Mrperfecto: I will just be brief without writing too much, we are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible , she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home she comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet. I am on my way to work I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys , we had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse , she is behaving like she's possessed. My wife and I are fed up even her siblings are tired of her we want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones , if we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities. Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?
Do her waybill to Nigeria before she kills you
Her brain will reset by force. Don't put her in those expensive private schools she will spoil more.
Carry her and put in those missionary school but not the hype ones
bb030: Good morning Nairalanders Please I seriously need advice or the way forward. I am a HND holder, I studied science Laboratory Technology ( Microbiology option) with no job at the moment.
I want to further more, but the issue is that I don't know which course to go for. I want to go for any health related course that can fetch work after study. A course that can get me 300 level in any school within using my hnd certificate.
Or should I go for my pgd and which course should I go for. Please your advices and suggestions are needed cos I'm confused.
Nvestor02: Only a mumu that knows nothing about economy will say Tinubu is not performing well... When I sit down and analyze every steps that Tinubu has taken, I come the conclusion that the man is on the right track.
Is either Tinubu return the subsidy, borrow more money and leave the suffering to the next generation
Or
He remove subsidy.... get money to run government by Increasing the internally generated revenue and pass the prosperity to the next generation.
Tinubu decision may be hard to for some citizens to beat especially low income citizens but I believe that Tinubu will increase the minimum wage soon.
The other, problem that Tinubu is facing is insecurity and Floating Naira.... That 2 problems come in the same direction and Tinubu is already tracking it.
Tinubu has declared war against Insecurity by creating a force called FOREST RANGERS that will be combing our forest.
He is also planning to create state police... If insecurity is defeated, Farmers will go back to farm and produce foods for the citizens.
Tinubu has increased state allocations by 41percentage to encourage more infrastructure in every states.
It's only with good infrastructure that food can circulate and building of local production will be possible.
If local Production is possible.... Economy will be diverted from OIL... AND Naira will start gaining weight.
From all the challenges you wrote up there, can you elaborate more on how your last paragraph will be achieved. I.e. on local productions
Kobojunkie: Oh, I see! Just wondering whether the cancer was asymptomatic or she was merely blinded by religion. Sadly, she is gone. please take heart.
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So you are loitering about looking for a church to lay the blame.
Maybe he mentioned your church and you calmed down.
weblord1900: So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on. . First of all pardon my English, I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east. For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.
I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).
When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth .. Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning.. Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..
During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine
By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation. I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.
Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.
Let me tell you some key points in this system. 1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see. 2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated. 3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed. 4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement. 5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do. 6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop. 7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.
I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance. I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..
I thank Seun for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SEUN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁
What business is that.
Maybe some people here or close can patronize you and help grow your business.
TB. Your honesty and good heart is the only currency that will make you progress. Pls bank on that.
Also if you happen to get nwa Boi never let him pass through what you witnessed
Sir if u can read all off my post u will notice that my parents is separated. and my mother is late now....
About taken the kids and run away... Remember that this lady know my place of work.. she have onec come to my place of work to disgrace me.. what of if she decides to come to my place of work to harass me... ?
You need to activate ghost mood. Secretly look for work elsewhere if possible another state or far from where you are now, when you get it, pack your things and start life anew.
If you continue like this and die you will go to hell and satan will surely not be happy with you. And you should know what that means.
Meanwhile did you ever ask your uncle why he ghosted you?? We need to hear that part of the story.
Let me be the one to tell you that your wife or her people are out to make your life miserable and they are succeeding
If you can't do the above then use the final tactics where is reverse action
vinexe: Sir I don't know how u will feel if I ask u to chat me in privet .. some people may feel bad if I began to call the name of the state and village.. evidence of every thing I say here I have it.. with me
If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.
Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.
Nakedtruthkk: For Now I want to remain Anonymous till further time.
This is a simple Method to Show the Truth about Ajoke Matter .
Evelyn ,T.B JOSHUA'S Wife ,The other three Children and AJOKE ,All of you should just Present Yourself for a DNA test .....
Let's Stop all these Unfounded Criticisms ,Scheming ,Hypocrital And Non Evidenced Cover up to hide the Truth .
Evidence ,Evidence and Evidence .
I Personally Carried AJOKE in the Synagogue when she was a Baby ...It was a Cooked Up Story then to Prevents the Truth that AJOKE was Abandoned by her Mother ...LIES .
AJOKE IS FATAI'S ,THE SON OF ALHAJA FOLARIN RIP ALIAS T.B JOSHUA'S DAUGHTER .
