instead of giving you the cold shoulder. The direct man has the strength of character required to be forthcoming instead of nonchalant.

3. The Man With Follow-Through
Follow-through is a very important character trait. Women will immediately notice whether or not a man possesses this quality. If there is no discrepancy between his words and his actions, he possesses follow-through. For example, if he says he wants to see you and follows through with those words by planning a date with you, he is the type of man who follows through on his words with the appropriate actions. He keeps the momentum going and does not drag his feet when it comes to asking you out on a second or third date.

4. The Man Who Wears His Heart On His Sleeve
This man is not afraid of rejection. Even if there are some risks to telling you how he feels about you (like the chance of awkwardness, embarrassment or rejection), he doesn’t care. He wears his heart on his sleeve and tells you how much he likes you and why. He doesn’t play it cool in an attempt to appeal to you more, or participate in any other dating games. Just like the direct man, this man does not play games.

5. The Man Who Sees You
This man is always present when he’s with you. He takes the time to get to know you; he is engaged in the conversation and appreciates all the layers that make you special. He notices the little things that set you apart from other women, the things you thought nobody noticed. His ability to truly see you and set you apart from others is what makes him so special.



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softysparky:
Are you serious? It's a very small world indeed.

softysparky:

softysparky:
This is very deep, I think my friend ronald will definitely agree with you.

I would rather seek for true friendship, bonding and respect.

Manuelson:
The Ex syndrome

kunleoosha:
great men &free minds will alway tolerate other peoples' opinions and then choose to agree or not without attacking in any forms
when u cant even tolerate a single opinion like this without a modest and diplomatic-gentleman response then tell d world how you are going to have a successful relationship with anybody(wife,sister etc) when their views is different frm yours.
ona kan o wo oja..
life is flexible..its either u take am or leave am or create one...

SouffleX:
LOL

So now you claim to respect womanhood/ motherhood? I guess stepping out on the mother of your children is the best way to show her you respect her.

Hopefully the test would filter out clowns like you.

I wonder if Nigeria will be able to stop churning out irresponsible men generation after generation with people like you around.

IamLEGEND1:
and i thought family was more than just about blood.

saggat2:
Smh God has given humans everything we need to co-exist. How can you want God to come down and help you what you can do for yourself!

prince3009:
Nice one from the sexy actress whom i have a slight crush on. But the funny thing is that most Nigerian Women who fall in that age category lack the first attribute she mentioned. BEING APPROACHABLE!

Most of them act like they are UNAVAILABLE and "Not Needing a Man"

starlingbawa:


I simply can't stop laughing after reading this.... DAMN!!!

teddybear007:
Na u make sense die, cos i wondering why a learned person could think like this in dis 21st century. Indeed some of us needs alot of growing to do. As for d Op, let me reserve my comment cos na dis kind topic they bring out the madness in me. Gracias.

itsMrIke:
With this, you have just proven how much of a misogynist you are.

So your sister is in a ridiculous sham of a marriage, and is too weak to leave, so you think other people should do same What a mor0n!!!

I am beginning to think your father was a philandering a-hole while your mum was a hopeless weakling who couldn't do anything about the marriage, hence the stance of you and your sister.

So, yeah, I feel sorry for you

lalasticlala:
Aliko Dangote, DJ Cuppy, Iara and Adams Oshiomhole and Femi Otedola at the blow-out bash and the opening of DJ Cuppy’s first-ever Pan-Africa 8-Country tour inside the plush Marquee of Federal Palace Hotel, Victoria Island, Lagos on Saturday night.


http://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2015/08/03/how-nigerian-billionaires-took-over-dj-cuppys-lagos-gig/

SouffleX:
This is ridiculous. I believe that you've cheated and will continue to do so and this is just a pathetic attempt at justifying your actions. You're using the word of your so called God as an excuse to be a literal piece of_shiit. Pathetic to the nth degree.

"it's like we men not wanting to accept the complexities of women "

This is your argument? Both men and women are complex creatures. Wtf does that have to do with infidelity/unfaithfulness?

Now you're trying to act like the people who disagree with you lack reading comprehension skills. SMDH!!

jaybee3:
Have you even paused for a few seconds to understand why some women stay in loveless marriages?

Majority are clouded and guided by the holy books which didn't take 21st century challenges into consideration when it was written
Some do so because they simply have no choice as they've had to rely on their spouses for all basic amenities
Some do so because of stigma and the fear of the unknown
We don't have strict family laws in Nigeria hence the reason why men are able to lord over their wives and get away with murder time and time again

It's very wrong to advice women to accept bad marital vices just because it's common practice even though it's always going to be at their own detriment.

You need to educate them that their success and happiness should never be tied to any man. They need to be strong willed, empowered and understand marriage isn't necessarily the ultimate success

shaybebaby:
There are good men out there who don't believe in this rubbish he is spouting. If he doesn't understand just how foolish he sounds, I suggest he crosses out man/ husband and substitute it woman in everyplace and do the the same where he has typed woman/ wife and read it back.

Adaeze003:
This post is just another attempt to push the woman under the rug...

Well, I guess if your only goal in life is to get married then the advise is for you.

Now Mr op, for how long are the women meant not care? 2-10years maybe? Or if God gives her say 50 more years, she's just meant to stay there and answer "Mrs" as her only achievement

Hope you know there's more to life than marriage? You're right in saying a woman's happiness should not be hung on a cheating husband but let me add that it should not be hung on the marriage either.