The Likes of Bose Agbare ,Anu ,Yinka (Alhaja Isiwas Daughter ,Elizabeth ,Godson Ogra ,Shina Mukaila ,Bisola Hephzibah Johnson ,Prophets T.Ann ,Samson Ajonibode (RIP) Benson ,Pauline ,Dupe Short ( that reads Bible )Kayode Falarungbon now in Ghana ,Lola's Husband ,T.B Joshua slept with Kayode Falarungbon wife so the Guy Abandoned Synagogue ,Adewusi,Noah Abiola ,BABA IKARE ( RIP) Adebayo FALUSI,KASSIM Aladejobi,FISAYO and so many knew about the truth of AJOKE
Bisola Hephzibah Johnson have been making Expository Interviews before Fatai Died ,But because she leaves and comes back makes the Ignorance Dis believes her .
ITS NOT NEW IN THE SYNAGOGUE ESPECIALLY AMONG THE DISCISPLES ,EVANGELICAL .
,GOODWOMEN ETC TO COOK UP LIES ETC TO MAKE DEFENCE .
Evelyn i dare you to bring forth your three Children to come for DNA test and Ajoke to Clear all these.
Stop making False defence Evelyn. I dare you .
My contact is on my signature
Honestly I don't understand what you wrote up there. Even chatGTP was confused.
Pls can you rephrase in plain English
It's just like reading that book in the Bible where they were listing names of descendants
FanRong: I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.
My story We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.
On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.
Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)
After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.
Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.
She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.
I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.
A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.
Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home. 1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.
2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.
3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears. When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.
4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her. While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.
5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex. Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me. We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.
After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys. At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.
I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.
The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.
We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.
Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.
I need mature and candid advice please. Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?
Sorry to be the one to tell you she is just becoming annoying so you break up with her... let me be also the one to tell you to use reverse psychology on her till she runs away.
I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.
However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.
I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.
She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything. Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.
I'm considering a breakup as a solution.
Has anyone navigated a similar situation?
I think it's quit cheaper to get a dog.
Mumu man. You dey pay girl money to stay with you as if you no get worth
naijamanyoutube: I arrived Rome on Wednesday from Helsinki, Finland.
The first day, I met up with an old friend from Uruguay, that I've not seen for over 20 years. He's been living in Italy for almost 20 years after him japa from Uruguay, for greener pasture.
On Thursday, I was craving some Naija food, so I searched on google and I found this spot called Afrik Cavour Kitchen.
Below are some photos. The food was delicious. The total came up to 25 euros because I asked for an extra pounded yam, but then I gave them 5 euros tip, because they were nice people. I would give more, but I'm a poor man.
Here is their address: Via Cavour, 254, 00184 Roma RM
If you want to know about where to find Naija food when you japa, subscribe to my YouTube channel, because I will keep bring new info.
Lamanii22: Hello everyone, I watch k-dramas a lot and Korea appears to be too beautiful in the movie, are there Nigerians living there? Is it really that beautiful in real life? I would love to know more about life in South Korea thank you very much 😉
Yes they are there.
Went to North Korea sometime in 2009. they are nice unlike what media says. A robust youthful society.
Why we can't stay in our parents house is because they're looking up to us to provide for them as they're old.
As for locating people that does our kind of work. We already did that and it's all disappointing. All the people we contacted and talked to said they would get back to us, but they're yet to do so.
Currently we're sleeping in a shop at Sabo mokola Where my graphic design brother got a 30k Job which is no longer holding, because we couldn't cope.
The owner is packing to Dugbe but is generous enough to let us stay to guard his belongings pending when he finishes packing.
But we're hoping before the boss finished packing that we land a wall screeding or polystyrene ceiling project to allows rent a single room and see what happens next.
Our daily eating is from our almost exhausted savings and proceeds my brother makes from designing once in a while flyers, posters and other simple graphics services he gets from his former clients in Abuja.
Since he can delivers them remotely.
I appreciate your soothing word and advice.
Best wishes ❤
I don't understand
As in you and your bother are running away from taking care of your aged parents??
If that's true, go home and seek your root and see how things will turn around for you good.
Quintessence44: Niger Military Publicly Sacrifice Cockerel in Packed Stadium to Signify French Exit.
The Niger military went back to African roots today, by conducting a PUBLIC SACRIFICE OF A COCKEREL, before 40,000 citizens in a jam-packed national stadium in Niamey, the capital, signifying the exit of France and the defeat of French imperialist agenda in the country.
The packed stadium chanted defiant songs of nationalism, praising the military junta, and daring any nation to intervene militarily in their country.
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