Now, I believe in the institution of marriage and will never advise anyone to get a divorce(before someone will blame you for their unhappiness). But then, no one is worth the headache because there is no way on this earth you won't know when your spouse is cheating and there is NO WAY you WON'T CARE. Even those who claim they're in an "open marriage".

Men have feelings, women do too, like I said in some thread, we don't have special coolants in our brains that helps us forgive. The same way you hurt when you know your wife cheated is same way she would too.

So,as a Christian, fear God, love your wife and respect your home.

Adaeze003:
Men will be men oh... and see only part of the bible that suits them

Mark 10:10-12 New International Version (NIV)

10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11 He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

Lol...

naijasaint:
As narrated by my grandfather:

Before the the arrival of missionaries, the Igbo land has strong moral laws which carries with it severe penalties..
A lady found to have engaged in premarital sex and gotten pregnant stand the risk of being ostracized or outright banishment until the gods are appeased..

The bride priced was then paid as a sign of appreciation to the father for having imparted strong morals on his daughter..
After the wedding the man is to return the blood stained handkerchief to prove that indeed the lady is a virgin...
He may also double the price as a sign of gratitude...but if no white handkerchief is returned the father is to returned all the entitlements he collected including the bride price..

With the coming of Christianity we have successfully abolished the hard part of our traditional. and adopted the easy one.....
I therefore conclude that the purpose of bride price does not apply to this our libidinous and over sexed generation where a lady might have lost count of her sexual encounters and aborted few times going by latest research....

Finally the purpose of bride price is not for monetary gain In those days but an appreciation for good moral parenting........

MrsPhyno:
I read your write up oga. I don't think you're a religion expert so I can't take your word for anything. This conversation is starting to disgust me, to be frank. All I can say is I recommend that people divorce their cheating partners, male or female. And if that ever happens to me (God forbid) I will definitely divorce. Next time please think of writing something on how men can avoid cheating instead of how woman should just deal with it. Thanks.

misspicy:
Not only igbo,dat is how every tribe practiced bride price,but if dis is done in dis our generation,most ladies wunt get married,
So Op are u suggesting we abolish d bride price tyn coz of d pollution in our generation or pride price should be paid on virgins only

Heromaniaa:
custom and tradition must be respected. we Igbos make no apology for demanding bride price.

itsMrIke:
@ the embolden, it tells you that people will continue to quit a shitty marriage with a cheating partner, than follow your ludicrous advise.

Asking how old, if I am married and what not...really Now that is a complex problem, have that checked out dude.

Call me vulgar, that is your own kettle of fish, but it still doesn't stop your write up, or this lame defense from being a load of baloney!!!

Now I understand why Fashola wanted Nigerians to have their heads examined...Arrant Nonsense!!!

MrsPhyno:
@Toks2008
I no get energy to argue the main matter, but to answer your question, (and no I'm not married or engaged yet, I'm still in school) if my man cheats on me: na divorcing tinzzzzz. Straight. Even the bible said its allowed.

itsMrIke:
OP, the ony reason you can create such a nonsensical thread is because divorce in Nigeria is not as common or reasonably effective as it is in other countries.

Just read the balderdash you wrote... So a woman should sit at home quietly and accord a cheating husband all his privileges Why are painting us men to be such insipid 1diots

If it were developed countries were divorce is an expensive endeavour for the man, you won't spew such thrash. Cos after divorce (especially when infidelity is involved) the man loses half of everything he has, he leaves his house for the woman and her kids, he then pays her alimony and child support. Trust me the wife won't mind his side chick moving in with him, since she will be taken care of...


Abeg OP stop preaching this nonsense and grow up

MrsPhyno:
Can you imagine he even said the woman should 'pray away spirit of cheating '. Why don't men pray away the spirit lust? Hypocrites. Why una only believe in prayer when it suits una?

Abeg OP no bring God into that horrible mentality. God didnt ask you to cheat, in fact God categorically told you not to because it's a sin. Any other explanation is a bunch of balderash sorry to say, like when an armed robber is telling stories that he was hungry and had no money so he committed robbery. Story for the ancestors.

Just say proudly that you are and will continue to be a cheater. That you can't stop and you won't stop even though it's a sin against God and man. Stop sugar coating it and stop telling women how to deal with it. Don't leave, don't get angry, don't get upset..... Whaaaat? Are you so heartless?I wonder if you tell this exact same thing to your female children if/when you have them.

If the wife curses the man now, you people will be the first to call her wicked. If the wife cheats now, you people will be ready to stone her to death. SMH. Shaaaa God is fair and will deal with y'all

itsMrIke:
OP, the ony reason you can create such a nonsensical thread is because divorce in Nigeria is not as common or reasonably effective as it is in other countries.

Just read the balderdash you wrote... So a woman should sit at home quietly and accord a cheating husband all his privileges Why are painting us men to be such insipid 1diots

If it were developed countries were divorce is an expensive endeavour for the man, you won't spew such thrash. Cos after divorce (especially when infidelity is involved) the man loses half of everything he has, he leaves his house for the woman and her kids, he then pays her alimony and child support. Trust me the wife won't mind his side chick moving in with him, since she will be taken care of...


Abeg OP stop preaching this nonsense and grow up

Omotayor123:
Ex Factor.... Lol.

True talk though...

wristbangle:
Thanks bro.